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I need sex, what do I do
Q. i feel like i am going to die without sex what should i do i am 12...
A. 10 October 2007: Your 12 its illegal you hormones are just kicking in and its not possible to die without sex all though catching a disease transmitted through sex can kill, wait till your older there are other ways to relieve your sexual urges without anyone else.... (read in full...)
Can I believe my horoscope?
Q. Are Star Signs always true? I'm a Pisces, and he's a Virgo. Our Star Signs are incompatible, yet we're crazy for each other. I love everything about him, because he's so different from me. I've found that I've got bored with the people...
A. 9 October 2007: The thing about star signs is they class all people in the partcular star sign as the same and we are all individual dont go with star signs love is love doesnt matter what the stars say
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Will I always be this miserable?
Q. When will my heart heal? I promised myself long before my girlfriend of 2 years split with me that I would never allow myself to become depressed... But I think that is what's happening, and it just doesn't seem right. It's been almost 3 1/2 mo...
A. 9 October 2007: First of all i just have to give you some *hugs* life does get better we all have ups and downs and sometimes they all happen at once and you think it sucks but then something great will happen and life will get better, relationships end it happens ... (read in full...)
About aids - how do you catch it, what are the consequences, can you be born with it?
Q. im quite young and so not the most experienced person in the world but... how do you catch aids? what are the consequences? can you be born with it? if so how can i tell?...
A. 9 October 2007: You can catch aids by swapping bodily fluids with a person who has aids, sex and sharing needles are the most common way to catch it and yes you can be born with aids if your parents had it the only way you can tell is a blood test, and the main ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this note in which I'm asked for a date and not to tell anyone? A boy gave it to me from behalf of his friend, supposedly.
Q. Hi dearcupid, just hoping you could help me out with this situation... The brief story is that i recieved a letter in one of my classes...It basically was asking me out, for a trip to cinema! However, i am quite confused as to whether its seri...
A. 8 October 2007: If you dont want to confront him or call him text him,but dont put who you are so if it isnt who its supposed to be then you will be ok, or if you think he has your number get a friend to do it, but if you have talked before then its probably ... (read in full...)
How can my boyfriend avoid being bored?
Q. anytime my boyfriend comes over hes bored. i hate going to his house too because he still lives with his family and i dont get the impression they like me being their(its quite a small house and i feel im taking up a lot of space)... but when he ...
A. 8 October 2007: If he is bored ask him what he wants to do, go out to the cinema, bowling anything that gets you out the house, if your bored find something you can both do and if he is the one who always says he is bored, then ask what he wants to do. ... (read in full...)
Can a man be "raped" by a woman?
Q. I would like to know if it is possible for a man to have sex with a woman against his will?...
A. 8 October 2007: Yeah women get raped as well as men if this has happend to you or anyone you know it must be reported and councilling should an option as a victim of rape it can mess your entire life, dont be afraid its more common then you think ... (read in full...)
He said my weight wouldn't be a problem but I think he's repulsed by me because when he touches me he gets hard rock instantly. Am I being paranoid?
Q. Help, i think my boyfriend is repulsed by me. Iam 20 years old. Im a big and beautiful girl. I been seeing this guy for a few months now and i think he is turned off by me. I liked him for a long time before this but i too afraid to talk to him ...
A. 5 October 2007: Your really paranoid babe seems to me like you really turn him on! But i think you have a problem with yourslef to make you feel so paranoid your a real woamn with curves love yourself you are beautiful! ... (read in full...)
I just found out my ex had clymidia
Q. I had a one night stand with my ex a year an a half ago, I've recently found out that he had chlamydia, what should i do?????...
A. 5 October 2007: Go get tested its a simple test and doesnt hurt, there usually isnt any symptoms for clymadia so its better to be safe then sorry, but dont have sex with anyone till you are tested and if it turns out to be positive (which i doubt) you have to ... (read in full...)
Cheating or not?
Q. i have had a boyfriend for about three months and i really like him and i recieved a message tonight saying how was london babe love you and i haven,t been to london and i then recieved a message saying that he had sent it to the wrong person i ...
A. 5 October 2007: I can only agree with everyone else dont jump to conclusions just aske him out right who he was meant to send the message to and why he said he loved them, his body language and tone will give you all the answers you need, any doubts that he is ... (read in full...)
Are we moving too fast?
Q. (sorry this is so long) Hi im sixteen. Last friday i met a boy. He was new to our school and met a friend of mine, he would txt and call her a lot and she got really annoyed. I thought he was cute and told her to tell him that, she did and gave...
A. 5 October 2007: Everyone just seems to use the word love as if it doesnt mean anything love is powerful it hits you and you know it, him telling you he loves you after such a short time seems very odd when you get a little older you will realise SOME men use that ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of have sex with my bf plz help!
Q. I'm 14 and my bf is 16 we've been dating for nearly a year and we both wana take our relation ship to the next level we both wana have sex but im scared to and he knows this, hes been trying to help me get over my fear it's been like 2 months but im ...
A. 5 October 2007: Your really young and he could get into trouble for having sex with you, and your scared and that just shows that your not ready for sex, wait till you feel ready and if he respects you he will wait too, sex isnt the most important thing in a ... (read in full...)
I dunno- do I dump my girlfriendfor the hot girl or not???
Q. ive been with my girl for like 3 yrs and i have been having a serious affair with a much hotter girl that i met on the train (randomly) for about 2.5 of those years (almost the whole time) my girl has absolutely no idea at all bcuz i am very ver...
A. 5 October 2007: I feel so sorry for your girlfriend that she is in love with a complete lying cheat, you cant love your girlfriend much if your lying to her all the time and sharing your time with another girl just for sex, do her a favour tell her whats going on ... (read in full...)
I want to propose to my girl. Any suggestions?
Q. I want to propose to my girl. Can anybody suggest some ideas?...
A. 4 October 2007: How about taking her out to a nice posh restraunt really spoile her and tell her your feelings then go back to your house where you have had a friend light loads and loads of candles and put flowers every where and rose petals every where and just ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend abuses me
Q. ok my boyfriend has a problem he's constantly physical with me. actually he hasn't been recently, but in the past he's severely injured me. well injured me enough to where even weeks and weeks had passed i still had marks and my skin where i've had ...
A. 4 October 2007: Im going to say this in the nicest way possible and no im not overeacting GET THE HELL OUT! Leave him and now before it gets worse you may think he loves you but he is controlling you it makes him feel better to be able to hurt you it makes him feel ... (read in full...)
Why did he flaunt me like that. Was he trying to make her jealous?
Q. my ex just broke up with a girl he always runs to from his past (he calls her his rebound) the other day we were out on a date, and he saw her cousins and some of his friends, he asked me to stay around them and flaunted me in front of his rebound's ...
A. 4 October 2007: He seemed you be showing himself off "ohh look at me i have a new girlfired isnt she hot hahaha i can do better then your cousin" yeah just a little mature you really wanna stick with a guy who is trying to make some else jealous?... (read in full...)
Was I really to blame for all this?
Q. What I want to know here is if I am in the wrong. What happened was that I went to a night out with my friend who is my ex. There was a guy who liked her, his friend (who has a girlfriend) and our old friend. These three guys were all friends. ...
A. 4 October 2007: I think everyone in this situation is to blame your ex for pulling you aside telling you she had slept around after you told her that you were upset that she was kissing other guys she just seemed to wanna hurt you she seems for lack of a better ... (read in full...)
I think my best friend likes my boyfriend, and I'm worried he likes her too.
Q. Recently ive noticed that my best friend has started to take alot of interest in my boyfriend. I've tryed to ignore it, thinking i'm being paranoid and stupid. Thing is, this has happened before, with a different friend stealing an ex. I care ...
A. 4 October 2007: She is your best friend talk to her about it let her know how you feel and tell her your concerns she is your best friends if there is nothing between them then she will back off ... (read in full...)
I kinda blew my proposal to my fiance... she's spoiled so it's hard to "un-disappoint" her
Q. I sort of blew my proposal to my now fiancee and needless to say she is very disappointed. I know the proposal is a big deal, but I still choked and am going to be stuck with that forever. I want to make it up to her, but I'm not sure how. The ...
A. 4 October 2007: I know when you have your first love its special and you cant see yourself being with anyone else but your 16-17 and your engaged and you do everything in school and even proposed at school its not what i would call an adult relationship, maybe you ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling guilty about what I did when he was gone.
Q. It stopped for 2 weeks. The guy that I was seeing left for 2 weeks without a phone call... Without anything.. and and I really like him. He's very special to me. He has this was of being that makes me melt for him. He promised he would never...
A. 4 October 2007: I think you need to be honest with this guy because otherwise its always going to be in the back of your mind tell him you thought he had left you because you hadnt heard from him, tell him it was a mistake and you regret it,you just have to be ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I could be pregnant! What do you think?
Q. hey every1, right, im a bit scared right now but im gunna start at the beginning. so, me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom about 2 weeks ago. im on the pill and have been for a couple of years and i take it everyday without fail. what i ...
A. 3 October 2007: The only way the pill wouldnt be effective is if you were sick or had diahorea if you didnt have any of that before you had sex without a condom then its very unlikely that you are pregnant, dont stress yourself out but if during the 7day gap you ... (read in full...)
Any good sites where I can meet people my age?
Q. does anyone know of a good website where i could meet people my age and in my area? not only boys but girls just for friendship too?...
A. 3 October 2007: Try flirtbox.co.uk its great for meeting people but im afraid like most places there are a few weird people but you can find people locally men and women im on it met a few nice people ... (read in full...)
How can sex be less painful?
Q. I need some advice, is there anyway of making sex less painful the first time? Im 16 and in a new relationship, we wanted to sleep together the other day but i told him to stop because the pain was awful. Im scared i'll never be able to sleep w...
A. 3 October 2007: You just have to really really relax it does get better and less painful i promise just make sure your really wet and if your hymen isnt broken see if he can finger you gently till it breaks if he is gentle enough it doesnt sound as painful as i ... (read in full...)
I've been sending anonymous love/sex mails to my wife's sister
Q. I am 40 and married. I am seriously in love with my sister in law who is 22 unmarried. I have been sending anonymous love emails to her and finally got a positive reply. Should I reveal my real identity and come out in front of her as myself.....I ...
A. 3 October 2007: Your willing to ruin your marriage over you 22 year old sister in law? Wow you live in a world of fantasy if you think that she will want you like you want her she is 22 she wont be looking for marriage or sex with a 40 year old especially her ... (read in full...)
How can the world's tallest hobbit (me!) get the girl?
Q. I am a very down to earth sweet young man with big dreams and aspirations. I am also built like Buddha. I can't seem to find a decent girl out there who will accept me. I'm not 100% sure of it but really really feel like girls judge me based on my ...
A. 3 October 2007: Hey nothing wrong with looking like jack black! Just be confident if you dont have a problem with the way you look you shouldnt go after girls who have a problem with it, just be yourself the right girl is out there you just havent found her yet ... (read in full...)
Blemish problem, help please
Q. OKay so im loking to see what remiedies people use for blemishes....how could i get rid of them? i have a few methods but hiney witha baindaid works for lightish blemishes but doesnt stay well on the chin, any other ones that can help a darker ...
A. 3 October 2007: There are many types of blemishes but haveing a good skin routine helps keep them at bay, you should cleanse twice, tone, moisturise twice daily using upwards movements (downwards causes sagging) concentrate on the blemished arease really work the ... (read in full...)
I feel like I should give him another chance but am so confused!
Q. I just found out that my BF of 6 months that lives with me cheated. I found messages on his phone that said 'I wouldn't have kissed you, if I didn't think you were attractive' and a few other random things.. I confronted him about this and he alleg...
A. 3 October 2007: Ask yourself, do i trust him? Do i think he would cheat? IF you have to think about the answer to the questions if there are any doubts in yourmind leave him without trust there is no love doubting him isnt a good sign, and talk to him about the ... (read in full...)
How do I break up a friends with benefits deal? Is that even a good idea?
Q. HELP!! Im currently dating this guy, and so far we've been having fun to the fullest! Yes we argue but we make up that same instant (nothing serious) , we aren't in a relationship, but were sexually intimate. So u can call it a friends with benefits ...
A. 3 October 2007: I think you are just gonna have to be honest tell him that you have a great time together and you really like the time you spend together but your having feelings for him and that unless it stops you know you will get hurt and you dont want that and ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I have my period?
Q. I just started my period again and my bf wants to have sex with me. How do I tell him I have my period?...
A. 3 October 2007: Well if you are two embarressed to come out and say "sorry on my period" just tell him in a diffrent way, for example "monthly visitor has arrived" or you could use what all my male friends call it and tell him your on the blob, im sure he will ... (read in full...)
She wants our first time to be great and so do i...any tips??
Q. Ok me and my girlfriend are wanting to make love and she wants it to be great i just want tips on what im going to go trough my first time what should i do since were both virgins, what to do and what not to do and some tips on pleasuring her just ...
A. 3 October 2007: As your both virgins you just have to make sure your really really ready and you have to relax, first times for girls can be painful because you usually have to break the hymen (like a bit ok skin inside her) so get her really turned on and lots of ... (read in full...)
An old friend of mine is very sick..what should I do?
Q. I know this is a very difficult question to answer but I would appreciate people views. We’re both 18 almost 19 now. All the way through primary school form age 5 to age 13/14 I was very close friends with this girl Ann we never had a falling ou...
A. 3 October 2007: You used to be very close and i think you need to go and see her let her know that you still care for her if she is ill she needs all the love and support to get through this, and if the worse should happen then you will regret not seeing her, she ... (read in full...)
I'm constantly tired. What's wrong with me?
Q. Hello, i have a health problem. I am always tired, constantly tired and i fel like i have no energy at all. I am 18 now and it has been this way since i was about 9. I have had two blood tests since then for being tired, checking for anemia and diab...
A. 2 October 2007: Have you had your thyroid checked it could be that, it involves another blood test though but go back speak to your doctor and get checked and if its not that then get your doctor to check for anything else he has to help its not fair on you to feel ... (read in full...)
My friend, who was once anorexic, is planning on taking tablets to help her lose weight. What should I do?
Q. Hi there, My friend (though not a very close friend) has recently been tempted into using amphetamines or "speed" tablets to help her lose weight. She used to be anorexic and is set on doing this despite me strongly adivising her not to. She w...
A. 1 October 2007: Aonrexia is a disease its one you are never cured of you are only ever in recovery and diet pills will effect her recovery you need to tell someone before she slips into her old habbits, if she isnt listeing to you maybe she will listen to her ... (read in full...)
He wants us to swing! I don't think I can take this change in him! Help!
Q. Hello! My Husband has been going through something for about a month now. We are married 7 years now and have 2 children a 5 year old and 11/2 year old. A month ago he told me I wasn't attractive to him anymore. So the past month I have been wor...
A. 1 October 2007: Darling if you dont want to swing tell him, marriage is about honesty and trust just tell him how you feel and he should respect that,try spicing up your sex life dress up be someone else for a few hours, if he wants to sleep with other people let ... (read in full...)
I got called and Elephant and took it to heart. What is the average weight for a 5'3 girl anyway?
Q. Hi! I have had this problem for 3 weeks now and it's making me feel so down, drained, and depressed! To put it in a short version....well....I got called fat (an elephant) and I took it to heart and I starved myself for about 3-4 days....but...
A. 1 October 2007: First of all starving yourself is a HUGE no no! Ive suffered with an eating disorder and thats how it starts and its so dangerous! To lose weight you have to eat 3 meals a day, no joke because skipping meals makes you put on weight (no really it ... (read in full...)
How can I stop throwing myself at boys??
Q. I know all you readers are just going to think im a total slut and a whore and everything else you can think of but i dont know what to do about the situation im in. My parents both died in a car accident just 12 months ago and i have been living h...
A. 1 October 2007: First of all im sorry for your loss, i really think you need to sit down with your sister and have a heart to heart, let everything out that your feeling and most importantly tell her your pregnant you cant deal with this alone whatever you decided ... (read in full...)
14, My boyfriend wants me to do things to him... I'm not sure how to!
Q. im 14 and i have a boyfriend and he wants me to toss him off and give him head, im ready 4 it, but im not sure what to do. pleaaaaasssee help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
A. 1 October 2007: Your only 14 i think your way to young to even think about anything like this,not knowing what any of this is just proves your immaturity you just need to wait till your old enough.... (read in full...)
If I do the bad guy thing
Q. I am 21 soon id like to think I know a bit since I had a crap life my girlfriend cheated on me and I gave her a 2nd chance and she cheated on me with 2 guys at the same time why do things like this happen to nice guys. Well I don’t think I am a ...
A. 29 September 2007: Huni its not you its them, some girls just dont know a good thing when they have one, i would love a sweet nice guy but never had one i only seem to get users and losers alot of girls are just nasty and treat men like crap so they hurt others so ... (read in full...)
Why do some women not enjoy giving head?
Q. i dont understand why some women love giving head and others wouldnt dare even if you gave them thousands of opportunities to do it. whats so wrong with it? you ladies out there what do you think?...
A. 29 September 2007: Some girls just dont like it it can be really boring doing the same thing and can make your jaw ache after a while, some guys dont like giving girls oral its just the way some people are... (read in full...)
I'm worried he might think I'm frigid, now! Was I just nervous?
Q. there is this guy who is 2 years older than me and we told each other a while ago that we really liked each other, nothing had gone any further than that but the other day i went to my friends house (not his!) and we got quite close Then yest...
A. 29 September 2007: Only do tongues if he does it first and kissing is natural dont worry yourself its a natural thing and it comes naturally ... (read in full...)
Can you check for STD's with a simple blood test?
Q. my girlfriend has had a past relationship and is wondering.. can you check for STI's with a simple blood test? thank you...
A. 28 September 2007: Blood test can only detect a few STI's the best thing to do is go and get you and your girlfriend tested its not that bad its a little embarressing first time but the people who work there do it again and again all day everyday there is nothing ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he might think I'm frigid, now! Was I just nervous?
Q. there is this guy who is 2 years older than me and we told each other a while ago that we really liked each other, nothing had gone any further than that but the other day i went to my friends house (not his!) and we got quite close Then yest...
A. 24 September 2007: Dont worry so much its obvious he likes you just talk to him and he wont think your frigid just because you have never passionatly kissed a guy to be honest he probably wont care and kissing will just come naturally just dont think about it.... (read in full...)
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