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What is wrong with sex between brothers and sisters?

Q.   Ok I know sex between brothers and sisters is considered wrong by most people. Why? I mean if they love each other and make sure they don't have any children, what is wrong with sharing that love physically? ...

A.   18 May 2009: I think it's fine to have sex with your sibling, BUT - I don't agree with siblings having kids together as it could cause inbreeding and damage to the child. But I agree with you, personally I can't imagine fancying my sister but so what if I did? I ... (read in full...)

Should I just accept that "boys will boys"??

Q.   I've just started dating a guy who is very attractive and a huge flirt. He gives girls a lot of attention, and they give it back to him. Girls on Facebook are always asking him to hang out or call him, and every time we go out I catch him making ...

A.   18 May 2009: My boyfriend has a very flirty personality too. But he's been like that for as long as I've known him and he knows when to stop. When we go out together we chat up other people, dance with them and tell each other who else we fancy. It can be a bit ... (read in full...)

What should I do about my cross-dressing husband?

Q.   My husband regularly wears saree and other Indian female attires.He feels very comfortable in them.We do share saree, salwar kameez,blouse,petticoat(saya),nighties,ghagra and cholis, bras ,panties etc.In fact I always buy free size women dress, so ...

A.   6 May 2009: I think that's brilliant - not only the way he is so comfortable with himself to dress how he likes, but also the fact that you and your family are all so accepting. If only more people were less bothered about what is the social norm! I have a huge ... (read in full...)

Son stealing my dirty panties to "relieve" himself...Help!

Q.   My 13yr old son has been stealing my dirty panties and I believe he is using them to "assist" himself. I have found several pairs under his bed and well lets say there is evidence as to what he is doing. Do I confront him about? Do I just ignore ...

A.   6 May 2009: "Looking on the bright side, it looks like he's heterosexual!" - Anon, 7th Feb. What a relief. Okay, so this guy may well be banging one out at the thought of his mother on a regular basis, but thank the holy lord he's not thinking about other gu... (read in full...)

I try to improve my looks to get a boyfriend but I'm always taken so seriously.

Q.   I feel I will never measure up to other girls who always get boyfriends, nice guys and jerks want to go out with these. People tell me I should improve on how I look but I can't. I am not very feminine. I look awful. I don't like going to the ...

A.   28 December 2008: Size 16 really isn't much overwieght. Honestly, I know plenty of not-so-skinny girls who get boyfriends, it's not about that. I hate going to the hairdressers' too, I cut my hair myself but nobody seems to care. And small hands are good! Honestly, ... (read in full...)

Poll question: What is the most arousing part of a mans body?

Q.   Poll(for women/gay men): Whats the most arousing part of the mens body? Shoulders, Abs, Penis, Ass, Back, Legs, Face...

A.   16 December 2008: ARMS - like when you can tell the bloke doesn't work out, but he does enough natural exercising and mud-wrestling and, er... jerking off? to be toned and... mmm... And BACK, (see above)... and lips. For me that's... hot. :P... (read in full...)

I've never had a boyfriend or kiss. I'm 29 and nobody wants me.

Q.   hi i was wondering can any one help me . i am 29 years old and i have never had a boyfriend. i never even got my first kiss. i don't know and everyone else does. all but me. every guy i like rather someone else and never me. they reject me in the ...

A.   3 December 2008: Aww no way, don't put yourself down. It's true that some guys like confident girls, but I know plenty of very shy girls and they have their fair share of admirers. However if you carry on feeling bad, you won't exactly radiate positive vibes. I kn... (read in full...)

Women: Would you be more or less attracted to a guy that saving sex for marriage?

Q.   Would you be more or less attracted to a guy that was saving himself for marriage? Please be honest....

A.   24 November 2008: Personally, if I'm being honest, I wouldn't find it less attractive (I think fair enough, you gotta wait for as long as you like) but I probably wouldn't go into a relationship with someone who wanted to wait til marriage. For the simple reason that ... (read in full...)

Male/Female Masturbation: Double Standards

Q.   This isn't really a question, but a comment that I'm interested in seeing people's thoughts on. This is about male/female masturbation. My girlfriend woke up in the middle of the night and couldn't sleep. She tried to wake me up but apparent...

A.   22 November 2008: No way, my ex used to jerk off in front of me all the time, specially if my hands were getting tired. I'm sure she wouldn't care. Obviously you two can talk about this quite easily, so next time she mentions herself masturbating why don't you bring ... (read in full...)

People will think I'm gay if they find out I'm sleeping with another guy in school.

Q.   Im a senior in high school and im starting quarterback,free safety and team captain for my high school varsity football team. I also have girlfriend she is sweet and beautiful, her and I have been sexually active, she doesnt know that i also have ...

A.   22 November 2008: Well frankly if you slept with some other guy regularly, I would say you either are gay or bisexual. Anyway. I don't care whether you slept with a guy or not, what's bad is the fact that you were meant to be with someone else, aka your girl... (read in full...)

Since he found out I'm not a virgin, he's claiming I'm "dirt and someone's leftovers".

Q.   About 2 months into the relationship, I was curious about whether he was a virgin or not... but he wouldn't tell me and wanted to know if I was. I wasn't sure what to do--tell the truth and have the chance that he might think i'm a slut, or lie. So ...

A.   22 November 2008: What a bastard. He should have though about it before if it meant that much to him. Obviously he couldn't tell the difference between someone 'pure' and someone who's had sex. Tell him to go jump.... (read in full...)

Grandad of 71 hitting on my girlfriend of 19!!!

Q.   I have a real problem..... My grandpa (father's Father) had been acting so stupidly around my girlfriend that I started becoming very agitated. He would always tell me to calm down and that he just really admired her. Then he began bragging t...

A.   22 November 2008: Why not go the whole hog and have a threesome? Everyone wins. ... (read in full...)

Why would a guy say he "used to fancy me" but keep sending me mixed signals?

Q.   why would a guy say he "used to fancy me" but keep sending me mixed signals? like one night he came up to me and the bar and put his arms around me..and sometimes he asks to hold my hand, looks me in the eyes and bes really touchy feely.. ive been ...

A.   22 November 2008: Is this right... you fancy this guy... and he fancies you... but neither of you will admit it? When people say "I used to fancy you", it usually either means "I used to fancy you and I still do, but I don't want to admit it", or it means "I used... (read in full...)

Does she want to be only friends?

Q.   So I have been hanging out with this girl for the better part of five months. Originally we were just friends but over the last month or so we became much more frequent in our meetings and conversations. Let me clarify that I am 29 and the girl in ...

A.   22 November 2008: I'm sorry but I don't think she feels the same way. If she did she would have told you at the time. When a friend wants to be more than a friend, it can get awkward if they persevere too much. The best thing you can do is settle for being just ... (read in full...)

How to tell my cousin, I love him.

Q.   Ok, I'm in love with my cousin. The morals n what not, the 'family' issues don't bother me. What I want to know, is how to break it to him? We talk almost everyday texting. And lately he's been calling me everyday, having phone conversations with me ...

A.   22 November 2008: Only you know your cousin, and I assume you know him pretty well from the amount of time you spend talking to him. He may feel the same, on the other hand it may be a huge shock for him. So approach this with caution. I can talk to my own male cous... (read in full...)

Peer pressure!

Q.   Hi everyone... My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 months and we do really love each other :), but her older sister who's now twenty did something maybe some would consider rather silly. She had unprotected sex with her boyfriend, she got ...

A.   22 November 2008: Well if you and your girlfriend both want to wait a while before having sex, then that's what you should do. It's not as if you're having to handle the peer pressure on your own, I assume she's getting it too, so if you both stick together on this ... (read in full...)

In love, but scratching and sick of the lice.

Q.   Dear cupid, i have a problem. my boyfriend is really cute and really sweet but I have lice. i would use the shampoo and get rid of it and for about 3 days it would be gone but then i would get them back. i just figured out i've been getting them fro...

A.   12 November 2008: I found a good but extreme way to banish lice was to cook 'em with a hairdryer as this kills the eggs as well. I put olive oil in my hair, turned up the hairdryer as hot as I could stand and used it on my scalp for a few minutes. Then I washed my ... (read in full...)

How do I give her a "screaming orgasm"???

Q.   Hi, i have either a very usual or unusual question. I dont know how to give my GF a "screaming orgasm" I mean, i have given her one but it isnt enough... She doesnt cum and doesnt moan like my friends say she sould. The way i do is just rub my ...

A.   3 November 2008: Sucking her earlobes! Honestly, my boyfriend did that to me the other day and my whole body turned into warm fuzz. It was like bathing in stars. Do it!!!... (read in full...)

The boyfriends nasty habit

Q.   I have a boyfriend now... haha... anyway.. he is constantly touching my sides and leaning his head on mine. He is always slapping my butt in front of his friends just to show off and it gets really annoying. we are only 13 and I know that's young, ...

A.   3 November 2008: I love it when guys hug me etc, but one thing that really makes me cringe is when a guy slaps my bum. It makes me feel like livestock or something. I remedied this with my ex - whenever he slapped my bum, I slapped his 10 times harder. His eyes ... (read in full...)

Is he a normal size?

Q.   My boyfreinds penis is 18 cm long when it is hard...I was wondering if that is big or small? I dont really care has i think he is perfect but I am just curious;) Hope someone can give me an answer...

A.   3 November 2008: Did you honestly measure it?!... (read in full...)

People are rude to me and I feel horrible about myself!

Q.   so ever since 9th grade peolpe were rude to me in school.im shy,i had cricked teeth, ut than i got braces, ther off now! thank god!one day at a party i made out with this one guy cuz he was hot an he would always flirt with me and the next day at ...

A.   30 September 2008: He sounds like a right gobshite, and anyone who's horrible enough to treat someone how he treated you isn't worth listening to.... (read in full...)

Poll question. How old were you when you lost your virginity?

Q.   Hey would like to know how old were you when you lost your virginity and also did you tell your parents about it or not till later? How were you sure it was the right person?...

A.   23 September 2008: I lost mine at 17 in the back of my (at the time) boyfriend's van. We are still great friends and mean to get back together when the timing's better, and I don't regret it at all. I don't see virginity as a huge issue - if you lose it to someone ... (read in full...)

I feel gross and trashy after my girlfriend told me how 'going down' on her is so disgusting!

Q.   My girlfriend and I have oral sex. I know that she really enjoys it when I go down on her. This morning I wanted to arouse her so I started talking about eating her pussy. She went on and on about how disgusting eating pussy it. How it’s so gross...

A.   22 September 2008: She's straight! You can't expect her to want to go down on other woman - it doesn't mean she thinks you're disgusting! Personally I am a bit grossed out by the thought of doing anything sexual with a girl, for the same reason. Assuming you're ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my little brother - what can I do?

Q.   I'm in love with my little brother. I am currently a senior at my high school and he is a freshmen at the same school. He's casual, down-to-earth, funny, and he has the cutest smile. I've been in love with him for as long as I could remember. ...

A.   12 September 2008: Do NOT, as suggested by anonymous, parade around in front of him in a thong and bra asking him what's your hottest body part. If this was a bloke who fancied his younger sister, prancing about throwing his naked self in front of her, it would be ... (read in full...)

How can I suggest to my girlfriend that she shaves down there?

Q.   Dear Cupid... Me and my girlfriend have just started having full sex, but before we started having full sex, i used to give her oral sex and she really enjoys it. The problem with the oral sex, is that she has NEVER shaved down there, and its...

A.   31 August 2008: Do you trim/shave down there yourself? If not, then I guess you could say supposedly on the spur of the moment, "I know! Let's shave each other down there!" If you already trim/shave yourself, then you could suggest that maybe if she shaved a bit,... (read in full...)

I want to have sex, will it hurt?

Q.   im 12 years old and my boyfreind is 23 years old,we want to have sex will it hurt and will he have to force his penis in me?...

A.   30 August 2008: Find a boyfriend that wasn't born when big hair and spandex were cool. I can understand a naive 12-year old wanting to go out with a 23 year old. I can forgive a 23 year old for falling for a 15 year old. That's life. You can't plan who you get ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is touching my penis in the cinema! How can I slow things down?

Q.   hey Agony Aunt's Need your help sadly i am 15 and so is my girlfriend and we have been going out for about a year now and she is really only in to hugging and kissing but when we were in the cinema one day i got an erection while i was kissing ...

A.   16 August 2008: She probably thought that you'd like it. I'm not saying you should like it, but don't hold it against her or anything because she might feel a bit hurt. Just tell her in a caring way that you want to wait a bit before you start getting more ... (read in full...)

I feel I need to stay with my boyfriend out of loyalty rather than love!

Q.   My boyfriend's younger brother told me that he is in love with me and i feel the same, but i dont want to betray my boyfriend by dumping him for his brother. Im 16, his brother is 16, and my boyfriend is 18.. Help! I feel i need to stay with my ...

A.   13 August 2008: This must be so frustrating for you, but first of all you have to make the relationship between your boyfriend and his brother your priority. You don't want to cause a major rift in their family! I would say that definately take things as slow... (read in full...)

I need space but I'm afraid he might self-harm to get me back

Q.   hey guys. so i been going out with my boyfreind for 2 months but been together for awhile. i love him and hes so sweet to me. for my birthday he got me the nicest necklace and everything.. the other night he was at a party and did something horrible ...

A.   13 August 2008: If he loves you a lot more than you love him, I'd be cautious as to whether you two have a future. I went out with a guy where it just started out as 'a bit of fun', until the guy fell into a state of complete infatuated love. I on the other hand, ... (read in full...)

I'm scared about sex - I just feel so exposed!

Q.   Hi there. I'm a virgin and am in a relationship with my boyfriend of 6 months, who isn't (and who's pretty experienced). I've watched a fair amount of pornography and read a lot about sex, so I'm pretty clued-up about it. But.. I'm really nervo...

A.   9 August 2008: Well... obviously you aren't thick enough to let him pressure you into it, so assuming you're more than up for it... Basically I was a bit terrified first time I did it, about 2 months ago now, but we were both in the mood and it just happened. It h... (read in full...)

I really want to feel chemistry again but it's not happened since I was in high school

Q.   okay. here it goes. i'm an eighteen-year-old female. when i was a freshman in high school, i developed this horrible, unreciprocated crush on this older guy, a bass player i knew. it was one of those butterflies-in-the-stomach, obsessively-chec...

A.   8 August 2008: I was recently thinking exactly the same thing. When I was 15 I got a similarly unreciprocated, over-infatuated crush on an older guy (who also happened to be a bass player?!) and, like you, in hindsight now wonder what I saw in him. Back then I ... (read in full...)

I really want to feel chemistry again but it's not happened since I was in high school

Q.   okay. here it goes. i'm an eighteen-year-old female. when i was a freshman in high school, i developed this horrible, unreciprocated crush on this older guy, a bass player i knew. it was one of those butterflies-in-the-stomach, obsessively-chec...

A.   8 August 2008: I was recently thinking exactly the same thing. When I was 15 I got a similarly unreciprocated, over-infatuated crush on an older guy (who also happened to be a bass player?!) and, like you, in hindsight now wonder what I saw in him. Back then I ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that I fancy transvestites?

Q.   Is it weird that I fancy transvestites? I am a 19yo female in a loving realtionship but I keep fantasising about trannies and have started masterbating watching this porn.. Is this normal or just weird?...

A.   17 July 2008: I'm 17 and started finding trannies hot about a year ago. I told my boyfriend and he says he'll wear a skirt for me one day, I was chuffed to the max! And you say you watch tranny porn?! Please send me a link! I can never find any! (I'm seri... (read in full...)

What pet names can you call a guy?

Q.   A guy calls you 'baby, huni, sexy.' But what can you call a guy? ...

A.   17 July 2008: Hang on. Cupid Rio's answer... no doubt some blokes get butterflies from having their name replaced with Sugar-Dumpling-Pie (doesn't exactly roll of the tongue, does it...) but isn't 'Daddy' pushing the whole incest-turns-me-on thing a little ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend insists on fisting me and having rough sex even though I have had many operations 'down below' and it causes me so much pain

Q.   so i think i need some advice cause i am not sure what to do. my fiance and i have been together for a year and a half. we are deeply in love and he does everything under the sun for me. i couldnt ask for a better man. but we have a few sex issues. ...

A.   16 July 2008: "when i try to tell him how much pain it puts me in, he gets angry or just tells me he will go easy and tells me to be quiet" "he is the best man in the world and i wouldnt want to live without him in my life." HOW, IN ANY POSSIBLE WAY, DO... (read in full...)

Do some girls object to receiving oral sex

Q.   is it true that some girls dont like being eaten out?...

A.   11 July 2008: I ain't fussy myself. My current boyfriend used to almost bite me down there (which is a definate NO) but he's improving! I got to admit it left me a lil nervous :S... (read in full...)

She's having an affair, and doesn't know who she loves more! I don't want to lose her, help!

Q.   I have recently found out that my girlfreind for the past 3 years is having an affair, with her boy best mate. I dunno what to do, she said she doesn't no who she loves more, him or me. I don't want to lose her but if i do it will be the end of my ...

A.   29 June 2008: I LOVE Dr Vendetta's replies. They have me in stitches. I keep having to hide behind my laptop screen because I'm meant to be applying for jobs online and it's not very convincing if I chuckle.... (read in full...)

Why do women scream during sex?

Q.   does sex hurt or do woman scream because it feels good??(growing teen looking for info)...

A.   29 June 2008: "Have you ever been at a party and enjoyed cake and balloons and screamed because it was so exciting?" 10-12 year old girl - "AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! A baLLOON! And CAKE! How EXCITING! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!" I may not scream during sex but that answer ... (read in full...)

This guy won't leave me alone!!

Q.   Hello everyone, My problem is that there is a guy who won't stop texting me, when I don't reply, he emails me. He changes his MSN names and facebook statuses to the EXACT same as mine for instance I had a quote from my favourite TV show - Black Bo...

A.   9 June 2008: I had a problem a bit like this - the guy suddenly worshipped the same band as me, went to the same parties and gigs, and took photos of my house. I barely knew him. It might seem a bit creepy at the time, but I think it's fairly normal for ... (read in full...)

I'm 10. How can I impress my girlfriend?

Q.   im 10 and i have a gf, she likes me as well, but the thing is that i think i need to impress her more, how can i impress her? please help! ...

A.   6 June 2008: One mistake a lot of guys make when they try to impress a girl is to try to put down other people in front of her to make themselves appear better. Don't do it! SHE WILL ALWAYS KNOW! Just be your usual lovely nice self, etc. Be confident. Be caring ... (read in full...)

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