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Would you let your husband go away for the weekend with a woman he fancies?
Q. I have been with my husband for eleven years now, and although things are fairly good between us, he has developed a crush on another woman. He met her on a weekend away with the boys in the middle of summer, and has been sending odd messages her...
A. 27 December 2007: Now i dont know how much you trust your husband and how likely he is to cheat but if you want to know if there more then friends let him go but have all the details (where he is staying which room ect ect) send him off all happy and smiley and tell ... (read in full...)
So many questions - anyone got any answers?
Q. Dear Cupid, So i've got myself in a real pickle. I've recently broke up with my ex girlfriend of 18 months. She cheated on me once in january, and then she was so amazing to me we got back together. She then went to uni, and i moved to italy f...
A. 27 December 2007: I would cut your ex out completely she is a liar and a cheat and you deserve better doesnt matter how sweet she can be the truth is that she cheated and lied about it and will probably do it again so just cut her out and forget about her. As for ... (read in full...)
The only person that ever notices me is my fiance. What should I do?
Q. o.k. so here is the thing I'm completely invisable to my family. They don't care what i want or what i say they just go on about their lives like i don't exist and i don't know what to do. I extremely close to lashing out but i don''t want to do ...
A. 27 December 2007: Why dont you tell them how you feel and if you cant do it face to face write them all letters telling them how you feel and see if it changes, nobody likes to feel invisible perhaps they dont realise what there doing and how there making you feel ... (read in full...)
We want to get engaged, but are we old enough and is it ok to wait 10 years to marry?
Q. My g\f wants to get engaged I love her a lot. I want to get engaged to but b\c she don't want to get married until she is 26 we will have to wait 10 years to get married. I love her and she loves me. Like I said I want to get engaged but i don't ...
A. 23 December 2007: Seriously you want to get engaged and married and your this young? I can understand that you want to show your commited to each other but SLOW down your so young and at this age love doesnt last forever (im not saying you wont be together forever ... (read in full...)
Is 13 - 17 too much of an age gap??
Q. Im 13 turning 14 in a month. He's 17 turning 18 in a month. Is he to old for me? He's had sex and i havent i told him that and he is absoulute cool with it. But is he to old by 4 years? x...
A. 23 December 2007: Dont worry about it its not a huge gap my ex was 7 years older then me age is just a number so if you connect well then dont worry, but you are to young to have sex wait till your ready and old enough and dont let him push you into anything as he ... (read in full...)
When should I take my morning after pill??
Q. The condom broke at around 7pm today, what time tomorrow should I ask the chemist for 'the morning after pill', what time do I need to take the pill before to ensure no pregnancies, and do my parents have to know?...
A. 23 December 2007: Your parents dont have to know but i believe the morning after pill can be taken 72 hours after unprotected sex but the longer you leave it the more chance the risk of being pregnant so i woulds take it ASAP... (read in full...)
Happy Xmas from DearCupid
Q. Happy Xmas everyone :-) The aunts who share their wisdom, the people who share their questions and the team of moderators who keep everything flowing onto the site! Plus the 350,000 people who visit each month Have a great Xmas! Feel free t...
A. 23 December 2007: HAPPY YULE TIME AND MERRY XMAS
Hope you have a good holiday and a nice break and enjoy the new year but please remeber to becareful! ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my Christmas grief??
Q. Hiya, I'll understand when you read this is you just tell me to grow up and get over it but i really need some help. Around November my dog that i'd had since i was 6 got quite ill and we didn't know what was wrong with her and in December she wen...
A. 22 December 2007: Im so sorry for your loss i know some people have no idea what your going through but animals are part of the family i cant tell you when it will get easier but i promise you it does with time, there is nothing you can really do to make you feel ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel I should end the relationshop purely because of age difference and people's disapproval... but I'd be so unhappy and miss him. What do you think?
Q. Hi there, I am 23 and my boyfriend is 42.We have been together almost 2 years.He is divorced with no children. When we met we became great friends and gradually got together..we are now living together and things are great. However, when pe...
A. 22 December 2007: Huni why break both of your hearts over what other people think finding someone you connect with (and who your parents like) is hard. Its about you, do you want to break up with him, can you live with the fact that you dumped a guy over age, why ... (read in full...)
My gf is ex-anorexic and has mental issues, becoming moody. If I don't behave in a certain way she gets mad and breaks up, which is emotional straining for me. How do I cope?
Q. hello I a a lesbian any my girlfriend is really feminine and I am too, but not as much as her. we've been together 9 months. She wants me to treat her like I was man as far as doing things for her. She is also ex anorexic and does have mental issu...
A. 22 December 2007: This is a very hard situation and i understand where she is coming from has she gone through counsilling to see if they can find whats behind these particular issues or maybe you could try couple counsilling. This seems very unfair on you and i ... (read in full...)
Depressed before period...Is there help for this?
Q. Hey..this is a silly question really... Basicly about a week before my period is due until it comes on I feel REALLy depressed...Suicidal even sometimes..It gets so bad that I cant even go and and cant stop crying...I know its only hormones...
A. 22 December 2007: I would go to the doctors for it they can give you something to sort you out probably the pill. ... (read in full...)
My brother has asked I not tell my parents that he is gay! What should I do?
Q. Basically I have suspected that my brother has been gay for years but he never answers questions on his personal life and showed many signs which suggested he was gay. I finally asked him yesterday and he confirmed this and said he had been in a ...
A. 22 December 2007: Being gay isnt a choice your born gay and its a hard thing to deal with (my brother was outed to me by his friends on his 18th birthday) he just has to do it in his own time he will come out to your parents when he feels its the right time and he ... (read in full...)
Isn't it unacceptable to expect a married (or even single) woman (teacher) to share a hotel room with a man-colleague on a business trip? Am I old fashioned?
Q. This question and asking for opinions is coming from me and my husband. I am a new teacher, I waited until our kids were all in school to go to college. I am a reading specialist, and received an opportunity to attend a 3 day seminare in anot...
A. 19 December 2007: I totally agree that is totally out of order why would they expect diffrent sexes to sleep in the same room thats just wrong, is there no way you can drive back and forth to the seminar or better yet get your husband to take some time off and book ... (read in full...)
She was cheating on me, how do I move on?
Q. hi im 22 just broke up with my long term girlfriend after i found out see was cheating on me just carnt seem to get her out of my head and carnt understand why she did it we were so happy now shes dating him and i know hes useing her and think...
A. 19 December 2007: She did it once she will do it again, dont take her back find someone better nicer and loyal, after all she will think "hmm well i cheated once and he took me back so maybe he will take me back the next time" no give up on her dont give her another ... (read in full...)
I think my 15 year old son was looking at my porn collection, how do I approach him?
Q. i believe my 15 yr old son has been looking at my few porn dvd collections which i kept well away from view in my room. i saw they ave been disturbed and one found under d bed where it should not be(maybe left in a hurry)I ave now gotten rid of a...
A. 19 December 2007: To be honest i wouldnt talk to him about it boys look at porn its a natural part of growing up you look at it so he probably thinks it is ok,imagine how embarresed he would be if you started to talk to him about it i doubt you will get many words or ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but I'm not sure how to prevent pregnancy
Q. I want to have sex but I am scared That I will get Pregnant Btu I really want to have sex so what should I do??...
A. 19 December 2007: I agree with everyone one else pill and condoms no birth control is 100% effective but you would have to be extremly unlucky to get pregnant while using both and never fall for "it doesnt feel as good with a condom" always protect yourself never ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin with low self esteem, all my friends are in relationships but me, how do I find a boyfriend?
Q. im 23 soon to be 24, ive never had a boyfriend,i was kind of seeing this guy and then it finished as i would not sleep with him untill i was sure. im still a virgin, all i can see in myself is im fat and ugly even tho my friends say im not fat or ...
A. 19 December 2007: Be grateful you got out of that relationship would have been worse if he dumped you after you had slept together (some men are just jerks)relationships and love come to all off is when wqe least expect it dont go looking for the right guy he will ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I won't find anyone to lose my virginity with
Q. I know I'm only 15, but I am really starting to worry that I will never lose my virginty. It's not that I don't want to, it's because I don't think that anyone would ever want to have sex with me! People at my school think I'm really wierd and don't ...
A. 19 December 2007: Sex isnt a big deal loads of people dont have sex till later in life the longer you wait the higher the chances are that you will lose it to someone who you care about and who cares about you, dont rush it having sex for the first time should be ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man!
Q. I am a 17 year old and I'm in love with one of my 30 year old managers...We've been seeing each other for a while...we've even had sex. But there is one problem he is married and has 2 kids of his own. I really want our relationship and love to ...
A. 18 December 2007: Get out get out get out get out!!!!!!! This is never going to happen he isnt going to leave his wife and kids for you, your his dirty little secret his younger woman thats it nothing else he might tell you he loves you but suprise suprise that Would ... (read in full...)
Could my girlfriend be cheating? How can I know for sure?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 15 year old male the started dating a 16 year old girl that says she loves me more than anyone but I don't know if that is true and I love her more than anyone. I recently looked on her myspace with her permisson an...
A. 18 December 2007: Well you can either believe her or not, it could just be people spreading nasty rumours out of jealousy and bitchiness or it could be true, you have to ask yourself "do i trust her?" if you can honestly say you trust her then just ignore this and be ... (read in full...)
I am feeling so unattractive! I was thinking of going out just to see if I would get hit on, to boost my self esteem.
Q. hi I shall be very short and sweet been with a guy for nearly 4 years. Since i was 16 basically He is the only guy I have had a serious relationship with and the only guy I have ever done anything sexual with beyond a quick kiss or french kissing (...
A. 18 December 2007: I dont think your the one with a problem i think its HIM, a man resisting a lap dance or a girl initaiting sex for a computer what a NERD, no wonder you have low self esteem with a guy like this dragging you down do yourself a favour and get rid of ... (read in full...)
Missed a call the other day and was wondering if it might be my ex.
Q. Hey all ! Me and my ex have been split up since may this year, we slept together until september, but this didnt work for me so i decided to try and forget about him. My ex hasnt called or text me in 3 months, he said he hated me and didnt want a...
A. 18 December 2007: It could be him but it might not be just turn your phone off at night and dont keep obbsessing he has moved on and so should you besides the only people who tend to call at that hour are usually perverts,drunks just weird most the time all 3 so i ... (read in full...)
I got this text from my ex and I am confused
Q. Ive got a dilemma (man! woman are funny creatures) ive been crazy about my ex for ages and finally mastered up the courage to tell her, she was shocked and said she's sleep on it. she then text me this morning want to know how i should approach...
A. 18 December 2007: Respect her wishes and back off she doesnt want you anymore in the romantic sense she just wants to be free and if you want her to be happy then leave her alone its harsh but she said it in the nicest way she could ... (read in full...)
I am always the one to initiate sex.
Q. Ok, so I have been dating my girlfriend for about 1 and a half years, and we have been through a lot together. I am a junior (almost senior) in college and she is working at her dad's bank as a teller, so she obviosly gets more money than I do (her ...
A. 18 December 2007: Tell her how you feel she probably doesnt realise that its what you want from her dont forget she is probably tired and sometimes just wants to lay there, just be patient tell her what you want and need and take it slow give her time to get used to ... (read in full...)
Going on tour with my band and getting nervous
Q. In about 2 more months, my band memebers and I heading our first tour out in TN, at a club. Our other friends, The secrets, other band taught us everything we should sknow about tours. The bad news is 1) I get really nerves because we never ...
A. 18 December 2007: Sweetie it would be weird if you didnt get nervous take a deep breathe your gonna blow there minds and you know this just go out let go of everything and be the rockstar you are, while your out there your a diffrent person and you need to live as ... (read in full...)
Is a 7 year age diff too much?
Q. well i actually want to know if it is wrong to date someone who is like 7years older than i am...
A. 18 December 2007: If you have a connection and get on well and have a good time together why should age matter ... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend tried to rape me! What should I do?
Q. hi there i was wondering if there is anyone out there who can help me out with this back in august i was almost raped by my ex boyfriend i dumped him excatly for this reason and im now with someone who respects me and loves me well my ex bo...
A. 17 December 2007: Go to the police and report him before it happens to someone else he is adangerous and i would avoid him at all costs... (read in full...)
He forced himself on me but it didn't hurt. Does that mean I am still a Virgin?
Q. I don't know what happened here. My boyfriend and I were making out when he removed my clothes and told put his penis down there, he said he wouldn't penetrate that we are just playing. Before I knew it he was using force though I didn't feel any ...
A. 15 December 2007: Well im not to sure if your a virgin or noti dont really know what happend but id dump this LOSER what a jerk forcing yourself on you to me thats RAPE! ... (read in full...)
I want to spice up sex, what can I do? (neither of us lives alone)
Q. been with my boyfriend now for three and a half years although sex is ok it need spicing up i want to do something really out of the blue that will turn him on straight away but its hard because he lives with his mum - and so do i, so the house is ...
A. 13 December 2007: Get some stockings supenders the lot and wear it under your clothes then go out on a date with him and let him discover what is under all your clothes i garuntee it will get him going! ... (read in full...)
My ex has half my heart, but my current boyfriend has the other half
Q. Ok lets start out with this i'm 17 so is my boyfriend and he's so sweet but has ADHD and he gets on my nerves alot but ya o well I love him alot but he really not my first love if you know what I mean my ex ( first love ) came to my window crying ...
A. 13 December 2007: Well you do have to choose so who do you see a future with who do you think about most who gives you butterflies in your stomach when you kiss/touch/see him? If you know that then you know who to choose... (read in full...)
My boyfriend chooses his mates over me.
Q. My boyfriend chooses his mates over me, what does this mean? does he love me enough?...
A. 13 December 2007: It means his friends where there first and they will be there if/when you break up you dont abadon your friends for your girlfriend just enjoy the time you do spend tobgether or set a day in the week where it is just you and him ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to see me. Should I tell him to take a hike, or go see him?
Q. hi all ok so last month i met this great guy whos 22 and im 26 and we get on great and really like each other , ive met his family and we make each other laugh , the age gap between us doesnt bother me or him at all anyway a few days ago i...
A. 13 December 2007: Stay away from him dont even think of going to meet him you left for a reason remeber that and stay away! ... (read in full...)
Could my french teacher fancy me?
Q. I'm 15 and I have a crush on my french teacher. A friend of mine told her and she went red in the face. Now she knows everytime I look at her she quickly looks in the opposite direction but she stares at me constantly when I don't look at her. Do ...
A. 13 December 2007: Nope i think she is embarressed and trying not to encourage you ... (read in full...)
I have been ignoring his calls. Am I being rude, or smart?
Q. There's a guy who I worked with for 6 yrs., and I never really liked being around him because he would throw fits and get mad for no reason, and start throwing things and punching things at work which the boss did nothing b/c he is afraid of ...
A. 13 December 2007: Dont answer your phone any guy who says he wants to rape you and punch your belly while your pregnant is dangerous and messed in the head i wouldnt answer my phone in fact i would change my number or get your hubby to answer and tell him to tell the ... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed of my big clitoris!
Q. I am a woman of 25 and I have big clitories. I am so shy of this to have a relationship with men. I have shown to one of my girlfriend the other day and she said I have to see a doctor so they can circumsize it. do you think it is a good Idea?...
A. 13 December 2007: Dont do it! You will regret it be happy with your body and smile at the fact that atleast your partners will know where it is! ... (read in full...)
I don't want to pay to meet someone - any good sites that you can recommend?
Q. Dear agony aunts and uncles, I would like some advice about online dating sites. I would like to know if any of you have any recommendations about what sites are good or what might be scams. I would prefer something free since paying to meet s...
A. 13 December 2007: flirtbox.com or smooch.com its free an fun and if you get any unwanted messages you can block memebers just remever to post a pic and do your profile you will get more visitors that way.... (read in full...)
My wife says no sex until I loose weight! Am I wrong to be thinking I shouldn't have to lose weight to save my marriage?
Q. my wife married met me, married me, and great sex with me, i was a big man when she met me....now we've been married for 5 years and fot the last few years, she dosnt want to have sex with me anymore becasue of my weight, she says i need to lose ...
A. 12 December 2007: She is probably doing this to try and make you lose weight for your health there are alot of problems that come with being overweight so get in shape to save your sex life and your relationship and more importantly your health, although it is proven ... (read in full...)
Flirting gone way, way too far... should my husband's co-worker be told?
Q. My husband is in love with a co-worker. She started working at his company in August 2006. He shared with me that he was in love with her in May 2007. He has always been an incessant flirt, and she probably doesn't realize how much he "gets off" ...
A. 12 December 2007: I think she is enjoying the attention but i dont think she has any idea how this is effecting your relaionship so i would get in contact and let her know and if she continues then i wouldnt be a door matt anymore i would pack my things and leave i ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bleed after first time sex?
Q. hey there people in dear cupid land... me and my boyfriend have been together 6 months yesterday :) and we decided to have sex ( he's 18 and im 17) it was a fantastic end to the eveining but... is it normal to bleed a little bit after sex im ...
A. 12 December 2007: Yeh its normal to bleed after your first time and you might be a little sore but its perfectly normal your body just isnt used to sex, the first few times might be a bit uncomfortable but again thats normal so dont worry yourself, just enjoy it and ... (read in full...)
Is it really ok to put my hands down my pants and not worry about germs??
Q. Okay. When i masturbate, and try new things, my penis area - testicles and bum - usually touch things around the house, like a carpet or wall or chair. i keep thinkng i need to clean these areas up and remove bacteria. but none of my friends do. not ...
A. 11 December 2007: Its always best to wash your hands after touching yourself because yes there are germs and its not nice for anyone else ... (read in full...)
Do you think he likes me?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl and I'm still in public school. Some of my friends think this guy likes me. I'm not gonna say his name. On the first day of school he winked at me. One time in gym class I was just standing in the middle of the gym and he ...
A. 11 December 2007: Be careful with this guy he seems a little odd to me he could just have a huge crush on you but on the otherhand could just be messing with you and acting like this with all the girls, just see where this goes but be careful ... (read in full...)
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