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writes:Hi!I'm 26 years of age male and really tired of being a virgin! have had opportunities in the past but it never felt right so I didn't do it! Lately though I'm becomming incresingly horny 4 it n feel like my lack of sexual experience is holding me back in life! Bn told I'm not 2 bad lookin but find dat hard 2 believe cause I really dont like the way i look, now considerin gettin an escort just 2 get the whole thing over n done with! ever c the movie 40 year old virgin, believe dats gonna b me if I dont start gettinn a move on! I've cn recently havin bn told by a friend bout getting an escort online, these girls look absolutely gorgeous n am seriously considerin doin it, has any1 else lost their virginity in this way? always thought id just find some1, love wud happen n the rest wud follow but am becomming increasingly disillusioned as time ticks by! please answer me if u've got any advise or comments,thaks,Al.
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reader, Devil Crazy  +, writes (9 August 2009):
 I am 25 this year and just lost my virginity yesterday.
Truth be told, I felt exactly like you a couple of years before this one. I even get sort of 'humiliated' by a friend of mine, who jested with her friend: "Want to bet whether he can lose his virginity this year?" She said this a few months ago. Also, this very 'friend' suggested that I go visit a prostitute to get things done. Another friend of mine suggested that I go for one-night stands.
In the end, I did not agree to both of their suggestions and remained a virgin.
A couple of months ago, I met the love of my life. She's not a virgin, but everything about her is wonderful and still is. Her maturity, sense of humor, sensuality, devotion, etc are all I ask for in a woman. Even the physical contact is magical. She has been a lot of fun to be with.
So, my advice for you is, rather than looking for sex alone, look for companionship instead. Having a good love partner would be much, much better than having sex with someone who probably doesn't care much about you other than those quids that you will be paying her. There's a difference between 'having sex' and 'making love'. Both of them mean the same act, but the underlying implications are extremely different.
What's more, if you do hire an escort, you may get something which you wouldn't want in the first place.
Do not look for love. Let love come and find you. I have had three girlfriends including this one, and all of them appeared without me going after it. Just temporarily take your mind of it, engage in other activities, keep fit, improve yourself, make friends and gradually, someone will find you attractive. You gotta attract love, not beseech it.
So all the best to you!! Do keep us updated regarding your progress. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): hi Al,
... growl...you have a full keyboard...growl...sigh
What is the rush? you don't choose a fine wine in seconds. you don't dive in at the first item in a menu. I suspect your wait will be worth it.
going with a prosi of any description does not make you more attractive. so my vote is No. How do you get on with women in general?
Star.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (8 August 2009):
 Well i would have to say that your looking for companion ship rathere then just loosng your virginity. if your horny masterbating will solve that if your lonely thats a diffrent situation.If you have a car and a job i dont see any reason not to have a gf.Be truthful with any girl you meet.dont worry about your looks your probably more attractve to women the you give your self credit for.Rejection happens get over it.Look for opportunity it comes all the time you just have to notice it.Personally i feel your first time should be with some one you kno and have feelings for even a best friend its something you will always remember. if you have a girl your friends with thats single you could approach her. just be honest about the situaton.theres nothing wrong with an escort if your a sex addict or need a pretty girl on your shoulder for an event but you seem lke a normal guy. your probably confusing loneliness with being horny being horny is an easing fix masterbate four times in an hour and you wont be horny for a week or more but you can still be lonely. my advice is dont hire an escort put more effort into finding a gf its easy to get a gf harder to keep her.Ill throw in some Bible verses1 Timothy 5:2: As a Christian man, if you are not married to her, then she is your sister whom you must treat "with absolute purity."Avatar Here are some Scriptures that teach about premarital sex:Exodus 22:16-17: An man had to marry the woman with whom he had premarital sex, if the father approved of the marriage, or pay a high price.Deuteronomy 22:13-21: Premarital sex is viewed as evil and a disgraceful thing.Proverbs 5:15-21: A man is to be a virgin when he takes his wife.In addition to these Scriptures, there are over 30 other verses in the Old Testament speaking about a "virgin" or "virgins." Virginity was highly cherished as the standard for God's people.In the New Testament we don't have verses describing the act of premarital sex and its consequences like we do in Exodus or Deuteronomy. It is clear, however, that virginity is still the standard for unmarried Christians and that sex outside the context of marriage is still considered sin.wether your a beleiver or not this is what i beleive and what i base my advice on so i hope it is of some help
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): I just turned 26 yesterday and i'm still a virgin.It doesn't particularly bother me in anyway. I will loss my virginity when i'm ready too. The only thing that does bother me, is the fact that my friends tease me about it.If i were you i wouldn't go with the escort thing, as they aren't really meant to gauge in sexual activity. They're meant to be companions, my auntie used to be one.Your best option would be to try and find a girlfriend by going out to meet girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): Having you first sexual experience doesn't define your life.If you feel this way get a gf. Join clubs, take a class, go on a tour, talk up the cute girl at the checkout line, become interested in someone else. Whatever you do, don't hire an escort, you will only cheapen the experience at huge cost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): I know the standard line would be you should wait till you find someone special that you want to lose your virginity to. But we all have to look at our needs individualy. If you truly believe that it's NOT about having a relationship, you just want to lose your virginity then perhaps an escort is the way to go. There's a reason they are called "professionals."It was how I lost mine at 24 and I have no regrets about it. Though I would add if you go that route, when you are actually in the room with the lady be sure to tell her it is your first time. A true professional will accomodate as necessary to make it less stressful on you.
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