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writes:A girl i met and have been talking to as friends wants to be my first time having sex but doesnt want a relationship and just wants to be friends with benefits at least for the time being. She has said she would possibly date me in the future but i wonder if she is just saying that to get me to be more comfortable with having sex with her. She acts like most guys when it comes to virginity, she acts like its something she wants to have, and is waiting for me to give the word when im ready. Part of me wants to do it while another part of me feels like i should wait until im in a exclusive relationship, because i always sort of imagined it being a sort of romantic and intimate moment. Doing it with her could just be like doing it to do it and may not be anything like i would want it to be and leave me regretting it. What should i do?
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reader, always.curious.ray. +, writes (28 July 2009):
 ok first of all is she a virgin too?
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reader, Quacked  +, writes (28 July 2009):
 Stick to your guns. Don't be badgered or forced into sleeping with her just because she thinks that you should. If you always thought of your first time as being romantic and a part of an exclusive relationship then wait so that it can be. As you said if its not what you imagined you may end up regretting it.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (28 July 2009):
 If you have to ask then no dont do it with her since you only get one first time wait untill its with someone you care about since that obviously matters to you, i think this girl just wants to do it with a virgin what if you sleep with her an she doesnt want to do it again with you, then you will be pissed i think you should wait till your with some one you kno you can come back for seconds with
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