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writes:im 21 and thinking of asking a girl out thats 17. is that too young? opinions please. Reply to this Question
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reader, nat.d.82 +, writes (18 December 2007):
17 isnt that young, people are so wierd as for they look down on others for being with a person 4 years younger than yourself but seriously look in 10 years time she will be 27 and you will be 31 that doesnt sound that bad and still 10 years after that she will be 37 and you 41!!!! there is no problem with that and no one will look down on you then !!!! people need to realise in situations like this ( not situations like 20 years difference but 4 years diffenrence is fine)!!!! age is just a number !!!! hopefully that helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): It's a tricky tightrope to walk my friend, I myself was the same age when I was involved with a 17 year old girl that I fell head over heels for. There's obviously the onslaught of jokes that come to mind with your peer (if I got a dollar for everytime I got "do you carry her books to class?", I'd be a rich man), but if you and her click it should be sound logic to further pursue it. In my situation it worked perfectly for about a half a year before it became clear that the different stages in our lives conflicted- I had graduated college, she was just starting, etc. The age is irrelevant needless to say, if you're both on the same page as far as what you want in the relationship, where you are in your lives, maturity, etc.- it has the potential. If, by some chance, things are offset by the age ordeal you and her should be willing to compromise on some levels if its worth maintaining the relationship.
I hope for all the best my friend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): It all depends on what you have in mind. If the answer is sex, and it usually ends up there, and in your area the legal age of consent is 18, you had better carefully think it over. Prison is not a very nice place. If 17 is legal there, then fine. The only worry you have then is her father.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): well.. here in the states... i guess things are possibly a bit different. I'd check, obviously, but I don't think that's too much. My boyfriend and I have one year less than you.. and we've been going out since i was 15. I, personally don't think there's anything wrong with it, but that may just be because I'm in the same situation you are! Older male, younger female... 3-4 age diff... people will make a big deal.. but its not! Good luck!
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reader, this_years_love  +, writes (1 December 2007):
 hey!look it really REALLY depends on the people involved more than the age...i dated a 21 year old when i was 15...granted i was the only one of my friends who had that big of an age gap, but we got along fine and had a normal relationship.21 and 17 is so close its nothing to worry about in most cases but then again there are a lot of 17 year olds who i've found act like they're about 13...it's really dependant on the situation.Do y'all have similar interests?Where are you in your lives?(highschool, college, working full time?)I'd give it a go...if you do like her you should give her a chance! It's not like it is a long term commitment to go on a few dates and see how y'all get alongbest wishesxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): No i think that's fine. i was 17 and my boyfriend was 21 when we met, and a year on we're still together so go for it!
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (30 November 2007):
 Nope if you have feeling for her and she feels the same age shouldnt be an issue its only a few years i say go for it!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (30 November 2007):
 I don't know the law in Britain as far as a sexual relationship goes, but I think you are probably getting to the stage where it would be possible to have a meeting of the minds, if she is mature for her age (and most girls are). Sounds feasible. Good Luck!
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (30 November 2007):
 Some people will call you a pervert, but some people are just dicks so who cares?
17 isn't that young, she's one year off from being a legal adult, I say go for it man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): Not sure where you live, but in the US, most states minimum age for the girl is 16. Some states still have old archaic laws about anyone over 18 with someone under 18, but most of them are being overturned either in court or be legislature since you could have a couple both 17, then the guy turns 18 and all of a sudden it's illegal. So most likely since she's over 16, it's OK. I think the biggest thing is since you are older, are you going to 'expect' something and push her faster than she is ready? Then this would Not be ok. My wife was only 15 when she started dating and dated a 20 year old as her first boyfriend (her parents had no clue the guy was that old, they never would have allowed it). They only dated a little while because he kept expecting her to 'do stuff', and she was nowhere near ready for sexual activity of any kind. Keep that in mind before you ask her out. Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 No, the age gap is not significant. However, I would suggest your checking what British law says about her age. Where I live, you'd be of full age and she wouldn't, and your relationship would be legally inappropriate.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 Wait for her to turn eighteen. Don't go to jail. LOL I don't know what the rules are governing where you live, I'm in America, but I'd still wait till she was eighteen.
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