I feel as if she's not in love with me any more as she's gone off sex.
Q. dear cupid me and my partner having a few problems, i wonder if you can help me? The first is that I think she has gone off making love to me but I don't know why, the second is that I think she is falling out of love with me please can you help ...
A. 7 June 2007: Do you communicate enough with your partner?
Sounds like here is a lack of communication.
There may be a wide range of reasons why she behaves this way.
You need first talk it out with her - you are in relationship.
Practical advice may help ... (read in full...)
How do I know if hes not interested in me, anymore? Any advice?
Q. i need help! how do u know if a guys interested? in the beginning he liked me a lot! and i didnt really like him as much probably because i was keeping my feelings behind a bit because of previous bad experiences where my emotions go to far! and i ...
A. 6 June 2007: I think that you are making this guy confused.
He probably saw that you keep feelings behind.
After over two months of relationship most guys can see that.
Now you ask here about whether he is still interested in you.
"we're meant to meet up... (read in full...)
She seems to be ignoring me - do I leave things or keep trying to make contact?
Q. I have been friends with this girl for just under a year and we have always got on well uintill recently. We have both changed jobs and do not see each othr as much as we used too. I do not see her as anything other tha a friend and havce always ...
A. 6 June 2007: Something changed for her, but not for you.
Don't contact her now at least for a while.
Maybe "other people are interfering and saying things to her".
It is really bad for you that you didn't have mutual friends.
Now about "we had an argument ... (read in full...)
Why does he lie so much?
Q. I have been with my guy for 3.5 years. We've had problems and are working through them. The thing is he lies about everything! Lying is my pet peeve, he knows it, but keeps doing it. I give him no reason to lie, but he just won't stop. His stories ...
A. 6 June 2007: In fact there are two different types of liars.
From your story it's not clear which one he is.
Anyway, you are asking this: "I need help as to why he lies".
First, there is a type of people who lie with premeditation.
In this case confront hi... (read in full...)
Should I contact this old friend from my childhood or do you think he'll reject me again?
Q. hi, i have recently found this guy that i really liked from when i was about 7 and we sort of grew up together, i was always quite shy and he knew i liked him when we were about thirteen but said that he only liked me as a friend. i am now twenty ...
A. 6 June 2007: Looks like this: you wanna go back in time.
There is some kinda emptyness in your life.
"Back to basics" means that something is wrong for you now.
"i was always quite shy and he knew i liked him" - the Past.
Present is here: "recently found ... (read in full...)
How can I meet new people and socialize outside of school?
Q. i have friends in school, and i do saturday school. so i never get to meet up with people because i never have time. but my summer holidays are comeing up and i want to meet new people and socialise out of school. but i dont no how to meet people. ...
A. 6 June 2007: There are several ways to meet new people. Do you mean here acquaintances or friends? If you are looking for acquaintances, start interested in more topics than before and this way you will talk to more people. How to look for new friends depends ... (read in full...)
Does he just want me for sexual activities?
Q. Right I like this boy and he seems to like me and he invites me out alot and we go and we'll kiss often but really just talking, but now I'm not too sure if he likes me or if he is just trying to use me for sexual activites or something like that, ...
A. 6 June 2007: Hard to grasp topics require unbiased answers.
Forgiving them we need step out of background.
"I've had bad experiences in the past like that so would you think he is just after one thing or is he actualy into me".
The point here is this: if you... (read in full...)
Could she be my dream girl???
Q. Hello, I wonder if you could help please? I have been ‘play’ flirting with this girl for about a year or two. She’s really popular, beautiful and real nice, way out of my league in my opinion. At first she found me weird. When I mean play it’s ...
A. 5 June 2007: Nice heading for this question, by the way.
Okay, I will express my views on your case.
This relationship started when you had a crush on "this girl":
"She’s really popular, beautiful and real nice, way out of my league in my opinion".
Y... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend but I can't stop thinking about this other girl.
Q. I've been going with my girlfriend for just over 2 months now. However, recently i've been having doubts whether its her i really want to be with. I do love her, but, another girl whom i'd be gettin very close to before my current girlfriend has ...
A. 5 June 2007: This may be a test of your relationship.
You should define here your own feelings.
#1: What did you feel to this other girl before you got a GF?
#2: What were your reasons to choose another as a girlfiend?
#3: How far are you ready to go with... (read in full...)
I've been talking to this guy online since Christmas, now he has told me he likes me I've began to lose intrest and back away.
Q. I've been talking to this guy online since Christmas, I began to like him a couple of months ago. Its taken him quite a while to say how he feels about me however, now he has told me he likes me I've began to lose intrest and back away. I dont know ...
A. 5 June 2007: Maybe it's here just what you wanted from him.
You liked him, he didn't pay attention to you.
Once he told you that he likes you, you lost interest in him.
"why Im behaving like this" - You are looking for motivation.
It would be fair now dump hi... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a two way love affair?
Q. How do I deal with a two way love affair? I love both of them but both of them have their bad points. And one of them i have a child by. I don't know which one to talk to....
A. 5 June 2007: You are asking here how to untie a knot.
I guess that you initiated both affairs.
As to the "bad points": all people have bad and good points.
Now you should rather think about the situation you are in.
"one of them i have a child by" - this... (read in full...)
I keep getting teased by friends saying I look much younger than my age.
Q. im 13 and im going out with this boy every thing is fine but his mates who go to a different school to me all say that i look like 7 but then other people I know say i look older than i am, i dont know what to do coz im embarrassed of what they say ...
A. 5 June 2007: Probably you should ignore his mates. How dare they judge you by your looks. There will always be some really narrow minded people around. What you do should be much more important than how you look. I know one person who looks like 20+ while ... (read in full...)
The girl I like likes me back, but doesn't want a relationship! What should I do?
Q. I have a friend that I've been liking for a few months now and she just recently broke up w/ her bf 2 weeks ago. Now I know not to rush her, but I'm confused, b/c I know she is attracted to me and she flirts w/ me a few times back in school but even ...
A. 4 June 2007: You wanna date whom: her or her best friend?
Maybe her best friend is just jealous here.
"I'm confused, b/c I know she is attracted to me and she flirts w/ me... we talk on the phone for hours"
No, I don't understand why you are confused in ... (read in full...)
We've been separated from our past partners for years, but how can I tell my parents that we're moving in together?
Q. im separated for 6yrs. and my bf is separated for 10 yrs. we planned to live together but i dont know how to tell my conservative parents bout this coz we are not annuled.please help. ...
A. 4 June 2007: The question here is why you are not annuled.
If the reason is serious,you start from this.
You can persuade people if you base your statements on facts.
However, if the reason is not serious enough, you wait a bit.
Make sure your parents lea... (read in full...)
I know we're going to break up b/c the distance is too much to handle! Should I not go see him next month?
Q. Hi, I don't know if anyone can really help me with this but i'm not sure where else to turn. My problem is that my boyfriend lives half a world away. We've been together for a year, through what I've found to be a very hard long distance ...
A. 4 June 2007: While writing this you were in a bad mood.
There are some contradictions in your post.
Sounds like you are looking for a reason to end relationship.
It means there is no actual reason if you need to make it up.
First you do this: "I'm going to go... (read in full...)
Am I in a hurry to pursue a relationship or is this normal? We have known each other for 2 months.
Q. I recently met a man on a dating site, he said that he would love to talk to me if I am interested then I said yes I am. We hit it off from there. I have been on the site for 4 months, he for one year and I was going over other sites, I found out ...
A. 4 June 2007: I think that Internet is a mirror of life. But websites do not reflect all the light. The same is true about online dating: something being missed. "How do you think this can work?" - It works for some people. Cannot tell whether it is gonn... (read in full...)
we were becoming too close for comfort and are overstepping the boundaries, and that when my exams are over we could become "buddies" but not just yet.
Q. Ok, so I have this minor little problem that I need advice to help resolve. Well, theres this person whom i really really like, and i am pretty sure (95%) that this person likes me back too, but heres the thing, that person was my college teacher, I ...
A. 4 June 2007: A story of this type happens extremely rarely.
Why nonpersonal address "teacher" is repeated.
"This teacher isn't particularly older than myself, and is imensley attractive in my opinion"
Probably this your phrase should be a key to understandin... (read in full...)
I'm sick of all the lies and broken promises...
Q. Hey im 18 and i have been with my girlfriend for 2 years and 8 months now. and things have been good. just I'm sick of all the lies and broken promises.. Like i set boudaries for both of us to follow uno like normal things. and she always promises ...
A. 2 June 2007: Look at this situation from 2 different sides.
You may be viewed by her as overly controling.
"i set boudaries for both of us to follow uno like normal things. and she always promises she wont do what i hate but always breaks it or she lies abo... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him believe me?
Q. A few weeks ago me and my boyfriend were sending flirty texts to each other and I accidentally sent one of the texts to some random person - my boyfriend just had a new number you see and I typed it on wrong. Anyway the person I sent the message to ...
A. 2 June 2007: You can change numbers, but it is not needeed.
Disconnect messaging service if you can do it.
I strongly doubt that "this person" will actually ring you.
"tried to explain to my boyfrined about whats been going on but he seems to doubt me sti... (read in full...)
Is it true that if you argue with one person or a family member that you are rebelling against every other member of the family, even those with whom you do not have any major issues?
Q. Is it true that if you argue with one person or a family member that you are rebelling against every other member of the family, even those with whom you do not have any major issues? My close knitted family tries to give me that message somehow and ...
A. 2 June 2007: Normally extended family should not split.
There is unity that keeps people together.
You should not "argue with one person or a family member".
And if you speak out, it can become a topic for discussion.
Future events as a rule override any tro... (read in full...)
I am marrying a wonderful woman but our backgrounds are so different.
Q. I am getting married to a girl who belongs to a small working class family. Whereas i belong to a big extended family of 40-50 people, all of them are business class. We have very different values and mindsets in our family. Especially, people say ...
A. 2 June 2007: First, you have look at your priorities list.
What stands there above Marriage in your case.
If you believe social gap is unbridgeable, why you marry her.
Then you both decide where you belong after getting married.
Marriage doesn't resolve ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid his motives are purely sexual and I'm scared that history wil repeat.
Q. Hi, I hope someone can give me some words of wisdom as I frankly am lost. I was together with my current ex for two years, things werent working out for the last two months of our relationship as I was snappy and irritable due to my stressfu...
A. 2 June 2007: What are your motives to go back with him? I am asking this, because it is not clear. Anyway, history will not repeat unless there are no changes. "I admit i did things wrong in the past by lack of patience" Does he admit that he was wrong when ... (read in full...)
She's with a guy who cheats on his gf's! Should I still go after her?
Q. I am a 14 year old single. The girl I liked in Pre-school and drifted apart from is catching my eye, like a lot. She has a boyfriend that everyone knows cheated on his last girlfriend with two other girls. I dont know what to do. Persue her or ...
A. 2 June 2007: Main problem here is that she is taken. This should be a starting point for you. Well, don't pursue her, but stay around and be supportive. Yeah, it is possible that he will cheat on her too, but: #1 - you cannot be one hundred percent sure abou... (read in full...)
I know I love him, but sometimes I feel I don't like him! We fight all the time. What can we do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and 9 months now. When the relationship started everything was wonderful and perfect and i was so in love with him, it was amazing. About six months into the relationship we started fighting a ...
A. 1 June 2007: Let's speak about your type of relationship.
6 months is period for learning each other.
During this time you both are avoiding potential challenges.
In your own words "i was so in love with him, it was amazing"
So, you have similar or compa... (read in full...)
I like a friend as more than a friend, he has told me he feels the same way but currently has a girlfriend.
Q. I like a friend as more than a friend, he has told me he feels the same way but currently has a girlfriend. I think i should talk to him about it but don't want to affect his relationship. Can anyone give me some advice?...
A. 1 June 2007: You should first determine your feelings to him.
Is this physical attraction or emotional crush?
Once you done this, refer to your definition of Friendship.
What it means to you and how you are supposed to act there.
Next, if you manage to deal w... (read in full...)
In love with a girl who feels I am too good for her! What can I do?
Q. im in love with a girl who feels that i am to good for her. as if thats not enough she cant stop thinking about all the pain she has caused me in the past i dont care about the past but she cant forget and its making her very sad. i've done all i ...
A. 1 June 2007: Here is a short way and here is a long way.
Short way means to reset this relationship.
I understand that both of you prefer to choose the long way.
Another thing in common: you are way too good for each other.
You are asking how to "make her und... (read in full...)
Had an affair..am I doing the right thing by ignoring him?
Q. i had an affair with a married man but recently i refused to accept his calls and even i acted so rude to him cuz i want to get out of his life.But i know he loves me.Am i doing the right thing by ignoring him? ...
A. 1 June 2007: Truth is like the leaves on a tree, you know.
And the more you get, there is something left.
So are you doing the right thing here in whose opinion, huh?
Probably I should return this question to you for answering.
If not, YOU made a decision:... (read in full...)
We swapped phone numbers but he hasn't called me, yet when he sees me, he's pretty attentive! What's up with this guy?
Q. I met a boy last week who I really like and thought liked me. We swapped numbers and he said he wanted to take me out for a drink. He was really nice to me and kept kissing me but I know he had been drinking. Anyway, a week later and he still has...
A. 31 May 2007: You will get two different explanations from me.
However, maybe there are more ways to treat it.
First, relationship of this type is not a priority for him.
Therefore he's nice to you, but doesn't express initiative.
Second, his motivation to me... (read in full...)
Should I forget them or concentrate on being a friend to them both?
Q. I'm like these two guys who both like me too. They have both asked me out but I don't know who I like more. It's weird because they are both not my usual type but I have fallen for them. I know that if I go out with one I don't want to lose the ...
A. 31 May 2007: Partners are partners and friends are friends.
Of course, there are several exceptions here.
For instance, if you keep close friends since kidulthood...
Anyway, I should probably concentrate now on your question.
"they are both not my usual typ... (read in full...)
It bothers me when he spends a lot of time with his sisters and not me.
Q. i am in a relationship with someone for 3 months and my problem is he spends alot of time with his sisters and brother in laws. i dont have a problem with it but when he starts to be with me too much they call constantly. every holiday he spends ...
A. 31 May 2007: He keeps contacts with his extended family.
For many people this is considered normal.
By your question I guess you both have different background.
"when he starts to be with me too much they call constantly"
Just unplug the phone when you a... (read in full...)
We had an argument and now my bf won't return my calls! What do I do?
Q. my boyfriend and i quarrelled just this monday and he refuses to return my calls what should i do?...
A. 31 May 2007: It depends on what you expect yourself next.
Normally you should wait a bit to chill out.
As I guess you called him immediately after the quarrel.
This approach only works with few guys, not with your BF.
You can expect him to call first, but ... (read in full...)
He's somewhat of a jock, always around the beautiful girls but why doesn't he have a girlfriend?
Q. so there's this guy... lol... it baffles me why he dosn't have a girlfriend because he is a good looking guy with a great personality. he's somewhat of a jock, so he is always hanging around beautiful girls, but still he dosn't have a girlfrie...
A. 30 May 2007: You are asking a very interesting question.
Let's have a quickie look at your Community.
An issue "successful and popular" is considered a value.
I can see who is important there: jocks and pretty girls.
Their life is a pursuit of mirage - they... (read in full...)
I got dumped because she found out a mate had a crush on me!
Q. i was going out with this gal, and a mate had a crush on me and told me, somehow my galfrend found out, and ditched me, which hurt alot. the mate that had the crush on me is going out with another guy, but asked if i would ever consider getting ...
A. 30 May 2007: Here is my understanding of your situation.
Two girls tested you for somewhat purpose.
It may look differently for you, but follow these steps:
#1 - you are with GF, mate tells you she got crush on you;
#2 - you reciprocate to mate and you los... (read in full...)
Off to college next year! I want to be single..how do I break off with my bf?
Q. Hey im 17 and I have a boyfriend that is really great, he's sweet, smart and very good looking. Im going to college next year but i don't want a boyfriend in college just because i don't want to be so committed and obligate to one person just yet. ...
A. 30 May 2007: Formerly honesty was supposed to be appreciated.
Now honest women get label "overly calculating".
"i don't want a boyfriend in college just because i don't want to be so committed and obligate to one person just yet"
You have the right to dum... (read in full...)
Was I looking like a pimp by overdressing? Some friends thought so...any views?
Q. Now this question sounds weird but it's a issue for me. Do I come across as pervy or a flirty type? Ok well basically, I'm in my teens, never had a girl fiend always act poite and friendly as well as always treat ladies with utmost respect (...
A. 30 May 2007: Now this question sounds to me like a made up.
Such situation may occur, but not the attitude.
This text appears to be written from a female point of view.
Do you really expect a male-oriented advice to this question?
Anyway, if I am wrong here,... (read in full...)
Two guys and whom do I like more? I can't decide..any advice?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm sorry to bother you but I'm in a big bit of trouble. A few months ago I got together with a good friend of mine who I had always thought I wanted to be with. However we never made it official and while away on holiday I got together...
A. 30 May 2007: Distance yourself from both of them for a while.
This should help you to sort out your feelings.
Your concern is clear:"I don't want to hurt either of them!"
Eventually someone will be hurt here, but not at the moment.
Both guys are emotionally ... (read in full...)
I am really not sure if this guy likes me or not as I am getting mixed signals.
Q. I am really not sure if this guy likes me or not as I am getting really mixed signals. We were best friends for about 4 years + we really close and then we both had relationships with other people for about 2 years and we drifted, but then we became ...
A. 29 May 2007: No, I don't think that he doesn't feel anything.
You get mixed signals as his feelings are mixed.
Many people would say that you are "friends with benefits".
This will be my time to disagree: you are using each other.
He is using you sexually and... (read in full...)
How do I decide if 'He genuinely made a mistake'?
Q. Soon after me and my ex boyfriend broke up he got together with a girl he knew. I removed myself from the picture as he had been rude and disrespectful towards me throughout the 1 year relationship and I guess he had her ready for when he broke up ...
A. 29 May 2007: Look, you should not decide in this situation.
First HE should decide what he wants in life.
Speaking about him: this story shows his pattern of behavior.
It's like "I can do anything as I'm allowed to make mistakes".
And now speaking about y... (read in full...)
Should I throw a party for him as a surprise for his birthday?
Q. my boyfriends birthday is coming soon, and i want to make it special because his last two birthdays have not been so great! im thinking along the lines of a surprise. should i throw the party at his place? he has two roommates, who love throwing ...
A. 29 May 2007: In life I meet people with different background. And I do know that life is different everywhere. Just asked a person from your country a question about parties - don't do it in a bar or restaurant. Make a private party at his place, at your place... (read in full...)
I'm good looking (people say) but look young for my age!
Q. What is the best way to start chatting to a girl in a club? I would class myself as a nice guy, i get loadsa compliments saying im good looking, but i think my downfall is i look young for my age. I'm 19, but probably only look 16, and this kno...
A. 26 May 2007: First, looks are not so important for many people.
Second, you should understand that looks are made.
After reading your question several times, I got a feeling that you believe "a girl in a club" is superior to you.
You should think about her as... (read in full...)
Scared to break it off... I know she loves me but she never, ever shows it!
Q. I am with my first girlfriend ever in my life. I am 20 and she is 18. Every other weekend we see each other, (because we don't drive), she doesn't french me anymore, and we don't even make out anymore. She spends most of her time on my computer ...
A. 26 May 2007: This sounds like your girlfriend is using you.
She is with you only because she needs a comp.
Another explanation in this case would be hardly possible.
"She spends most of her time on my computer and not touching me or paying any attention to... (read in full...)
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