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writes:Im a 24 year old American male who has only been touched and had sex with one girl when I was 17. Over the past 7 years I have been desperate for intimacy and sex with only failed results. I did however meet a girl 4 months ago whom I have grown to love. We kiss and make out a lot but she won't touch me and is saving sex for after she is married. I can respect her vow of pre-marital celebate intercourse, BUT I NEED HER TO PLEASURE ME BAD! I love her and don't want to go back to being alone, but I have deperate needs. I tried to explain to her that I need her bad but she doesn't grasp how torn up inside I feel. She is from a small town in Hondorus and I am her first boyfriend and she is the religios type. I also have a lot of prospects and am extreamly loyal and dedicated. I treat this girl like a princess. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, foxtrot  +, writes (8 December 2007):
In a meaningful relationship each partner should be respecting the other's needs, and she's not doing this.
The longer you go without having sex or intimacy with her, the less likely it is that you ever will. I once chased a girl I really liked for years and never got anywhere.
The problem is her background, but that's not going to change.
If you want a brutal answer, I'd say that four months is long enough with this one. Stop treating her like a princess and drop her.
Then talk to as many other girls as you can. Be patient with them, listen to what they say, and play it by ear.
I bet you'll soon find someone you like who understands that men have needs too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): It's me again. I have talked with her about the issue. I told her how hard it is for me not to want to fool around with her and she says, "Its not hard, its easy." This makes me think she has no sex drive at all. This frustrates me especially when my sex drive is raging. She basicaly has crushed all hope of a healthy sex life with my special girl.. something I have been looking forward to for a very very long time. I told her that before I ever married a woman I would atleast need to see her naked body. She has made it pretty clear that she does not want me even to see her before marriage. I have no time for marriage. I just got accepted to medical school and plan to spend the next 4-5 years cloistered away. I will not marry before I am a doctor. Is she a golddigger? Also, she said she would die for me which I found very hard to believe and even more so now that she won't even touch me after I explained to her how bad I need it. I want to treasure her but I think my needs and frustrations are starting to overtake me. I am willing to compromise but not sacrifice.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (1 December 2007):
My oh my,are you on heat.Listen up bro,the truth of the matter is if you really love this girl you'll wait and there's alwaays the choice of you speeding up the marraaige process so you can have what you want from her.My girlfriend also told me the same but after some months,i finally managed to seduce her.Although i turn her on,she really insists on waiting for marraige.So my bro,you got two options.One,continue treating her like a princess and pray she succumbs to her sexual urges as well.Second,die a little and wait for the wedding bells and if this is too much you can always call it quits and find some one more sexually active.Personal advice is don't disappoint her,such ladies make perfect wives.
All the best.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (1 December 2007):
 Talk to her tell her exactly how you feel and explain that you have needs and there are other things she can do which isnt full on intercourse and see what she says but if not whats wrong with masterbation.
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