A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:My bf and I have been dating almost 6 months and last night he told me that because of our difference in values, he couldn't guarantee our relationship in the future. I've been married twice and I have a teenager at home. Knowing this, I vowed to myself to ensure open lines of communication and I did this 100%. My bf, on the other hand, kept his feelings inside. His background, 2yrs younger and never been married. My gut instincts tell me that it is another woman. He's never given me any reason to believe this. When we began dating, he was not involved with anyone; periodic phone calls and online chatting was all that I saw. His main problem is trust of which he told me at the beginning because of his past relations. I have a girlfriend of whom I've known for about 11 years. Well, she's married and also has a boyfriend of which comes around me and my family. I've even allow frequent engagements with either of her two partners. My bf finally exploded, furious to say the least, and told me that our values are not in sync; and that he didn't see where our relationship would go knowing this. Am I missing something here? Was I wrong in this aspect? I've never given him any reason that I would do the same. Should I leave well enough alone and just move on. I truly love him; he's treated me like no other man has treated me before. I'm confused and deeply hurt. Advise please.
View related questions:
has a boyfriend, move on, period Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, nologo  +, writes (23 March 2007):
 Sad but true: major differences cannot be compromised.
Your gut instincts tell you there is another, but I guess that you expect him to act like this.
Looks like your girl friend became for you a sort of a role model for your relationships.
Six months of dating is quite enough time for anyone to learn whether this is true or false.
His main problem is trust of which he told you at the beginning because of his past relations.
And knowing this you were expected to act accordingly.
In the future you will have to face a choice between him an your girl friend.
|
