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He told me that if I ever talk to him again, he is going to call the police.
Q. I've asked this question before, but didn't go into a lot of detail. So here is my situation... I've liked this guy for 5 years now. Anywhoo, I knew him from high school. (back in the day) We knew of each other, but never spoken. Until.....
A. 4 December 2008: Your annoying him he dooesnt know you and you didnt talk for 5 years and now your bugging him with messages and he ignores you because he does not want to talk to you and didnt add you on facebook because he does not want to, he talks and adds your ... (read in full...)
If a girl is raped, her first time, will it always affect her?
Q. if a girl gets raped her first time will it bother her her whole life?will she ever be happy?wil she be able to live happily?will it be terror for her life?or will she be alright afterwards...
A. 19 November 2008: As someone who has been through this i can tell you that you never forget what happans to you and it does effect you, but over time you learn to accept what happend and learn to live with it youlearn to trust and love again i used to suffer awful ... (read in full...)
Any tips for doing a good back massage?
Q. I really want to give my boyfriend a good back massage-the last time didnt go very well as it was my first time doing it. Any tips?...
A. 18 November 2008: firstly make sure you have plenty of massage oil or creams warm it up in your hands then from the shoulder use long stroking movement down his back never go over his spine! work down to the base of his back and then back up using the palms of your ... (read in full...)
Should I text him to say I miss him?
Q. Hi Aunts/Uncles I went out with this guy for a month in September, things were amazing, I really liked him and lost my virginity to him. It was my first proper relationship. We broke up just after we turned one month, he dumped me by text and stil...
A. 17 November 2008: Save your money your time and your heart and do not do it, this will only end up in tears and you being more hurt then before, he could not even break up with you to your face what a coward. Dont waste your time find someone who will love you... (read in full...)
What to do about my mascara? My eyelashes seem clogged up.
Q. hello ok this is a make-up question for the girls. i apply mascara everyday and stuff, but recently my eyelashes are clogged up and my think comb mascara brush wont go through them! please help! what should i do? X...
A. 16 November 2008: Firstly make sure you are cleaning your make up off properly using eye make up remover remember to go from the inside of ur eyes out the eye area is very delecate but remeber to be carful. Also remeber make up does go off so maybe its time for a new ... (read in full...)
My first time was great...is there something wrong with me?
Q. hey. urm, well here goes.. me and my boyfriend have been together now for 7 months, im 16 and he is 19, we decided today to have sex for the first time, my parents are out until sunday so we had a free house, and it went pretty well, exept ive ...
A. 14 November 2008: Everyone is diffrent and as you used protection lube and lots of forplay maybe you where more relaxed then most girls. Congratulations on losing your virginity and doing it safely sounds like your boyfirend is a lovely fella dont let him go! ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated on me... and it's on tape... but I love her. What do I do?
Q. I am 31 I’ve been married for almost 4 years and I known my wife for 6 years and we have a beautiful 3 years old girl, and we have a second one on the way, but I have learn something very horrible and I do not know what to do, I truly love my wife ...
A. 14 November 2008: I recomend therapy for you both, you because you seem to have serious mental health issues, and her so she can deal with your extensive mental health issues.
But if this is true i would leave your wife she is obviously totally round this twist dr... (read in full...)
I like goth clothing, is goth believing in the devil?
Q. Hey, I'm a christian. I like goth clothing. Just the way they look, dress. Can I dress goth? Is goth believing in the devil. I want to know more about goth. Any advice?...
A. 13 November 2008: Goth does not mean you believe in the devil thats just what some people believe. Wear what you want to wear its your life and your body ... (read in full...)
He's started saying I might be a lesbian because I hardly ever come during penetrative sex!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for nerly 3 years now and i hardly ever come during penatrive sex but do all the time on my clit hes now started saying ooohhh you mite be a lesbian i now am reading into it but dont no what to think i am open minded ...
A. 12 November 2008: I think he is winding you up or feeling bad that he cant make you come. Dont read to much into it lots of girls dont come during sex and im on of them but does not make me a lesbian my boyfriend certainly does not think that. ... (read in full...)
Because of my vomiting and not eating my boyriend thinks I have an eating disorder. I don't agree.
Q. hey, im 16, female and 5"3 in the last 3weeks ive changed what i eat a lot. it started where i threw up everything i ate, this lasted for 1 and a half weeks during this period itriedd to throw up half of what i ate but i just ended up throwing u...
A. 11 November 2008: Well if you dont think you have an eating diorder and your boyfriend thinks you do then hun sounds like you have one you just dont see it that way.
You know the best way to loose weight? Its too eat 3 meals a day every day, because when you skip... (read in full...)
I don't know how to start off in sex!
Q. I don't know how to start off in sex! How do you start off, do you just start making out and then let it unfold or just let him lead you, or should I even lead him?...
A. 11 November 2008: The fact you have had to ask leads me to think you not 100% ready for this?
Sex is natural and everything that leads up to just comes naturally but only when you are ready.... (read in full...)
Please tell me am I just being stupid or is there something going on?
Q. hi my husband went to hospital last week and i took his phone home with me but he told me to turn it off charge it up then bring it back to him, then in the morning i turned the phone on to phone his family and tell them he was in hospital and he ...
A. 11 November 2008: I think you need to have a serious chat with your husband as this seems very dodgy to me. You should have talked to the girl when you had the chance and found out what was going on.
I think you need to follow your instincts with this one as it co... (read in full...)
The condom split - what should I do?
Q. i have a question that is really worrying me. i am 16 and my friend is 17. we are both gay and have been friends for the past year. we have also been sexually active with each other since a short time after we met. we just recently started ...
A. 29 October 2008: I think you should both go and get tested for STI's and HIV just incase, it would put both of your minds at rest and stop you from worrying the next time it happens. ... (read in full...)
I've to meet my ex as he badly needs a blowjob! Is he serious???
Q. Hiya, I've just got off the phone to my ex boyfriend, he dumped me to go back to his ex, anyway cut a long story short they're not together yet but spending all their spare time together as basically she doesn't trust him, he cheated on her (not ...
A. 27 October 2008: Sweetie next time he calls just ignore the phone he sounds like a right user and you deserve better, he cheated on his ex left you for her and now wants to use you?
No he is a jerk and you should not have anything to do with him delete his numb... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with a girl in another country!
Q. Hello. I'm nearly 15 and I know this is a site for adults with real relationship problems and worries, and I feel a bit pathetic as a hapless teenager using this site, but there you go. I just want advice. A few days ago I returned from th...
A. 27 October 2008: Good luck i hope it all works out for you ... (read in full...)
My sister got beaten up pretty bad by her ex partner. Now she says that her ex has apologised and has 'problems' and she wants to help!
Q. My sister got beaten up pretty bad by her ex partner, whom she still lives with. She was punched and bitten on her face, and threatened with a knife. Now she says that her ex has apologised and has 'problems' and she wants to help! I unde...
A. 26 October 2008: Im really pleased that your sister is ok and that she was not caught in the trap some abusers use to trick there victims into defending them. She is a very brave woman and she should be proud of herself... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with a girl in another country!
Q. Hello. I'm nearly 15 and I know this is a site for adults with real relationship problems and worries, and I feel a bit pathetic as a hapless teenager using this site, but there you go. I just want advice. A few days ago I returned from th...
A. 26 October 2008: People do crazy things when there in love because when your in love it feels like you could not live without that person that if you could you would move all the stars just to be with them and make them smile.
The only major problem you really h... (read in full...)
My sister got beaten up pretty bad by her ex partner. Now she says that her ex has apologised and has 'problems' and she wants to help!
Q. My sister got beaten up pretty bad by her ex partner, whom she still lives with. She was punched and bitten on her face, and threatened with a knife. Now she says that her ex has apologised and has 'problems' and she wants to help! I unde...
A. 25 October 2008: Firstly im very sorry this has happed to your sister, secondly she is in danger if he has done it once chances are he will do it again and again and each time apologise and admit he has a problem. Many women die of domestic abuse each year because ... (read in full...)
I thought that we had a great sex life, I found out he watches porn. He promised to stop, but hasn't. My heart is breaking.
Q. I am 35 Years old,Married for 4 years . i my self and my husband still we do not have children in order to have fun in our life .i was very happy with him he's wonderful ,i thought that we had a great sex life together .after a while from our ...
A. 25 October 2008: People what porn its perfectly normal.
I would be more worried if your sex life is affected or your relationship or if he was keeping it a secret. He is open and honest about watching it so whats the problem?... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with a girl in another country!
Q. Hello. I'm nearly 15 and I know this is a site for adults with real relationship problems and worries, and I feel a bit pathetic as a hapless teenager using this site, but there you go. I just want advice. A few days ago I returned from th...
A. 25 October 2008: Long distance relationships are hard but in some cases they do work, if you are really in love with this girl and she is in love with you (after 3 days)then there is no harm in atleast trying and seeing how things go and see if you work otherwise ... (read in full...)
He lives so far away... will this work or should I move on?
Q. So I met this guy online, and we both really like each other, but we both live so far. I'm not sure how to make this work, so I'm just wondering if I should just move on or keep on talking to him and see what will happen?...
A. 23 October 2008: Its up to you what you want to do, do you think it could work out between you 2? Long distance is very hard and your still young. People online are not always so great in person. Myabe keep talking and see how it goes but dont let your life revolve ... (read in full...)
My bf isn't working and just lives off me! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is nearly 23 years old, we have a house which we rent in a village near our parents houses. We've been together for nearly 4 years now and while ive been with him he hasnt had a job. I find myself having to pay for everything for him. ...
A. 23 October 2008: Oh huni please dont stay with him he hurt you and that is not acceptable under any circumstances, i would pack my bags and move out even if you back to your mum and dads its better then staying with him and you could always move in somewhere with a ... (read in full...)
My bf isn't working and just lives off me! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is nearly 23 years old, we have a house which we rent in a village near our parents houses. We've been together for nearly 4 years now and while ive been with him he hasnt had a job. I find myself having to pay for everything for him. ...
A. 22 October 2008: I dont know how you have managed to put up with looking after your boyfriend for 4 years because he is not working. Tell him to get a job or get out, its incredibly unfair that you have to work and pay for everything. How can someone be unemployed ... (read in full...)
Does he disrespect me because I was a lap dancer?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together 6 months. Well before i met my boyfriend i was a lapdancer which he has always known from the start of our relationship. I made an innocent comment about dancing the other day, which led him to call me a slag, a ...
A. 21 October 2008: Tell him to get over it, its in the past and he needs to grow up, so what if you where a lapdancer its a job i can think of a worse job. I think you really need to talk to him about this its unfiar and cruel to keep bringing it up in an argument i ... (read in full...)
I just can't stand not knowing why my married lover doesn't return my calls, should I send him a card?
Q. I desperately need help. For the last 3 months I have been having an affair with a client of mine who is married and has been for 23 years (he has no kids). I have been married for 7 years and have a baby girl of 1 year. neither of us set out ...
A. 20 October 2008: If you turn up at his doorstep or send him a card the word bunny boiler will come to mind.
It was an affair you may have fallen for him but he is ignoring you so take the hint you where a fling and the fact that he wont return your calls means it... (read in full...)
I don't want to turn up at uni as an unexperienced virgin, what can I do?
Q. im 17 and i havnt had a proper bf before. ive had one lousy kiss. no lad has ever called me pretty/cute/beautiful etc. i leave for university next year. i have no prospects for a bf before then but i really really dont want to turn up at uni an ...
A. 20 October 2008: Trust me your virginity is a very precious thing you do not want to lose it to some guy just so your not a virgin at Uni. Loads of people are virgins at uni and people respect people for being virgins as it means they are careful and do not rush ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him I love him after a year and a half but am afraid of his reaction!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. The problem is neither of us has said I LOVE you. I love him but cant bring myself to tell him because im scared of his reaction. I like the relastionship as it is but just really want to ...
A. 20 October 2008: Just tell him! Dont waste time wondering about his reaction you should be open and honest about how you feel towards him, being in love is amazing and you should not hide how you feel, you have been together a year and a half its about time you told ... (read in full...)
What is the reason people give hickies/lovebites?
Q. Hello everybody, just a small question for you all. How do people give hickies/lovebites and what is the purpose of them? I was just wondering because I haven't come up with a good reason myself as to why people give hickies except for leaving a ...
A. 20 October 2008: There is no point to a hickey i think they look awful i think most people have them to prove they are having sex thats why there other name is a bunk up badge! ... (read in full...)
Do I need consent from my mum at age 16 to go on the pill? I don't want her to know!
Q. I am with my bf for a year and a half and now we have decided that I will go on the Pill. Is there any way i can do this without my mum finding out? ...
A. 20 October 2008: You dont need permission to go on the pill, your parents dont have to know any of your medical details its called doctor patient confidentiality.
But i would talk to her i think she would be more annoyed if you lied to her and atleast it shows yo... (read in full...)
She says she's showing signs of a pregnancy and is threatening to sue me for child support! What should I do?
Q. I thought I had feelings for a girl but I realized that I didn't after we got naughty in the car. However she was telling me that she was on birth control and that I shouldn't have to worry about it. I didn't ejaculate at all during intercourse and ...
A. 20 October 2008: She will not be showing signs of pregnancy this early, seems to me you had sex with a very insecure girl the fact she is saying this after you told her you did want to be with her.
This is one of those reasons why you should always practice... (read in full...)
I just lost my nana, but haven't cried as I feel as if she's still alive. What's wrong with me?
Q. I previously asked for help in dealing with the news of my nana having cancer, through which I helped nurse her. She died yesterday and now I need to ask something and see if anyone can help. I cried when I was told and when I went in to see her. ...
A. 10 October 2008: Sweetie there is nothing wrong with you when my grandad died i did not cry till the funeral because i new that it was the end and he was really gone for good before that i could not believe he was gone, she wont appear in front of you she is at ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of doing a spell to get my ex back. Am I wasting my money and do they work?
Q. I'm thinking of doing a spell on my ex to get him back, I'm wondering if they work? I've seen one I can get on the net which will cost around £25. I don't wanna waste my money but has anyone known them to actually work? ...
A. 10 October 2008: Put your money away and move on, im a wiccan and i find it insulting that people will charge people to do spells that do not work, it would be nice to think that doing that would help but it does not.Learn to move on and trust that there is magic in ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed by this girl... what to do next?
Q. Long story. It began in early 2005, I had recently moved and joined a new school in the 11th form. I used to take the bus to school, and well, there was this girl who was on the same bus... and during every ride we took on the bus, every day, over ...
A. 7 October 2008: Firstly breaking into someones account and reading and looking at her pictures is kinda stalkerish and extremly creepy.
I feel bad that you did not make the effort when you where at school together but this seems very obsessive to the point of... (read in full...)
Exactly how painful is it to lose your virginity?
Q. What does it feel like to lose your virginity? I'm a smaller girl, and came close to losing it once, but it hurt too much for him to completely penetrate me, so I asked him to stop. I've heard it's painful, but I've heard it described to be en...
A. 4 October 2008: Everyone is diffrent because everyone has diffrent pain thresholds but trust me its not as painful as you imagine it to be,just relax. ... (read in full...)
Should I get my tongue pierced?
Q. Should I get my tongue pierced? What is everyones opinion on whether it looks or is sexy or not? Alot of my friends say that it is very good for... pleasing a guy And can I take it off for serious interviews etc? What are the chances of it get...
A. 4 October 2008: I would not get this done to please a guy, mostly because for 3 days you cannot eat and lots of people faint when they have it done its one of the most likely piercings to get infected if you do not look after it properly as your mouth has loads of ... (read in full...)
Does anyone find it strange that we are 5 years apart?
Q. I am 22 and my girlfriend is 17. We have been dating for 2 years. Her parents really like me and my parents really like her. Both of our families have dinner every once in a blue moon and they've been over for a couple holidays. Does anyone find...
A. 3 October 2008: I dont think its strange at all aslong as you are both happy thats all that should matter. ... (read in full...)
My hubby's always tired and needs to be left alone. I feel the need to cheat, but I love him, how do I do this?
Q. My hubby works alot, 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. He is always tierd and he wants to be left alone. He tells me he is too tierd to make love to me, but it's now been 3 months and I can't take it anymore. I tryed everything! I am home all day w/ ...
A. 2 October 2008: You need to talk to your husband about the way you feel and that you are getting the urge to cheat, because having sex with youe neighbour even just to get some satisfaction is cheating.
Talk to him about this dont sleep with your neighbou... (read in full...)
What would you do if you caught your partner cheating on you?
Q. What would you do if you caught girlfriend/boyfriend cheating on you ...
A. 29 September 2008: I would get rid of them,unless you have talked about an open relationship if not then it should be assumed that you are with each other and nobody else... (read in full...)
Why are fine-looking women so worried about their appearance? Do women have some kind of competition or acceptance problems with each other?
Q. Alright, I just wanted to express my opinion. From a male perspective, and not that of a guy who looks around hungrily for sex. Women seem really image conscious, a little too much I'd say. I mean it's surprising how much women actual...
A. 28 September 2008: To be honest i think it all comes down to the media in the uk the average size for a women is a size 16, but has anyone seen a size 16 woman on a catwalk? Are there many famous singers and actresses who are that size yeh i bet you can name a few but ... (read in full...)
My cousin's husband who is 31 has approached me sexually (touching me, etc) several times (I'm 16), I know it's wrong but I like it. What to do?
Q. I'm in a sticky situation. It all started at my moms birthday when I was getting tired and went to my room to change in to pajamas. My step cousins husband then walked in an saw me changing. I tried to get away, but I couldn't. He then started maki...
A. 26 September 2008: Tell your parents tell someone this is WRONG and you need to stop this now! He has a wife and a family and he should not be doing this and neither should you do not go anywhere alone with him and tell someone as soon as you can before it goes any ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering what walks of life the aunts and uncles come from?
Q. Dear posters, I think its wonderful to have people from different walks of life, to be able to come here and look at others situations with a different set of eyes. its great! On to my question, I was left wondering what each and every one of you...
A. 24 September 2008: i am a customer repairs officer for a housing association basically people call me up for repairs and i sent out the right people to do it (yes the call up for stupid things changing light bulbs and bleeding radiator and yes they do swear and shout ... (read in full...)
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