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I'm really angry, my ex and my best friend are going out 2 days after we broke up!!
Q. i brokeup with my boyfriend lastthursdy after goin out for 4 weeks but yesterday i found out that only 2 days after splittingup him and mybest friend were goin out, i got really angry. what should i do ?...
A. 9 April 2009: I will be honest there is nothing you can do about this, she obviously is not a true friend and he obviously cant bear to be single for more then 5 minutes.
Your better off without them ... (read in full...)
Being too harsh on my ex girlfriend?
Q. I dumped my GF last year and we were on and off since then. I told her i would consider getting back with her if she lost weight she is a size 14-16 but good looking i must say, I prefer size 12. I just dumped her again recently and she's angry...
A. 9 April 2009: You seriously need to grow up dumpning someone because there not the size you like!? Thats possibly the shallowest thing ih ave ever heard i would expect that from a teenager not an adult.
You need to answer your phone meet up with her and have... (read in full...)
Having kittens here!
Q. My cat has just had a kitten about 4 hours ago. Now I'm new at this and dont quite know what's all going on. Will she have more kittens? or since she had one 4 hours ago that will be it? ...
A. 26 March 2009: My cat had kittems to years ago and like all animals they do not need to be fussed over while it is happening in fact if anything they like to be left alone so please do not interfere unless she is in distress. Make sure she has a quiet corner where ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, haven't told my b/f yet and very confused
Q. I've just recently turned 18 andfound out today that im pregnant, my parents and cdlose friends know but i haven't yet told my boyfriend. I've always said that if i ever got caught i could never abort because i'm totally against it, however there's ...
A. 22 March 2009: I think you need to sit down with your boyfriend and tell him and decide together im sure your family would help out, a baby is a blessing but if you and your boyfriend feel that you cant cope then its either abortion or adoption, im afraid there ... (read in full...)
Bleeding alot, different than usual..anyone know what it could be?
Q. Firstly, can I ask that nobody judges me or comments on what I am about to say. I'm asking for advice on my problem, not my method of contraception. I've been having regular unprotected sex with my boyfriend for about 2 months. About 3 weeks ag...
A. 22 March 2009: Huni i will be honest sounds like you are having/ had a misscarriage, i think you need to make an emergency appointment with your doctor this cant wait two weeks especially if you are still bleeding this heavy it could lead to complications.
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My mother is cheating on my dad and its killing my sister & I!
Q. Hi, My mum is having an affair - I dont know what to do. I'm 18 - Not a wee girl anymore, I love my parents truely and when my mum actually admitted wht was happening when i confronted her about it on the phone, I burst into tears, I got mys...
A. 18 March 2009: What i would do is confront my mum and tell her if she doesnt tell her husband whats going on then you will. This is unfair on you and your sister you should have to worry about your parents problems.
Its more then likely that your dad knows an... (read in full...)
Could my husband be tempted again?
Q. If you have read my previous postings you will know that my husband of 32 years had a text affair with a colleague who works at different premises. It has definately stopped but he still has to see her at meetings and tonight is the AGM. I am ...
A. 18 March 2009: Only you can decide if you trust your husband enough not to be tempted. You cannot sit there and think will he wont he? You will drive your self mad and make yourself ill the more you think about it the more worked up about it you will get.
He st... (read in full...)
Do I reply after all this time if he is still married?
Q. Hi guys, I started seeing a man just before he got married. I know, bad move... I stopped seeing him as he needed time to figure out his life and what he really wants. I told him if it is me that will make him happy then I will be here for him. If...
A. 18 March 2009: Its been 6 months and this is the first time he has contacted you? Either he has realised his marriage is not going to work because he no longer loves his wife, he wants to have an affair, or worse he could want to string you along and see if after ... (read in full...)
Questions the doctor will ask me...
Q. Hello, I'm 16 and I'm going to have the contraceptive implant today, my mum suggested this but she thinks I'm a virgin. I know my doctor will ask if I'm sexually active and I was wondering will I get into trouble with the law if I tell my doctor I ...
A. 18 March 2009: The doctor will only ask if your sexually active he wont want to know the details and what you say to the doctor is confidential, however i know several people who have got pregnant on the implant so please remeber to use a condom with each new ... (read in full...)
Should I get tested or am I being paranoid?
Q. I have been reading posts on this site about cheating and one of the answers said about getting tested for aids. My husband cheated on me between 1992 up until February 2008 with different women(3) I never thought of getting tested but it's ...
A. 18 March 2009: I would go get tested for everthing HIV and clamydia have no symptoms at all and HIV is deadly and clamydia makes you sterile.
You should both go and get tested it would keep your mind at rest and it does not take long at all, and you can get ... (read in full...)
Bump after unprotected sex 3 weeks ago..pregnant?
Q. Hi, im 15 and 3 week ago i had sex for the first time, and we didnt use protection, i know it was stupid not to, but now ive started putting on weight, to form a sort of bump on my stomach, and people have started asking if im pregnant, and i keep ...
A. 17 March 2009: It could be wind thats very painful and will make you bloated ... (read in full...)
He's already got a g/fbut I like him!
Q. Hi well i am 20 years old and single i've been through alot with guys alot of them treat me badly and tell me things that in the end turn out not to be true. But i work full time at a solicitors office and there is a guy who often comes in he is ou...
A. 17 March 2009: What should you doo hmmm, oh i know leave him alone he is not single so off limits dont try stealing someone elses boyfriends its just cruel and heartless find a single man... (read in full...)
Should I avoid my so-called "friends"?
Q. hello today i had a bad day at school a boy who i thought was my mate was nasty to me for no reason it got so bad i creid he kept calling me mean and untrue names. my freind who sits next to me ( who got a fight and was kinda under the weather)...
A. 17 March 2009: Sounds like bullying to me and teenage girls always seem to be so good at making others cry (i was bullied at school and i know how hurtful it can be) best thing to do break all contact and make other friends ones who will stick by you and stick up ... (read in full...)
Can a man have sex and not feel anything for the woman?
Q. Can a man have sex with a woman if he feels nothing for her or will he always have some sort of attraction? When men have affairs they tend to say its "just sex" - but surely it must be "just sex" with some sort of attraction?...
A. 17 March 2009: Men are diffrent from women when we have sex we usually have to feel something and see it as more then just an animal act, SOME men just have sex for the satisfaction and to soothe there ego's and natural urges... (read in full...)
Bump after unprotected sex 3 weeks ago..pregnant?
Q. Hi, im 15 and 3 week ago i had sex for the first time, and we didnt use protection, i know it was stupid not to, but now ive started putting on weight, to form a sort of bump on my stomach, and people have started asking if im pregnant, and i keep ...
A. 17 March 2009: I dont think you would have a big bump at 3 weeks, 3 months yeah but not 3 weeks, you could just be bloated, are you due on soon? Because i get bloated before im on. If your that worried then go to the doctor but i dont think you are pregnant ... (read in full...)
Lumps on my neck & tattoo a few months ago..related?
Q. Hello there, Recently I have been noticing little lumps on my neck around the sides, just below my ear and back of nect etc. I've noticed them for about 2 wks now and was getting a bit concerned. Today a big lump come up on my neck and it w...
A. 17 March 2009: I dont think it is to do with the tats as you would have a reaction within the first few days not 3 months on, i suggest you book in and see your doctor hun might not be anything but best to let someone check it out for you. ... (read in full...)
G/f depressed because she's obese
Q. My girlfriend is depressed because she’s obese. She’s tried quite a lot of diets but nothing seems to work as she gives up after a couple of weeks. Generally I’d say she eats about the same amount that I do and if anything I’m underweight. What can ...
A. 17 March 2009: Offer to take up excercise classses with her go running/walking get her a puppy so she knows she has to walk it every day ( but remeber a dog is a memeber of the family and buying one is a decision thats not to be taken lightly) book her in for pole ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants her & me!
Q. I am in a dilemna and could really use your help! Where to start. I started dating my bf in February 2005, we had some problems later that year and he turned to someone else. We worked out our problems and everything was great until recently. ...
A. 17 March 2009: This is easy your boyfriend is having his cake and eating it two girlfriends both in love with him. Huni if he loved you he would not be with someone else you love him and dont want to be with someone else at the same time (as far as i can tell) do ... (read in full...)
Should we keep our TWINS a surprise?
Q. My husband and I are pregnant with twins, this is our third pregnancy and it will be our last. We were thinking about keeping the TWIN part a surprise until they are born. We will be having a planned c section and were thinking that the he could ...
A. 16 March 2009: I think its a good idea but i had a colleague who was pregnant with twins and at 5 months she looked like she was 9 months gone, sop i expect you can keep it quiet but do not be too suprised if other people can gues by your size! ... (read in full...)
I am not sure how to turn him down nicely!!
Q. I have been serving this male customer for about a year now, and he has finally asked me out. We have good brief chats whenever he drops by. Unfortunately I don't fancy him at all but am not sure how to turn him down nicely!! Please help....
A. 16 March 2009: I agree with Gina just say "im flattered but unfortunatly im seeing someone at the moment" ... (read in full...)
Should I start practicing to like girls?
Q. another big problem with me is that almost those that are attracted to me are seems to be straight guys, i like sexy straight guys so much but i don't like female guys and i don't wish to move with them infact i hate their way of behaving as am a ...
A. 12 March 2009: You cannot force yourself to be straight you are who you are, why try and force yourself to pretned to be someone else why punish yourself, accept yourself for who you are dont pretend to be something your not it will only hurt more in the future. ... (read in full...)
He flirts like crazy on line, but I don't think he would really cheat. Do you think this is ok behaviour?
Q. I am getting married in 2 months. My fiance and I have a great relationship, however, sometimes I find it hard to trust him. I have found a few emails he has had with other girls, flirting and asking them to come over. We have had open ...
A. 12 March 2009: You sure you want to marry someone who does this? Because i would feel so insecure about myself if i caught my fella emailing other girls asking them to come over and i certainly would not put up with this.
But if your happy enough to let him ... (read in full...)
My gf wasnt a virgin but I was, and it bothers me
Q. Ok. Ive been with my gf for over 4 years and we have a 1 year old baby. Ok my problem is that I was a virgin till I meant my gf and she was my first and only. But come to find out i wasnt for her. its kinda hard to explain but the guy who had sex ...
A. 12 March 2009: Unfortuntaly there is nothing you can do about this,you need to forget about this and the past you have a child together so what if you didnt take her virginity she must love you or else she would not have your baby, you have not lost anything to be ... (read in full...)
He treats me like shit but I'm head over heels for him
Q. All right, where to start..? I guess first off let me start by saying I am crazy about him and don’t want to loose him… My man and I have been going out for a half a year now, but he still doesn’t consider me his girlfriend. He told me from the begi...
A. 11 March 2009: Wake up huni and see the reality this man is controlling you and everything in your life and its not right! Relationships should be equal you should not have to see his family and not see your own, if you mum has noticed whats gooing on then other ... (read in full...)
Should I meet up with the Ex, even though I risk cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. Please help - I was dumped over 8 months ago by a man I was head over heels in love with. I was devastated. I was so so down. I met someone else very quickly, who feel head over heels in love with me, and made me feel great, wanted and ...
A. 9 March 2009: Why ruin what you have with your boyfriend, why hurt him? Ex's are ex's for a reason and they should stay in the past. Dont risk what you have for something you have already had and lost... (read in full...)
My friend's girlfriend threatens to harm herself if he leaves her, what can he do?
Q. My friend is in a bad bad situation. So im here to ask your advice that i can pass onto him because no matter how many times i tell him to come on here hes like... stubborn. lol Ill cut this down so its a long story short but i hope you understan...
A. 22 February 2009: This is not a relationship lets be honest, she is in another country so could be doing anything and as for self harming hey i have been there and i would never ever do it to make someone stay with me thats just disgusting. He is unhappy.
He ne... (read in full...)
I cannot believe how much my life has changed and how happy I am
Q. Hi everybody! I wrote last week (Friday 13th). My question was listed as "I have a wonderful man waiting for me but I'm too scared to leave my abusive boyfriend!" You may want to read that first if you haven't already. First of all, let me thank the ...
A. 20 February 2009: CONGRATULATIONS! Sweetie im so glad everything worked out for the best i wish you every happiness im so pleased for you! ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to be so rough and always wants anal sex
Q. My BF of 6 months is nice and gentle except in bed. I mean he starts nice and gentle but it always gets very dominant. He was abused as a child and HAS to be the dominant person in bed. I want to please him, but he now wants anal sex EVERY time ...
A. 20 February 2009: Im sorry saying you have been abused is no excuse for this kind of behaviour! You should enjoy sex and it should be enjoyed by both of you. I think you need to sit and have a serious chat with him before he starts to get even rougher and hurt you. ... (read in full...)
Should I get plan b?
Q. I have been on the pill for several years. well, I was recently sick and had to take Amoxicillin for 10 days. It was twice a day and 875 mg. I have been off the antibiotics for 4 days and had sex. I did not use back up. I am on my sugar pills ...
A. 19 February 2009: There is a chance you could get pregnant antibiotics effects the pill and you should use other forms of contaceptions till 10 days after your last dose on antibiotics. Your doctor should have told you this and also it should be on the leaflet inside ... (read in full...)
Still unsure - update!
Q. Hi I writing an update to (cheat cheat cheat) I am still with my husband who has cheated on me several times. Not a day goes by that I wish I had the guts to walk away, yes I love him or do I now? I know that my husband has cheated all thou...
A. 17 February 2009: I think you should leave him, i honestly do he cheated on you he doesnt respect or love you he cheated on you and even said if you had not have found out he might still be doing it. You are never to old to start over and you deserve someone who ... (read in full...)
How do you purge "successfully"?
Q. How do you purge successfully? I have tried and nothing seems to work, I am desperate to lose weight quickly....
A. 16 February 2009: Sweetie you need help, and not help on how to purge, you need to see someone about your eating disorder you have no idea what you are doing to yourself.
Your rotting your teeth stopping your body from functioning properly causing brittle bones yo... (read in full...)
The pain of her past never goes away
Q. Ok, well this is going to go into detail. So be warned. Im currently a senior in high school. My girlfriend who I am in love with. (I dont know how this site really works, but please dont judge me for saying I love her, or that Im too young. For r...
A. 12 February 2009: The pasts is in the past we should not keep reliving it, many people hated there first times and regretted it (i certainly wish i had a better first time).
But if you love her please learn to move on from this dont stress yourself thinking... (read in full...)
He's cheating on her with me and I don't know what to do.
Q. I have a best friend who I've been friends with since middle school. In our 9th grade year she started dating this guy who dated my sister in middle school. I didn't know him all so well. Eventually at the end of my 9th grade year me and my best ...
A. 9 February 2009: Be honest with yourself what means more to you your friendship or a fling with a guy who is cheating on your best friend with you?
If its your friendship (and to be honest friends stick around a lot longer then guys) then you need to stop see... (read in full...)
Guys/girls, does your partner's sexual past bother you?
Q. Hi i was just wondering how many guys and girls out there are bothered by their partners sexual past? And if it bothers guys more than it bothers girls? Do you care how many sexual partners your partner has had before you even existed in their...
A. 9 February 2009: To be honest i dont really care about my bf's past sexual partners i know he loves me and what we have, he could have slept with a 100 girls and i still wouldnt care because he is with me not them. He loves me and wants to spend his life with me our ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to get angry at his girlfriend for not liking anal?
Q. Is it normal for a man to get angry at his girlfriend of almost one year for not liking anal? I told him that I didn't like it while we were doing it and he insisted that we continue because I was only lying that it hurt so that he would think I am ...
A. 9 February 2009: Ohhh what a nasty guy, why are you still with him, if my boyfriend did that after i said no he would not be my bf for much longer. He doesnt seem to respect you i think you deserve better then this find someone who will respect you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend raped me. I don't know what to do. Please help.
Q. im 19 years old. i don't know what to do.. my boyfriend and i have been together for a month.. hes in the army.... well anyways.. we were at a party a couple of nights ago.. and we all got really drunk and i told him before we got drunk that...
A. 6 February 2009: Get rid of him now! Yeah he is sorry this time and he will be the next time and the time after that too, dump him he doesnt love you, do you really want to be with someone who can do this to you, tell your parents and the police and do not go back ... (read in full...)
Opinions about tattos?
Q. I'm getting my thrid tattoo next week and I'm curious on other people opinions on them. Personally each of my tattoos have a meaning behind them and a strong connection to some chapted in my life. I get that everyone is different but I've always ...
A. 29 January 2009: I have 4 tattoos and all have a diffrent and special meaning to them i get one a year for my birthday as a present to myself (i got two at once at one time because they where teeney as there behind my ears).
I love tattoos but i think they sho... (read in full...)
My wife's boss wants to get her pregnant then he will promote her!!!!!
Q. Hi my wife's boss wants to impregnate her with his child. My wife also wants it as he will promote her if she does so. Should I let it happen?...
A. 29 January 2009: errrr no... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me fat and repulsive!!!
Q. Ok I need some advice please, I have been going out with my boyfriend for around four years... he can be controlling with me and mean but I never feel like I have the strength to leave him. I suffered a bad eating disorder last year and lost a ...
A. 29 January 2009: How can you stand to be with someone like this and for so many years!?!? You must have really low self esteem and be really insecure with yourself to put up with this, what a nasty guy!
He doesnt think your fat he likes to control and hurt you... (read in full...)
I love him, but staying with him would make me a home wrecker. What should I do?
Q. o dear god you are going to think that i am a right ho but im not honest. i had the most amazing sex this is what happend. i work wid the guy ok and he asked me if i wanted to go for lunch and i said ok not thinking anything of it den he drove us...
A. 28 January 2009: Wake up huni he isnt going to leave his wife and kids for you and even if he did you could never trully trust him because if he has cheated on his wife with you he will cheat on you with someone else.
Just keep away from him he is only gonna hu... (read in full...)
Which kind is prefered? Straight or bent?
Q. iv a question for the female population, but iv been wondering. what kind of penis do you prefer? a straight up one, or one with a bend?...
A. 28 January 2009: Its not about how it looks its about what you can do with it, honestly if your in a relationship or in love it really does not matter what it looks like.... (read in full...)
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