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We both have properties, if I move with her I'd have to sell what I own, is it not too big of a risk? What should I do?
Q. Been in a relationship for a year, and now, I need to decide whether I want to take it further by moving in with my partner. She's not interested in getting married, owns her own house. I also own a house, but if I move in, I will have to sell what ...
A. 4 December 2007: Why dont you rent out your home atleast if things dont work out you still have your own place. Or both sell up and take the risk of both getting a house together
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I love my 18 year old cousin who I just can't stop thinking about! Is it wrong?
Q. I'm 13 and I love/have feelings for my 18 year old cousin. Is that wrong? About my cousin: (in my point of view) my Cousin just turned 18 and is now going to Columbia university. She has a very nice personality, funny, innocent, adorable, beauti...
A. 4 December 2007: Its never going to happen she has known you since you were a baby and looked after you i doubt very much if she sees you as any more then her little favourite cousin, what you are doing is WRONG you dont touch people while there asleep its very ... (read in full...)
I want to see my one-night stand again...how do I go about it??
Q. I slept with this guy this weekend. We were talking at a party and I was definately the aggressor, but he was into it too. Anyway we ended up back at my place and had sex and a while later niether one of us was asleep so we made some sandwiches ...
A. 4 December 2007: Definetly give your number to his roommate and see what happens, if there was a connection and he felt it to he will get in contact, good luck let us know what happens! ... (read in full...)
He said he would wait for me but the way he is acting I am not sure he will.
Q. Just to recap: I was in a 3year relationship with a man I loved dearly and with all my heart. However, we fought a lot and he never understood the things I needed and I was always wrong which frustrated me a lot and was always unhappy. He is a gre...
A. 4 December 2007: I think you need to forget them all take a break and find someone who will love and respect you and treat you the way you deserve, take some time out for yourself dont wait for things to happen just know that in time everything will work out ... (read in full...)
This guy is obbsessed with me and I want it to stop. Please help.
Q. Classic intro: "so there's this guy" well, this guy saw me 2 years ago at a band competition; i was the drum major, so my name was annouced over the speakers. Well this guy heard my name and found me on myspace. since then, he sends me emails a...
A. 4 December 2007: Well thre is only so much you can do or say and if he isnt getting the message just come right out and lie.... (read in full...)
Any ideas for a pair of tattoos?
Q. hey guys, my boyfriend of many years and i are planning on getting wrist tattoos composed of two words, as in he gets one part i get the other (ie. true and love) and yes we are 100% sure of this, but need some suggestions or some ideas for a ...
A. 3 December 2007: Why dont you get the same symbol in chinese or something like love, But if your after 2 words how about
Lust, desire
Love, passion
together,entwined
forever, always
Remeber tattoo's are forever and yeah they do hurt ALOT make sure your bot... (read in full...)
He was desperate to marry me, now he wants to WAIT to get engaged. What's going on with him?
Q. My boyfriend has been telling me from two months into our relationship that he loves me more than life and wants to marry me. We lost our virginity to each other 6 months ago and now we're approaching a year. I want him to propose to me for ...
A. 3 December 2007: Why rush into anything your young you have your whole life to get engaged and married, things change when you get older he wants to wait because its the right thing to do its best to take things slow and have a short engagement because when you have ... (read in full...)
I missed a pill 3 days after sex, can I be pregnant?? please help
Q. Hi, this question is about the pill. Please answer as I'm very anxious. I started my packet of diannette last Friday week (23rd november) as usual after my 7 day break. I had sex on the saturday night with my boyfriend (without a condom) and I ...
A. 3 December 2007: I think your pretty safe as you didnt miss it on the day you had sex, so dont stress yourself out. ... (read in full...)
I denied he was my bf and he looked really hurt. Any ideas why??
Q. There's this boy I like in yr 8 and today when we were on the train he was talking to me (we always talk on the train) and this girl came up and asked if I was his girl friend (unfortunately-I'm not) and he said "yeah- she is" but I wasn't really ...
A. 3 December 2007: I agree with everyone one else either he wanted the other girl to go away or he was trying to express the way he was feeling towards you, best thing to do is ask him ... (read in full...)
What can I whisper in my lovers ear to turn them on??
Q. What should I whisper in my lovers ear to turn him on?...
A. 3 December 2007: Tell him what you want to do to him, tell him what you want him to do to you, tell him you want him to make you scream his name. What ever you whisper make sure to put alot of detail into to it to really get him going ... (read in full...)
This guy is obbsessed with me and I want it to stop. Please help.
Q. Classic intro: "so there's this guy" well, this guy saw me 2 years ago at a band competition; i was the drum major, so my name was annouced over the speakers. Well this guy heard my name and found me on myspace. since then, he sends me emails a...
A. 3 December 2007: Well lets go to extremes call the polce and get a restraining order, or go to school with one of your friends so you feel safe or you could do what i would do and plain lie to him tell him your gay im sure he will leave you alone then ... (read in full...)
This guy is obbsessed with me and I want it to stop. Please help.
Q. Classic intro: "so there's this guy" well, this guy saw me 2 years ago at a band competition; i was the drum major, so my name was annouced over the speakers. Well this guy heard my name and found me on myspace. since then, he sends me emails a...
A. 3 December 2007: Well easiest way to gt the message to get him to stop is just come right out and say it, but everytme you talk to him reply to messages and answer the phone your encouraging him so just ignore him he will sooon get the message ... (read in full...)
My gf will only watch girl on girl porn, does this mean shes bi??
Q. My girlfriend and i watch porn about once every three months, however she will only watch all girl on girl she gets very hot horny and we have the best sex so im not complaning. Does this mean shes bi? She said shes not. ...
A. 1 December 2007: It just means she doesnt want to watch men having sex maybe she feels that it would some how betray you or make you feel uncomfortable and maybe she just does it cause she knows you get horny watching girls and she is trying to please you, if she ... (read in full...)
I am being blackmailed by a one night stand who has stolen my phone and threatening to reveal I am gay. Please help.
Q. I am at wits end..i had my phone stolen by someone with whom i had sex..he threatened to take my photos, stored phone numbers,etc. and expose me to others as being gay.. He asked for money in return for the phone and information..i gave him what he ...
A. 1 December 2007: The question is can he prove your gay can he prove anything happend? Hmmm most likely no. You live in the modern world loads of people are gay why continue being in the closet come on join the real world be who you are be true to yourself, and to be ... (read in full...)
Why wont he get the tatoo of his ex's name removed??
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my partner for almost three years now. We are about to buy our first house together. However, he still has his ex partner's name tattooed on his arm. I know they did not split up amicably and wonder why he doesn't ...
A. 1 December 2007: Tattoos all have meanings to the person they represents memories, i wouldnt get any of mine removed why dont you ask him to get a tattoo of your name and if he refuses then you know where you stand. The thing is he is willing to go through all the ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong not to trust him??
Q. One of my best friends fancies my man, they flirt with each other and he's taken her out for a drink but doesn't tell me anything. Am i wrong not to trust him? We have been together for 5years now and he has shown no sign of committing soon. I ...
A. 1 December 2007: Run a mile if he didnt have anything to hide he would show you the emails and txts its been 5 years if he isnt showing you signs of commiting to this relationship you need to move on before he strays and breaks you heart ... (read in full...)
Has Christmas become too commercialised? Have we lost its real meaning?
Q. hia cupid has christmas become to commersialised? have we lost the real meaning of christmas?? ...
A. 1 December 2007: It means diffrent things to diffrent people, its the time of year where everything feels magical everyone seems nicer and everywhere looks great with lights and decorations but cherish this because in time i expect we wont be alloweed lights and to ... (read in full...)
I can respect her vow of post-marital intercourse but I have my sexual needs/desires! I love her, but it's frustrating that she won't touch me.
Q. Im a 24 year old American male who has only been touched and had sex with one girl when I was 17. Over the past 7 years I have been desperate for intimacy and sex with only failed results. I did however meet a girl 4 months ago whom I have grown to ...
A. 1 December 2007: Talk to her tell her exactly how you feel and explain that you have needs and there are other things she can do which isnt full on intercourse and see what she says but if not whats wrong with masterbation. ... (read in full...)
I feel I am too old for Christmas and the traditional celebration!...
Q. i am 14 years old and in year 10 (in america 9 grade) for some reason i feel like i am too old for christmas e.g getting up early playing with presents and all the great things about christmas i love this time of year usally why do i feel too ...
A. 1 December 2007: Your growing up it happens to all of us,when your young its all about presents and getting excited because you get what you want, when you get older its about family and realising that in time your loved ones wont all be there to celebrate, ... (read in full...)
I am worried I am turning gay...but I don't want to be.
Q. I am a 13 year old boy and i am worried that i am turning gay. dont get me wrong, i dont hate gay people i just dont want to be gay. When i think about penises i get an erection. when i masturbate and i think about penises, i get an orgasm much mor...
A. 1 December 2007: Your young sweetie its normal to expolre your sexuality and think of things that you may think is strange and scary but your normal, my brothers gay but he knew he was when he was younger the thought of women repulsed him, dont worry about a thing ... (read in full...)
I work and I pay for everything. Is he just using me?
Q. have been with my partner 9yrs he wont commit. i work and pay for all our kids needs, my partners clothes, a lot of the household bills and all new things that come into house. i even paid for the last two cars. i have to live by his rules and iv ...
A. 1 December 2007: Well your definetly being used you need to talk it over with him tell him how you feel and if he doesnt change then trhink about whether you want to stay with him ... (read in full...)
Is a stuffed animal a good enough present??
Q. My boyfriend is 16 and I am 14. We've been together for almost 2 months now. I got him a movie that he really wanted for his birthday last month but I have no idea what to get him for xmas. I NEED HELP!! One of his friends, who is also a friend o...
A. 1 December 2007: Its a really good idea but get him something guyish to a dvd,cd aftershave or a nice picture frame with a pic of the 2 of you in. ... (read in full...)
How can this txt have been a joke??
Q. I have known my wife for 21 years and been married for 17. She is my life, our love was the most passionate thing ever, we were best friends and always expressed our love. About a year ago I noticed a change in her, she would not cuddle me or kiss ...
A. 1 December 2007: You need to sit down and have a serious talk with her let her know how your feeling and you suspect its not a joke, or you could be really nseak and find the truth for yourself tect the number back and send a similar message back and see what ... (read in full...)
I'm 21, she's 17... Is this too much of a difference?
Q. im 21 and thinking of asking a girl out thats 17. is that too young? opinions please....
A. 30 November 2007: Nope if you have feeling for her and she feels the same age shouldnt be an issue its only a few years i say go for it! ... (read in full...)
My bf thought I was joking when I refused intimate contact as we had been talking about it, and he raped me. Please help me.
Q. hi im 13 and i was raped by my 13 year okld boyfriend and think i might be pregnant i know he was only joking around and he thought i was joking when i said no because i had been talking about it please help me....
A. 26 November 2007: Rape is a very serious crime and regardless of whether he was messing around or not you need to tell someone and think about whether you want to press charges and then go to your doctor and get checked out im really sorry this has hapopoend to you ... (read in full...)
Diets to help lose weight?
Q. Hi whats the best type of diet to loose weight? How much exercise do you reccomend. and How many calories. Thanks. Im starting the gym soon also....
A. 26 November 2007: Women should eat 2000 caloriews per day so your body works right, to lose weight remember DONT SKIP MEALS skipping meals causes the body to go into stravation mode (meaning it stores everything you eat as it doesnt know when it will eat again so eat ... (read in full...)
Scared my bi best friend will make a move on me...
Q. Me and 2 of my bestmates strongly think that our other bestmate is a bi-sexual but what im worried about is they they both say she fancies me. I'm fine with gays but its different when its your friend. At the moment her voice is just pissing me off. ...
A. 26 November 2007: She is young and probably questioning her sexuality and so what if she is bi i am all my mates know it and there nothing but supportive and you should be too, so what if she fancies you she knows your into guys so wont make a move because she knows ... (read in full...)
Should I screw him or not? Please help!!!
Q. I'm only 13 and a certain guy wants to screw me. I said okay but he'd have to wait. I said okay because I liked him and I just tried to impress him and it worked too much. I really wanted to screw him but he's changed. He is so fake around his ...
A. 25 November 2007: DONT DO IT! Your virginity is precious take it from someone who had no choice on who i lost it to and i was 13 to (rapists dont care about age) i would give anything to have it back and be able to give it to someone i loved and would respect me and ... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant if he cums inside my anus?
Q. um.. okay I'm just gonna come right out and ask it... if my boyfriend comes inside me while giving me anal can I get pregnant????????...
A. 25 November 2007: Its very unlikely but not impossible if it runs done, use a condom anyway, and please becareful doing anal it does come with health risks ... (read in full...)
What has happened to my boyfriend????
Q. I'm really worried about my boyfriend. I haven't heard from him since Friday and this is really unusual. I'm a born worrier and am worrying something bad has happened to him. His mobile is ringing with no answer and so is his landline. I'm ...
A. 25 November 2007: Take a deep breath and breathe! Relax calm down he is doing his own thing and having time to himself if you really worried to the point your going crazy then go round to his, but i expect he will text or ring you like nothings happend ... (read in full...)
What has happened to my boyfriend????
Q. I'm really worried about my boyfriend. I haven't heard from him since Friday and this is really unusual. I'm a born worrier and am worrying something bad has happened to him. His mobile is ringing with no answer and so is his landline. I'm ...
A. 25 November 2007: Take a deep breath and breathe! Relax calm down he is doing his own thing and having time to himself if you really worried to the point your going crazy then go round to his, but i expect he will text or ring you like nothings happend ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of a year and I split up a month ago - why am I the only one who's upset?
Q. A month or so ago, my boyfriend (aged 18) of a year and I (aged 17) split up. He started at University this September, and because we were so far apart our attempt at long-distance didn't work. We were very much in love, and we'd made a promise that ...
A. 25 November 2007: He probably is hurt but he isnt showing it (most guys always seem to be empty of all emotion), now if you want to be really petty and make him hurt have a party to celebrate your birthday and flirt with every guy, but if not just act like your not ... (read in full...)
What can I get her nice for our first anniversary together?
Q. Hello, me and my girlfriend are celebrating our anniversary (one year) and I would like to give her something special (already gave her a ring on her bday). Any advice? Thanks...
A. 25 November 2007: A year is a very spewcial anniversary so do something special, take her out to a really romantic place order champagne, send flowers to her work, or if you really want to spoil her (and if you have the money)take her to dinner and suprise her with a ... (read in full...)
When I have sex with a man will I not enjoy it?
Q. Loads of my mates talk about masturbation and I tried it but it is really painful and uncomfortable when I fingered myself, is this odd and does this mean that when I have sex (with a man!) will I not enjoy it?...
A. 25 November 2007: You probably werent in the mood to masterbate and so your body wasnt prepared, it doesnt mean you wont enjoy sex it just means your not ready to explore yourself and sexuality ... (read in full...)
Should I move closer to be with her?
Q. Ok, so I met someone on holiday who I really like, but she lives 300 miles away. What do i do? First of all I would explain that this was an unplanned holiday given to me by a friend who was taking his girlfriend, now ex. It was intended to be a...
A. 25 November 2007: Talk it over with her see how she feels about you and what she wants from the relationship, theres no point in moving all that way if nothig is going to happen, talk it over and see how it goes dont rush into anything without thinking and talking it ... (read in full...)
I've just started taking the pill, can I start my next pack without a break?
Q. got put on the microgyon 30 on monday which was the 3rd day of my period, thing is my bf is comin up on the week i'm supposed to have a week off but i was wondering will i be able to run 2 packs together even though i've just started? ...
A. 24 November 2007: Yep you can do it without a break but just to warn you next time you have your next period it can be heavier then usual.... (read in full...)
I've had my navel pierced, recently it's gotten really red. Is it a sign of rejection?
Q. hey guys can u please help? In april i had my navel pierced. I then went back to my peircer and he put a shorter bar in it. anyway, recently, it has got really red. top and bottom hole. also, it stings. however, its not pussing. it looks slightly ...
A. 17 November 2007: Its an infection honey you need to bathe it in warm salt water to help clear it up and go back to your piercer to see if he can reccomend anything that can help.... (read in full...)
I'm scared about this guy on the internet.
Q. I met this guy on the internet and we have started dating I love him soooo much but the thing is He cuts himself and doesnt go to school me and his best friend got into a fight and he cut himself what can I do to help him? He says im the most ...
A. 17 November 2007: You may love him but self harming is an addiction and its very hard to give up its hard to focus on a relationship while your coping with it, you need to tell him that although you love him that you find it hard to cope with his cutting and he needs ... (read in full...)
I want to be a musician but my parents want me to go to college. What should I do?
Q. i am 16 year old girl an play a band , after my gcse i want to go ahead with playing music but my parents want me to go to college, what should i do?...
A. 16 November 2007: Do a music course, college is a great place you meet loads of people and have a great time... (read in full...)
He just used me for sex. How do I get checked out for STD's?
Q. ok so in eary September i randomly ran into a fella i knew fom i wasyounger at a party in my house... we all had the biggest and maddest party ever n it lasted from the fri til the monday, it was amazin as it was just after the biggest dance ...
A. 16 November 2007: In the uk there are drop in centres you can go to to get yourself checked out its free and you dont even have to use your real name ... (read in full...)
Did he text me by mistake or was it just an excuse to get in touch with me?
Q. Hi im puzzled about my ex but hope Im not getting my hopes up too high. We split 3 months ago and I broke all contact with him and hadnt spoke to him for all that time. Anyway, yesterday I received a very weird txt from him, basically it was abou...
A. 16 November 2007: He could have sent it by mistake but then why would he askj you to ring if you were going out,i think he did it just so you would get in touch, and if you want to get back with him get in touch with him he already made the first move by trying to ... (read in full...)
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