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writes:I really need some help/advice. i have been dating this girl for 3 months. She is great in everyway. A few problems though,we dont talk as much as we used to and we RARELY go out now,she says shes always busy etc. which i know is a lie sometimes. Another thing is im gay, i know some of you are going to say how did we hook up if i truly am(im not looking for bs i really need advice),,it is hard being gay not everyone is so tolerant. When i met her she was one of the few that stood by my side,we clicked well but it was more of an emotional way for me. She didnt care if i was gay and looked past that so we gave a relationship a try. but now i want to end it,its not cause of her,yeah we rarely talk etc. thats part of the reason but for the most part its really hard for me being gay and in a relationship with a girl as more than a friend. Dont get me wrong shes great and everything but my comfort in a relationship is with the same sex. I just dont know how i should tell her or go about ending it,i dont know if id have the courage to tell her in person so PLEASE any advice would help. please,i dont want anyone being judgemental im serious about this Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI finally ended it,thanks for all the help
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the replies. True,i think writing a letter sounds like the best idea. Thank you to the first reply=) Minelisse, i guess it was the thought of it working even though im gay is what made me go that far and ask her to be my girl. Initially we texted 24/7 and talked and hung out alot but then things changed. It was more of an emotional thing that attracted me to her but in the end,relationship wise,i just dont feel that connection,shes not a bad person i dont hate her,its just im gay and feel more comfortable with the same sex
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 if your to afraid to tell her in person put how you feel in a letter you cant stay with her if your not happy your gay you need to be with guys nor girls and she needs to know this
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (9 November 2007):
 If you truly care for this girl I would suggest ending the relationship. From what you are saying, I think she might be having some trouble with the relationship too as she is constantly unavailable. This should be done in person, maybe you don't need into details as to why, but you should say it is not working for you. She deserves a "grown-up" break up, as so do you.
On the other hand, why would you start a relationship with her if you are sexually and affectively interested to the same sex? This is a very important question for yourself and your future relationships.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): First of all calm down. The best thing to do sweetie is tell her sooner than later. Maybe send her an email or a letter and write excatly how you feel. Then tell its there for her. I am sure if sure was understanding when she found out you were gay, I am sure it won't be too bad. Hows that?
Han x
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