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I'm worried he might think I'm frigid, now! Was I just nervous?
Q. there is this guy who is 2 years older than me and we told each other a while ago that we really liked each other, nothing had gone any further than that but the other day i went to my friends house (not his!) and we got quite close Then yest...
A. 29 September 2007: Only do tongues if he does it first and kissing is natural dont worry yourself its a natural thing and it comes naturally ... (read in full...)
Can you check for STD's with a simple blood test?
Q. my girlfriend has had a past relationship and is wondering.. can you check for STI's with a simple blood test? thank you...
A. 28 September 2007: Blood test can only detect a few STI's the best thing to do is go and get you and your girlfriend tested its not that bad its a little embarressing first time but the people who work there do it again and again all day everyday there is nothing ... (read in full...)
He wants to do me "deep and hard" and "hardcore"... what does it all mean and will it hurt?
Q. hiya, you no if a boy wants to have sex with me yes what does he meaan by doing it deep and hard??will this hurt due to it being my first time having sex??he also said he wants to do me hard core is this painfull or will i enjoy it?? and is it norm...
A. 28 September 2007: Your way to young to be having sex and your first time should be special and with someone you care about and cares about you it should be gentle and slow, really ask yourself are you ready for sex? Do you want to have sex with this guy? Sex should ... (read in full...)
He's the best bf I've dated, but I can't get over our 2 year age gap!
Q. Dear Cupid i have a boyfriend who is 2 years younger then me. im not really comfortable with that age gap but he always make sure we don't let that come between us. out of all the guys i'v dated, he tops them all and he always remains me of his...
A. 28 September 2007: If he is the best boyfriend you have ever had why would you let a tiny 2 year age gap bother you so much, he doesnt let it so why do you? Dont risk a relationship over age espeically two years just dont think about it age after all is just a number. ... (read in full...)
Cellulite: I have it, I hate it. Will it put him off?? And how can I get rid of it?
Q. Cellulite... I have it, I hate it. I know that most women have it a little bit but I still can't get over how disgusting my legs look in certain lights! It's not terrible but it's there!! Anyway, I always have sex with the lights off for this ...
A. 27 September 2007: I hate to tell you but there is no real way to get rid of cellulite, people saying losing weight will do it but im afraid not even the skiniest of models have it even athletes you just dont notice because its usualy air brushed, there are some ... (read in full...)
My friend has just had a baby who might not make it. How can I comfort her and tell her I'm here for her?
Q. My co-worker friend just had a baby 3 months early and nobody knows if he is going to pull through. I messaged her through our company email (she just moved, so this is the only way I could contact her; don't know her new contact info!) letting her ...
A. 26 September 2007: He might make it just stay positive for her and let her know your thinking of her, thats all you can do for her just be there and be supportive.... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend cheated on me?
Q. Has my boyfriend cheated on me? Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and right at the start of our relationship he cheated on me when i promised him a filthy night that night - he said he had to go home - and i then later found...
A. 26 September 2007: The fact he cheated on you before and lied about it isnt a good sign, i just dont think you cant trust him and if you cant trust how can it work? I think he needs to see a concillor and talk about what is going through his head as i think he has a ... (read in full...)
I have period problems - can anyone give me some advice?
Q. hi everyone! i didnt have my period for about 2 months, so when it came, i had them for more than 2 weeks. that's "really" annoying, because it takes a long time before it ends and when i go to school it gets more annoying! arhgh! help! ps: do ...
A. 25 September 2007: You should go and see your doctor and get some advice there are other medcations you can take that might help, but there isnt alot else you can do taking the pill is the only real way to control periods.... (read in full...)
I know its wrong, (shes my teacher!)but I am going to win her back!
Q. I know we did wrong but please help me get her back, im 16 now! I cant stop thinking about this teacher. Me n my teacher got on really well then one day we kissed. From then on we kept seeing each other n planned to meet out of school but that ...
A. 25 September 2007: You wanted help and advice and we all gave it to you, i know its not what you want to hear but thats life, do you really want to see her go to jail and her teaching career disapear for life all because of you? Do you really think that would make her ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he might think I'm frigid, now! Was I just nervous?
Q. there is this guy who is 2 years older than me and we told each other a while ago that we really liked each other, nothing had gone any further than that but the other day i went to my friends house (not his!) and we got quite close Then yest...
A. 24 September 2007: Dont worry so much its obvious he likes you just talk to him and he wont think your frigid just because you have never passionatly kissed a guy to be honest he probably wont care and kissing will just come naturally just dont think about it.... (read in full...)
Do you think we are ready for sex yet?
Q. help i am 14 and me and my boyfrind love each other so much but we do oral things but we dont know if we are too young 4 sex please help and also there is one more thing my bf is poor and he has no money so i land up paying for everything but we ...
A. 24 September 2007: I agree with everyone else that you are way to young to have sex you can wait for that, and as for the money situation see if he can get a part time job or do things for free, like watching films at home or going for walks or just a good old ... (read in full...)
My oldest brother sexually abused me and left scars on my body. I want to tell someone, but I don't know if I could handle it.
Q. This may end up being rather long so i apologise in advance - its just tht i hav never really spoken about it in detail and i need help before it consumes me I think i was about 11 or so when it happend am not sure but i kno i was still in junior ...
A. 24 September 2007: http://z4.invisionfree.com/HealingFromWithin/index.php?act=idx I thik this website could really help you as it has memebers like me who have been sexually abused and there love and support has got me through some tough times they give so much adv... (read in full...)
I had to move, so my girlfriend said "she loves me, but can't anymore." Please help me!
Q. I wont bore you with the detail, but 5 months ago I came out of a relationship, or rather, I was thrown out of it by circumstance. I had to move away from this girl who I considered to be the love of my life. That may sound foolish, since she is my ...
A. 24 September 2007: Oh sweetie im really sorry that it had to end the way it did but never fear you will have a relationship like that again your young and she was your first love and it hurts so much right now but it gets better you will meet new people and fall in ... (read in full...)
He loves to give me Oral, but I worried I'll squirt on him!!
Q. hi when i have sex with my boyfriend, he always wants to lick me and kiss me on my vagina. but i get so wet i get embarrased that i will cum on him as sometimes it squirts out. Any advice?...
A. 24 September 2007: Dont worry just enjoy it im sure he loves it most men do ... (read in full...)
My bf beat me up, now he wants to talk about it and it's making me uncomfortable! Am I reacting how I should?
Q. a while back my boyfriend beat the crap out of me, like literally. i don't even want to talk about it. and for some silly reason i decided to stay with him. now he's getting into the wanting to talk about it phase and the other night he was like "ho...
A. 24 September 2007: I dont want to be cruel but leave him! He beat you and hurt you and your still with him! Huni you can do alot better then being with an abusive partner if he has done it once and you didnt leave or report him he could easily do it again, you deserve ... (read in full...)
My friend and I ended up in bed together after a night out. Am I a lesbian???
Q. hi the other evening i went out with my girlfriend and we got drunk, when we came home we ended up playing around which led to a kiss.we then had the most amazing sex i never thought i was a lesbian but she gave me orgasms tht no man has ever done.i ...
A. 24 September 2007: Women are normally better at pleasing women because they know what they like just because you enjoyed it doesnt make you a lesbian your experimenting trying new things sex with women can be fun its new and exciting, if you are a lesbian you wouldnt ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I climaxed during my first time? Is it normal to be sore for days afterwards?
Q. i recently lost my virginity and people say you never have an orgasm on the first time. Am i weird because i did?? and Is it natural to be sore for a couple of days afterwards?? ...
A. 24 September 2007: Congratulations on your first time and actually enjoying it its completely normal to be sore afterwards for a few days because your body isnt used to sex the more you have it the less it will hurt just remeber be safe and dont let anyone push you ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be annoyed that hes taken her myspace address?
Q. Hey guys, My boyfriend works at a race course and recently they had a kind of Bikefest things where there were motorbikes for sale. And what do you get with Motorbikes? Slutty Teenage Promoters! Ok well apparently they asked him if he wanted a...
A. 24 September 2007: Maybe you should be honest with him and tell him your annoyed, being honest is always the best thing to do,and myspace isnt as bad as him giving her his number and atleast he told you about her, you never know they might just have the same intrests ... (read in full...)
She let other guys do things she hasn't ever let me. I'm confused?
Q. Please help.... I've been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years and Ive mentioned here and there about either cumming in her mouth or swallowing. She said its gross and she cant do it so I understood. Last night we were talking and it came out that...
A. 24 September 2007: Maybe she is growing up and knows what she likes and what she doesnt like and if she was high when she swallowed and let guys come in her mouth then fair enough he is allowed to figure out if she likes it and experiment but now she is growing up and ... (read in full...)
I was much better for him.
Q. I got dumped today by my bf of 3 months as his ex came home from travelling today and he wants to get back with her. She was away for 6 months and I did have suspisions that he still loved her but he assured me he would never get back with her. I ...
A. 24 September 2007: He dumped you for an ex who treated him bad and he is willing to give her another go and not stay with you a loyal loving girlfriend? Well if thats the way he is your 100% better off without him, go find someone who cares for you and doesnt want a ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to keep it smooth.
Q. Hey, im thinking about shaving my pubic hair for the first time i have sex with my long term boyfriend... the thing is, i dont want its to go all prickly n cause a rash on us, so can anyone tell me the best methods to keep 'smooth' thanks in...
A. 24 September 2007: As a beautician i would defiently recomned you wax instead its quick and it lasts for ages and your less likely to get ingrowing hairs, and if your to shy to go to a salon you can always get wax from a shop just make sure it says it can be used for ... (read in full...)
I know its wrong, (shes my teacher!)but I am going to win her back!
Q. I know we did wrong but please help me get her back, im 16 now! I cant stop thinking about this teacher. Me n my teacher got on really well then one day we kissed. From then on we kept seeing each other n planned to meet out of school but that ...
A. 24 September 2007: She is married do you really want to ruin her marriage and she is your teacher she could get into alot of trouble by seeing you, i think you should leave her alone and move on with your life ... (read in full...)
He has been on again, off again and I cant figure out what he feels!
Q. Ok I will try and keep this as short as poss. I was single for 3 years, mainly because I was going through a really hard time mainly due to Court case I was sexual abuse for 5 years as a child and I finally took it to court 20 years later. ...
A. 24 September 2007: I just think he is confused and hurt by his divorce and i think he jumped into a relationship before dealing with his emotions i think he just wanted to feel loved and safe. But as he keeps coming back i think the feelings were mutual but it is so ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him and I am glad. Is it ok to feel this way?
Q. ive recently split with my boyfriend. we werent together long and he didnt take it very well. he dragged out the whole thing for a wek before he would let it lie. anyway im glad i did it. i dont want a boyfriend. i want to have fun and i wasnt ha...
A. 24 September 2007: If you werent in love and just want to live and have fun you did the right thing and you shouldnt be upset about doing what you thought was right, go and have fun you dont need to be tied down to someone your not intrested in. ... (read in full...)
So many guys to choose from!!
Q. The guy i love is 19.. and i'm 15. Ive known him ages and we can tell each other anything, and he always makes me smile,then recently he told me he likes me to. He quit his job to come back to live near me. But hes going to University so we decided ...
A. 24 September 2007: This is a hard situation but in the end its your decision,but i have to say the 18year old who says your his girlfriend seems a little possesive and slightly creepy and i could see if you got together he could be very controlling,and the 19year old ... (read in full...)
After I checked his texts he got wierd and said he needed space. Does that mean he is cheating?
Q. me and my boyfriend was happy,15 months together.then i found text message of a girl on his phone i rang her and she said they were friend he said the same however from that day he went wierd with his phone and then told me he needed space!i am ...
A. 20 September 2007: I dont think he is cheating i think he is more hurt that you dont trust him a persons phone is private and to look through it and call people is an invasion of privacy and shows you dont trust them. I think you need to apologise and talk it over ... (read in full...)
I can't tell him that I'm unsure of our relationship b/c his best friend just died - I can't hurt him anymore!
Q. Im so unsure what to do i have been seeing my current boyfriend for a month and its very long distance and ive only seen him a few times in that time. And im going through alot of things this year including the sudden passing of my grandad and i ...
A. 18 September 2007: Wll my first serious relationship was with a man 7 years older then me it seemed great he moved down to be with me then i moved in with him he lost his job and i had 3 to pay rent he then accused me of cheating and kicked me out and then posted ... (read in full...)
Just friends with benefits?
Q. Just friends with Benefits? I am new to this kind of thing, but I needed a real third party perspective on a questionable situation. Bottom line is, I like my friend. We are both in our early 20’s and have been friends since freshman year of...
A. 17 September 2007: Maybe he is just shy and doesnt know how he feels or is afraid to tell you, or maybe he doesnt want to ruin what you have,but if your happy just being friends with benefits you never know something more might happen and things will just work out ... (read in full...)
I was drunk... We got on pretty well, but now I don't remember her name! What do I do?
Q. I met a girl from my university at a party. I hit on her, wanting to make out with her. I was drunk. After kissing her, we began talking. I am very interested. She gave me her number.... I dont remember her name... what do I do?...
A. 17 September 2007: Ring her and apologise over and over again and say i think we have a good connection but im terrbile with names and i was a bit drunk would you mind telling a complete idiot what it is again? And what ever it is say its beautiful. ... (read in full...)
After what she's done, how can I keep us together?
Q. My wife and I have been happily married for almost 2yrs, last week she meet with a male work friend for coffee. When she got home it had turned into a flight, coffee and a movie. I was ok with the coffee, but when it changed to something more, ...
A. 17 September 2007: She is seeing a man who isnt her husband and she has slept with him and she still wants to see him? And your going to let her? I dont mean to be cruel but be a man put your foot down dont let her see him ever again for anything! Yeah she will be mad ... (read in full...)
His past troubles me and it feels like it's ruining my life and otherwise perfect relationship!
Q. I am a 20 year old woman in a great relationship with a 50 year old man. We love eachother very much and are engaged. The only problem is that he confessed to me that the reason why his past marriage failed is because 5 years ago his ex wife caught ...
A. 17 September 2007: Your still so young and your engaged and your not even sure if your husband to be is a pervert dont you think you could be rushing things? I can understand being a victim of abuse myself how hard it is to trust and to love and commit to a ... (read in full...)
His past troubles me and it feels like it's ruining my life and otherwise perfect relationship!
Q. I am a 20 year old woman in a great relationship with a 50 year old man. We love eachother very much and are engaged. The only problem is that he confessed to me that the reason why his past marriage failed is because 5 years ago his ex wife caught ...
A. 17 September 2007: Your still so young and your engaged and your not even sure if your husband to be is a pervert, i can understand being a victim of abuse myself how hard it is to trust and to love and commit to a relationship ... (read in full...)
We were expecting different things
Q. Bit of a complicated one this, but please bear with me! Basically, I'm 18 and off to university in 2 weeks. There is this girl with whom I have been sort of 'on off' (in a way) with for the last few months, but she is younger than me and s...
A. 17 September 2007: Just ask her out right what exactly it is she wants and if she doesnt want you to contact her then dont you may like her but seems like she doesnt know what she wants and it seems unfair that you should wait for her to decided if she decides she ... (read in full...)
We broke up and I still love her!! What can I do?
Q. my girlfriend just split up with me! but i still really luv her :( i dunno wat can i do to help?...
A. 17 September 2007: Your young girls will come and go you just have to accept that sometimes it just doesnt work out and that getting over it is hard but you cant live in the past or long for someone who doesnt want you. ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and I want a baby!
Q. i am 16 and i lost a baby with my boyfriend who i have been with for 1 year and a half my mam did not no i was pregnant and now she has just found out i am haveing sex and i really want to try for anouther my mam thinks it will spoil my life but my ...
A. 17 September 2007: Your 16 and although you have been with your boyfriend a year your so young a baby could ruin your relationship having a baby is so stressful it changes your life forever its a huge responsibility and being 16 you havnt even begun to live your life ... (read in full...)
I love this guy but he's unavailable. Please help!
Q. I'm a 20-year old male that has always had a problem getting any further than friends with girls. I've not lost my virginity and I've had zero sexual contact with anybody ... other than a couple of drunken passionate kisses! However, I'm not just ...
A. 17 September 2007: Im sorry that you are feeling this way and your going to hate me for saying this but really you need to stop thinking about him its not going to happen, your still so young and life is way to short to keep your mind on him and love someone who cant ... (read in full...)
I'm over 18 but I'm worried about dateing my teacher who's 4 yeasr older. Could he get in trouble?
Q. I need some advice please guys. I'm 19 and my math teacher was 21 and straight out of uni when he started at my college when I was 17. He has taught me for all of my four double math lessons most days for the past two years. He is and was single w...
A. 17 September 2007: Im not sure how it works but i think student teacher relationships are frowned upon but as your over 18 im not sure it still counts, but i would wait till you had finished college completely before announcing yourselves as a couple otherwise your ... (read in full...)
How do I attract girls?
Q. How do I attract girls? What is the best way to get them to like me? How can I tell if they like me? What's the best way to flirt? I am not good at any of this, so any help would be appreciated. I am not a bad looking guy, I just need help when it ...
A. 17 September 2007: Just be yourself you cant make girls like you, so just being yourself will attract the right girls for you be confident with them and everything else will just fall into place. ... (read in full...)
He sent her a picture of his penis!
Q. There's this site that should be left un-named where you can sell items and a whole bunch of other things are on this site including a personals section.... well I was looking through my boyfriends email box earlier since he's always doing it to me ...
A. 16 September 2007: This sounds so familiar to me, my ex read my emails talked to my friends online pretending to be me and accused me of cheating the whole time we were together i livied with him and wasnt allowed on the computer or to check my emails it got so i was ... (read in full...)
I you loved someone, wouldn't you do anything for that person?
Q. IF YOU LOVED SOME ONE WOULDNT YOU DO ANYTHING ???????? well heres my question, my fiance and me are living about 5hrs away and were still kinda young and not making so much money i seen him in july and now i am going crazy i want to see h...
A. 16 September 2007: If he loved you he would make the effort he wouldnt make you do everything, and as for saying its cheaper for you to see him then him see you how did he work that out? Wouldnt it be the same,sounds like he isnt making much effort and making you do ... (read in full...)
I don't trust my long distance lover. Why hasn't he contacted me today, he usually does?
Q. My bf and I are in a long distance relationships, so we talk on the phone a lot, he calls me on the mornings, noon , and at night...However, today, I spent the whole morning, noon and night calling him and text messaging him. He did not answer nor ...
A. 16 September 2007: Im sure if he says he is busy he probably is just busy, but if you dont trust him then you are always going to be paranoid that he is lying to you, ask yourself is it really worth it can you have a relationship with no trust? ... (read in full...)
She laughed of my body as we were getting intimate. What should I do?
Q. Me and my girlfriend were "getting in the mood", but when I dropped my pants she laughed and said I was small. What should I do?...
A. 16 September 2007: That was really cruel and nasty you need to get rid of her and find someone better who isnt so immature after all size doesnt matter its what you can do for her that matters.... (read in full...)
I can't tell him that I'm unsure of our relationship b/c his best friend just died - I can't hurt him anymore!
Q. Im so unsure what to do i have been seeing my current boyfriend for a month and its very long distance and ive only seen him a few times in that time. And im going through alot of things this year including the sudden passing of my grandad and i ...
A. 16 September 2007: Thank you for all your replies ive just kept things the same as they were before he is one of the few people who know about my past and my rape/drugs/ self harming and sexual and physical abuse and actualy didnt run a mile when i told him, and ive ... (read in full...)
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