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I'm wondering what walks of life the aunts and uncles come from?
Q. Dear posters, I think its wonderful to have people from different walks of life, to be able to come here and look at others situations with a different set of eyes. its great! On to my question, I was left wondering what each and every one of you...
A. 24 September 2008: i am a customer repairs officer for a housing association basically people call me up for repairs and i sent out the right people to do it (yes the call up for stupid things changing light bulbs and bleeding radiator and yes they do swear and shout ... (read in full...)
Should I send this email to my ex?
Q. Here's the backstory. Before we started going out, we worked together and became good friends by being there for each other through tough times in our respective lives. Once she left the job, we started officially going out, and we were ...
A. 24 September 2008: I say send it, you dont want to live your life thinking "what if" she might respond she might not but you dont know unless you try, but the question is could you manage to be just friend, because i would hate you and her to go round in circls, good ... (read in full...)
I'm embarrassed to wear braces. I need some honest opinions!
Q. i cant smile because i have teeth missing and out of place. Getting treatment but will take at least 2years. I feel so gutted because realistically how many girls want to date or even be seen with a guy who still wears braces when his aged 18! Come ...
A. 22 September 2008: Does nobody remeber when Tom Cruise had braces? What would you rather do have lovely straight teeth or have bad teeth?
A girls not going to care if you wear braces at 18! And even if they did would you really want to be with someone that shallow?... (read in full...)
I have never wanted children until now, but now it's too late. Can anyone relate?
Q. I'm just wondering if there is anyone else out there like me. My "biological clock" never went off until now. I'm really too old to have children but it breaks my heart every time one of my (younger) friends does. I think just hearing that...
A. 18 September 2008: My colleague is 44 and is pregnant with twins! Dont doubt you cant get pregnant, if you cant try it naturally try it with IVF (a woman in her 60's had a child a few years so anything is possible).
If you cant get pregnant try adoption or fosterin... (read in full...)
I asked him to be gentle but he focused on himself during sex and wouldn't mind my objections. Should I believe him that it won't happen again?
Q. Hi, So I need some serious advice again. Ive been with my boyfriend a little over 4 months and for our anniversary, i booked a hotel to make our 'first time' special. I had told him I wanted to take it slow with lots of foreplay and candle...
A. 16 September 2008: I would not stand for this if he knows about your past he should have understood, no means no stop means stop! If he didnt listen the first time and kept going and you had no way to stop him i would get out of this before it happens again. ... (read in full...)
I like this guy, we did not date, we kissed and had sex, now he flirts with other girls and I feel used, what do you think?
Q. i really need help. i really fancy a boy and im not sure if he actually does like me, he flirts with me and kisses me at random moments, sometimes holds my hand. and were not even going out. He also keeps asking me to have sex with him alot, i did ...
A. 10 September 2008: Sweetie this guy is using you when he wants sex or wants attetnion and you are letting him. Please dont give into him anymore you are better then that just say no and walk away dont let him use you anymore because you are the only one who is going... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose him! Should I sleep with him? Help!?
Q. hiya.. ive been with this man for a few month and its been perfect.. just he rang me saying is this going to go further ? .. I havnt slept with him yet .. and im only 16 .. hes 20 .. im just scared incase he only wants me for one thing .. and i have ...
A. 8 September 2008: Dont even think this if you tell him you dont want to sleep with him and he dumps you then its HIS loss not yours. Sex is a big step in a relationship and if he doesnt want to wait to get you into bed then get rid of him.
Dont do somethin... (read in full...)
I haven't done anything with this new guy, as that would be cheating, but I do like him! I'm confused!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for three and a half months and it was great at first, but these days things are just different. He can be moody and distant, and he now answers my texts with just a few words (no kisses), or not at all. When I try and ...
A. 8 September 2008: You need to sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him ask him whats wrong, it might just be that he needs his space relationships change with time.
As for the other guy just tell him how you feel tell him you dont want to lead him on but you ... (read in full...)
He talked me into sending him pictures of me in my underwear, I promised myself I wouldn't and I did. Now I feel stupid and used!!!
Q. Hey. I know that when you read this you'll think Im stupid, naive and easily led, but I know this already and Im so full of regret at what Ive done. Basicly, I know a lad (we're friends), he is two years older than me. I knew I should stay away from ...
A. 1 August 2008: It only takes one bad move to make you realise that pics on the computer are not always so great, least you didnt have yours posted on a website that anyone could see (it was a very bad break up and my ex really wanted to hurt me it was a great xmas ... (read in full...)
He talked me into sending him pictures of me in my underwear, I promised myself I wouldn't and I did. Now I feel stupid and used!!!
Q. Hey. I know that when you read this you'll think Im stupid, naive and easily led, but I know this already and Im so full of regret at what Ive done. Basicly, I know a lad (we're friends), he is two years older than me. I knew I should stay away from ...
A. 31 July 2008: Sweetie dont worry to much about this you wre in your underwear so its not less then you would where on a beach your not the first person to beat yourself up about this.
Besides he sent you pictures back so you know he wont use this against ... (read in full...)
She says she will leave me if I don't buy her gifts. So should I continue to buy her more things?
Q. Hey I am 15 and i have a girlfriend who is 19. She has a job and lives with her parents. I am in school my girlfriend scemms to like me for all the things that i buy her. I have been buying her iPods and laptops and all that. At the mom...
A. 31 July 2008: Huni come on wake up she is using you because you spoil her! She has a job she probably earns more then you, she is taking advantage of you because you are letting her. Please dont put up with her anymore she doesnt need you to spend money on her ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my big nose appear smaller?
Q. Im a girl, Im 15 and really, really self-concious about my nose. Its just too big. It makes all my other facial features seem out of proportion and worst of all it makes me really, really ugly. I hate it. I hate the comments I get about it. I avoid ...
A. 26 July 2008: Hey sweetie stop worrying yourself we all have flaws that we think other people will notcie, the truth is they only one who ever notices our flaws is ourselves. You are beautiful accept yourself for who you are.
Instead of trying to hide wha... (read in full...)
Will I ever get over my abusive ex?
Q. my divorce from my ex who was angry and abusive most of the time is nearly through. it has been an awful 2o years of a relationship. i last saw him in dec when i finally reported him to the police for damaging my car. i had never done this kind of ...
A. 24 July 2008: First of all congratulations on getting out of this relationship alot of people dont leave abuse relationships for fear.
I know you hurt at the moment but it will get better i wont lie and say it will be soon but in time you will feel better a... (read in full...)
How do I make sex more satisfying for me?
Q. my boyfreind is the kind of guy who takes control in bed and never lets me have a say and thats all good until the sex is over and i am left unsatisfied and if i have more sex with him he complains we are having to much sex how do i make sex more ...
A. 24 July 2008: Easy talk to him tell him how you feel get him to satisfy you before you have sex or get you to the point of orgasm and then have sex so you would be satisfied. Or if you are both on the adventorous toys buy some toys you can both use together so ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated, and I'm the one who ends up apologising for my jealousy! No more. Advice?
Q. boyfriend cheated on me in the past twice and begged me for his forgiveness, telling me how much he love me an all that. So i did because i do love him back. But now weve had problems with trust since then and he wanted us to have some time apart. ...
A. 24 July 2008: My advice my honest advice is dump him and do it now he is using you and when he wants going off to someone else, you dont need this your better then this dump him now he will only cheat on you again and come back to you because you will take him ... (read in full...)
Will I grow any more? Can I do anything about it?
Q. I'm 17 is it too late to grow? I'm 5.9 and really wanna be a bit taller I've started the gym and go every week atleast. DO you think i will get any taller? My dads about 6.2 and my mum is about 5.1 ish :S Is there anything i can do b...
A. 24 July 2008: Sweetie how tall we are depends on our genes, im sorry but there is nothing you can do to make yourself taller just be happy with who you are ... (read in full...)
It hurts when I pee. Could I have cystitis?
Q. It hurts when I Pee. It only happens in the mornings and I wake up and go to the loo but keeping needing to go and it hurts quite a bit when I do go. I dont pass alot of urine. I had sex quite a lot over the past week (6 times) but with a condom. Do ...
A. 23 July 2008: Yep sure sounds like it i find the best thing to do is every time you pee drink a glass of water or cranberry juice or even lemon and barley it helps me get rid off it the only problem is afterwards you have to pee all the liquid you drink, but pop ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to conceive. Could I be pregnant now?
Q. Me and my partner have been trying to concieve for the past two months, as i hardly see him, its hard to concieve on that exact day. Last month, we were unlucky as i had my period 3-6th July. Ihave 27 day cycles. i used this website to determin...
A. 20 July 2008: I apologise for my answer but i work for a housing association and most of out tenants are teenage mums who's famillies have kicked them out because they got pregnant,there partners have left them someone of them struggle to make ends meet there ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to conceive. Could I be pregnant now?
Q. Me and my partner have been trying to concieve for the past two months, as i hardly see him, its hard to concieve on that exact day. Last month, we were unlucky as i had my period 3-6th July. Ihave 27 day cycles. i used this website to determin...
A. 20 July 2008: I dont mean to be preachy but why do you want a child at such a young age? You need to think about whether you are emotionally and finacially ready for a baby because at the oldest it says you are 17 an avergae 17 year old lives at home has a part ... (read in full...)
Is there someone out there for everyone? What if they live in another country?
Q. Hello. I'm 25, English and never had a proper girlfriend. I'm also a virgin. The truth is nobody wants me. People say you'll meet someone but I know I won't. I know this question gets asked more times but I would like some help. The problem is I ...
A. 20 July 2008: Im sorry you are feeling so low but being self pitying is not a good quality, you should just be enjoying life who cares if you dont have a girlfriend, you may hate bars pubs and clubs but sometimes you have to do things you dont like to meet ... (read in full...)
My mum and dad have been arguing, and my mum said she hates me. I don't know what to do and I need advice.
Q. I am an 8 year old boy from Cupar in Fife in Scotland. My mum and dad have been not really been getting on well and they have had some bad arguments. One day my mum got very annoyed with my big brother for putting a towel in with the dirty clothes. ...
A. 16 July 2008: Im sorry that she said that to you and sorry for your situation but sometimes people say stupid things in the heat of the moment and they dont really mean it, sounds to me that your mum is very stressed at the moment and taking it out on her kids, i ... (read in full...)
I had a baby very young and people seem to judge me. How should I handle this?
Q. why do people always judge me when they see my in the streets, or abuse me and call me all the names under the sun when they see me with my child. im 16 now, just after my 14th birthday i was raped by a friend of my cousins in his late 20's and ...
A. 4 July 2008: People judge other people its what happens on a daily basis everyone assumes something about someone without even realising it.
What happend to you is trully awful but you have something to show for it you have a bright light that came from a s... (read in full...)
My partner speaks to her "friend" daily. Then I found sexual text messages...
Q. I have recently got engaged and moved in with my partner. Until last week, everything was perfect and i couldn't imagine anything else i could wish for in life until we were driving home from work, my partner took a phone call from a friend i had ...
A. 30 June 2008: Ok this sounds very suspicious to me i think you need to put her to the test go away on the day you said you would, leave it a few hours till you know she will be home then pop back home and is she is with someone well maybe you should think about ... (read in full...)
How can I be sure I lost my virginity?
Q. well i had sex with my boyfriend. who is 19 and i am 15. yes i love him and i know he loves me and i dont regret doing it with him. but i didnt feel much pain so how am i sure i lost my virginity without telling my doctor?...
A. 26 June 2008: The fact you even had to ask this just shows how young you are, please be careful and always use protection. ... (read in full...)
Why is he pushing me away?
Q. my partner and i had a full satisfying relationship for 4 yrs until i had my gaul bladder removed 7 mths ago and he has not come anywhere near me since we dont hold hands we dont hug we barely talk anymore we used to share the same bed like to ...
A. 26 June 2008: You need to have a serious chat to this guy and make him tell you what he wants, this change of attitude is odd and really seems to be hurting you, you need to sit down and tell him how you feel. ... (read in full...)
I was raped by my father's boss, what do I do?
Q. Please someone has to help me. I can't live with this anymore. when i was 10 I was raped by my Fathers Boss. His boss is also one of his good friends. My Dad and his co-workers had a party to celebrate their works aniversary. All my Dads fr...
A. 26 June 2008: Ok well first things first well done for being brave enough to tell us what has happend as a victom myself i know how hard it is to talk about it and how much it controlas your life.
Right you need to tell someone in authority police teacher ... (read in full...)
How can a man manage to keep his virginity?
Q. how can a male manage to keep his virginity through the post-GCSE summer when most of his female friends are losing theirs?...
A. 25 June 2008: Im a bit worried that all your girl friends are having sex after there GCSE'S hun, dont follow the crowed, remeber just because everyone else is doing something doesnt mean you need to either.
Hope your exams went well i loved that summer a... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be feeling like this??
Q. do you think im out of order to be unhappy and upset over this? well basicly im 16 and i live in the uk, ive just left school and at the moment ive just finished my exams and am looking for a job like most others my age. ive been goin out with my ...
A. 25 June 2008: Oh huni im so sorry you feel like this and your parents are treating you like this, its extremly unfair that you younger sister can have a boyfriend round and you cant, what i think you need to do is show them the post you have made and let them ... (read in full...)
I had been playing online with this girl that I really like and now she is with someone else... how can I get over it?
Q. Hello everyone.Here i go.18 months ago i started to play an online game and a year ago i met a girl there.We were just friends but after a while we started to do everything together.We were spending whole day together.When i logon in the morning she ...
A. 20 June 2008: You just have to accept that there together you didnt make a move on her so neither of them know how you feel just smile and be happy for them, a better girl is just around the corner but next time dont leave it till its to late to tell her! ... (read in full...)
Was wondering if anybody has ever straightened their pubic hair before?
Q. This question may sound really stupid and weird, but I was wondering if anybody has ever straightened their pubic hair before? I am 22 and my boyfriend and I are doing a post- april fools sort of sex surprise thing, we are meeting up together...
A. 19 June 2008: Ouch sounds painful, i would go to a salon get it waxed into a heart shape and dyed pink,cute and strange and almost completely pain free ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him treat me better?
Q. My bf is 11 years old than me i am 17 and he is 28 he gets very jelous but then he loves parading me in front of his friends. We were in a pub. I bent over to pick up a packet of crisps and he was saying to his mates "that is all mine when ever i ...
A. 19 June 2008: Im going to say this as nice as possible.
Get rid of him!
What a complete perverted rapist pig i would go to the police then get rid of him you deserve better this is unacceptable thats not love. He doesnt love you he is using you WAKE U... (read in full...)
I had been playing online with this girl that I really like and now she is with someone else... how can I get over it?
Q. Hello everyone.Here i go.18 months ago i started to play an online game and a year ago i met a girl there.We were just friends but after a while we started to do everything together.We were spending whole day together.When i logon in the morning she ...
A. 19 June 2008: Sweetie im sorry you got hurt but i have to be honest as far as im aware you never let her know you felt something towards her maybe she thought you didnt like her that way and when someone else came along she didnt think it would hurt you because ... (read in full...)
Do I leave her to it and see what happens?
Q. 3 months ago i broke up with my GF of 2 and half years because although i know its wrong to do so, i read her messages due to someone we both knows telling me that she has been txting some other guy and not just as friends, so i read these messages ...
A. 18 June 2008: Im not sure of the right way to say this so im just going to say it.
YOUR BEING USED WAKE UP!
he wants her cake and to eat and your letting her get away with it. She is using you then when she gets bored she gets rid of you and gets with so... (read in full...)
My abusive ex has decided that he wants me back, since he found out I was dating again! Should I return to him after he kicked me and our son out??
Q. well i was in a relationship for about 4 years going on to 5 this year, we met when we were in high school i was a junior and he was a senior. we dated for about 5 motnhs when i came out preagnant. we decided to keep the baby and u know i thought he ...
A. 18 June 2008: Hun why do you want to get back with him yuo deserve so much better, dont even think about getting back with him. ... (read in full...)
What could this severe pain in my lower stomach be?
Q. Hi. My sex life with my boyfriend is really good at the moment and we've been trying out lots of new positions. I really enjoy it but lately after sex I've been getting really severe pains in my lower stomach. The pain is really bad and usually ...
A. 17 June 2008: Hey hun your doing the right thing going to the doctor it could be a grumbling appendix but you would know if you needed it out ASAP because it hurts so much you cant even talk, move its agony, also trapped wind is also very painful so might just be ... (read in full...)
My sisters husband forced me to have sex
Q. i lost my virginity at age 12 with my sisters husband. i dident want to but he forced me. know i dont know if to tell my sister wat happend. wat should i do?...
A. 17 June 2008: Sweetie im so sorry that this has happend to you rape is an awful thing you have been brave by telling us on here what has happend but you do need to tell people who can do something about this mainly your sister she needs to know she married a ... (read in full...)
Should I go against myself and be a FWB, and enjoy myself with him and be heartbroken if he finds true love elsewhere, or do I cut my losses and run?
Q. I'm 32 and recently began chatting online to a really great 37 year guy. We got on really well, and after about a month, we met up. And got on really really well. I stayed at his and we had a great weekend together. (yes we slept togethe...
A. 17 June 2008: This all seems very confusing to me, i know how you feel towards him and he knows how you feel towards him but there is no mention of how he feels for you. And to be honest i think you need to find out what he feels and what he wants because i would ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about putting on weight if I take the pill. Are there ways to avoid it?
Q. I'm having to go on the pill, due to heavy periods and unbearable stomach cramps. However, I'm concerned of the side-effects... Apparently you can gain alot of weight, i'm not prepared to sacrafice my pain for that!!! I'm tall and fairly slim, this ...
A. 17 June 2008: There are many diffrent types of pills each with diffrent side effects i went on the pill at 15 due to very heavey periods and cramps so bad i couldnt even move. Since then i have been on 4 diffrent types and not one of them has made me gain any ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I've been recording our conversations?
Q. recently ive been recording me and my girls conversations without her knowing. i do this so i can play them back later and analyze what she said. should i tell her about this or would that seem sketchy?...
A. 9 June 2008: Errrmm im not sure how to say this but, what is wrong with you? That is so creepy, why do you feel the need to do that? ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me?? I keep going back!
Q. Hey, I need help with my confusing situation! Long story short, I've been seeing a guy 6 years older than I am (I'm 18) for the past year. I've cried over him too much and promised myself I'd get over him and see other guys,thing is, I never really ...
A. 9 June 2008: Ok this guy is controlling you and using you to play his game to make him self feel powerful and in control. Some guys are like that they like to make there partners feel useless and worthless and make them cry.
So end the games now he has play... (read in full...)
This guy won't leave me alone!!
Q. Hello everyone, My problem is that there is a guy who won't stop texting me, when I don't reply, he emails me. He changes his MSN names and facebook statuses to the EXACT same as mine for instance I had a quote from my favourite TV show - Black Bo...
A. 9 June 2008: Just be honest with him i dont think he realises what he is doing to you and how he is making you feel, he obviously idolises you so just be nice and gently explain that he is making you feel uncomfotable and if he continues copying you there is a ... (read in full...)
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