Like what
she writes?
... Add *airy_Lu to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *airy_Lu a private message | | | *airy_Lu's profile:Im only 20 but ive been through alot of nasty hard times in my life and as ive seen many counsellors and spent many nights with friends crying on my shoulder i always seem to offer them good advice so have a reputation of being a great listener and a good adviser among my friends. I have a fantastic boyfriend who i love dearly but he is away alot as he is in the army so i have plenty of nights where im able to come on here and help others.
Im a friendly girl with alot of love and support to give and also am a memember of a forum for all sorts of problems, including self harming,depression and eating disorders so if you ever feel you need some extra advice from people who have those ghosts just ask. |
|
This guy won't leave me alone!!
Q. Hello everyone, My problem is that there is a guy who won't stop texting me, when I don't reply, he emails me. He changes his MSN names and facebook statuses to the EXACT same as mine for instance I had a quote from my favourite TV show - Black Bo...
A. 9 June 2008: Just be honest with him i dont think he realises what he is doing to you and how he is making you feel, he obviously idolises you so just be nice and gently explain that he is making you feel uncomfotable and if he continues copying you there is a ... (read in full...)
Time has healed my wounds to certain extent, but as of yet, it hasn't brought a new girl to me! I hate being single!
Q. I've had a big kick backwards as far as moving on from my ex is concerned, tonight. I'd had a good evening, came up onto the computer where I got an e-mail from the site "Friends Reunited". I decided since I hadn't checked it in about a year to ...
A. 22 May 2008: First loves are always remeber and you always feel something for them but you do have to move on, or else you will continue living in the past and never letting yourself heal.
Join a club do online dating go out with your friends dont sit back... (read in full...)
He says he still loves me, and thinks I'm amazing, but he just can't be with me. Could you please translate this?!
Q. Guys, can you help me out here....... He broke up with me - suddenly - after 3 years, hasn't given a reason (I'm sure he's seeing someone else) but he says he still loves me, and thinks I'm amazing, but he just can't be with me. Translation ple...
A. 22 May 2008: Im sorry to hear this but with out asking him what he means there is no way to know, just ask him or just leave it alone and find someone better. ... (read in full...)
I love him with all my heart but hes in love with the fake picture of me!
Q. I met this guy and we talked online alot and we got on really well and he said he loved me and i loved him he asked for a picture a few weeks later and then after he saw my picture he didnt want to know he still talked but as friends and he ...
A. 6 May 2008: Hun you really want to be with a guy who loves a picture and goes for people with looks? Hmm i would delete your other account and leave him to his shallow ways ... (read in full...)
My wife feels she is showing her age, but I disagree! How can I make her feel better about herself?
Q. Hi my wife is in her mid forties and i thing she is very attractive. i am sure other men think the same way about her. i know for a fact that a few friends of ours think she is. she has started to say her 'boobs are saggie, and she has love han...
A. 22 April 2008: take her to get some photos done some proffessional photos she will spend the day with everyone focusing on her telling her how amazing she is and at the end of it she will have gorgeous photos and she can put them up and always be reminded that ... (read in full...)
I just had a baby but could I be pregnant AGAIN?!
Q. I just had a baby a month and a half ago and I had sex for the first time 6 days ago and continued all weekend but we used a condom. I know this is alot of detail but at one time we used the same condom for 2 to 4 hours and for the past 3 days I ...
A. 17 April 2008: they should start sex education when your 5 or maybe your mother should have told you about safe sex while you were still in her womb this has to be a joke ... (read in full...)
Pregnant with his baby and he's cheated on me! He's only with me for the baby. Should I move on? Or forgive?
Q. Ok So Im 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend has cheated on me. I feel so hurt and angry. He has told me that he has relly strong feelings for the other woman. And He is only staying with me for the baby. All I do is cry and I dont eat. He calls me a ...
A. 11 April 2008: He cheated on you and loves another women he isnt worth veing upset over he is a worthless useless loser who has no idea how lucky he. He isnt worth crying over you need to eat for yourself and this baby he isnt worth any of this, dont stay with him ... (read in full...)
Should I have anal sex if I'm a virgin? I'm scared...
Q. My boyfriend wants to have anal sex but I'm scared because I'm still a virgin.And it sounds great but Im still not sure. What should I do???...
A. 8 April 2008: Not if you want to get scared off sex for life! ... (read in full...)
Should I ask if we could get a double room or not?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I need your advice again please. It is not really a problem but a question as to how you would feel in this situation. OK so my boyfriend (18) and i (20) are planning to go on holiday this summer. I have no idea where as he sa...
A. 8 April 2008: Well chances are he is already booking a double room for you both , but if you really want it just bring it up tell him what you want, he cant read your mind and men are bad at subtlty (well most of them)just ask him ... (read in full...)
He said we can't be together or his family will disown him!!!
Q. I just want other people opinions on this really because I want to know if I have every right to be extremely hurt. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months and we're 3 hours away and I'm willing to get trains every Friday night to spend t...
A. 30 March 2008: Were both over 18 and id love to have a chat to him but he just ignores me wont answer his phone texts anything, i just feel so hurt ive been hurt so many times and he said he was diffrent stupidly i believed him but never mind sure il live ... (read in full...)
He said we can't be together or his family will disown him!!!
Q. I just want other people opinions on this really because I want to know if I have every right to be extremely hurt. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months and we're 3 hours away and I'm willing to get trains every Friday night to spend t...
A. 30 March 2008: Were both over 18 and id love to have a chat to him but he just ignores me wont answer his phone texts anything, i just feel so hurt ive been hurt so many times and he said he was diffrent stupidly i believed him but never mind sure il live ... (read in full...)
He said we can't be together or his family will disown him!!!
Q. I just want other people opinions on this really because I want to know if I have every right to be extremely hurt. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months and we're 3 hours away and I'm willing to get trains every Friday night to spend t...
A. 30 March 2008: Were both over 18 and id love to have a chat to him but he just ignores me wont answer his phone texts anything, i just feel so hurt ive been hurt so many times and he said he was diffrent stupidly i believed him but never mind sure il live ... (read in full...)
Help!!! Confused and heartbroken...
Q. I am a 21 year old female mother of 2 beautiful kids. Their father whom I was with for many of years (since a young girl) had broke my heart. He always wanted to chill be around me and everything else. This past Easter Sunday March 2008 he wanted me ...
A. 30 March 2008: *hugs* Sorry this has happend some people are just so selfish, now i do have a way to make you feel better but its really childish but does make you feel better it involves breaking everything he owns cutting up his clothes and chucking them out the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dragged me in the house and forced me to have sex. I don't want him to get in trouble & I'm only 16!
Q. Is it considered rape if it was your boyfriend? A few days ago I was at my bf's house and we started having an argument, mostly because I wanted to wait until I felt comfortable enough to have sex and he was getting annoyed with me. Well I walked o...
A. 27 March 2008: You said no he did it thats RAPE if you say know and dont give your consent its classed as rape you could be married for 30 years and it still wouldnt matter no means no! I would go to the police and i definetly wouldnt see him again ... (read in full...)
How do I "come out of the closet" and have a chance with this guy?
Q. hi, my name is dan, i'm 16, i'm gay, i haven't come out of the closet yet and i keep my feelings bottled up inside and it hurts. i have two questions, first one i'm in love with this guy who lives about 70 miles away and i've bin in love wid hi...
A. 26 March 2008: Well im not gay myself but my brother is so i would just do what he did, first tell your family thats the hardest part, then tell your friends just the close friends nobody else needs to know its nobody elses buisiness besides you only have a few ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 26 March 2008: Huni its your decision you have made your mind up i know your scared and worried and feeling guilty but its whats BEST for YOU your just a baby yourself and its unfair to expect you to bring up a child,if it was me i would do the same thing i dont ... (read in full...)
15 and taking erotic pictures for my BF - is that bad?
Q. I'm 15 and I take pornagraphic pictures of myself for my boyfriend(16) and he loves them . I'm glad he likes them but somtimes I feel like it's worng for me to do it . Could you give me your opinion. I don't mind taking the pictures and I love ...
A. 23 March 2008: Its all great fun till you break up and he posts them all over the net, like one of my exes did what makes it worse is the police cant do anything as technically there his pictures so his property so he is free to do what ever he likes with them but ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to make love on the third date?
Q. Hello, Just want to know if it is right to make love in the third day from the first date? Or do you think that might make him lose interest in me and he runs away? Was it too fast? We're around the same age. I wrote this question because I'm inte...
A. 22 March 2008: On average women tend to have sex on the third date but it just depoends if you feel ready and comfortable its up to you but please dont be pressured into it ... (read in full...)
I told my mates we'd had sex, now I'm worried my gf will break up with me!
Q. ive been going out with my gf for about 5months now. and the other night we had sex and we did use protection dont worry, but now shes avoiding me a bit and im worried she'l break up with me. but i think shes annoyed by the fact that i told all my ...
A. 18 March 2008: (This statement is only if you really are the age you put)
Your to young to be having sex way way way way to young im shocked that you even know what it is let alone how to do it your breaking the law and possibly your bodies as neither of you a... (read in full...)
Pregnant and unable to sleep! Any relaxation tips?
Q. I found out on Friday that i am pregnant, which my partner and i am very happy about.:-) The thing is, i havent been able to sleep properly for the past 3 nights. This is obviously cos im thinking about being pregnant, but i dont want to car...
A. 17 March 2008: I woul suggest a nice blend of rosemary and lavender essential oils but this can cause miscarriage before the first 3 months, but im pretty sure body lotions and bath oils dont have a high concentration of pure oils so i think you would be pretty ... (read in full...)
Want to have sex, but worried about how I'll look with no clothes on!
Q. hiya, well i'm 14 and i have this most amazing boyfriend, i love him to bits. The thing is we muck about talking about sex and stuff and i no he actually does want to have sex with me as he has told me and he keeps hinting it. I also think i want t...
A. 17 March 2008: Worried about how you look naked but not botherd about breaking the law i see you have your priorities in order.
Look your 14 your still growing you have no idea about the responsibilities of sex your body is still growing and you would be break... (read in full...)
My husband has told me he wants an "open marriage" but I can't do this, please help!
Q. My husband has been cheating with my sister the whole time we have been together and married, it's been awful and one trys to stop but my husband won't let it. He wants both! Now she had a child to him so when I try to get him to want only me he ...
A. 17 March 2008: Huni do you really want to stay in this marriage, this guys cheats on you constantly with your sister and has a child with her, you dont seem happy i would leave him he seems to want your sister more then you he is having his cake and eating it and ... (read in full...)
Is a younger man taboo?
Q. I met my son-in-laws brother a year ago, he is 16 years younger than me, he is the most intelligent, loving, amazing man I have ever met, he said age is nothing but a number, and just because my daughter and his brother are married does not make he ...
A. 14 March 2008: You love him? He loves you? Your happy?He is happy? I see no problem you shouldnt sacrifice your happiness because of what some people may think, Life is only temporary you should enjoy it before its over ... (read in full...)
Can you becoming pregnant if you swallow?
Q. Can you become pregnant if you swallow cum? I was just wondering. Thank you very much....
A. 13 March 2008: Yeah huni the sperm swims all the way down your throat puts on protective gear to get through the corrosive stomach acid and your digestive system, goes through your intestines and bowels has a shower to wipe off everythuing its collected on its ... (read in full...)
How do I bring up my rape fantasy with him?
Q. How do I bring up my rape fantasy? I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, I trust him and love him but i'm a little scared about how to tell him i have a rape fantasy. He's told me his other fantasies and we do some pretty outrageous sexual a...
A. 13 March 2008: As an actual rape victim i dont really understand how anyone can have this fantasy but i gues its diffrent when its not actual real rape.
But that being said just tell him what you want but tell him to wait till you give him a sign of when (ma... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 13 March 2008: Please do think about this long and hard and make sure your doing whats right for you, as with every procedure there are risk some small and some large including if it goes wrong you can rsk losing your ability to have children (its very unlikely ... (read in full...)
Can we cure my brother of his addiction to pastel-jacketed family saga novels?
Q. I'm embarrassed to say that my 39 year old brother has started to love reading family saga series - I find this pretty funny. I don't think I'd associate that type of fiction a male tends to read in his spare time. Ever since my family visited my ...
A. 13 March 2008: OMG your brothers reading a book shock horror!Its a book whats the big deal atleast he is reading something and using his mind and imagination just leave him alone let him read what he wants, i would get worried and ask for help if he starts reading ... (read in full...)
We've been together 2 months and he's cheated on me. How do I know for sure he won't do this again?
Q. Recently my boyfriend admited that he cheated on me. I forgave him after a period of time. Up to now I am not having any trust issues but I am worried that it may happen again we have only been together for 2 months but I really like him and I think ...
A. 11 March 2008: Look your young you should learn this lesson while your young and stck with it, some men cheat sometimes its just once and the gult eats them till they confess others cheat all the time because they know there partners will take them back.
Now a... (read in full...)
I'm the bridesmaid of honour and need to arrange a hen's night, any ideas?
Q. I know this isn't STRICTLY relationships, but I have had some good non-strictly-relationship advice off here before. Basically, my best friend is getting married, I am the bridesmaid of honour and need to arrange a hen night. She's not too b...
A. 8 March 2008: How bout getting all her friends together and you all clubbing together and going away for a weekend in a country hotel or rentinga country house/cottage or something where you can go out for dinner have spa treaments and do the whole girl thing ... (read in full...)
I feel left out because I've never had a boyfriend.
Q. hi, im 15 and i have no confidence at all, i have never had a proper boyfriend and never kissed a boy either, every one i know has and i feel really left out. what can i do?...
A. 8 March 2008: People lie huni people say all sorts of things to make themseleves feel better its probably likely your friends are lying, hun dont worry at your age you shouldnt worry about guys (nothing but trouble and stress and a lot of compliactions) just ... (read in full...)
My live-in partner has cybersex and watches porn. I want to leave but he always convinces me to give him another chance!
Q. I've been dealing with this problem for almost a year now... First of all, I'm 23, and my boyfriend is 42. We met 4 1/2 years ago, when he was still married, and stupid me, I was his "mistress" for a little while until he was busted and got ...
A. 8 March 2008: Send him off for the day pack your stuff and be gone by the time he gets back and dont let him find you... (read in full...)
Am I right to feel betrayed?
Q. Last year I met a 40 year old man, separated but now divorced. He was in a bad way and I saw him in tears at least twice on our evenings out. I thought it was because he was losing his wife and children and I was there for him whenever I could be. ...
A. 7 March 2008: Huni you have every right to feel pissed off, he was testing you by taking you to bed seeing if you would make a move having control over you by refusing it, using your kindness and sympathy, and then sleeping with someone else i would be outraged ... (read in full...)
How can we make losing our virginities REALLY special?
Q. hey, I've being with my boyfriend now for 11 months, it's our year aniversery in 3 weeks and we are planning on losing our virginities to each other on the date we got together. He is 16 and I am 15, 16 in april, and i think looosing our ...
A. 7 March 2008: Your asking for tips? You want our advice? You sure your ready? This is an amazing site and we all do our best to help when we can but sometimes the answers are found in your hearty and in your soul and also all over the net, and if you were both ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to contract HIV by getting a tattoo?
Q. my boy friend wants to get a tattoo. is it possible for him to get infected with HIV? ...
A. 7 March 2008: Yeah you can if the parlour is unclean and uses dirty needles, make sure your tattooist always opens a clean needles and uses sterile equipment, you can usually find the clean parlours easier then the dirty ones.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for middle aged guys to masterbate?
Q. O.k i don't know whether its me just being naive but i need to know whether this is normal? I have caught my dad a couple of times masturbating in his bedroom...believe me that was traumatising enough but what i want to know is, is it normal for a ...
A. 7 March 2008: People do it at all ages if your sexually fustrated then you should do something a bout it whether its with a partner or someone else its about relieveing stress as well as being pleasured. i know it freaks you out but its all part of being a human ... (read in full...)
The fact I have not conceived just yet is taking over my life!
Q. Hi, i said i wasn't going to get stressed regarding baby making but i feel like its taking over my life, i came off the contraceptive pill in september 2007 after i had been on it for 8 years, im 22 almost 23, me and my partner decided to try for a ...
A. 6 March 2008: Hun stop trying it will happen the more you focus the more stress it puts on your body being stressed isnt good, as a beauty therapist i recommened a course of reflexology, i did 6 treatments on one client who was diabetic and never went long term ... (read in full...)
He's asked me to have "nasal sex!!!" What the hell's that???
Q. Hi, I know this is going to sound pretty weird but please help me with my relationship because everything was great until my boyfriend asked if we could have nasal sex. I don't even now what that is or if he's for real but one time he asked for it ...
A. 5 March 2008: Ohhhh that sounds painful certainly something i dont want to try, well if he isnt talking or hanging out with you maybe you should dump him thatl make things less complicated and sex a bit more comfortable.... (read in full...)
Sexually inhibited...
Q. Can some one please help, I am sexually inhibited, my husband is the best lover, he knows me well, but when it comes to talking to him about sex, my wants, desires, fantasies, I clam up and my brain goes into shut down. I do have fantasies in m...
A. 5 March 2008: Well you have them and you want to tell him but cant face to face, why dont you email them to him while he is at work of leave post it notes around the house with what you want written on them, im sure itl do wonders for him, instead of him thinking ... (read in full...)
My friends want me to buy stuff for them...or else they say they will spread rumours about me.
Q. I took my friends to our vacation villa last summer, after that they kept me asking to buy things for them. Once i refused and they threatend to spread rumours about me, so i had to keep on buying them stuff, what should i do??...
A. 2 March 2008: First of all these people are not your friends there using you, secondly stop buying them stuff tell your parents or a teacher people dont tend to listen to rumours and they never last long dont let these people walk all over you its not fair! ... (read in full...)
I want a sexual relationship with my mother in-law! Has anyone experienced this?
Q. I've seen this topic brought up a few times, but I thought I'd ask advice from anyone here that might have experience on this. I know - this is horrible to say or think, but I really hope to make this work so spare me the preaching. I am extremely...
A. 27 February 2008: Never ever ever in this lifetime going to happen she is your wifes mother and she is married, jeez mate get real you want to ruin your mrriage and your wifes relationship with her mum cause you got the hots for your mother in law, thats just weird ... (read in full...)
How do I show up to have a Bikini wax?
Q. I want to get my Bikini waxed but I am a very self conscious person and I am very anxious at the thoughts of going because I don't know if I should wear full undies or a thong or what... Please help me relax and offer your best advise... ...
A. 27 February 2008: Sweetie im a beauty therapist and you should not be nervous at all were always proffessional and to us its a job we have to go through it while training so we know what its like. As for what to wear wear anything we tend to move it to reveal the ... (read in full...)
| *airy_Lu's friends
These are mutual friends, so *airy_Lu has
added them and they have added *airy_Lu!
|
