What am I to him at this moment? Just a crush?
Q. hey hey... i would like to ask.... theres this guy that likes me and i like him... we havent met but have only spoken over mxit... but dont worry he's not one of those dodgy poeple.. he's one of my freinds freinds... the other day we wer...
A. 3 April 2007: At the moment you are both just friends.
It doesn't sound to me like he loves you.
Here is not enough emotional involvement to make it work.
You wrote: "if i were to meet him if we were to become more than freinds".
In that case my answer would ... (read in full...)
I'm so jealous that my bf "'cuddled up" with my friend when he was drunk! What should I do?
Q. ok i just want to know if im just being over-jealous for no reason. a friend ("andy") has told me he really likes me and wants to be with me but i think he might just be playing me because the other night a group of our friends went out but i ...
A. 2 April 2007: This question is about a definition of jealousy. It really depends on you what you mean by the word. Friend "has told me he really likes me and wants to be with me but i think he might just be playing". What you think you should keep it to thinki... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but it's okay if I break up with him! What's this guy thinking?!
Q. okay i have a boyfriend right well we talk alot on the phone and we been in our ups and downs and ive been with him about 3 months already and he tells me that he loves me that im the only girl for him right and i belive him but sometimes he tells ...
A. 2 April 2007: I think that he is unsure about your feelings to him.
This is possibly because you are his first girlfriend.
You've been in ups and downs and you've been with him about 3 months already.
Just tell him more frequently that you love him and you wann... (read in full...)
I told him I loved him, he stayed silent!
Q. I told my boyfriend I loved him and he said nothing what does this mean?...
A. 1 April 2007: This means here is a lot for you to think of.
Maybe is a tricky word, but you start thinking.
Maybe he didn't expect to hear you saying it and was shocked.
Maybe he is preoccupied with something at this stage of life.
Leave it AS IS unless you ar... (read in full...)
His sister is coming between us... Has she not heard three is a crowd!? Am I being unreasonable?
Q. My Partner and i have been living together for 2yrs however we have just moved back to our home town to be closer to both our familes. However his sister is driving me nuts! We plan weekends away and she has begun to invite herself along too( ...
A. 1 April 2007: I am afraid that you are being reasonable.
Looks like this situation has been planned.
His sister wants to separate you from him.
You made a mistake moving back to home town.
Driving him away from Family may not help you.... (read in full...)
Should I just forget the dance lesson and ask her out?
Q. a girl i like offered to teach me how to dance. she told me she'll tell me when we can start. few days later i asked, she said she'll tell me. again i've talked to her online yet she still hasn't told me. i dont want to keep asking. this would me...
A. 1 April 2007: You should immediately stop asking her.
Who started this waiting game: you or she?
If she, this situation can last for quite a long period of time.
If you, take a pause for a week or two, then ask her out on date.
This may help you to get close... (read in full...)
Dating 6 months and he tells me he doesnt feel the same anymore! How can I get him to like me or move on!?
Q. My boyfriend that i have been dating for 6 months all of a sudden tells me one night that he doesn't feel the same way about me that he used to and he thinks we should break up. All of my friends had been telling me for a long time to break up with ...
A. 1 April 2007: You need to either get him back or get over him.
My advice to you will be you should get over him.
I feel the need to explain why I think of it as the best.
Friends both yours and his managed to ruin this relationship.
If you wish to get him ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being paranoid when my man goes out ?
Q. How can I trust a man...and stop being so parinoid when he goes out with his friends ?...
A. 1 April 2007: You need to understand your situation better.
This question shows difference between you two.
He is more outgoing than you, that's why friends play a prominent part in his life.
"How can I trust a man...when he goes out with his friends?"
W... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me ?
Q. I'm confused whether this boy fancies me or not, he always annoys me in a playful way and talks to me, when his friend did something to me as a joke he got annoyed and pushed him off me, he told me he fancied me and when i was like erm not u dont he ...
A. 1 April 2007: Is he a tweenage boy or a teenage boy?
This is not clear from what you say here.
Let me interpret for you a phrase "I fancy you" said to a girl erm around your age.
For a tween boy it means he wants to fancy you, and for a teen boy it means that h... (read in full...)
Been in a relationship long distance, shes talking of moving to England to give us a go, but Im not sure shes the one yet!!
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship for three years (we're talking 8000 miles), seeing each other every couple of months, and lived with my girlfirend for a year before that. She wants to quit her promising job and move to England very soon to ...
A. 1 April 2007: You should go for it and not look back.
She loves you and you love her very much.
Long distance relationship for three years ain't enough for you to learn her better?
You are feeling the pressure now as your current way of life will change with ... (read in full...)
Do I wait it out or give up?
Q. Do I wait it out or give up?? I have fallen very seriously for a close friend of mine... but he has a girlfriend of 2 1/2 years (I've only known him about 6 months). I know he likes me; we spend A LOT of time together, he constantly texts me, and ...
A. 30 March 2007: I understand that you may have fallen for this guy.
However, you should respect a thing called Relationship.
As he has a girlfriend of 2 1/2 years, I suppose that they are close together.
What you tell here about him this is your thoughts.
Y... (read in full...)
I'm sure his ex will think he cheated on her with me but that's NOT the case!
Q. I saw my boyfriend for the first time in a while yesturday and we were going to keep it a secret us seeing each other as he has just come out of a relationship. his ex girlfriend has moved on already and has got a new boyfriend, when he came to mine ...
A. 30 March 2007: At the moment there is nothing you can do.
Why will it cause loads of trouble for you?
He has just come out of a relationship and started dating you.
Ex girlfriend has moved on already and has got a new boyfriend.
Has he been cheating on his ... (read in full...)
Shes dating someone else, but I think she likes me and is with him for the sake of it, should I ask her out ?
Q. Ok so i will try to make this as short and brief as i can. I have known this girl for quite a while now about 4 months and i really like her but we got off at a really stupid start. Before i got to know her i had told some friends that i liked he...
A. 30 March 2007: Okay, my opinion on your situation.
This girl just wants to be popular.
You told some friends that you liked her, so they arranged your meeting with her.
During the very first time with her you learned that she is dating another guy.
Noneth... (read in full...)
Shes got cold feet, she said she loves me and wants me but not right now!!
Q. I've been having girl troubles for about the past month and she's playing the whole "I love you and I want to be with you... someday... just not now." act. We have been together for about 1 year and lived together for about 3 months. Everythi...
A. 30 March 2007: This question is more complicated than it seems.
Advice is obviously not what you are looking for:
"I know what I have to do for myself and I will do those things".
You are asking people here what is her motivation, right?
Lack of the following... (read in full...)
I dont think Im what she wants in the long term, I cant change into what she wants me to be, How do I end it ?
Q. Hi, my girlfriend and i have been together for about 10 months, previously I had been in a long term relationship [7 years] and she had been in a few shorter relationships [1-2 years]. We seem really happy together and have spoken about marriage, ...
A. 30 March 2007: How can you finish with her and not hurt her?
This is only possible if she wants to finish too.
She gave a list for about 20 mins of all the things she dislikes about you.
It means that she may be already thinking of finishing, but doesn't know... (read in full...)
I've lost all confidence when it comes to sex, been together 9 yrs and in a rut!
Q. i've been wi my partner for 9 yrs and we have a 5 yr old daughter, i am really insecure even though i am attractive and can attract many men. i jus don't have the confidence to be sexy around him. we have got into a rut an rarely have sex or a laugh ...
A. 28 March 2007: You have three different issues as I can see.
#1: "i am attractive and can attract many men."
#2: "don't have the confidence to be sexy around him".
#3: "i worry he will think about her when we have sex."
Although I could give separate answers... (read in full...)
I think I'm still in love with my ex as I can't stop thinking about him.
Q. Hey there. I am very confused and dunno what to do. My first love and I went out for nearly 6 years, it started out really well, we got engaged after 3 years and I thought I would spend the rest of my life with him. But things changed. We are ...
A. 28 March 2007: Yeah, I understood that you are very confused.
Problem is that you have commitments that are in conflict with each other.
Family wanting you to become a part of the Community you were raised in.
Your ex pressuring you to choose, him or them, whi... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that i admire him? Will I regret it if I don't say anything?
Q. hi there , im a 28 yr old female n i need some help. I am otherwise a very confident person and i love life...last year i saw this guy n let me tell you, it was this gut attraction, you dont feel like this ( all the time ) and i regretted never ...
A. 26 March 2007: You can feel that he knows why you go in. Trust your feelings and keep going there for a while. When he becomes more confident about your attitude to him, he will be different when around you. Approach him THEN, say that you are interested in hi... (read in full...)
She broke up with me! I'm hurt so should I leave her alone or contact her?
Q. should i try to contact her? hi there, was seeing this girl for about 7 months. we were getting on well and i thought happy. we went away for a long-haul holiday and we had loads of fun and romance. 2 days after our return, she txt me to say sh...
A. 26 March 2007: You were her first serious boyfriend.
How do you know that(I guess she told you so).
It means that she wanted you to believe that her attitude to you is serious.
That's exactly how it looks from the other side.
Your question is should you try t... (read in full...)
I dumped her and now find, I want her back. But she will not agree to this. How do I win her back?
Q. I finished with my girlfriend a couple months ago after a argument we had been together a year. After a few weeks of not being in touch I really missed her so decided to get in touch and we met up but she told that I had left it to late and she did ...
A. 26 March 2007: She made it clear that she did not want to get back.
That is the most important point for you to think about.
Don't try to win her back, though I know it may be hard for you to do that.
If she's done all the chasing than most likely she doesn't ... (read in full...)
I so want us to work but I can't seem to get his ex out of my head.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 9 months now, and we had the most amazing time together. We were friends for over a year before we got together and I am so in love with him. The problem? I can't get his ex girlfriend out of my head. I don't ...
A. 26 March 2007: Past is history, you should believe it.
Stop arguing with your boyfriend, it's not helpful.
You read some emails and notes they wrote to one another.
You were curious, and as a result you are suffering now.
Focus on positive aspects of your ... (read in full...)
I push females away who try to get close to me! How do I deal with this problem?
Q. I am 25, yet do not feel ready to have a relationship with a girl. I just enjoy flirting and may be touching. But that's it. Anything more is a clear no no and i push away girls who try to encroach in to having more. I think it is difficult for me ...
A. 24 March 2007: Don't treat your Family as a role model.
Try to base your relationships with girls on interaction rather than emotions.
You think it is difficult for you to trust a girl in sharing your feelings and getting closer to her.
Maybe you are right, m... (read in full...)
We have so much in common--is this pure coincidence?
Q. Is this pure coincidence? today i was reading an article about love and dating on the net, on how do you know if someone has feelings for you? As i was reading this, the guy i'm in love with signed on msn. This has happened before. I have post...
A. 24 March 2007: I believe in love at first sight.
Love is like a tree in the desert:
You see it, you come closer to it and it is not always there.
But when it is Love for real, it is something like what you are writing about.
The flame may lessen in time, ... (read in full...)
It's not over 'yet' but I am driving him away!!
Q. I'm afraid that I'm driving him away. Our relationship only a couple of months old, but it's progressed very, very quickly. He was a high school flame, and after running into him many years later, our feelings still ran high. He was my best friend ...
A. 24 March 2007: I guess your situation is not hopeless. Just be a little bit more honest with him, okay? When you got a problem, you talk to him at night mainly for compassion, not for solution. This is what driving him insane - he doesn't know how to reac... (read in full...)
Does she just want the 'wife tag'??
Q. Hi Cupid, I recently moved in with my wife who was distant until now, she is a very matured woman and lives life practically and her life is very mechanical. I am still looking out for jobs and when we meet in the evening she does not even kiss me ...
A. 24 March 2007: Two possible explanations for you to think of.
For some people it is difficult to express their emotions out at all.
If this is her case, don't worry, you will lead a good life with her eventually.
Another one: she treats you like this, becaus... (read in full...)
I wish she still felt as excited about us as I still do, Is it worth hanging in there ?
Q. I think its come to decision time for this relationship. I am in a long distance relationship (4 months) with a woman i care about very much. We started off quickly and fell for each other and for a couple of months it was amazing. She told me she ...
A. 24 March 2007: Ask yourself a question why you wrote:
"I feel like at this point in our relationship she should want more".
This sounds like you feel that you want more, not she.
"Its just very hard being so far away".
True, but if you were closer, you coul... (read in full...)
Should I forgive her or confront her?
Q. hi this is a long story but i'll try to make it as short as i can! when i was in the 8th grade i used to like soeone who we became very close (he'd call me at least once a day) then all of a sudden we stopped talking i asked why he'd never tell then ...
A. 24 March 2007: You definitely should not confront her.
It will not help you in whatever way, only increase the tension.
Some feelings for your 8th grade crush you still have at the moment.
I don't think you did right telling her, but you cannot forgive her.... (read in full...)
He has a problem with trust, from past relationships and because of this says we are not in sync and might not have a future!!
Q. My bf and I have been dating almost 6 months and last night he told me that because of our difference in values, he couldn't guarantee our relationship in the future. I've been married twice and I have a teenager at home. Knowing this, I vowed to ...
A. 23 March 2007: Sad but true: major differences cannot be compromised.
Your gut instincts tell you there is another, but I guess that you expect him to act like this.
Looks like your girl friend became for you a sort of a role model for your relation... (read in full...)
My bf of 6½ years broke up w/ me and said I'm more like a sister. How do I move on? I'm also a bridesmaid in his sister's wedding and am dreading it.
Q. How do i get over my boyfriend of 6.5 years? He split up with me just before xmas and then said he made a mistake and we got back together. On new years eve he wanted time again. He dumped me a month ago. He said that he cared and loved for me as a ...
A. 23 March 2007: Getting over is a long and continuous process.
Depending on a type of person, it may take up to several years.
You live in a small town and I guess that you both are in the same Community.
In your situation you should seek support from someone... (read in full...)
My friend fancies my next door neighbour but he hasn't asked her out again even although they got along so well.
Q. My friend fancies her next door neighbour, they went on a date last weekend. This happened after weeks of flirting and her not knowing where she stands, he says he is shy and seems to find it difficult to approach her. After bumping into him in a ...
A. 22 March 2007: I have a strange feeling that this question is made up, but anyway I will answer to it.
Speaking about who is interested, I guess YOU are interested.
You told him she liked him, and this explains why he took her out the following night.
How do yo... (read in full...)
My bf of 8 years doesnt seem interested in "us" anymore,any ideas what I can do ?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for about 8 years. I love him dearly but think that he is no longer interested in "us". We do not have any sexual relationship as his usual excuse is, he's tired. He does work really long hours, so u...
A. 20 March 2007: Okay,here is a guy's point of view. First, I don't think he has any reason to cheat on you. Second, if you cheat on him it means the end to your relationship. Third, working long hours is a simple excuse for not to be close to you. Probably ... (read in full...)
I feel very uncomfortable every time my boyfriend tries to hug or kiss me in public.
Q. I get uncomfortable every time my boyfriend tries to hug or kiss me in public. I don't know why I feel weird being intimate in public; I guess I just feel like it's more of a private thing to do and we shouldn't have to proclaim our feelings to the ...
A. 19 March 2007: He thinks he should show everyone that you are his girlfriend. Maybe you are just overly sensitive or public display of emotions is not appreciated in your family. If you really think it's more of a private thing to do, then make it private only.... (read in full...)
My ex, whom Im still in love with fancies my best mate, how can I deal with this ?
Q. how do you cope when you know your ex who you still love, fancies your best mate it makes me feel sick to think of them together...
A. 19 March 2007: Am I correct to understand your situation? You still love your ex who dumped you for your best mate. Okay, you should distance yourself from both of them. It may be hard at first if you live in the same area. Don't know whether you are alo... (read in full...)
My friend says my tutor has a soft spot for me, what do you think?
Q. I'm a university student and I really like one of my tutors. He was nice to me when in first year and his classes were a laugh. Then in second year, he was really nasty to me slating my work in class and not replying when I emailed him questions ...
A. 17 March 2007: This sounds like you got a crush on your tutor. He was nice to you at first, because he didn't know about it. When your attitude to him became more evident, he changed. After you took a gap year (as time passed) crush transformed into affecti... (read in full...)
Does she just like me as a friend or am I reading her all wrong?
Q. Bah. Im 16, male, in the UK. And, i'm anything but confident. I must be one of the only guys in my year who hasn't had a girlfriend yet and it drives me insane. There is one girl, who I like, a lot a lot and I have for quite a while now. A ...
A. 17 March 2007: There is first girl whom you like, but she is getting close to another one now. There is second girl who comes up to you, hugs you everyday, and you talk. You also have specific dreams about a girlfriend in general. You wanna know which one of ... (read in full...)
I let worrisome things about this relationship get the best of me! Why do I do this?
Q. I'm currently in my longest relationship (of all of 4 1/2 months) and its long distance. I guess you could say I'm somewhat obsessed with my boyfriend. I think about him constantly and when he does things like not call for a day or two or dosn't ...
A. 17 March 2007: This situation is quite common for long distance relationships.
You are lucky that your boy doesn't know about all these concerns in your head.
"What if" questions mean there is a void that is supposed to be filled by actual communic... (read in full...)
Is he being sneaky again, thinking I don't even know she works there?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently had it out about him contacting an old girlfriend and then lying to me about it. The calls seemed to be harmless and only happened a few times but I was hurt that he never told me and when I found out, he lied about how ...
A. 17 March 2007: Calls seemed to be harmless and only happened a few times. After that big fight you wonder why he would do that. He is being sneaky regardless of what you know. Either you don't trust him or you are controling. It will cause conflict again if you... (read in full...)
My depression is causing problems in my relationship with my bf. Any advice?
Q. I am depressed, looking for a doctor for the first time, and have been in a relationship for a little over a year. When we met I was in a pretty good place emotionally and had a very happy relationship for about five months. We are very much ...
A. 17 March 2007: You have been in a relationship for a little over a year. Did he change his attitude to you after your breakdown? No and it's because he is very much in love with you. He "he just sort of shuts down" as it's a reasonable reaction to your situati... (read in full...)
My sex fantasy is causing problems in my life. How do I deal with this?
Q. I fantasize having sex with women who i get attracted to in day to day life, may it be one from work or in nearby social group. Once i have done that over and over, i get a feeling of having conquered them and my attraction towards them starts to ...
A. 16 March 2007: Fantasy is a fantasy and real life is a real life. You wrote you "have lost quite a few girls who could have been good friends". What is your definition of Friendship? Are you looking for female friends or for something different? Find your ow... (read in full...)
How can I break the cycle of my relationship behaviour??
Q. I follow a pattern in most relationships that i have in life. Like when i meet the person, i am pretty aggressive or dominating towards him/her. Then i take some time to get to know them. Once i have enough trust in them, i open up my heart for them ...
A. 15 March 2007: I think that your main reason for making relationships is "fear of rejection". Therefore you target certain type of people and behave toward them the same way. If you start new relationships for another reason that may be less important to you... (read in full...)
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