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I know he is not really into me but I am finding it hard to let go

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Question - (11 May 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 11 May 2010)
A female South Africa age 30-35, anonymous writes:

im 20 dating a guy who is 28.at first i wsnt interestd in him but as i got to know i started to develop feelings for him,i foumd out that he has 2 kids and he hasnt realy broken up with his baby momma.after we had sex he started being distant,i call him he doesnt call me,i send him messages he doesnt send back.i realy love this guy and can tell that his not really into me as much as i am but im finding it really hard to let go.i need to know wt it is that i must do ,stay with him or leave.

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A female reader, Midge United Kingdom +, writes (11 May 2010):

Midge agony auntOkay, I believe in being honest and this "relationship" is what I would call "a booty call relationship". He calls and you drop everything to run and be with him, he gets what he wants, you're hurt, he's happy with himself!

Now that Ive put it that way, how do you feel about your "relationship"? Be honest with yourself!!! He doesnt want you, he wants what you can give him, sex! Nothing more than that and its very unfair and hurtful! I got my heart broken by someone that I fell head over heels in love with, or so I thought, I lost my virginity to him, and he just wanted a bit of fun! I was devistated, while the bugger was grinning behind my back. He knew exactly what to say or do to make me run to him, jump in bed, and then I was the heartbroken one. I doubt after I broke off all contact that he even thought about me once. I thought about him for a long while after, and still do today, although he was killed just this last September.

My point is, dont let this arse get what he wants while you are growing emotionally attached to him.Tell him that its not working for you, and that you will not be having any further contact with him. And for goodness sake, STOP PHONING HIM!!! It makes you look desperate and you DONT want to look desperate, not to a silly, immature idiot like that!

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (11 May 2010):

CindyCares agony aunt Leave. If you stay with him you will always be second best and eventually it will destroy your self esteem.

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