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writes:I met this guy earlier tonight, and we were having a nice time watching TV and we held hands, not sure if we were attracted to each other and then we moved to the bedroom and started foreplay which was okay, and then he stopped and said "sorry, I can't do this, I can't do this" What happened? Did I do something wrong?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 Believe it or not there are some guys out there who have morals and respect women.
The possible reasons are:
-He has a girlfriend/wife and was feeling guilty.
-He's confused about his sexuality.
-He's a virgin.
-He has morals and respects women.
-He's a virgin.
-He's just not into you.
We can speculate all we like. This is a question that can only be answered by him. Whether you get a straight answer or not is something you're going to have to use your best judgment on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011):
As a guy who has been in this situation, there can be a lot of reasons but none of them are to do with you or your attractiveness. Maybe he feels you are moving too fast. Maybe he is a virgin. Maybe he thinks you have feelings he does not reciprocate (or is unsure about). Maybe he has a STD. Lots of other reasons, too.
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reader, freeme +, writes (13 June 2011):
 All of the previous answers are possibilities. The real issue is that you won't know unless you ask him. We can all make pretty good guesses. I personally would guess he either still has feelings for someone else, or he doesn't like to rush into sex. But there are many other possibilities.
Ask him. Tell him how you feel, and ask him if he could tell you because it upset you and you are feeling a bit self conscious.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 Maybe he is in a relationship and his conscience kicked in, maybe he has had performace problems in the past. Maybe he has a personal rule about no sex within 24 hours of meeting somebody.
If you have his contact details you can give him a call tomorrow and ask him if everything is okay, and if he would like to meet up for a coffee or something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011): Hey, I'm 100% sure it's not because of you and you did everything great. He must've had something/somebody on his mind and felt guilty about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011): It sound like he is just not ready to take it to that level yet, he thought he was but after foreplay realized that its too soon, he might only be out of a relationship or he might want to take things slow with you out of respect. I wouldn't let this upset you whats ment to be will be. :)
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