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I usually give all my advice straight up, and its prolly not what you want to hear, but thats just me. Honest & realistic is my policy, so you wont find my answers all sugar coated candy and sweetness. I base my answers on my lifes experiences, friends, and what I have discerned around me..
To all those here with love dilemmas, I do hope it all works out, remember, we should stay true to ourselves and trust our instincts, our intuition is the one that guides us.. :)
And remember love starts with ourselves, we should learn to love ourselves wholly and unconditionally, and accept the good with the not so good. How can we possibly love another when we cant love ourselves first? We cannot share what we dont have.
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THE MORE ONE ANALYSES PEOPLE, THE MORE ALL REASON FOR ANALYSIS DISAPPEAR. SOONER OR LATER ONE COMES TO THAT DREADFUL UNIVERSAL THING CALLED HUMAN NATURE - O Wilde (The Decay of Living) |
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This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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29 August 2008: Online Dating Tips Newsflash: The girl of your dreams is not just hanging out in your neighborhood, but she is also just a click away! Just like the way business surges its scope wider, tapping the world, the dating scheme is expandin...
First date conversations!
This question has 3 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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29 August 2008: You've found the object of your interest, made eye contact and you are making your way towards him. And while you are doing that, don't forget to BREATHE ! You've done the hard work - you've approached someone and not only talked to them but secured ...
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Do I have the right to feel hurt, used and angry or am I just being stupid??
Q. To summarise: (1) Met a guy through friends, 18 months ago. Fun, attractive, successful, gift of the gab but some issues as he'd been betrayed after long term relationship. (2) Fell head over heels in love with him and was pleased to hear ...
A. 13 September 2008: this guy sounds so f*cked up.. so much so he doesnt really knows what he wants.. and is prepared to use you until he eventually figures it out with no considerations about your feelings.. OMG if this was my guy.. i would really be telling him where ... (read in full...)
After our first date she said she is going through a bad patch and unable to meet anyone at the moment. How can we progress then?
Q. Hello, I have been in contact -via e-mail- with a lady for the last 6 months. We have also talked over the phone. After six months I asked her whether she would like to meet for a drink. She accepted. It resulted that we share a lot of ...
A. 13 September 2008: just give her time sweetee.. we all handle our emo issues differently and pace ourselves accordingly.. you both seemed to enjoy your first meeting and you continue to text each other afterwards.. so thats a good sign.. if she didnt want any more to ... (read in full...)
First date conversations!
Q. You've found the object of your interest, made eye contact and you are making your way towards him. And while you are doing that, don't forget to BREATHE ! You've done the hard work - you've approached someone and not only talked to them but secured ...
A. 13 September 2008: its the same old scenario isnt it?.. damned if u do and damned if u dont.. a woman who seems TOO keen is deemed as desperate.. needy.. and a woman who is laid back is deemed as if she has no interest.. ive always believed in a direct approach.. with ... (read in full...)
He hit me again today but I still love him. Please, someone tell me what to do...
Q. Hey, i'm 19, I have been with my boyfriend for more than a year. About 4 months ago, he started hitting me. Nothing really to start with but it got worse. Today he burst my nose and strangled me, I think that it was probably the most terrifying ...
A. 6 September 2008: take away the power he holds over you and leave. DO NOT listen to him whine on about ohhh his sooo sorry and he loves you and it wont happen again.. because its always the opposite.. he hones in on your weakness sweetee.. and plays you well.. so ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should visit this guy I met on the internet...
Q. i have recently meet a turkish guy on the internet we talk everyday and send text messages,im beginning to really like him,he wants me to go over on holiday and see him for a week i really dont no what to do here because of the distance and stories ...
A. 6 September 2008: i agree with Belle.. anyone online esp in another part of the world can claim to be anyone they want.. so tread carefully sweetee.. you are most vulnerable when in a foreign country alone.. :)... (read in full...)
Is it considered cheating if I masturbate to porn?
Q. I have a question for the aunts and uncles of DearCupid. I'm a 18 year old male starting university in a few weeks. I have a girlfriend, the same age as me, who is also going to uni, but its a 3 hour distance and i wont get to see her as much. The...
A. 6 September 2008: its quite normal.. and im very surprized to hear you feel guilty over it.. you see sweetee men are very visual creatures.. they need visual stimuli for just about everything.. so its quite normal to use porn as an aid to masturbate.. as far as your ... (read in full...)
Am I right for wanting to lose weight before I meet him?
Q. can someone please give me an opinion! i met this guy about 2 years ago through a friend, we only met like 3 or 4 times but i fancied the pants off him! then he randomly added me on msn about 2 months later and we got chatting! hes proper amazin a...
A. 6 September 2008: who are you kidding sweetee?.. of course you are doing it for him.. why contradict yourself? if like you say it isnt an issue, why are you planning on losing the weight now before January? to lose weight to please someone else is just plain ... (read in full...)
At the beginning he put a lot of effort to see me but now he rarely does! Why did he change so suddenly?
Q. im mad about this guy that i was seeing briefly a while back. we stopped speaking though really and would only see each other very occasionally. but the thing is i can't get him out of my head..and its been like this for a while now. i'll think he...
A. 6 September 2008: welcome to the wonderful world of men !! From a personal experience.. men are just weak.. they tell you all sorts of things and just to gratify some twisted emo issue they have.. sorry folks i may seem a lil bitter the way im comin across.. but this ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman makes the motion to touch you but then stops?
Q. I have a question about this female friend that I am attracted to, although I am already in a relationship with another woman. When she is talking to me, she sometimes goes out to touch me but then stops just before. In one conversation, this ...
A. 6 September 2008: you are definately picking up some vibes yes? when a woman goes to touch you(and im assuming its an innocent type of touch rite?) it usually means she has interest in you and what you are saying. Look for more signs thou like body language, her ... (read in full...)
First date conversations!
Q. You've found the object of your interest, made eye contact and you are making your way towards him. And while you are doing that, don't forget to BREATHE ! You've done the hard work - you've approached someone and not only talked to them but secured ...
A. 4 September 2008: thx so much!!! first date nerves are very common..its like we are competing in a marathon or something.. we are concerned if we will make a good first impression when all we should be focusing on is having a good time..and getting to know him .. ... (read in full...)
Why am I never invited to anything after all I support him?
Q. I have a male friend with whom I am close. As part of my work, I see him now and again (he is a sommelier) and I go to his house sometimes and make dinner. I stay over and I share his bed (no sex) and he kisses me goodbye on the lips. I am ...
A. 2 September 2008: you'll never know until you ASK!! .. you say you have been supporting him during the rough patch.. and it sounds as if you are really good mates.. so where is the fear coming from?.. do you guys have open communication?.. also does he know that you ... (read in full...)
My parents think my boyfriend is with me for my money! Why do parents always think they are right?
Q. Why is it parents always think there right. I have a boyfriend and I love him very much but they seem to think he's on with me for my money. He doesn't earnt the same amount as me and therefore I pay for pretty much everything but he always says ...
A. 2 September 2008: huh????... if he had the money?.. hey he may not earn as much as you but he still EARNS something.. why should you pay for everything?.. im sorry but i agree with mom here.. you say you love him.. does he love you the same way?.. coz if he did he ... (read in full...)
He's been saying he's "too tired" but I catch him watch him porn!
Q. my husband and i have been married since may this year we have been together for a year and a half. in the beginning of our relationship we had sex atleast once a week but for the past year he always says he is tired but I catch him watching...
A. 2 September 2008: typical male behaviour.. perhaps you should sit and talk to him about how you feel.. a year and a half is a short time to go off someone.. is he under any stress?.. work?.. friends?.. home? OR could he maybe be having an affair?.. this is typical of ... (read in full...)
Online dating tips
Q. Online Dating Tips Newsflash: The girl of your dreams is not just hanging out in your neighborhood, but she is also just a click away! Just like the way business surges its scope wider, tapping the world, the dating scheme is expandin...
A. 1 September 2008: @JasonX.. for sure sweetee and i couldnt agree more.. patience.. understanding.. trust.. and very open communication.. the effort to keep in touch is greater too.. long distance can work if both are committed to making it work.. if it is all one ... (read in full...)
Is my perfect boyfriend gay?
Q. I think my BF could be gay please help i dont know what to do! When i first met my BF i actually thought he seemed quite gay but he wasnt and i eventually fell in love with him we have been together for over three years. every now n then ppl mist...
A. 1 September 2008: lots of men LOOOVE anal stimulation sweetee and your bf isnt any different.. it doesnt mean he is gay.. you say he loves you and spoils you and his the best bf ever.. so where does your doubt come from?.. let him enjoy his pleasures.. at least he is ... (read in full...)
Do people think that 25 years is too big an age gap?
Q. do people think that 25 years is too big an age gap? I am engaged to my boyfriend who is 25 years older than myself. My only problem is my mother does not approve. I just want to see what other people think as I would like to be able to see it from ...
A. 1 September 2008: age is just a # sweetee.. i was involved with a guy who was 30 years older.. we lasted 4 years.. but in the end we did get together for all the wrong reasons..
what i will say is this.. older guys tend to be a bit more controlling than guys you... (read in full...)
Consequences of smoking pot?
Q. I'm happy with everything in my life, I love my boy heaps. We both work full time, and we smoke pot... is this affecting us in our personality? We only smoke after work......
A. 1 September 2008: everything in moderation sweetee.. although the mind can be a powerful thing too.. if you constantly are thinking pot is bad.. well it will end up effecting you.. causing paranoia esp.. the more you think about it the greater the chance of it ... (read in full...)
My husband offends me for even talking to a guy! He does not realise he is being disrespectful!
Q. I am 27 years old and have been married about 5 years. I am very torn as to what to do about my marriage. (We have a 5 year old son) My husband has been very irrational about things lately. He calls me a w____, little girl, b____....etc when I do ...
A. 1 September 2008: ok.. here we go again.. ive even written on this very subject.. justification!! you see my dear.. when people start accusing you and name calling you.. they usually have a hidden secret .. they are using it to justify THEIR behaviour.. truth!! how ... (read in full...)
I made up a girl and now he loves her and not me!
Q. I made a fake account and the guy that I really like started talking to her.. or me?. But now i don't know what to do because he's falling inlove with the fake girl that I made. I dont know why he likes the fake girl. The picture that I chose was an ...
A. 1 September 2008: im wondering how old you are?.. this sounds really childish.. and im trying to guess why you felt you needed to do this??. could it be perhaps you wanted to find out what the guy is like around others?.. like what would he be like around other ... (read in full...)
Help Being emotionally supportive?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with the most wonderful woman. We've been going out for almost two years now and ive been the happiest man alive. Untill the other day. For a while ive noticed something was wrong but put it down to stress as she...
A. 1 September 2008: I agree.. listening and picking up on her vibes.. communication breakdown is the #1 cause of relationship failures today.. so dont let that happen to you.. could you possibly find out what shes been saying to her friends?. perhaps then it would give ... (read in full...)
It's been 3 weeks and HE hasn't called..should I wait for him to come back?
Q. I am a single mother of 2 and I met a younger man aged 25 who seemed very sweet and loving towards my children. I wasn't looking for anything too serious at the start and told him so but he is very assertive and within a week, he was suggesting m...
A. 1 September 2008: hmmmm.. this is a complicated one.. the guy sounds as if he has domestic issues with his family.. perhaps he is having trouble raising the funds quickly and is trying to sort out this??.. is there another way to contact him?.. perhaps at his home?.. ... (read in full...)
He wants me to give him an incredible orgasm, but I have to put my finger in a certain place...
Q. My boyfriend asked me if I ever wanted to try anal sex. I'm not interested in puttig anything up my hiney. Exit only please! He mentioned that one of the biggest and best orgasms he ever had was with an ex who fingered him in the anus during sex. ...
A. 29 August 2008: you should try to loosen up sweetee.. anal stimulation for a guy is very pleasurable.. and its true.. men do have a male g-spot along the front wall of the anus adjacent to the prostrate gland.. if your only fear is mess and not pain.. i would ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man who has a healthy sex life to watch porn?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We love each other very much and have a healthy sex life. I found out today that he watches porn sometimes. He told me without hesitation and I did not ask. We some how got on the topic of porn. H...
A. 29 August 2008: the answer is yes definitely!!.. i feel all men indulge in watching porn.. whether they are with someone or not.. men are such visual creatures.. and porn satisfies their need for visual stimuli.. it has nothing to do with you however, absolutely ... (read in full...)
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