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I will let him touch my breasts but am worrid this will not keep him happy enough and he will leave me!
Q. I am seeing this guy i really like there was this story where he fingerd my friend befor we were seeing each other becoz of the fact i am 13 and he is 15 i am worrid that he wants to have sex but i am not ready he keeps on putting his hands on my ...
A. 23 October 2007: Well done for rushing into anything your not ready for, he should be happy that you let him touch your boobs! And if he really wants to be with you then he should go at your pace and not pressure you, dont do anything you dont want and if he ... (read in full...)
This is an emergency! How do I cure a bad sore throat?
Q. Hi all! Is there anyone who has a tried and tested solution to get rid of a very bad sore throat??? I went to the doctors yesterday, he said it was a viral infection, drink plenty, rest loads and have paracetamols. I am off work, it is getting wo...
A. 23 October 2007: I have many musician friends and spending a night singing on stage for a noisy crowd can cause really bad sore throats so they eat honey it soothes it and really helps and it tatse nice too... (read in full...)
We are fantastic together, but he always leaves to solve his marriage issues and ends up returning! Will he come back?
Q. I have had a wonderful relationship with a man for nearly 3 years. We are best friends as well as having so much passion and chemistry. We miss each other terribly if we ever have to be apart. I love him with all my heart and soul and want to spend ...
A. 22 October 2007: 5 Times he has left and come back! Seriously huni if he comes back again without divorce papers move on and get on with your own life which you have put on hold because he may or may not leave his wife but your willing to wait. To be honest i think ... (read in full...)
I want to get pregnant, but his sex drive is a problem! Also, I love him, but is he right for me?
Q. lately, I am being coming home late from school (around 10) my boyfriend wakes up early in the morning, so we just eat together and he falls sleep instantly... It is really hard to have sex. I want to get pregnant... what could I do to incentive his ...
A. 22 October 2007: If your having doubts whether he is the one do you really want to have a baby if you not 100% sure he is the right man to be a father and look after you and a baby. I think most people have doubts whether the one really is the one but only you know ... (read in full...)
I want out because I'm not loyal and I'm bored. But she loves me - and sometimes I think I love her - so I could just come back!
Q. Okay, well I have been going out with this girl for about six months. I look at myself and I think "why would someone want to go out with me?" I think this because I like my freedom - I'm unloyal - and to be honest I get bored. Well, now I'm thin...
A. 22 October 2007: Well if your bored and dont think this is going to last then stop stringing her along tell her how you feel, or ask for a break for a month and see how you feel after that, and if you liked having the freedom then break up with her but be nice and ... (read in full...)
Anyone have an free English dating website recommendations?
Q. What are the best dating websites that are free that are england ...
A. 22 October 2007: flirtbox.co.uk its a fun website and you can just look for friends but if you after more then loads of people are the same, also im on there 2 (dont ask my friend signed all of my friends up)so if you come across fairybabylu dont forget to say hi to ... (read in full...)
My bf's constant calling is driving me crazy!
Q. My boyfriend likes to spend hours on the phone everyday he phones me about 20 times a day, this is driving me mad and I don't want to spend all the time on the phone he thinks it's because I don't want to be with him anymore which isn't the case ...
A. 19 October 2007: Tell him that its interfering wth your life and its irritating, say he should cut the calls down to 2 a day one in the morning to say good morning and one at night so you have stuff to talk about,if it doesnt work tell him that his constant calling ... (read in full...)
Not getting off with a boy is getting to me.
Q. ok i am like one of the only girls in the year yet hant got off with a boy yet it really is getting me down and there are loads of couples in the because i havebnt gott off with a boy and i am a virgin does this make me more of a catch or not? all ...
A. 19 October 2007: Just because everyone else is doing it doesnt mean you should, you respect yourself more then your friends wait till you find someone who you really like instead of just doing it for the sake of it.... (read in full...)
I'm a proffessional hacker, but I don't like what I've found. What shall I do?
Q. I'm 30 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. I've known him for 6-7 years. We were friends before anything. I moved from one coast to have. But I am highly insecure which causes me to snoop. I ama professional in Computer spyware ...
A. 19 October 2007: Your with a complete lying cheat you moved left everything to be with him and this is what you get, pack your bags and move back home, tell him evrything you know and about all the women and when he says he will change and he loves you or whatever ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to remain slim during my period?
Q. during my mensutral cycle, my weight fluctuates greatly. i'll go from feeling very slim to looking bloated and overweight. I know most of this is water retention, but is there anyway to maintain my slim figure throughout my cycle? xxx...
A. 18 October 2007: Well i eat activia once a day and that really helped and there really nice i used to bloat like mad when i was due on but since ive been on activia its not so bad ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to remain slim during my period?
Q. during my mensutral cycle, my weight fluctuates greatly. i'll go from feeling very slim to looking bloated and overweight. I know most of this is water retention, but is there anyway to maintain my slim figure throughout my cycle? xxx...
A. 18 October 2007: Well i eat activia once a day and that really helped and there really nice i used to bloat like mad when i was due on but since ive been on activia its not so bad ... (read in full...)
I'm in love w/ my best friend's bf and he loves me, too, but I'm also dating his best friend! I'm so confused!
Q. My bestfreinds boyfriend is sooo gorgeous and i like him but not up until last week did i find out he liked me too but the problem is, is that im going out with his bestfreind and he is going out with my bestfriend no one knows about our secret in ...
A. 18 October 2007: Friends boyfriends are off limits no matter how you feel about them and the fact he hasnt broken up with her probably means he wont, do you really want to break up friendships because your in "love"? Nope if you dont want to be with your boyfirned ... (read in full...)
My friend and I love each other, but I'm afraid to get together - what if we break up and lose the friendship?
Q. My best friend says that he is falling in love with me and i think i feel the same but i don't know what to do about it because he has always been just a friend. I'm scared that if we ever did break up we would lose our strong friendship, what ...
A. 18 October 2007: Who knows what the future holds but if being together makes you happy then go for it if your friendship is stong then it can survive a break up, its a risk but if it makes you both happy and if you feel strongly for each other go for it ... (read in full...)
Do you think I can help myself? If so, how?
Q. I'm almost 20 and have nothing.Only half finished high school,no job,one friend only (too busy to go out with me),7 members of family I live with but none of them can understand my mood swings and even I don't.PLEASE,I need ur replies on 3 ...
A. 18 October 2007: You need to love yourself, your not alone nobody is trully alone there is always someone out there who would miss you if you werent there, if you dont want to see a counsillor thats fair enough but how bout a doctor because its seems you have ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, and a 20 year old on MSN keeps asking to see me. What do you think?
Q. theres this guy i know. hes 20 i am only 15 and i dont like him in that way. he is too old, not my type and copletely the wrong guy for me but he seems to of took a liking to me. everytime i see him or talk to him he smiles at me and winks at me and ...
A. 18 October 2007: OK stay away from him and tell someone about him because what he is doing is WRONG, save all the conversations and tell an adult or go to the police about him he is a pervert after sex and shouldnt be trying to get it from a 15 year old go to the ... (read in full...)
Is my husband of 10 years gay?
Q. Hi I have been together with my husband for 14 years; been married for 10. I'm confused. I think he may be a little gay. He goes on about a lad at work all the time and he also is really homophobic. Not sure if that is a good enough reason to th...
A. 18 October 2007: Your having sex 4 times a week and you think your husband gay? My brother is gay and finds the thought of having sex with a woman repulsive so do his gay friends just because he goes on about a guy from work doesnt make him gay just means he likes ... (read in full...)
Am confused and feel used
Q. I have just been dating a guy that i like a lot we have been together for 2 months,he has a girlfriend. But lately things have turned sour he lied to me saying he is sick he can't come to see me then i called him only to find out he is with his ...
A. 18 October 2007: He had a girlfriend but still slept with you, i dont know who i feel more sorry for her or you, he is just a user if he cheated on his girlfriend he would have cheated on you if he left her, next time find an unattached guy ... (read in full...)
Rape victim wants to be thought as virgin
Q. Hey. When I Was 13 I Was Raped By A Guy And His Friends 3 Times And I Didnt Tell AnyyOne About It Although I Wish I Had Of Doe But Its Too Late Now. Well Any Wayy When Me And My Friends Are Talking About Boyfriends And Stuff At School They Alwa...
A. 18 October 2007: You were raped you didnt lose your virginity by choice it was stolen from you, i was raped at a young age aswell and i told people i was a virgin because in my mind i still was because i didnt have a choice that it was taken, you dont have to tell ... (read in full...)
I thought her plan of moving included me but she stopped calling and the relation of 5 yrs just ended! How do I not lose faith in the concept of love?
Q. Hi, I am a 25 year old man who has just been 'dumped' by my girlfriend of 5 years (who is currently 24). I know that there is no good way for people to end a relationship but in our case she gave me the impression over the last few months (whil...
A. 17 October 2007: That was a real nasty thing your ex did i cant believe she would do that after 5 years with not even "sorry but i have to move on" women like her make me so mad they turn there exs into insecure men its awful, i have to say your better off without ... (read in full...)
Why does my daughter accept his behaviour?
Q. I have a 17 year old daughter who has an very controlling, jealous boyfriend. He left for college and is still controlling her. He tells her where she can work, go, who she can hang out with and even what she can/can't wear sometimes. No one in ...
A. 17 October 2007: Ive been in this situation everyone could see what my boyfriend was like but me, even when he changed my passowrds on the computer and called everyone on my phone to check who they were i wasnt even allowed male friends and everyone told me but i ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to get rid of the dog, we fight about it, but I can't do it!
Q. I am 26, my husband is 32. We've been married a short time and have a 6 mo. old and another on the way. I stay home, he works. We rescued a puppy last feb. he was 10 weeks old. My husband has grown increasingly annoyed with the dog, and now is ...
A. 17 October 2007: As our pets are members of our family and you doggy is special to you and your company during the day you and your husband need to compromise, train it not to jump up at him and put him in a diffrent room when your eating and as for the sleeping ... (read in full...)
I'm worried the strippers may have been better looking than me.
Q. My girlfriend (of 4 yrs) went to a club where there were male strippers for ladies night. she asked me about 10 times before she went if it was okay, and because she was celebrating a special occasion with a girlfriend of hers that was moving away, ...
A. 16 October 2007: As a women myself i cant stand male strippers its just so cheesy and funny men are diffrent then women they love seeing naked women the more the merrier (ok most guys) but women are diffrent i dont find male strippers a turn on i think its just fun, ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he'd accept my new moves?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and we have sex pretty much every night. It's always the same: we get into bed at night, watch TV or lay there for a while, begin kissing and slowly move to sex. I want to try something different and random and s...
A. 16 October 2007: He is a man if you do that i cant see him saying no,just do it go for it, it will add that little bit extra spice and im sure he will love it ... (read in full...)
He's always bringing up anal sex. I never plan to do it. What should I tell him?
Q. hi, I've been in a relationship with this guy for almost 2 months. He treats me really well and all that. The thing is that he's always bringing up anal sex. A lot of the time he brings it up in a joking way, but I know he's just testing the ...
A. 16 October 2007: Ok if you never want to do it (and i defiently wouldnt it can cause real problems) then just come right out and say NO! And if he keeps pushing tell him you will do it if he does it first, it usually works. Dont let him push you into anything you ... (read in full...)
Should I go behind my mum's back?
Q. i'm 16 years old and my partner is 20 and we have came very close to having sex but i still dont have any protection yet. i was thinking about going on the pill but i know if that i told my mum she would freak out but i'm wanting to go on the pill ...
A. 16 October 2007: Well if you cant be honest with her and say why your really going on it her tell her your periods are really heavy and irregular, but to be honest she doesnt have to know your old enough to have sex and its free and im sure your mum would understand ... (read in full...)
I feel abnormal
Q. i am only 11 and i love to um............masterbate...is that normal...i also use my moms sex toys...when i try to use my hand or something i always stop...but with the toy i just keep going...also when i masterbate i always feel a cold feeling in ...
A. 15 October 2007: Becarful with sex toys huni being so young they can cause damage and make sure you clean them fully before and afterwards with the proper cleaning stuff, but to be honest i wouldnt use your mums toys there for personal use only and your a bit young ... (read in full...)
He refuses to get rid of the girls' phone numbers because he said if we break up he wants to be able to talk to them - and he puts his friends before our daughter and I.
Q. Hey I am eighteen years old and I have a one month old baby with my boyfriend. We had broken up but now are back together and he had got a bunch of girls phone number, he talks to them late and night and is constantly texting them. I told him i am ...
A. 15 October 2007: Your boyfriend seems like a complete jerk he is hurting you and it seems like he is just using you if he loved you he would delete the numbers with no arguments and not say "when we break up i want to be able to talk to them" do the right think you ... (read in full...)
He refuses to get rid of the girls' phone numbers because he said if we break up he wants to be able to talk to them - and he puts his friends before our daughter and I.
Q. Hey I am eighteen years old and I have a one month old baby with my boyfriend. We had broken up but now are back together and he had got a bunch of girls phone number, he talks to them late and night and is constantly texting them. I told him i am ...
A. 15 October 2007: Your boyfriend seems like a complete jerk he is hurting you and it seems like he is just using you if he loved you he would delete the numbers with no arguments and not say "when we break up i want to be able to talk to them" do the right think you ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion after the rape, my religion says it's wrong. I will never be forgiven...
Q. i had an abortion because i got pregnant by someone i didnt want to have sex with in the first place (date rape) and i didnt want to raise the baby or have my family know that i was raped (they are very religious and would disown me if they knew i ...
A. 15 October 2007: Sweetie your not going to go to hell because you aborted a rapists child, if anything it was sensible you would have seen that guy in the babies face and that would have been worse, God will forgive you for doing whats right for you and the baby ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend... with his cousin! He was furious, disappointed and sad. What can I do now?
Q. tell me what to do please. im 20 and my bf 21 last weekend i cheated on him with his own cousin, coz i was drunk:(this weekend i told him about it and he was furious disappointed and very sad. when i told him it he said he don't know if he can ...
A. 15 October 2007: Just because you cheated on him after a drunken night doeant give him the right to force you into anything that you dont want to do, he is really hurt and probably just testing how far you will go to prove your love, you did the right thing by ... (read in full...)
I've met a great guy, but after many bad experiences, I worry about getting hurt again. Any advice?
Q. there's this guy i met not so long ago and i feel so strongly about him, he's made it quite clear he likes me alot too but i spent thursday till sunday night with him n loved being with him sooo much. the thing is where i have been let down so ...
A. 15 October 2007: If you end it before you have even begun its going to hurt even more because you will always think "what if" ive been hurt more times then i care to remeber but i dont let that scare me off people, you deserve to be happy and if you feel good with ... (read in full...)
We have an age gap. Will it work?
Q. I have been friends with a man for 7 months. He is 34, I am 48. We had worked together and decided that we could not be more than friends for this reason. I recently took a job in a different location, same big city. We have discussed taking our ...
A. 14 October 2007: If you have found happiness then whats the problem age shouldnt matter when the bond is this strong, happiness can be hard to find and you have found your perfect man dont worry about age enjoy each other and be happy!... (read in full...)
I think I picked the wrong courses. What to do now?
Q. dear cupid, I need some help. I am in first year at university and I originally got into a language course last month. I liked this as I enjoy languages however my original first choice was primary teaching. when I got offered this in the second ...
A. 14 October 2007: Speak to a lecturer or someone and see what they can do about changing your course im sure there is something they can do if not then maybe see if you can drop out get a job and do the other course next year but you never know the people might get ... (read in full...)
I haven't had a period yet. Is this because I masturbate?
Q. plz someone i need help badley! ok here is is...im 12yrs old and i masterbate... all my friends a skwl hav startd there p.m.t (periods) and i havent yet. is there n e chance that i will never start my periods because i masterbate??? i...
A. 14 October 2007: Your 12 some girls dont get there periods till there 17 ididnt get mine till i was 13 everyone is diffrent and its nothing to do with masterbation it will happen everybody is just diffrent ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, is it OK for me to loose my virginity?
Q. im 13 is it okay to loose my virginity im not sure can anybody help ?...
A. 14 October 2007: The fact your asking us our advice on when the right time to lose your virginity is leads me to think that your really not ready, you should wait till you know that its right for you when you know you will know, just remember when you do deiced to ... (read in full...)
How to get rid of love handles?
Q. I haven't been eating breakfast while I have school for awhile now. I do however eat it on the weekends, over summer, and anytime else other than when I have school. My problem is that I feel absolutely sick in the morning if I have to eat ...
A. 11 October 2007: If you cant eat in the morning try smoothies there full of natural goodness and its good for you and can make you feel full, skipping meals causes you to gain weight as your body goes into starvation mode as it doesnt know when it will next eat, try ... (read in full...)
Does my cellulite repulse him?
Q. I have some cellulite on my thighs and my butt... my boyfriend says he doesn't even see it, and constantly talks of how much he loves my butt. However I am worried that he may be lying and that he may find me less attractive because of it. Is there ...
A. 11 October 2007: Im afraid cellulite is just one of those things even the skinniest of models have it and athletes too, i find the best way to try and hide it or atleast make it less visible is fake tan, to be honest i dont think men really notice it, so get a spray ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend I met on msn, never met in person. I hate myself for what I did. He calls me a liar.
Q. Hi guys i dont know what to do man i am all stressed out yo. I am 16 and currently talk to a male over the internet for about 3 months lets say, he is 23. he told me he loves me but he lives very far from me and so the chances of us meeting are very...
A. 10 October 2007: Huni he is 23 you are 16, and you havnt met and you probably wont and you dont talk about sex and stuff? As much as you will hate me for saying this i dont think he loves you i think you will find its more then likely your not the only girl he is ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 dating a guy who's 22. Do you think that's wrong?
Q. I'm sixteen and i just started dating a 22 year ol that i met at a concert.. Our relationship is purely innocent. The idea of sex hasnt even came up. He is really respectful and we connect and a different level than age. I really and truly in my ...
A. 10 October 2007: Well as long as you dont have sex till its legal and your ready i dont think its a problem 6 years isnt that much diffrent so dont worry about it as long as your both happy thats all that matters ... (read in full...)
What happened to me? I think my drink may have been laced?
Q. Hey there! Im really really confused and getting really down about what has happened as i dont understand how/or what happened. The other week I went out with a group of friends. I had a few drinks and was feeling abit drunk (but Im usually re...
A. 10 October 2007: Yeah sounds to me like you had your drinked spiked if yu feel up to it i would go to the police and give a statement, your friends where wrong to leave you like that in such a state they should have dragged you out of there, i know at the moment you ... (read in full...)
I need sex, what do I do
Q. i feel like i am going to die without sex what should i do i am 12...
A. 10 October 2007: Your 12 its illegal you hormones are just kicking in and its not possible to die without sex all though catching a disease transmitted through sex can kill, wait till your older there are other ways to relieve your sexual urges without anyone else.... (read in full...)
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