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writes:*Op's own title*Hi all,Hope someone can help,I am a closet crossdresser and live with my female partner of 5 years. I only do it in the privacy of our home and I am totally devoted to my partner. I really want to tell her but I am afraid of her reaction. I have built up the courage a couple of times to wear her stockings and both times she has not had a problem but feel she may have kept quiet not to upset me.Should I tell her?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): tell her now. she at first may have trouble accepting it,but if she loves you . she will. because you will never stop. get on the net so you can show her the facts that it does not mean you are gay
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 May 2010):
 NO! Don't do that. Generally women will see you in a different perspective once they know you cross dressed.
They want a man and not a drag queen. Don't take that risk even if you have been with her for 5 years. It is their woman's nature. There are exceptions off course
Wearing her stockings is nothing .But when you are fully dolled up as a lady ,that is another different matter.
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reader, Midge +, writes (8 May 2010):
 Personally, if I were her, I would not have too much of an issue with it since you are doing it in the privacy of the home and not outside. You may find that she would just need a little time to adjust to the idea, but that she may be accepting of it. But you wont know that till you tell her!
If you love her, and want to continue the relationship you have with her, then I would suggest that you tell her. As I said, you may be pleasantly surprised and she may just be accepting of it.
Yes, she may be shocked etc etc, but that can also be expected when you have lived with someone for 5 years, and only just being told about a deep dark secret of theirs. Muster up the courage and tell her. Be prepared for both a good reception and a bad one, but tell her all the same.
I know of a couple whom I have not seen for some time, but who were in the same boat as you. The husband told his wife, and yes she was not pleased and lost the plot a little, but after a little while, she came round to it, and the last time I saw them, they were so happy and very much in love! He had also mentioned that they now make a night of it where he dresses up for her and she plays various roles. It livened up their sex life.
If she loves you, she will understand.
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