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Im only 20 but ive been through alot of nasty hard times in my life and as ive seen many counsellors and spent many nights with friends crying on my shoulder i always seem to offer them good advice so have a reputation of being a great listener and a good adviser among my friends. I have a fantastic boyfriend who i love dearly but he is away alot as he is in the army so i have plenty of nights where im able to come on here and help others.

Im a friendly girl with alot of love and support to give and also am a memember of a forum for all sorts of problems, including self harming,depression and eating disorders so if you ever feel you need some extra advice from people who have those ghosts just ask.

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I'm suffering from horrible mood swings

Q.   Recently i have been suffering really bad mood swings, i know its normal at my age (14) to get them but theyre worse than normal. On Saturday I was really angry and snapping at everyone. But a secound later i was smiling and laughing. The same ...

A.   7 January 2008: Hmm well it could just be PMT or pms but it usually only last a few days and you get it just before your periods you can go on the pill for this which sorts it out but i think its just your hormones go a bit haywire and itl sort itself out i wish i ... (read in full...)

He is pressuring me sexually and now I don't want to have sex

Q.   I have been with my partner now for 4 years. Sex was quite normal at the start but it's now becoming a problem in our relationship. We used to make love nearly every day but it's now only about twice a week. I'm the one that doesn't want to make ...

A.   7 January 2008: Huni why are you still with this guy he is a sex addicted and needs help and you need to learn to say NO if there are things you dont like to do or dont want to do tell him who cares if he gets angry or upset your his partner not his mother he ... (read in full...)

I have no friends, I'm so unhappy

Q.   I'm only 13 years old(girl) and I wanna run away because I can't take my life anymore. I'm really young and I feel like I have no friends. I'm sometimes alone at school. What do I do?...

A.   7 January 2008: First of all *cuddles* im so sorry your feeling so low especially as your still so young have you tried after school activites or joining a club or a class where you can interact with other people? Please dont give up you will find people who you ... (read in full...)

Are cold sores really that bad?

Q.   Are herpes something to be worried about. I posted a question yesterday about this girl I like who piked at the last minute when we were going to meet. http://www.dea...

A.   3 January 2008: There unattractive but no reason not to see someone although they are contagious if you kiss someone (or they come into contact with any other part of the body if you get what i mean) just tell her it doesnt bother you or sort something out for ... (read in full...)

Any ideas on how to shift this cold and fever?

Q.   Ok two things here number 1) please help! number 2) what do you think ? Ok not a relationship question but i think i've got a head cold coming on i've had a head ache for two days had a fever n got a bit of a stuffy nose. Now this needs to go away ...

A.   3 January 2008: Rest and drink plenty of fluids (orange juice or cranberry are good as there high in vitamin c) also try taking sudafed it worked wonders for me. ... (read in full...)

I've been asked to go swimming with his mum and dad. Is this a bit strange?

Q.   hi im 18 an been with my boyfriend for nearly a year an a half. he recently asked if i would like to go swimming with him in the holidays and i said yes. now he tells me his mum and dad are coming too. is it just me or would anyone else find it awk...

A.   3 January 2008: Yeah its a little strange but maybe his parents just like to go swimming and dont get the oppurtunity very often, as long as you werent planning on having sex in the pool dont worry about it... (read in full...)

Will my mother get to find out I'm on the pill?

Q.   I had sex back in August, I had the 72 hour pill and it worked and everything, I also went on THE pill for two months. However this is not the problem, my mum is taking me today for a tetanus jab, is there any chance my doctors will mention my pills ...

A.   3 January 2008: Its called doctor patient confidentiality he cant breathe a word of what you two have discussed or what medication you have had (if he does you can take legal action against him). So breathe a sigh of relief your secrets are safe. Also its usually a ... (read in full...)

I caught him watching porn and now I'm not sure what is the right thing to do, to forgive or to leave him?

Q.   Hi I broke up with my guy of 7 years because he looked at porn, joined a sex chat site,and chatted to girson aol aswell ascreating a myspace profile, notmentioning me and tatus single. All this happened over a month when we had a row and we w...

A.   3 January 2008: Ok online we can be who we want say what we want and not have to worry about what happens because its NOT REAL its a fantasy online people create alternate personalities (not all people).Men watch porn its just what some men do you have to accept ... (read in full...)

Do I want to know the details of my girlfriend's previous sexlife, or is it better to leave it be?

Q.   Ok, so my girlfriend has told me that she fooled around with her ex-boyfriend (her boyfriend at the time), and I mean I want to know exactly how far they went together but not really sure how to ask or even to ask, I mean I really care about her and ...

A.   3 January 2008: In all honesty some things are best left unanswered (like talking about previous partners) things changed and insecurities grow the fact is she is with you now not him so just learn to get over her past and work on your futures. ... (read in full...)

If I get pregnant, should I tell my mum or is it better having an abortion without telling her?

Q.   Me and My Boyfriend Have Been Together For Over A Year and In September We Decided To Have Sex. Everything Was Fine When We Has Sex But The Other Day We Ran Out Of Condoms So We Had Sex But He Pulled Out When He Was About To Cum. The Only ...

A.   3 January 2008: I would tell your mum but only if you are pregnant (you dont want her worrying if your not)abortins are something your parents should know about and i dont think its the kind of thing you want to do alone (mums are usually more understanding then ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend cheated on me but she says nothing was wrong in our relationship, what can I do to understand why this happened?

Q.   Hi All My girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me in december with somebody from work. As you can understand i was pretty shocked by this and am still hurting now. I asked her why she did this and she said that she didnt know why. I asked her if the...

A.   3 January 2008: Im sorry this happend but well done for tryng again and trying to sort this out,maybe she was just unhappy about something and it was spare of the moment, maybe she wanted to test you, maybe she thought things were going to well and wanted to shake ... (read in full...)

I'm 12 and ready for sex but I don't know if my partner is

Q.   i am 12 and are ready for sex but i don't know if my partner is what should i do? Should i just go up to her and ask her...

A.   2 January 2008: Your 12? And you want sex but are unsure that your partner wants it? At 12? You have to be joking you need to WAIT your way to young to be having sex or be thinking about trying to get someone else to have sex with you hang on to your virginity ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and he's 17, is that too much of an age gap?

Q.   ok im 15 years old and im dating a guy whos 17 turning 18 in febuary, we've been going out for a good while now. not having sex or nething. and he told me sex can wait forever. he just likes spending time with me, i really like him! but my parents ...

A.   2 January 2008: Talk to your parents and tell them that your not having sex just enjoy being together and see if that helps after all its only 2 years there probably more worried that your having sex then the age diffrence, if you just talk with them and act mature ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my older sister

Q.   hi, i am 15 and in love with my 20 year old sister. when i was about 10 she used to put lip stick on and kiss me on my cheek ect. how do i find out if she loves me without me asking her...

A.   2 January 2008: No offence but incest is a crime and its more then likely she loves you BUT as her lil brother not anything else so i definetly wouldnt tell her but try and find a girl your own age who IS NOT a relative ... (read in full...)

I like this girl and need advice on how to ask her out!

Q.   hey um i like this girl and am kind of sure that she likes me. i wanna ask her out (as in "please be my girlfriend?" or "are you interested in going to a movie with me?" at school on Jan. 7 so i'd need the advice by then. Anyway, this question is a ...

A.   2 January 2008: Ok you can either ask her out face to face,email,text ring her, but dont ask our right "hey wanna be my girlfriend" be subtle as her out to a movie or round to yours to watch a movie do something she likes, its always best to build up a frienship ... (read in full...)

How do you have cyber sex?!

Q.   How EXACTLY do you have cyber sex? Becuase i've been going out with this girl for a while now over the net and she's implied she would like to do it... but i'm not sure if i want to..... ...

A.   2 January 2008: Cyber sex is just dirty talk you just tell her what you would do to her or want her to do to you (and as its not real get as creative as you like)but becareful people arnt always what they seem online and if you know her in person really watch out ... (read in full...)

I'm 16 with a baby and pregnant again, the father has left me, please help!

Q.   Hey there, this is a pretty big question and i know you will think im stupid when you hear the first bit but if you can help me at all i would appreciate it. OKay im 16 and have been with my boyfriend since we were 13, However we only beca...

A.   2 January 2008: Wow well down for coping so well it musnt be easy for you, you need to listen to what your boyfriend needs to say things might not work out between you but thats no excuse for him not to be a father, i think you also need to talk to your parents and ... (read in full...)

My partner hit me, and I'm 10 weeks pregnant with his child. I'm confused...

Q.   i am 10 weeks pregnant and have a child already to the same guy, he argued with me because he wanted the house tidying and because i said i was changing my daughter he cme up to my face and threw a tea towel at me in my face so i went in to his face ...

A.   2 January 2008: Has this happend before i know its been asked but really think about it really search your mind because to be honest usually its starts off gradually before it becomes serious and you end up in hospital. Your pregnant you have a child do you trus... (read in full...)

Stay with the man I love or follow my dreams??!!

Q.   Hay there aunts and uncles. Hope you can help! So the story is - ive recently got back with an ex b'f of mine but having doubts about the relationship, not because I don't love him because i do but because i want to travel abroad. My wh...

A.   2 January 2008: Pack your bags get on a plane and GO! Its your dream how many people get the chance to follow there dreams go now or you wont go at all, tell your boyfriend that if you want it to work he has to wait or move on you never know who you will find when ... (read in full...)

I seem to be pre occupied with death! Whats going on????

Q.   okay, this isn't your usual problem. But it is really becoming a problem. I have a 2 year old son and a loving partner we are a happy family all in all. But I am becoming convinced that I am going to lose either my son or my partner, or both...

A.   2 January 2008: Huni at one point in all of our lives we have all had to come to terms with death and the fact that yeah we are all going to die its the only thing we have ever been garrunteed in our lives we have to cherish every moment and every memory, life ends ... (read in full...)

How do I make him want me?

Q.   Im gonna be specific in this question and give detail, im 15, and i met someone a year older than me through a friend, we got chatting and everytime my friend was chillin with me, i would ask him 2 come round aswell, because at first i felt more ...

A.   1 January 2008: You cant push him into want to get back together, and i have to ask did things start going wrong after he stayed over and nothing happend? Because if so he is probably looking for an easy girl not a girl who respects herself (if not i apologize i ... (read in full...)

Why do women love to be treated badly?

Q.   Now this will cause a stir.. and to the girls on this board. i mean no offence but someone has to say it. Why do women like/love to be treated like crap? i'm 25 years old. i don't drink, don't smoke. and i don't do drugs. i'm by no means God...

A.   1 January 2008:  I dont know what sort of women you meet but im definetly not into nasty guys ive been treated badly enough by guys who seemed nice to bother with the guys who know there ass holes and act up to it, just be yourself its more attractive then being an ... (read in full...)

My period is starting just before I'm suppose to meet my boyfriend for a romantic trip away. How can I tell him I can't sleep with him?

Q.   Hi! I was just wondering if anyone had any advice. I'm meeting my boyfriend for a romantic night away in 2 days but my period is just about to start. I have a really irregular cycle at the moment so there was no way i thought it would come this ...

A.   1 January 2008: I would tell him now but its definety nothing to be embarresed about every woman has a period and everyone knows that. And just so you know just because your on your period doesnt mean you cant have sex i know it sounds gross but if you get killer ... (read in full...)

I'm not gay, I have a girlfriend, but I'm turned on by gay men, why is that?

Q.   I am a 14 year old boy and I am "turned on by gay things". I dont want to be gay I have had a girl we have been going out for over a month and she wants to have sex so do I but im scared i want be preparied for....

A.   1 January 2008: Your explorng your sexuality and your hormones are going bonkers its most likely a faze so nothing to worry about and as for having sex with your girlfriend i think your a bit young so i would wait! ... (read in full...)

I'm 14 and in love with a 30 year old and don't know what to do

Q.   I'm in love with a guy who is 30 im 14 I really love him he isnt married but he has a girlfriend with a 5 yr old son I loveee his son to death his girl I wish she would drop dead hes my cuzins friend I'm always at my cousins house seeing him he ...

A.   1 January 2008: How evil are you wishing someone dead thats so selfish you wishing someone dead so this guy that you "love" can be unhappy because the woman he most likely loves is dead, lets face it you and him are NEVER going to happen it would be a crime and ... (read in full...)

My Mom snoops when I'm on the internet, I find her lack of trust very irritating, how do I get her to stop?

Q.   hi i am 14 and in year 10 and my mom keeps on being nosy about what i do on the internet.i am not doing anything bad or wrong all i do is go on msn and myspace maybe play on games. she clearly thinks i am up to somthing which is wrong she always a...

A.   1 January 2008: I know its irritating im 19 and my mum still checks what im doing on the net (she even talks 2 my friends on msn but thats cause they like her) but your mum does it because you always hear horror stories on the net "girl runs off with man she met on ... (read in full...)

Do condoms really work?

Q.   Okay so im really in love with my boyfriend and we want to have sex. Im scared the condom may break and so is he. He has everything going for him amaazing soccer player, super hot, and smart. He feels like it would be one of those " he had ...

A.   1 January 2008: Just to let you know ive been on the pill since i was 15 and i havnt gained a pound and my depression is not linked to my pill there are lots of types and its stops you worrying if and when a condom breaks.... (read in full...)

Do condoms really work?

Q.   Okay so im really in love with my boyfriend and we want to have sex. Im scared the condom may break and so is he. He has everything going for him amaazing soccer player, super hot, and smart. He feels like it would be one of those " he had ...

A.   31 December 2007: Ive used them many times and so have many of my friends and none of us have got pregnant they are safe but no contraception is 100% safe so there is always a risk but i think you will be fine but if your really worried go on the pill as well. But ... (read in full...)

I just broke up with him and he hasn't spoken since. Should I text him or what?

Q.   If there was anytime i need some help i need it now, i just broke up with my boyfriend and i dont just feel emotionally sick but i also feel physically sick...like i cant breathe and my stomach is in knots. This is the worst feeling in the world and ...

A.   31 December 2007: He is giving you spoace and letting you cool down just send a short sweet text and see if he responds ... (read in full...)

I feel so guilty, I deleted a text from his ex girlfriend without him knowing, am I wrong?

Q.   I feel so guilty, I saw a text from my boyfriend's ex girlfriend on Christmas Day saying she missed him, and I deleted it, so he has no idea she text. The background on this is that they broke up a year ago, just after Christmas. I have been with...

A.   31 December 2007: To be honest yeah your in the wrong but so is she for texting him all the time, i think you need to tell him and explain why you deleted the message then give him an ulitmatum you or her he needs to tell his ex to move on and get over it i dont ... (read in full...)

My hubby is into swinging amongst other things, but we rarely have sex, is this normal?

Q.   My husband is into dogging and swinging - we hardly ever have sex, when we do it is always after he has been stimulated by the internet or chat rooms,pictures, web cam etc. I always have to go on top and he never comes? We have been to swinging...

A.   31 December 2007: You need to talk to him tell him how you feel what you want and what you need, i know sex isnt the main part of a relationship but its a big part for connecting and expressing your love, you need to talk to him or agree to councilling and if he ... (read in full...)

We both want to have sex, but I am not great in bed, she on the other hand has a lot of experience, its burning me up inside, help me!

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for almost two months now, and we really want to have sex, but I'm dead afraid! We love each other and that is for certain. I am not a virgin, I just know that I am not that great at bed. She is younger than me and still ...

A.   31 December 2007:  I just have to tell you that my current boyfriend thought he was bad in bed and its the best sex ive ever had, so ignore your insecurities and just go for it. Tell her how you feel if you want your relationship to work you have to talk these th... (read in full...)

What side effects are associated with contraceptive pills? How does the doctor prescribe them (are a few visits compulsory)?

Q.   hi all was wondering when you go on the pill what can the side effects be and do i just go to the doctor and say i want to be on the pill and they give it to me then or do i have to make a few vists ...

A.   31 December 2007: There are many many side effects for using the pill infact theres a list in the packet but its just to warn you i have never had any problems with it but there are many diffrent types so if one isnt right try another one, and as for getting it you ... (read in full...)

Am I being paranoid thinking he had another girl over??

Q.   I don't know if i am being paranoid or not. My b/f of three years bought a new toliet seat cover and it was laying there for awhile. Meanwhile--in the three years that i have been with him--he has never really straighted up anything(like placing ...

A.   30 December 2007: To be fair i just think he tidied his place up because he realised how messy it was and had the time to clean up and he probably did it to please you, if he had a girl round dont you think he would have hidden the teddy you gave him? If your that ... (read in full...)

My husband has molested our daughter for years. What should I do now?

Q.   I would like your opinion on this serious issue. I was in bed with my husband over 20 years ago when my daughter, then aged about 2, climbed into be between us. After some time, I noticed my husband was getting aroused and I thought he was masturba...

A.   30 December 2007: First of all im so sorry this has happend but believe it or not this isnt as rare as you may think many people are abused by someone they know and trust and to be honest i think your daughter should seek councilling, and if you or her need to talk ... (read in full...)

I have a lump bigger than a grape in my vagina and I'm really scared, what could it be?

Q.   im so scared and i have tried to research this but don't know what is wrong with me, can somebody please help!! My vagina has been swolen and sore for the past week or so, and i got green thick discharge the other day too. I thought i had a ...

A.   29 December 2007: Go to the doctors sweetie it could be an ulcer in which case you have to get it removed (not as scary as it sounds just a bit uncomfortable)but go as soon as you can to get it checked out and make you more comfortable and put your mind at ease.... (read in full...)

What would you say, how young is too young?

Q.   Right then, I'd just like to ask your opinions on "how young is too young"? I'm 22, and have feelings for a younger girl, she's 15. I don't care about sex, I just have loads of feelings at the moment for her, I feel like she's too young, she ...

A.   29 December 2007: Its a 7 year age gap me and my ex had a 7 year age gap so i dont see the problem but as long as your not having sex till she is old enough and ready then go for it but take it slow show people your in it for love not sex.... (read in full...)

Will the pill still work in given circumstances?

Q.   HI, just a quick question regarding the pill. 5 days after my girlfriend finished her period, we had sex and i came inside her, she has been on the pill for about 3 years now, i was just wondering, will the pill still work, is there some sort of ...

A.   29 December 2007: As long as she takes the pill every day till the end of the pack during the break she is still protected untill the 7 days are up the only way she wouldnt be is if she has been ill or has been on antibiotics ... (read in full...)

Why won't she even let me take her shirt off?

Q.   K, so I'm just wondring why the girl I'm dating won't tongue kiss, and won't go past kissing at all. We've gone on 5 dates now, and talk all the time, but she won't tongue kiss, her version of making out is just repetitive pecks, which I'm cool w...

A.   28 December 2007: Its 5 dates she probably hasnt made up her mind up about you yet give her time dont pressure her and dont rush into anything otherwise she will think your rushing her and only after her for one thing which it sounds like you kinda are let her come ... (read in full...)

What would be the most unpainful position for my virgin girlfriend during sex? Other tips to reduce the hurt?

Q.   what would be the most unpainful position, for my girlfriend during sex? if the time comes i really dont want to hert her, what is the best way to make it as painless as possible for her? i would do enything, to keep from hurting her if i...

A.   27 December 2007: probably missionary but be gentle and go slowly with her the only way to make it less painful is make sure she is very turned on and wet but go at her pace if she looks like she is in pain STOP! ... (read in full...)

Would you let your husband go away for the weekend with a woman he fancies?

Q.   I have been with my husband for eleven years now, and although things are fairly good between us, he has developed a crush on another woman. He met her on a weekend away with the boys in the middle of summer, and has been sending odd messages her...

A.   27 December 2007: Now i dont know how much you trust your husband and how likely he is to cheat but if you want to know if there more then friends let him go but have all the details (where he is staying which room ect ect) send him off all happy and smiley and tell ... (read in full...)

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