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Did he text me by mistake or was it just an excuse to get in touch with me?
Q. Hi im puzzled about my ex but hope Im not getting my hopes up too high. We split 3 months ago and I broke all contact with him and hadnt spoke to him for all that time. Anyway, yesterday I received a very weird txt from him, basically it was abou...
A. 16 November 2007: He could have sent it by mistake but then why would he askj you to ring if you were going out,i think he did it just so you would get in touch, and if you want to get back with him get in touch with him he already made the first move by trying to ... (read in full...)
Non-medical way for breasts enlargement?
Q. I feel reeli akward asking this ? but im 16, i think its time i ask for help. Im a small B cup how do i get my breasts a little bigger like a C. I would be happy with that. Is there any certain things i can eat that wont make me gain weight in the ...
A. 14 November 2007: Sweetie your 16 your not fully developed till 18/19 dont worry about it just yet and be happy with what you have if your boyfriend is rude enough to point it out that you have one boob then the other one then he is a jerk be happy with yourself and ... (read in full...)
Any advice on hair removal??
Q. I want to know if anyone has any advise on hair removal.. especially around the bikini line. I've tried everything! I've waxed shaved and used cream but everything i try leaves irritation and then hair doesnt stay away for that long and it always ...
A. 14 November 2007: Laser or electrolysis are more permannet methods but have you tried using diffrent types of wax like hot wax (no wax strips needed as the wax hardens and you just peel it off) its more effect on smaller areas, sugaring both hand and strip are good ... (read in full...)
Will he ever leave her?
Q. Please help me im in love with a married man who doesnt live near me. We see each other often. We have been together 6 month they have only been married 4. Will he ever leave? I want to move to be closer to him but dont think he would agree. ...
A. 13 November 2007: He is married he isnt going to leave her stop wasting you time on him the fact he is cheating on his wife means he could be cheating on you both with someone else, dont waste any more time on this loser.... (read in full...)
Should I let them sleep together?
Q. Hiya i'm a mum of two my son is 20 and my daughter is 17. Well, my daughter has got her first bf and someone who she has been best friends with since they were little, hes really nice and kind and isn't like most lads. In fact im really pleased ...
A. 11 November 2007: My boyfriend moved in with me and my family and my parents let us sleep together because they would rather me have sex in doors then out doors incase we got in trouble, the fact is there probably having sex anyway its a natural thing and there in ... (read in full...)
I'm 16... can I buy a vibrator? Does "everyone" own one?
Q. i am sixteen years old and want to use a vibrator but i am embarressed abouit buying one. can i just walk into a shop and buy one? and does everyone use them?...
A. 10 November 2007: Lots of people own them but dont use them i have one but dont use it that often, most places like anne summers dont sell them to anyone under 18 in shops so look online. ... (read in full...)
Is my brother correct?
Q. hi, my brother just told me that mixing fruit with pepsi or coke makes a drug and stays in your system for 70 hours and gives you illusions, the thing is i accidently did that and drank it i was wondering if its true, please help me. He also said he ...
A. 10 November 2007: He is being a typical brother and winding u up dont worry about it nothing happens ... (read in full...)
How to I Stop Having Urges to Self-Injure?
Q. I know this isn't a romance question but maybe you can help me anyway. Over the last year I've been having more trouble dealing with my problems in healthy ways, and when I am overwhelmed my knee jerk thought is to hurt myself, to cut myself ...
A. 9 November 2007: I have a site that can help you it offers loads of alternatives and everyone is so nice and helpful and we dont judge message me if you want the link.
As a self harmer in recovery i know exactly what your going through and it is hard so hard but... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell her or end it
Q. I really need some help/advice. i have been dating this girl for 3 months. She is great in everyway. A few problems though,we dont talk as much as we used to and we RARELY go out now,she says shes always busy etc. which i know is a lie sometimes. ...
A. 9 November 2007: if your to afraid to tell her in person put how you feel in a letter you cant stay with her if your not happy your gay you need to be with guys nor girls and she needs to know this ... (read in full...)
What do women really want from their boyfriends when they are feeling down or really upset?
Q. Okay can some of you out there give me some tips on how to comfort your girlfriend/wife/female friends when they are upset and going through a tough time. It's just it doesn't come naturally to me and I feel really awkward around upset people and ...
A. 9 November 2007: They just want someone to hold them and not push them into opening up they just want reassurance that everything will be ok and work out ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to say?
Q. Ok, my very close friend (who is a lad) has just found out that his grandad is dying. He has been crying most of the day because of how close he is to him. I really dont know what to say. I really care about him and want him to be happy, be ive ne...
A. 8 November 2007: Just hug him and tell him you are there for him and you will do your best to support him, nobody we love ever leaves us they live on with us through our memories and in our hearts let him no anytime he needs you your there day and night.... (read in full...)
How to get him to start having sex with me again
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost four years now. In the beginning we would have sex all the time, but for the last year and a half he doesnt want to. He would rather look up porn and masterbate instead. How do i get him to stop ...
A. 8 November 2007: Try to spice things up suprise him when he gets home from work be laying on the bed dressed in sexy lingerie with you make up all sexy, or spend the day sending dirty texts, walk round the house in lingerie and cook for him dressed up till he cant ... (read in full...)
How can I be strong and stay away from him?
Q. For the past 2 years i was dating a loser. The First 6 months were heaven! after that things slowly deteriorated, in the 2nd year i knew i had to get out of this relationship. I lost touch with my family and friends one by one who decided they...
A. 8 November 2007: You know that he is not good for you, you know this relationship isnt going to work, i know its so hard to make the break and stay away for good but you know its for the best, you just have to break contact delete numbers everything a complete ... (read in full...)
What's going wrong.
Q. I'm a laid-back guy. When I go to high school in the morning I sit with all girls in the cafeteria before 1st class. I'm nice and I try to help people, and I'm wondering why I'm always the "nice" guy. All my friends are pairing up. It's just ...
A. 8 November 2007: Dont strss about this it will happen for you when the time is right you will find someone who see's you as more then a friend so dont worry yourself about it. ... (read in full...)
Doctors say my husband and I are fertile and we've been trying to conceive for 3 yrs now. Suggestions, pills?
Q. Hi ladies this is a more of a question for you and guys if you can give advice that would be ok too. Well i am 18 years old the first time i have got my period was when i was 10. But i have irregular periods. i have been to doctors after doctors and ...
A. 8 November 2007: Dont try and conceive it will happen when you least it expect it so if your more relaxed and not trying it will happen,but an alternative is to use holistic therapies (as a holistic therapist myself i can tell you they really work one of my clients ... (read in full...)
I worry about the effectiveness of condoms!
Q. I am just curious how effective condoms are. My boyfriend and I have used them every time we've had sex - however i am still paranoid about an accident. I'd say we're both very cautious and safe about these things, but there's still a chance. so ...
A. 6 November 2007: No birth control is 100% effective but if your worried go talk it through with a doctor of someone who can advise you and put your mind at rest. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm sharing my boyfriend with his friends that are girls!
Q. I'm dating a wonderful man who is the closest person I've met into being my soul mate. However the problem lies with my insecurities towards his close relationships with other women. He has at least ten best female friends who facebook, call or text ...
A. 6 November 2007: Sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel if your willing to end it over this then he needs to know, maybe you should have his friends round so you can get to know them aswell so it isnt so awkward and so they aknowledge your pressence a bit ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 in university and he's 14 in high school, should we be together?
Q. hi, well i am angelina the problem is that i am 17 and he is 14 he is still at the high school and i am at the university so many people think that we are in love but our age difference is the problem and for other way i am best friend of ...
A. 5 November 2007: Its only a 3 year age gap but i think being friends is the best option atleast till he is a bit older, you should focus on uni for now and see how things work out ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said he needs to sample the single life before we marry, now he's sleeping around, I love him but should I wait?
Q. Ok I am in an odd situation... I've been with my boyfriend since high school and we have a great relationship we don't have many big fights. We are both second year university students now and he and I have been talking about the possibility of ...
A. 5 November 2007: If he loves you and wants to marry you he wouldnt go around with other girls he would be happy and satisfied with you, its cruel for him to ask for you to wait its just selfish, i think you need to ring him up and tell him you know about him seeing ... (read in full...)
How to delay your period? Starting a new pack straight after the old pack, is this true?
Q. Hi, im on the pill (21 day pack) and am going on holiday soon. I heard you can stop your period for that month by starting a new pack straight after the old pack, is this true? and after that 2nd pack do you then leave it off for a week and get your ...
A. 5 November 2007: If you want to skip your period start your next pack straight after you finish the first pack so you dont have a break and when you finish the last pack then you have the 7 day gap where you get your period and after the gap take your pill as usual ... (read in full...)
My friend started self-harming. How do I help her without losing her as a friend?
Q. im 14. i self harmed with a razor about a year ago and then found out that a friend had been doing it as well. people said we did it together for attention...but it wasn't true!! for months we suffered from the bullying and teasing because of it ...
A. 3 November 2007:
As a recovering self harmer myself i know whats its like for people who do it and how addictive it is and even the smallest thing can cause a trigger and slip ups happen, she might just have been triggered and the old feelings came back and she ... (read in full...)
Is a 5 year age difference a problem for boyfriend and girlfriend or is it just right?
Q. Is a 5 year age difference a problem for boyfriend and girlfriend or is it just right?...
A. 2 November 2007: Dont worry about age if you have a good connection and get on then a few years shouldnt make a diffrence. ... (read in full...)
Should I dump him even though he is my first love?
Q. I had a long distacne relationship whilst my boyfriend was at uni but he two timed me 3 times. I forgave twice. We split up after the 3rd time for a year and got back together after he finished uni. I recently heard that he took a girl back to ...
A. 1 November 2007: I think you need to end this because if you have forgiven him before he is going to think that you will forgive him again and again, you dont deserve to be treated like this i think the best thing to do is just let him go and find someone you can ... (read in full...)
At what age are you too old to have a 'Brazilian'?
Q. Hi Summer is fast aproaching here in Australia and the weather is warning up. Which means going on holiday and going to the beach. My wife always gets a new bikini at the start of summer and for the past few years a brazilian wax. This year...
A. 1 November 2007: Huni i do a brazillian on a 56 year old woman and i am proffessional at all times so the girls who do your wifes brazillian will be to, beauty therapit have no issues on age or what we do, we ge paid to povide a proffessional service on anyway who ... (read in full...)
I live with my in laws, and I feel suffocated in my marriage! My husband is not willing to change this as his mother would feel "deserted."
Q. ive been married 6 months, i live with my in laws this is something my husband is not willing to change any time soon. He is afraid that his mother will feel deserted if we leave the parental house and even bought a bigger house so we would al...
A. 31 October 2007: Wow talk about a mumma's boy you should have sorted this before you got married he cant live with mummy his entire life its not fair what about when you have kids are you still meant to live with his parents, you two need to get alife and not listen ... (read in full...)
How can one suddenly stop feeling the love overnight?
Q. hi, my girlfriend broke up with me last night. i was devastated. she said she see's me more of a best friend rather than a boyfriend. again, this breaks my heart.i can't bare life without her, i love her so much..i cant even describe how muc...
A. 31 October 2007: Your young this will probably happen over and over again we all break someones heart and have our hearts broken its part of life and sometimes its better to have friends then a girlfriend (cheaper and less stressful)as much as you dont want to hear ... (read in full...)
Braces will make me feel worse about my appearance. I feel ugly, what can I do?
Q. I am a 15 and i regard myself as ugly, i have only ever had one proper boyfriend and i am about to get braces. I know i shouldnt be talking like this but i do have really low self esteem. No one has ever told me i am pretty or beautiful and lets ...
A. 31 October 2007: Huni braces are no big deal when you get them off you will have beautiful perfec straight teeth whats a few years with braces for the rest of your life with lovely teeth.
You dont need anyone to tell you your beautiful because you are dont wor... (read in full...)
Is it true that I can get HIV from a belly bar from Spain?
Q. Heya.... i got my belly pierced 8 weeks ago and i changed the bar to 1 that my sister got me from spain..... i cleaned it with boiling salt water but i am scared that i could catch HIV.... Because apprently you can?? is this true??...
A. 30 October 2007: Its highly unlikely the only way you can catch aids is from swapping bodily fluids, through sex with someone with HIV getting blood in an open wound from sopmeone with HIV, sharing needles with someone who has HIV you cleaned it so i think your ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in thinking that I can't please her? What am I doing wrong?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months and in that time I have had a few problems. A year ago, I forgot about her competing in a sporting event. I was away working the weekend and got consumed with the job. She was obviously upset that I t...
A. 30 October 2007: Your girlfriend has issues what does she expect your doing your best and doing really well any other girl would be happy with all the effort you have been making, she seems very spoilt and a little stuck up, just tell her your doing your best but ... (read in full...)
He accuses me of cheating but wants to marry me!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 mths now. He lives in Trinidad, i am in Tobago. he always acuses me of cheating and lying. i love him so , he does also (he says so ) and i believe him, but that is always the reason for us to argue. it hurts ...
A. 30 October 2007: He doesnt trust you and thats already a bad sign without trust there is no love and no point of a relationship, my ex used to accuse me of cheating all the time (working 3 jobs and going to college at nights to pay for a flat because he didnt have a ... (read in full...)
He accuses me of cheating but wants to marry me!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 mths now. He lives in Trinidad, i am in Tobago. he always acuses me of cheating and lying. i love him so , he does also (he says so ) and i believe him, but that is always the reason for us to argue. it hurts ...
A. 30 October 2007: He doesnt trust you and thats already a bad sign without trust there is no love and no point of a relationship, my ex used to accuse me of cheating all the time (working 3 jobs and going to college at nights to pay for a flat because he didnt have a ... (read in full...)
Shall I tell him what I think?
Q. My son has started a relationship with a man 20years his senior. This is his first gay relationship. I want to support my son but cannot support the age difference. What can they have in common?- I'm bewildered. How can I give positive feedback ...
A. 30 October 2007: I just have to tell you not to worry my brother did the same thing lasted all of about 2 months, i think its to do with being new to the gay scene not knowing what to do and how to meet people (kinda like a father figure for the gay scene) ... (read in full...)
He went and told his friend.
Q. I gave my boyfriend head in the school bathroom and he went and told his friend and she asked me about it i told her no i didn't how do i tell him to not tell our business to anyone?...
A. 30 October 2007: Tell him what you get up to together is nobody elses buisiness and its very rude and childish to share every detail of your sex life with all his mates... (read in full...)
When is the good time, to start living togetehr?
Q. Hi everyone! So I have a BF (5months now). We have a great relationship and we love each other. I know he is the one - I never felt this way for anybody and he saiz the same. The guestion is ... When do you think is a good time to start liv...
A. 30 October 2007: You have to wait till you are both ready after 5 months you still hardly know each other give it a year if you still feel the same (or are still together) then think about it, moving in together is a huge deal i was with my ex 2 years before we ... (read in full...)
I'm terrified I could be anaemic!
Q. My mother has terrified me... She told me I could be anaemic! Reason being that I often start my period every 3 weeks and according to her, it's not normal and is caused by lack of iron! Could she be right? If so, are there any consequences from it? ...
A. 30 October 2007: You just need to eat food with more iron or take supplements i get anemic sometimes but its nothing to worry about... (read in full...)
They're all calling me fat but I know I'm not. How can I get this through to them?
Q. My mother is constantly calling me fat, and her and her friends have a nickname for me 'fatso'. Im 140lbs and 5'7'', and her constant putting down of my weight and bodyshape is really annoying me. When she was my age she had a very kate moss ...
A. 30 October 2007: How mean is that! Thats the sort of behaviour that gives people eating disroders! You need to tell her to stop this now! Who want to be skinny and sick looking like Kate Moss when you can be curvy and womaly like Marilyn Monroe ... (read in full...)
I keep getting depressed, is there something wrong with me?
Q. I started university back in september, I really enjoy the course, I have a good set of friends, I go to the gym, play hockey and football, and people really like, a big change from high school. Yet I've noticed that I am feeling down every other da...
A. 26 October 2007: Depression is a chemical imbalance in the body if you go see a doctor about it he will give you some medication but if your really not into western medicine the natural alternative is st john's wart everyone has down days its not unusual and can be ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions as to how to get pregnant?
Q. My husband and I have been trying to have kids for four years now. I'm looking for a solution. My doc. told me to take birth control every other month. That didn't work. stillwaiting...
A. 25 October 2007: I recomend 6 weeks of reflexologist worked for my friend she has diabetes and after having reflexology she managed to get pregnant and is due in novemeber, its an alternative therapy and i do it myself i know many people who have benefitted from it ... (read in full...)
I am 12, he is 28. We are in love and he says he wants me to move in with him as soon as I am 16.
Q. About a month ago I met a really sweet guy at my aunts wedding. I'm only 12 but i look alot older and people tell me i am a lot more mature than my age. He's 28 and he works with my aunt. Pretty much everyone in my family knows him and they all seem ...
A. 23 October 2007: Your 12 and your in love with a 28 year old, i know age shouldnt matter but i remeber being 12 and having no idea what emotions where what and how i really felt i think you need to leave this, if the police got involved then this is serious and you ... (read in full...)
I was sexually assaulted and it still haunts me. What can I do to help me forget?
Q. I was forced to do many things i didn't want to do by someone who i thought to be a close friend. Luckily it didn't go as far as rape but he forced me to do everythign else and to let him do things to me. i was frozen. the taste of him cum still ...
A. 23 October 2007: http://z4.invisionfree.com/HealingFromWithin/index.php?act=idx
Check this forum out everyone is so lovely and supportive and have been through similar things ive been through almost the same thing but unfortunatly i was raped and i know how hard... (read in full...)
I will let him touch my breasts but am worrid this will not keep him happy enough and he will leave me!
Q. I am seeing this guy i really like there was this story where he fingerd my friend befor we were seeing each other becoz of the fact i am 13 and he is 15 i am worrid that he wants to have sex but i am not ready he keeps on putting his hands on my ...
A. 23 October 2007: Well done for rushing into anything your not ready for, he should be happy that you let him touch your boobs! And if he really wants to be with you then he should go at your pace and not pressure you, dont do anything you dont want and if he ... (read in full...)
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