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If I'm not bulimica then what I'm I?
Q. So for the past 2 years or so I have noticed that my ways of eating have changed. Everytime I eat about 5 mins. later i throw it up. I dont make myself do it or anything, it just happens. Ive told my mom about this before, but she says im fine, and ...
A. 6 February 2008: Go to a doctor ASAP especially if you have lost alot of weight with it it could be something physically wrong with you, beg your mum to take you because this isnt NORMAL.... (read in full...)
Should I live my life based on horoscopes?
Q. i want to go out with this boy who is realy funny and i think he likes me as a friend, but i dont know weather to ask him out because my horoscopes in a magazine say we shouldnt go out. what should i do???...
A. 6 February 2008: 99% of horoscopes are made up can you really believe that everyone born at certain times of the year all have the same fate, for example if it says all aries will fall in love then have a terrible accident, its kinda hard to believe that everyone ... (read in full...)
What "nick" names do ladies like to be called?
Q. What do you ladz like to be called in a relashionship? e.g girls mostly get called babe...
A. 5 February 2008: I hate being called babe but my friends all call me baby (its a nickname and nothing to do with the pig Babe) i think hun or huni is a sweet nickname... (read in full...)
Can you discover paternity without a DNA test?
Q. I'm pregnant with two baby daddy. I slept with these guy in the same month. How can I find out which one is the daddy without DNA test....
A. 5 February 2008: The only way to know for certain is a DNA test theres no other real way to know for sure ... (read in full...)
How does the rhythm method work? I want to use it.
Q. How on earth do you work out the rhythm method? Is this when you look at your period, and decide when it is safe to have sex? Could someone tell me how to do this? I'd really like to try and use it....
A. 5 February 2008: I would stick to condoms or the pill this method isnt exactly great for contraception and there is still the risk of pregnancy or catching STI's ... (read in full...)
My bf of 4 years lied to me about his age. How could I trust him again? Should I move on?
Q. I recently found out that my boyfriend who i have been with for 4 years just lied to me about how old he was. I started getting suspicious about his age only a few months ago when he refused to show me his drivers license, i knew something was up. ...
A. 4 February 2008: Well lots of people lie about there age but usually come clean after being confronted the fuirst time but he has lied yto you and denied this for years yeah its only a year but he has lied about it and convinced you that he wasnt lying, if he can ... (read in full...)
How can I get sex?
Q. I'm a 15 year old boy who needs sex, and I don't know how to get it. Any Suggestions?...
A. 29 January 2008: If you cant figure out where to get girls for sex you should stick to lady palm and her 5 friends, sex isnt a drug you dont need it you just want it but at your age you should wait to give your virginity to someone you love and care about not ... (read in full...)
I had fantasies about my wife being slutty with other men, but now we're acting them out I'm not so sure!
Q. well where do i start,im 35 and been married for 16yrs,i have 3 children with my wife,i have worked away from home for the past 14yrs and i am away for long periods at a time,for yrs we have had fantasies about my wife being a slut,as of recently ...
A. 29 January 2008: Fantasies are usaually better when they are just fantasies nothing more the reality isnt so glamourous and sexy and people usually get hurt, you need to sit your wife down and tell her exactly how you feel about it and tell her that you dont want ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't come. How can I help?
Q. Apologies for this being so long, but I feel that background information could help a little. I've been with my current boyfriend for over 10 months now, and we both love and care about each other more than anything. I lost my virginity to him after ...
A. 29 January 2008: Ok my boyfriend had the same problem but we managed to solve it by having sex regulaly ok it still takes a while but he manages and a really great tip is to get those durex play things the tingly one is the best and there are even condoms with it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends best friend makes me horny!
Q. hey people.... i really need help... basically,theres this boy iv liked for SOO long,and he knows it,,but now im going out with his best friend,he doesnt know about this,and at school he comes up to me ,,,and touches my but and stuff,,and it ma...
A. 29 January 2008: Yeah if you thinking like this with someone who isnt your boyfriend you shouldnt be in a relationship, break up with your boyfriend tell this guy you want some fun and please for the love of god use a CONDOM ohh and be prepared for your boyfriend to ... (read in full...)
He wanted Phone Sex, I rejected the idea, now he doesn't answer his calls. What can I do?
Q. I have been seeing this guy very on and off for a couple of months. He is younger than me, but really nice, we get on really well but he has never wanted a relationship and has always been really bad with cancelling / answering texts etc. So clearly ...
A. 28 January 2008: This guy has you on a leash doesnt he he wants sex and there you are he feels horny and your at the end of the phone lucky him but poor you, you want a relationship but seems to me he wants sex and nothing more i would just leave him the hell alone ... (read in full...)
Any time I get a call from a number I don't reccognize, I don't answer. Does this make me paranoid?
Q. Any time anyone calls me, if I don't know the number, I won't answer it, and I feel guilty too as if whoever's calling knows I am unintentionally anwering to avoid them. Is this normal, or am I paranoid? I feel bad a lot, like that everyone hates me ...
A. 27 January 2008: I dont answer if i dont recognise the number of the number is witheld because ive had prank calls and dirty calls before, but i tend to text numbers who i dont know to find out who they are, your not paranoid your being careful.... (read in full...)
Your points on the happiness spectrum
Q. What were the most happy moments in your life so far? And what were the most unhappy ones? ...
A. 27 January 2008: Happiest- Passing my college course (was a long course and my grandad was very ill at the same time) watching my kittens grow up (im 19 rather kittens then kids right now) my bf telling me he loved me for the first time seeinf AFI (my fav band)for ... (read in full...)
What not to wear
Q. Hi im going to a linkin park concert later on tonight what would you advise me to wear? Because I dress like a chav and thats not a good look for a concert of that genre. Any ideas?...
A. 27 January 2008: Best to wear a t-shirt or a strappy top because it gets very very hot in gigs and if your in the front theres the fear of fainting, black troussers or skinny jeans and flat shoes (sneakers,vans docs whichever say "im not a chav i belong here") ohh ... (read in full...)
Want to give it a shot
Q. Okay, so I've known this guy all my life. Our parents were good friends but then when we started our different schools we never saw each other. Our parents sent each other christmas cards but we never met up as families. We didn't really know each ...
A. 27 January 2008: If you want to gve it ago then do it if it doesnt work out and your both not happy then you can still be friends but if your lucky and it works could be the best thing to happen to you both.Put your worries away and follow your heart. ... (read in full...)
13 and havent had my period...is this normal??
Q. Hi i'm 13 and i haven't had my period yet. Is this bad? also even if i haven't had my period masturbation is still ok right?...
A. 24 January 2008: Some people dont start till there 17 and you dont stop growing till your 18 anyway so dont worry about it enjoy the cramp free months. ... (read in full...)
I need help in seeing the reality of my own pain! What the most painful thing that has happened in your lives?
Q. What are the most painful things happened to you,,in your lifetime so far? I'm curious, what are the most hurtful things, what happened t others, and how they deal with it, as I feel, my life is full of pain, and everybody else seem to have smooth ...
A. 22 January 2008: Well the basics of my life so far and no im not making this up i would have to be seriously messed up if i did (yes ive been accused of lying but unfortunatly i have the scars and the medical notes as proof)ok here we go (bear in mind im only 19) ... (read in full...)
Should I worry about not being able to orgasm during sex?
Q. I'm getting quite worried, because I just can't orgasm during sex. I can when he licks me out, or rubs my clitoris, but during actual intercourse it doesn't really turn me on to a point where I can orgasm... Is there a problem? I know there's ...
A. 21 January 2008: I have the same problem and i think alot of women do so dont worry your normal and your not alone try rubbing your clit while your having sex or there are many toys you can buy that you can use with him, so dont give up hope just find what works for ... (read in full...)
Is this normal or am I overreacting?
Q. hi i just wanted some advice my friend of 15 years, we are both in our 20s. the other day she mentioned she had been seeing a counseller (as she has a few problems with her past and depression etc)and that the counseller had told her that she should ...
A. 18 January 2008: HMMM sounds to me that she wanted to ask you i dont believe a counsellor would ask there patient to find negative things about them selves that just makes the condition worse, being a patient myself its always about the positivty if i had to ask my ... (read in full...)
Is this verging on rape?
Q. I'm in Year 11 at school, and one of the boys who I've like for a while is apparently into me. I would do anything for him to like me, and we are quite physical anyway. We have intimate hugs a lot. (He's always been a player.) However, lately, ...
A. 18 January 2008: Jeeez darling why are you letting him get away with this he is trying to use you for sex tell him to f*** off he cant get away with this and the more you talk and almost let him the more he will do it till he does rape you this isnt someone you ... (read in full...)
If your happy and you know it!!!
Q. I know this isn't a question, but I'm just happy =] I want the whole world to know!...
A. 18 January 2008: Wow good for you nice not to know your happy *hugs* ... (read in full...)
First time Brazillian bikini wax..any info tips?
Q. Ok so i know this isnt really a relationship question but me and my friend are getting our first brizilian bikini wax on friday and i wanted to know if there is anything i should do to make it less painful or something. i also have really sensitive ...
A. 18 January 2008: Well i was just asking as its a very intimate wax and most women do it for people they have sex with and as your underage just seems a little odd, can last few hours can last a week depends on the skin type type of wax the therapist doing it the ... (read in full...)
First time Brazillian bikini wax..any info tips?
Q. Ok so i know this isnt really a relationship question but me and my friend are getting our first brizilian bikini wax on friday and i wanted to know if there is anything i should do to make it less painful or something. i also have really sensitive ...
A. 17 January 2008: Ok as an expert in waxing i do have to say this is one of the most embarressing waxes as you even have to put your legs in the air and you are naked from the waste down, it will hurt more if your due on in a week or few days so be warned of that, ... (read in full...)
I'm currently sinking into depression about my friends leaving me out.
Q. I feel left out from my friends constantly and it's starting to really drag me down, I never stop crying, and I'm plummeting into depression. I've tried talking to them and they say they didn't realise but I've brought it up often enough now for ...
A. 14 January 2008: Im sorry you feel like this but joni in with your friends more start aranging more things take the lead in conversations and if that doesnt work find people who will treat you better, things do get better i found my truest frinds in the last years ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that a girl talks to her brothers about everything in her life including her sex life?
Q. hi everyone I'm really confused! Is it wrong that a girl talks to her brothers about everything in her life including her sex life? I'm a 21 year old girl and I have 2 brothers (24 and 18) we used to talk about everything with each other like ...
A. 14 January 2008: Ok talking with your brothers is fine as long as you dont go into too much detail i think the weird thing is not wearing clothes around each other ... (read in full...)
Problems with bullying...
Q. Hi, well I have a problem with bullying. It's not physical but at the moment they are mentally and verbally bullying me by making remarks about me to my best m8 and also shouting horrible names at me and calling me a tramp. There are 2 main culprits ...
A. 14 January 2008: Im very sorry that your being bullied i know what its like i went through my entire school life being bullied (my teachers at my school where useless they were lucky to last a year so although i did tell someone they werent there long enough to ... (read in full...)
How can I become a more socieable person without being too happy-happy?
Q. Seven months ago I had a social life, a girlfriend and things were going well. Sort of. Beneath that, I was always rather discontent. The relationship was turning sour, and after high school ending my old best friend and I were drifting apart. S...
A. 13 January 2008: Well you know what you want you know what you need but just want to know how to get it all right? Your at university and the main thing i know about students is most of them are pretty social and like a drink, invite the girl you talk to in one of ... (read in full...)
I am losing weight but worried I am becoming bulimic, please help.
Q. I have been trying to lose weight for two years now and i have been successful but the problem is i think i am becoming bulimic... Last month i let my self loose and got rid of it..but as soon as i started to watch out for my weight i started ...
A. 13 January 2008: Sweetie the main thing is that you relaise that something isnt right most people with an eating disorder dont tell anyone its there one dark secret,if you want to lose weight healthy and safely go and see your doctor and get referred to a dietician ... (read in full...)
Could my gf get pregant if she used the shower after I masturbated??
Q. Can a woman get pregnant if she walks into the shower after a guy masturbates in it (if both don't shower together and the guy doesn't penetrate the woman)-- say if a she takes a shower anywhere between 5-30 minutes later? I masturbated in the c...
A. 13 January 2008: Its very very very very unlikely but i hope you thouroughly cleaned the shower after peeing in it thats just gross ... (read in full...)
Extra tips to increase the pleasure? Am I on the right path?
Q. My boyfriend says I'm already amazing at oral sex, and he always responds really well, but is there anything I can do to make him enjoy it even more? I know the head is good to stimulate, and I always hold his shaft and move it up and down, and ma...
A. 11 January 2008: Hum or moan i know it sounds stupid but it causes vibrations so will feel even more amazing also try licking from bottom to tip with the very tip of your tongue but do it slowly ... (read in full...)
He jokingly said I am not active whilst in the missionary position, when HE is in charge. Any suggestions - to surprise him?
Q. Usually, me and my partner have sex in the missionary position. I'm not sure I like this as much as I did to begin with though, for several reasons. 1) It's hard to change into other positions, as he is in charge. 2) He jokes that I don't do much ...
A. 11 January 2008: Ok well put your legs right round him and pull him really close as you move with him also you can play with yourself as your doing it, you could put your legs over his shoulders for a change, another great position where you can take control is you ... (read in full...)
I feel so alone, and like nobody pays attention to me. I can't stop crying. What can I do?
Q. Recently, I've started feeling depressed quite a lot. Just a few nights ago, I couldn't stop crying, and I didn't see the point in my life. I'm in a relationship with a really great guy, but when we argue, or something comes between us, then I j...
A. 10 January 2008: *Cuddles* Huni im so sorry you feel like this and i know its terrible ive been battling depression on and off for a very long time and i know how hard it is sometimes you just need to talk and let it out but i find if i write how i feel down (just ... (read in full...)
Does a bigger Penis mean better sex?
Q. I can't stave off something that has made me massively insecure and jealous. My girlfriend of 3 and a half years recently broke up with me for another guy. It was the worst experience of my life, literally :( but it's been 4 months since then and ...
A. 10 January 2008: Nope doesnt make a diffrence its not the size its how a guy can use it to big and its hurts to have sex i think she is just trying to make you jealous so dont worry ... (read in full...)
Why do so few women masturbate?
Q. OK, so I know the question I'm going to ask doesn't apply to all women but... Why do so few women masturbate? I was doing an interveiw on facebook, and with each new question it shows you the answer given by the last 10 participants. The que...
A. 10 January 2008: Its called lying women dont like to admit they do it but if they didnt then surely ann summers would have gone out of buisiness by now and as a loyal visitor or Anne summers i can tell you that it its mostly women in there buying for themselves ... (read in full...)
I want to blindfold him and talk dirty. What do I say?
Q. Well the situation is that me and my boyfriend spend time together, but not much time alone together because of school, and work and we don't really have our own place. Well this week well tomorrow we finally have some time to be alone together. So ...
A. 10 January 2008: Just tell him what you would like him to do with you or talk about what you have done with him before and tell him you love it when he........ but while you talk kiss him but kiss him randomly instead of goin from his lips down kiss his neck then ... (read in full...)
Which is hotter - blonde or brunette?
Q. A bit of a survey here... Are girls hotter as blondes? or brunettes? I would love to know your personal preferance... thnx xoxo ...
A. 10 January 2008: Depends on the shade of the colours or the colour of your skin certain hair colours can make you look pale and pasty you have to get examples and put them against your face to see what suits you (ive had mine all shades of browns but i have to say ... (read in full...)
Is it best to pass your driving test before having a baby?
Q. hi there, as you know i asked previously that i would like to have a baby with my new boyfriend and i am considering it as we are getting our own house and ive got my driving test at the end of the month and my boyfiend earns alot as he works two ...
A. 8 January 2008: It probably would be best to pass your driving test but dont start trying to have a baby to soon give yourself about a year of living together before trying to conceive then you will know if he is the right guy to have a child with. ... (read in full...)
She doesn't mind me smoking during sex but insists I wear a condom. Why?
Q. my girlfriend doesn't mind that I smoke but always insists that I wear a condom during sex-even though she's on the pill.Any blokes with a similar situation as to why?...
A. 8 January 2008: Because she doesnt want to get pregnant the pil isnt 100% effective (nobody knows that better then me i was conceived while my mum was on the pill) and the pill prevents her from getting STI's just respect her wishes she is being responsible... (read in full...)
Should I be pregnant at this age?
Q. Me and my boyfriend has had sex without a condom loads off times in the past month to hav a baby because last year we found out i was pregnant but got an abortion because we was not ready but now i dont no if i am pregnant now because i hav just ...
A. 8 January 2008: Use a condom why the hell do you want to get pregnant at the olderst your 15! Jeez be responsible and live your life, you get pregnant and have a baby at this young age i doubt your boyfriend will hang around because love at this young age usually ... (read in full...)
Is it legal to have sex with your cousin?
Q. Is it legal to have sex with you cousin (Fathers Brothers daughter) in the UK? Please help. My cousin has propositioned me and I feel the same. I'm not interested in whether you think its moral or not - I'm big enough to make my own decisions on ...
A. 7 January 2008: Well apparently its not illegal to sleep with your cousins (i did alot of asking around) its just strange something from "the hills have eyes" ... (read in full...)
I'm suffering from horrible mood swings
Q. Recently i have been suffering really bad mood swings, i know its normal at my age (14) to get them but theyre worse than normal. On Saturday I was really angry and snapping at everyone. But a secound later i was smiling and laughing. The same ...
A. 7 January 2008: Hmm well it could just be PMT or pms but it usually only last a few days and you get it just before your periods you can go on the pill for this which sorts it out but i think its just your hormones go a bit haywire and itl sort itself out i wish i ... (read in full...)
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