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writes: I follow a pattern in most relationships that i have in life. Like when i meet the person, i am pretty aggressive or dominating towards him/her. Then i take some time to get to know them. Once i have enough trust in them, i open up my heart for them and let them know the deeper self inside me. And when either me or the other person is about to move away, may be to another place or away from where i am, i again start to become dominating, aggressive (sometimes even hostile) and close my heart to them as if i never knew them in first place. Moreover, i also feel the fear of rejection on their part and sometimes i reject them first before they do so. The person gets offended at times and our relationship loses trust and importance. As this keeps repeating again and again, it becomes difficult for me to sustain the relationships any longer and i get depressed and lonely. Please advice on how do i work to break out of this cycle. I am 25.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (15 March 2007):
 I think that your main reason for making relationships is "fear of rejection".Therefore you target certain type of people and behave toward them the same way.If you start new relationships for another reason that may be less important to you, you will target a different type of people.Adaptation is required by both sides in any relationship, so if a person reciprocates, you will also behave differently.
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