Is he likely to leave me to be with his children?
Q. I've been with my partner for 2 years now. We lived together but he had to move back to another part of the country. I followed as he said we would get a place together. He has now said he can't move in until his children (living with his ex-wife) ...
A. 15 June 2007: There is a place for each of us - Home.
I speak about the widest meaning of it.
People who do not understand it - they are traveling in life.
For them Life is a journey and they sail looking for a haven.
Sounds like you have different sense ... (read in full...)
Do I want this guy back because I don't like being single? Any advice?
Q. dear cupid, i dont no where to start.I was in a serious relationship with a boy from school it was only going on 6 months we were always on and off,but i loved hi.I went on a school trip,abroad,and broke up with him for another guy..!! it was so u...
A. 15 June 2007: Your situation is clear to me - got it.
I will explain to you what is going on.
First key: "i wanted him to be more like my old boy-friend".
Second key: "i thought he could be a bit more affectionate".
What is Relationship about? Is it really abo... (read in full...)
I think it's important to celebrate mile stones in a relationship but my boyfriend thinks otherwise...
Q. well i just tried to post this question but aparantly it wasn't clear enough! Me and my boyfriend have been together for one year on the 1st of July. I think it is important that you celebrate being together for a year (im 16, my boyfriend is ...
A. 15 June 2007: I agree with you, becaurse you are right.
We should celebrate all important events.
You see, something good does not happen everyday in our lives.
And that is the idea of Holiday: you make it "something good".
"it is special but my boyfriend thi... (read in full...)
We were much more intimate a few months ago. Should I ask him about it? and how?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year. He's really shy and doesn't often act like a boyfriend around others. We were much more intimate a few months ago. Should I ask him about it? and how?...
A. 14 June 2007: You should ask him, but not directly.
It all depends on how much he is shy.
For some people it will be enough if you just make some hints.
Others may need you to act more to show your intimate desires.
An overly sensitive person may act this way... (read in full...)
Firstly, is it normal to live with 2 roomates while in a serious relationship?
Q. Ok I have quite a few issues with my boyfriend of 4 years. Firstly, is it normal to live with 2 roomates while in a serious relationship? We could not afford a place of our own so we live with 2 (almost) complete strangers, and I don't see an end...
A. 14 June 2007: There is too much judgement in your words.
Sounds like you already made the decision.
"I do not like the fact we live together and he seems to have no intention of marrying me" - Come on, do what you decided.
Probably you will dump him next as ... (read in full...)
Things were going great but now he seems to be giving me the cold shoulder, is he going off me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, now things were going great but now he seems to be giving me the cold shoulder. we have been going the caravan these past weeks an all the wanted to do was fish play snooker and do a crossword. he isnt tex...
A. 14 June 2007: Patterns of relationships are different.
Maybe you passed the fist stage already.
If that is true, things will never be the same again for you.
Or if it is wave-like pattern here, then you are in the down.
Try ignite your relationship: ma... (read in full...)
Does he still love me or is he completely indifferent? Which one is the real him?
Q. I was wondering whether men act more like themselves when they are drunk. There's a saying in Spanish that says that only small children and drunks tell the truth. When people are drunk it seems they are more likely to tell the truth (or they are ...
A. 14 June 2007: I was wondering what you mean by "real".
What is the meaning of it for you here?
You think "it seems they are more likely to tell the truth"
So probably "true" and "real" are synonyms in your opinion.
There is repeated expression in Girl Dreaming... (read in full...)
Why would I fear rejection when entering in to an argument with someone?
Q. Why would I fear rejection when entering in to an argument with someone? Often this is the same reason i try to keep my mouth shut or avoid conflicts with people i am close to or get along well. The issue that are sensitive include, loss of respect ...
A. 12 June 2007: This is an issue, but not the issue.
It may have impact on your behavior.
Most such people learn to adjust their priorities over time.
You know how to handle it: you say that you avoid conflicts.
"Are these fears genuine?" - No, in most cases th... (read in full...)
Have a bf but I'm missing the guy from work--I cheated with!
Q. Hi im 20 and i cheated on my long term bf with a guy frm work this went on for about 2 months i told my bf and hes still with me and then i told the lad frm work ide told my bf and well now for past month and half he hasnt spoke to me hes afraid his ...
A. 12 June 2007: Why you cheated on your boyfriend?
This question comes to mind first.
I will continue answering here from point of "no judgement".
As to "told my bf and hes still with me" - I know such guys.
Lad from work probably does not share this view on che... (read in full...)
I am in a situation where I don't want her to risk her relationship with her family but I don't really want to end US as well.
Q. I have been with this girl for 3 or 4 months. We had not yet disclosed our relationship to anyone. Then suddenly her mother found out. Now I am in a situation where I don't want her to risk her relationship with her family but I dont really want to ...
A. 12 June 2007: This situation is a trouble, yes.
I understand why you ask it here.
"don't want her to risk her relationship with her family"
Unless there are obstacles, you are supposed to marry her.
Other options are less reasonable and will lead to the END.... (read in full...)
I feel as if I want to dump my boyfriend for him as I know he likes me a lot too.
Q. hey. i have a boyfriend that ive been out wid 4 a month but i had to ask him out. He is really shy and wont hold my hand i do still like him but heres the thing. Theres this friend i have that i fancied before i went out with this guy. This frie...
A. 12 June 2007: You should sort the feelings first. Otherwise you will fail your exams. It may be hard to accomplish, but you need it for your best. Take a break and don't see any of them for two or three days. Simple test: you will start missing, but whom - d... (read in full...)
I am the one who was sent the email about my girlfriend cheating, and looked on her inbox in her myspace.
Q. I have posted two threads about my current situation. I am the one who was sent the email about my girlfriend cheating, and looked on her inbox in her myspace. I gave her until Wednesday the 13th to decide. The closer the date comes, the more ...
A. 12 June 2007: Mate, you should chill out a little.
I am sure she's not stressed at all.
"try to seem tough and stable on the outside, but inside I am absolutely crushed and I always feel like crying"
We the introverts tend to react like this when girls hurt u... (read in full...)
its not my fault that my boyfriend loves me so much that would serioulsy hurt a guy who asked me out.
Q. Today he asked me out knowing i already had a boyfriend and my boyfriend freaked and lashed out at him. The school has gotten involved and they want to question me and i dont know what to do... i dont think they need me for soemthing like this cau...
A. 12 June 2007: In this situation two feelings mixed.
Boyfriend has a feeling of possession.
"not my fault that my boyfriend would serioulsy hurt a guy"
This may appear to you as Love, but in fact it is different.
Okay, "they want to question me and i dont know ... (read in full...)
I'm angry at myself for getting in a bit too deep but I knew she wanted me, but obviously not enough.
Q. I decided to write a letter to a workmate I'd been seeing on and off for a couple of months to say what was going on in my head. We hadn't had chance to chat properly and I didn't want to embarass her in front of others so it was the best way I ...
A. 12 June 2007: "she initiated the whole situation"
This is true - you are a smart guy.
And moving further from this point: what was her motivation.
No doubt the whole situation was a test, but what was tested.
Personally I guess it's unlikely that she wanted ... (read in full...)
My 3rd cousin has told me he really likes me, would it be wrong to date him?
Q. Me and my 3rd cousin have known each other for 6 years when i met him i did like him but i didnt think anything of it cause i was only 11 we have only seen each other at family parties and we get on really well but recently hes told me he like me he ...
A. 12 June 2007: This question is down to Dating Policy.
And such things are community-oriented.
It is a pity for you, but in fact there are rules how to date.
Normally you feel like there are none if you accept the rules.
But now YOU decide what to do and whethe... (read in full...)
I now have found out that he is seeing someone else and I feel completly heartbroken.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend Mark for a year now but I met a man called Harry on holiday recently and fell in love with him. I went back to see Harry and still felt them same about him. Im now moving over there for the summer 2 work out there and to ...
A. 12 June 2007: Now I got it what is going on here.
You are not completely over "Mark".
Because of this, you are feeling like you cannot let him go.
And you don't accept the fact that he is seeing someone else.
He is supposed to still be emotionally with... (read in full...)
I see the guy I like as being out of my league...
Q. i see the guy i like as being out of my league... im very innocent as in a virgin never done anymore than kiss...and his far beyond that, 4 years older than me (21 im nearly 18) and way too popular with the girls i dont think he likes me because...
A. 11 June 2007: You say "he could have any girl he wants".
So does this mean you wanna be "any girl"?
There is a good name for the wannabes of "any type" - losers.
You can go the whole way to become one of them, and then you will find that you are still not sa... (read in full...)
I'm kinda paranoid that people are saying I'm ugly when I go out...
Q. This seems strange. Whenever I go out to the public I here people say "she is so ugly, or that girl is ugly!" I am not sure if they are referring to me, or it is just my head that is messing with me, or I am just hearing things? This really makes me ...
A. 11 June 2007: This may be treated in different ways.
I will only give you two explanations.
First, you do not really have much influence over what is presented as "ugly girl" or "pretty girl" in your area.
By this I mean that it's unreasonable to agree with s... (read in full...)
Not sure how to approach this girl at Uni who I used to be close of, to tell her how I feel before summer!
Q. i'm a final year university student and have been very close friends with a girl on my course since my first year. when we first met we hit it off immeadiatly and had sex several times. at the time though neither of us wanted a relationship at the ...
A. 11 June 2007: Phrase "play the field" has been overused.
Accent here should have been on the field.
Read your story to get a general impression of it and to be true it sounds a bit too pessimistic apart from this:
"i find intimate conversation of this kind di... (read in full...)
Girlfriend told me a secret which I didn't keep "secret"... will I ever regain her trust and how!?
Q. I've done something I really regret and I don't know how to make it right. My girlfriend told me a secret that she never wanted repeating about her and her future housemate (a close friend of mine), but I managed to put my foot in it by mentioning ...
A. 11 June 2007: By how you asked secret can be guessed.
Maybe you should be less explicit here.
Your words went out wrong as a fact and now the more you keep mentioning this to her, the more hurt you both will be.
Here is tension between you and your girlfriend a... (read in full...)
Torn between 2 lovers...
Q. cupid , i have a problem a couple of months back on holiday i met this guy called josh and we just clicked it was the best but after a week we had to say goodbye, now i have a boyfriend who i care for a lot but recently the guy Josh got in touc...
A. 11 June 2007: I do know what to do when you are torn.
Take some time and think about yourself.
Learn what is more important for you: to love or to be loved.
As soon as you find your own answer you will know what to do.... (read in full...)
I am to be married in 3 months and he has not told his family or bought a ring.
Q. I am to be married in 3 months and he has not told his family or bought a ring he has made excuse after excuse, no input in the wedding plans or nothing should I walk off Help please...
A. 11 June 2007: Probably there must be underlying reason.
He did not break the engagement as I see.
You should not confront him, but maybe you can press a little.
Get explanation for this situation out of him as you need it.
And no, you should not walk off - a... (read in full...)
Ive started to get really strong feelings for a really close work colleague.
Q. Ive started to get really strong feelings for a really close work colleague. We laugh and flirt with each other all the time, but I think the feelings are all one sided. He says he cares about me very much, and that he wouldnt want to hurt me, but ...
A. 11 June 2007: Everyone in the world has inner feelings.
They are not easily shared with the rest.
Are you sure that his ideal of female is "model type girls"?
Or is it just the type he is most likely to have a crush on?
You should not answer these questions ... (read in full...)
Falling for my female friend but she doesn't want a relationship!! What can I do?
Q. A short while ago I found myself falling inlove with a very good female friend of mine.These fellings seemed to come out of nowhere but come they did and not being one to not take action I told her how I was feeling.The next cpl of weeks were ...
A. 9 June 2007: Now I know that you are in my age group.
Let's see how it looks from perspective.
"Everything in my life seems trivial and mundane without her and it's begining to affect my work life and my health".
This sounds like you are tired of reality - yo... (read in full...)
The signs are there but does he like me and just is afraid to say or not?
Q. i relly lik this lad but not sure if he likes me.im 15 yrs old and in 3rd year and iv loved him ever since 1st year! he kinda knows i like him but does'nt beleave anyone that tells him. on last holloween night he text me he said he was drunk but i ...
A. 9 June 2007: The lad is at least attracted to you.
Although he is probably too much shy.
On last halloween night "he said he loved me and wanted me but ever since after that night dere was not thing said about it"
My explanation of such behavior: he does not ... (read in full...)
He has two jobs and I am feeling neglected because I don't see him! Am I being selfish?
Q. ok am i just being selfish? my boyfriend is working two jobs, though i'm pretty sure he only really needs to be doing one, and he works about 60 hours a week. but when he comes home he does more work. all week, all weekend. he has no time for me at ...
A. 9 June 2007: You do not know your boyfriend well enough.
There must be a reason why he has two jobs.
Problem here: "i know he loves me but i'm feeling neglected".
You should talk to him about it and listen to what he'll say.
He will answer your "am i being... (read in full...)
I am in love with my best mates ex and unsure how to handle the situation..what do I do?
Q. I am in love with my best mates ex and unsure how to handle the situation. They split about 6 weeks ago and I have tried to be there for both of them as a friend, however I have feelings for this girl and I now know that she feels the same way abou...
A. 9 June 2007: Why choose between friends and partners?
They belong to two different categories.
Beside that, it sounds to me that you rush things here a lot:
"They split about 6 weeks ago... We have been seeing each other on a casual basis now for 3 weeks"
An... (read in full...)
She said I was unaffectionate. So when I began showing her more love, she lost her attraction for me! How do I get her back?
Q. I recently got out of a relationship that I didn't want to end. The girl left me because she said we were fighting too much and she said she lost faith in me and was tired of giving me chances. The only thing we ever really fought about was what I ...
A. 9 June 2007: Here is your situation: "Instead of being confident and mysterious and charming like I was initially, I began to open up to her, cling to her, and I gave her anything she wanted." Love and Affection are two feelings different from each othe... (read in full...)
I was inconsiderate to her in the past. How do I show her I am changing?
Q. I have lied and done the wrong thing in the past ie.. being inconsiderate. I realize what I am losing if I dont change. How do I change and show her from a distance, I am deployed in the army, that I am changing because I love her?...
A. 9 June 2007: This depends on the type of girl she is.
Still you will get now some advice here.
Girl Dreaming is full of stories about "classy relationship".
You should write to her a passionate letter - this may help.
Do that, but if she is not "classy girl... (read in full...)
He talks about how he loves his ex gf, but he likes me...should I just forget him?
Q. i really like this boy. he is 16 and i am 15 and i really like him in fact i think i might love him. he is all i think about and he says he likes me and he calls me cute but then in the same conversation he is saying how much he misses his ex and ...
A. 9 June 2007: Here in this case I give you opinions.
Maybe his feelings are a little mixed.
Affection is not a value - refer to Boy Dreaming once again.
Who are you to him: "says he likes me and he calls me cute".
Compare "saying how much he misses his ex an... (read in full...)
I gave her a precise date amd time to decide whether she wants to get back with me..am I being unreasonable?
Q. I posted a question earlier, and things have changed a bit, and I would like to hear some advice from you all. I will recap the roots of my problems. I was sent an email saying my girlfriend was cheating on me. The email said I could find evide...
A. 9 June 2007: I am glad to hear back from you again.
We need to think about your girlfriend.
Looks like this relationship is not as much priority for her.
Family and friends are important for her, and they should be.
How about a personal relationship lea... (read in full...)
Should I risk it to become more than mates ?
Q. I'm desperately in love with a girl and can't get her out of my mind! We've been great freinds for 3 years and I dont think she knows how much i like her! should i risk it and try and become more then mates? How can I do this?...
A. 8 June 2007: Yes, I think you should take the risk.
Even though it may be just a crush now.
Three years way back you didn't have these feelings for her.
So this is something new to you - tell her how you like her.
Look for the right time and place before say... (read in full...)
She has a bf and we kissed. The next day she acted like nothing happened! Should I make another move?
Q. Don't know where I stand with her. I've been friends with a colleague of mine for nearly a year and a half. She is living with her parents and her b/f and she has fancied me for a very long time. Her b/f is a bit OCD when it comes to her and...
A. 8 June 2007: No, you should not make another move.
This girl is playing a game with you.
"She doesn't hate her b/f but she's fallen out of love with him and doesn't wanna hurt him by leaving him."
I guess it's what she told you and something here is not true.... (read in full...)
Do you think I should let him see the "real" me?
Q. i'm currently living and working in another country. I moved to another country for various reasons (travel, find myself etc...) I met a great guy. We have been "together" for almost 6 months, although we never have officially called each other bo...
A. 8 June 2007: "he said he is not in love with me"
Are you clingy or needy to continue?
If your answer is yes, open up to him first only a bit more.
Then gauge his reaction to determine what you should do next.
If your answer is no, "enjoy each other" the way y... (read in full...)
I have this huge drama going on, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Q. hi everyone i have this huge drama going on. i have a best friend who is a guy and me and him are well were really close. he told me he liked my other best friend and that all he could ever think about was her. so i was like ok. then in a couple...
A. 8 June 2007: Theoretically you should take a break.
Focus on your feelings about all this.
However, I do understand that you need practical advice here.
Best friend has a feeling for you, but it is not THE feeling.
You are involved in "huge drama" and becam... (read in full...)
..."don't worry, I will fix myself first and after this we will try to fix our problem" What does he mean by this?
Q. hi..me and my boyfriend had a misunderstanding over his making up with his past girlfriend and so i made a false confession to him that i texted a guy friend to go out with me but i realized that i cant do it to him so it never happened..so my ...
A. 8 June 2007: Probably it means he said goodbye to you.
Both of you overplayed this relationship.
So he dumped you and you should not come back to him anymore.
Unless of course there is something else left there for you.
As I see Trust has gone completely ... (read in full...)
We've known each other since we were 2! How do I get him to notice me???
Q. I'm 14 years old and I have this best friend who I love so much! its a guy! hes so cute, nice, and funny and he nos I like him... but I want him to like me too... we've been best friends since we were 2. some times he tells me that he likes me the ...
A. 7 June 2007: Look, I do not care here how old you are.
I guess that he treats you like a friend.
"he still goes out with other girls and tells me who he likes"
There are guys who act in such way with their female friends.
Change the pattern here: first put ... (read in full...)
I feel as if she's trying to win me back again, what do you think?
Q. Hello, Would just appreciate your views on something briefly please. I was seeing a girl for three years she treated me inappropriately and unfairly. That’s the past, but now after ignoring her she is constantly looking at me and smiling someti...
A. 7 June 2007: I know the type of girl you talk about.
No, she does not try to bring you back.
She is very shy and it's just the way she interacts with guys.
I think you should not come back to her, so try to ignore her.
There are guys who adore such girls... (read in full...)
I'm meeting up with my new boyfriend tomorrow and I'm soooooo nervous, I don't know what to say to him, any ideas?
Q. hey im 16, and im so nervous about meeting up with my new boyfriend 2moro! i dont know what to talk about im not good with conversations and i need help! can anyone suggest anything without saying do an activity because we cant thank you xxxxx...
A. 7 June 2007: So I understand you cannot do an activity.
You are meeting up with him: is it a date?
Does your new boyfriend think that it's supposed to be a date?
If yes, he will probably be willing to talk about you and him.
If no, just pick a random topic a... (read in full...)
How do I let both of these guys down easy?
Q. Heya i need your help, it all started three weeks ago i met this guy he seemed really interested in me and that kind of threw me back because i had a lot of guys fancying me and he asked me out, and i said yes but the thing is he never calls me or ...
A. 7 June 2007: It depends on how far you have already gone.
You can let guys down easy in the beginning.
After a while this becomes relationship as guys get feelings.
Now you should start spending a bit less time with them both.
Make it slowly, otherwise it may... (read in full...)
I feel as if she's not in love with me any more as she's gone off sex.
Q. dear cupid me and my partner having a few problems, i wonder if you can help me? The first is that I think she has gone off making love to me but I don't know why, the second is that I think she is falling out of love with me please can you help ...
A. 7 June 2007: Do you communicate enough with your partner?
Sounds like here is a lack of communication.
There may be a wide range of reasons why she behaves this way.
You need first talk it out with her - you are in relationship.
Practical advice may help ... (read in full...)
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