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Hello, I am currently living in Fort Riley Kansas, am a Medic in the United States Army married to another medic in the Army. I like basically doing everything and anything, if my friends mention it, usually I'm game. I like reading, writing, and running.

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If you stop masturbating for too long can it hurt you?

Q.   Well Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months and I am sick of always having sex with him, sometimes if were just laying there watching a movie its all he can think about and I don't wanna be mean and then I feel bad when I say no so ...

A.   14 January 2009: He might have a UTI, Urinary Tract Infection, the only way to recover from one is to use proper treatment. If left untreated will only worsen.... (read in full...)

Should I move bases to be with my future wife?

Q.   Hello, I am a 22 year old male in the army. I met my fiance' in Iraq. It was strange because I use to and she use to look down those because people always rushed them. We started it by seeing where it would go, we both agreed to this. We deployed ...

A.   16 December 2008: I am the original poster of the question, I am finally going to be moved to my wife in Colorado! Her deployment is now in May, I'll be deploying with her. :-)... (read in full...)

Boy names that mean miracle or or something along those lines?

Q.   Hello everyone! So, my wife is pregnant. We are trying to choose a boys name that would mean "miracle" as if this child is born, it truely would be because of the high chances of a misscarriage happening. We have a girl name already, but yeah... ...

A.   9 December 2008: Once again, I greatly thank all of you, THANK you for the link, and thank you for the prayer! This means a alot. Everyone here has been greatly helpful so far. I'll keep everyone updated.... (read in full...)

Long distances relationships, can they really work?

Q.   So do they really work? I mean think about it. To have a good relationship where you might see each other once a week, or maybe once a month, can it work? Depends on how faithful each of the people are. But if you have two people leading s...

A.   9 December 2008: yes they can, my wife and I started out on a long distance relationship, she was 480 miles away from me, we saw each other every weekend, and we were very sexually active. We finally got married and we are living the life now.... (read in full...)

Annoying boyfriend...

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now and I love him to death. However, we tend to get into arguments when I am stressed out and have a lot of schoolwork or family issues. I dont like to confront the issue and just really want to get ...

A.   8 December 2008: Be honest with him and let him know exactly whats going on. If you don't want a relationship it's better to tell him now. If you want to try to make it work, then, be honest, and tell him that what he is doing bothers you. Let him know when you are ... (read in full...)

Boy names that mean miracle or or something along those lines?

Q.   Hello everyone! So, my wife is pregnant. We are trying to choose a boys name that would mean "miracle" as if this child is born, it truely would be because of the high chances of a misscarriage happening. We have a girl name already, but yeah... ...

A.   8 December 2008: Thank you everyone for the names! I will check out that website and thanks for the luck! ... (read in full...)

Boy names that mean miracle or or something along those lines?

Q.   Hello everyone! So, my wife is pregnant. We are trying to choose a boys name that would mean "miracle" as if this child is born, it truely would be because of the high chances of a misscarriage happening. We have a girl name already, but yeah... ...

A.   8 December 2008: Thank you, milagro is spanish, which hits to close to home, I speak spanish. As for pele, I'll write that down as well. THANK YOU! :-D... (read in full...)

Question about masturbation?

Q.   I have been masturbating once a day for about 12 years since I was 11 and I want to know if there is any negative effects of this, any. Also if anyone knows what is the average number a man can have an orgasm in his life?...

A.   8 December 2008: To add on to what the others have said, the only personal draw back I see is the feeling of the orgasm is not as intense if I masturbate everyday, if I hold on from it for a few days, and go back, it feels awesome. ... (read in full...)

YOUR views on commitment please!

Q.   Do you think most guys don't want to "commit" in their 20's even if they REALLY like a girl? Or would even a guy who doesn't like commitment commit if he found the perfect girl? What do you guys think?...

A.   2 December 2008: I think katatonic hit it on the nail. Some are and some aren't, studies suggest that males are more likely to be commited at the age of 25 because of maturity. I am 22, and am married, I was commited to my wife when we were dating when I was 20, ... (read in full...)

Could this be emotional abuse?

Q.   Hi I think I have been in an abusive relationship. Started dating in February, he was loving and things were good. but slowly over time he showed he had a short fuse, ranted to me on the phone about spending time with family, said our time pre...

A.   29 October 2008: He will never stop, mind games are to be taken serious. Bottom line, what he is doing IS abuse. No doubt about it, he may not be physically scarring you, which is good, but he is hitting mentally, and that can, at times be worse.... (read in full...)

Please explain exactly what 'spooning' means.

Q.   I am a little confused about spooning. i know it's a form of cuddling and i know its a very intimate position, and that the female faces away from the male, but is it a rear entry position? or can you get to the other part?? ...

A.   29 October 2008: You can have sex while spooning, through the vagina, it does not have to be "rear entry". However, spooning is generally just what you said it is, cuddling. For instance, when my wife and I sleep at night, her back is to my chest, my arms are ... (read in full...)

Could this be emotional abuse?

Q.   Hi I think I have been in an abusive relationship. Started dating in February, he was loving and things were good. but slowly over time he showed he had a short fuse, ranted to me on the phone about spending time with family, said our time pre...

A.   28 October 2008: He has a temper problem, and might become physically abusive later. Right now though, he is being mentally and emotionally abusive to you. He wont be changing either. Has he been over seas before? If so he might have a form of TBI or PTSD, which are ... (read in full...)

Should I keep trying or just let her go?

Q.   Hello, My girlfriend broke up with me this week because shes going through some personal issues. She says she wants to deal with it on her own but i want to be there for her. I don't know whether to give her her space and let her deal with it or ...

A.   27 October 2008: Tell her, and this has to be from the heart, but tell her that you could deal with her being busy. That you don't want to lose her, even with personal issues, that it's always better to go at problems with someone, then alone. If she says no, then ... (read in full...)

Why won't husband admit to cheating even after getting caught?

Q.   I am agonizing over the thought of accusing my husband of something as terrible as cheating. I have evidence; however, he continues to deny cheating on me and as a result we are in the process of getting divorced. I need to know from people who ...

A.   27 October 2008: I wish I could better advice, but I'm not going to step in on whether he cheated or not. What I will say is, regardless, before divorce, I recommend marriage counseling. This means you are still willing to save the marriage, if he is up to it th... (read in full...)

What is the matter with my girlfriend? Something's not right...

Q.   hi I needed advice one day my gf randomly called me crying and said we need a break. I told her I really really love her and if that's what you need I love you so much I will wait for you for however long it takes, she said that she loves me truly ...

A.   24 October 2008: My wife did that to me twice when we were dating. At the time I believe she did doubt me, because her previous relationships all ended up cheating on her, and here I come, basically saying all the things they said, but I meant everything. It wa... (read in full...)

Do I stay with my pot-smoking boyfriend of 9 months, or go for my long distance aquaintance ?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months, off and on, and I love him.. but he hasnt told me i am cute, pretty or gorgeous..(I always tell him he is gorgeous and cute) it bugs me, because I dress cute for him and want him to notice me.. However, ...

A.   24 October 2008: sometimes when there are problems in our relationships, we look at something else and the grass seems greener. I wont tell you who you should choose, but I will tell you to try to look at your situation realistically. This long distant friend, ... (read in full...)

My marriage is on the brink of falling apart ! Can I save my marriage ?

Q.   We have been married for 4 years now. And it seems me and my husband are drifting farther apart every year we are together. In the begining we fought all the time, Then we got along for a little while. Now there is no talking to each other about ...

A.   24 October 2008: I would recommend you talk to him about marriage counceling. Tell him straight up that you are not feeling loved but you love him, and it's tearing you apart. Tell him that there are obvious problems that he is ignoring. Marriage counceli... (read in full...)

Do I have cause to think he might be cheating on me or am I being paranoid?

Q.   I made arrangements with my boyfriend and some of our friends to go out for my birthday last weekend (Sat eve/all day Sun). Up until the Wednesday of last week he seemed very enthusiastic, but then he text me saying 'shall we see what the weather ...

A.   22 October 2008: wanting your partner to be apart of your birthday isnt being clingy. I'd go with feelsgoodwoman's advice.... (read in full...)

Can Adult Friend Finder create a profile from information they find on the internet?

Q.   I found out my boyfriend has a profile on Adult Friend Finder. When I comfronted him about this he said it was a mistake and that he never made one. He said that the adult friend finder site must have created it, but it has some of his ...

A.   28 September 2008: No, it has to be a physical person, whether it was someone he knows or he himself. ... (read in full...)

Does anybody have any creative ideas on how I should word this email to her?

Q.   Hello, I got a girl's email (it's all she gave me) a while ago, and would like to ask her out, but I'm not sure how I can word it. I'd ask her out in person but I don't see her anymore, and email is the only way I have of reaching her. Does a...

A.   27 September 2008: I wont tell you what to write, but when I'm trying to write poetry to my wife, I listen to love songs and I'm with a pen and paper, I don't copy right anything but it gives me ideas on what to write. Turn off your tv,put on some mushy music, get a ... (read in full...)

Confused guy in California

Q.   Hi, Me and my ex-fiance broke up over two years ago. She jumped into a relationship with a guy right after we broke up. We hadn't talked for almost a year when she called me on her birthday. Everytime we spoke it was a good conversation unt...

A.   27 September 2008: So these two answers given to you before this one are two very different, but good answers, and it could seriously be either one of those two circumstances. If you talk to her again, ask her how her relationship is going, and if she opens up, you'll ... (read in full...)

Can I completely forgive her again?

Q.   Ok so here it goes almost 2 years ago i met a girl while my boyfriend( of three years) was out of province and she became my best friend we would stay up all night long chatting on msn and going on cam and goofing around and stuff we both had ...

A.   27 September 2008: I think time can heal your friendship, but it's good that you honestly have the attitude you have now towards your boyfriend, because that means you are being respectful to him. Keep your friendship and work on making it heal, and still hang out ... (read in full...)

Do giving blow jobs make your stomach hurt?

Q.   hey :) whenever my boyfriend and i hang out (two-three times a week) i give him a blow job. but the next morning, my stomach hurts really, really bad. are they linked? or is is a coinsidense?...

A.   25 September 2008: If you are swallowing it may be giving you a stomach ache, next time you give him one, don't swallow, but tell him before hand that you wont and why, that way if he is very sensitive on that he can know and wont feel rejected or something. Hope I ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my overly needy boyfriend?

Q.   i have been with my boyfriend for a few weeks now, it was originaly not my plan to even have a relationship, but then he came along...but latley he has been really annoying. i dont get free time to my self he gets whiny when i spend time with my ...

A.   25 September 2008: I recommend to sit down with him, and make sure he understands that you still like him, but that you are feeling a little overwhelmed right now. Be nice but honest about it, and again make sure you get the point out that you still want to be with ... (read in full...)

We're both in the armed forces, but she wants to leave the Navy solely for me!

Q.   i started seeing this girl just before i was about to transfer to the army from the navy. i made it very clear that i was transferring and she was fine with that. After training i decided to leave the army so i could take our relationship to the ...

A.   25 September 2008: I'm in a dual military relationship, and I'm leaving the Army for my wife, but the difference with me is I want out now. I don't want to worry about deployments while trying to raise a family. You want her to not make a hasty decision, that's v... (read in full...)

Long Distance Relationship?

Q.   hello im lhory,, i am experiencing this situation right now, and i want to help other people who were very confused about that.. in a simple way i hope it can benifit a lot.. well.. Love in general is a wonderful feeling for all of us and being ...

A.   24 September 2008: I know this feeling all to well. My wife and I are both in the military, we were deployed together and when she deployed back, I stayed for another 5 months. Then we got back to the states and we are now 6 hours apart. It really sucks, but we are ... (read in full...)

I really love this girl, and I don't want to lose her. What are my best options right now?

Q.   Hi there, I had been going out with my girlfriend for a year, and things were great, we never argued, we got on really well - as best friends, made each other laugh, and both really loved each other. Basically there were no problems whatsoe...

A.   24 September 2008: If you don't feel she was holding you back, tell her this, that you are happiest with her. She may however be confused on what she is feeling for you, and may want to make sure she loves you. If you believe her words, then go for her, don't be... (read in full...)

18 years of age and seem to be paranoid about my body. Please help?!

Q.   dear cupid i am 18 years of age and seem to be paranoid about my body. firstly i would like to know is having your lower left abdomen bigger than your right normal or abnormal, as my lower left abdomen seems to be bigger than my right. this happe...

A.   24 September 2008: No, vomiting after meals is not normal at all. Go see your family doctor right away or whoever to get it checked out as it might be something very serious, and remember, the faster it gets checked out, the better it is for you if you do have ... (read in full...)

How do I get her to date me and leave her boyfriend?

Q.   Ok, heres the story. I've been flirting with this girl from my bowling league for weeks. Well now she's been flirting back as far as I can tell. She drew hearts all over my paper then tried getting on my moms good side and is always trying to smile ...

A.   23 September 2008: Continue being yourself and ask her out, but, if she really leaves her boyfriend for you, who's to say she wouldn't leave you for another. It doesn't mean she will... but think about it. My honest recommendation is, don't try to break anyone u... (read in full...)

I want to be with him, how can I make my parents acknowledge that I'm old enough and can take responsibility?

Q.   How can i make my parents acknowledge that i'm old enough and can take responsibility? My bf and i have been together for 14 months now. We love each other so deeply and we always talk about the things we'd do as soon as we get married and our ...

A.   22 September 2008: It's great that you want your parents to see eye to eye on this and that you respect them to where you want their "blessings" and such, but your 22 years old. You make the decisions now, they may not mean to, but are they running your life? Remem... (read in full...)

I'm worried that my brother might be gay because he doesn't like 'man' things.

Q.   Hi, my little brother is now turning 12 and sometimes I am really woried because he acts like a homosexual. He doesnt like cars, sports or any of those man things. Insted he likes cooking, helping in the house, fix clothes, HE LIKES EVERYTHING TO ...

A.   22 September 2008: I only had female friends until highschool, and the only sport I like is running, I don't watch any sports, I don't like these so called "man things" because it's not how I like to spend my time. I didn't have a girlfriend until highschool, he's ... (read in full...)

I'm used to my girlfriend forgiving me after I abuse her, but this time she's fed up. What do I do?

Q.   Hi everyone. I've been with this girl for 3 years now. We have a child together. I love her dearly and want to marry her. She does everything for me. She let's me want for nothing. We have the same religious background which is wonderful (first girl ...

A.   19 September 2008: I feel bad for her. If you end up losing her, I hope you've learned a lesson. No one should ever be treated like that. You may have not hit her but you have for the past 3 years mentally abused her. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is always going out with other guys, but won't let me talk to my female friends.

Q.   I have been dating this girl for 7 months, everything was great, but now she has to piss me off, and by this I mean going out with all the guys and rubbing it in my face and that doesnt bother me so much, what does bother me is that she can do ...

A.   19 September 2008: Talk to her again, and tell her that this needs to stop being a relationship that is one sided, because thats what it seems like. I don't see a problem with having friends of the opposite sex, and I don't see a problem with having no problems of the ... (read in full...)

Is this girl only interested in me because I'm different to what she's used to?

Q.   Question: Does this girl actually fancy me, or is it just because i'm different to what she's used to the only reason she seems interested? I started dating this girl at university back in June, before the summer holidays, and we've been ...

A.   19 September 2008: When I met my wife, she didn't know what to think about me. She dated me first only because I was sweet and seemed like a nice guy. Her past relationships were completely horrible. After some time of things going great, she flat out told me she ... (read in full...)

My bf doesn't have much free time....is 3 times a week being reasonable??

Q.   Hi I need help here, I have a 7 month boyfriend, he is wonderfull, he treats me really nice, we share strong feelings for each other, and the sex is GREAT. My problem is that now we are seeing each other like 3 times a week, he works very hard, he...

A.   18 September 2008: If you are feeling guilty it's becomes you feel you are doing something wrong. I would say if you love him that much, to continue enduring this if you are willing to. I highly recommend you talk to him, communication is very important, if you sit ... (read in full...)

We broke up because she feels unappreciated but I love her to death and it hurts so bad. What can I do???

Q.   Hi, just another problem with the need of a little advice. I have been with this girl for a long time. We recently separated. I am moving a long ways away soon. She hasnt gotten "that time of the month yet" n theres a possibility it could be my kid. ...

A.   18 September 2008: I would recommend you give her space, two things will either happen, she'll realize she wants you, that she misses you, and that she loves you, or... she will realize that she is better off moving on. You could also talk with her and if your seri... (read in full...)

He broke up with me to be with her, leaving me in depression! Is it terrible of me to have told him I still love him, since he is taken?

Q.   Hi. (New to Dear Cupid). I apologize ahead of time for how long this may turn out. I guess it all depends on how much detail I use, or if I start summarizing halfway through... Well, the thing is, I am incredibly in love with a best friend, who also ...

A.   18 September 2008: It does not make you a terrible person for loving someone, you can't help it, it's just the way you feel, but I would still recommend you don't try to steal him away from her. If it's really bothering you that much however, try to move on. I believe ... (read in full...)

He seems uninterested in sex. Am I just paranoid or could it be something else?

Q.   should I be worried? my husband of 3yrs came home from a month and a half debt (military man) and while he was about sex for the 1st day we r home together for a week (no work or nething) n I am beggin for sex all the time but he won't cuz I jus en...

A.   18 September 2008: He might be honest on his reasons but I recommend you wait a while after your period and see where his mind is then. Do you two still foreplay with each other? Try fondling him and get him to do the same to you and if he seems interested but still ... (read in full...)

Does anyone know what this discharge is?

Q.   I am having this "jucky" discharge from my vagina, its red/dark red/brown thick discharge it doesnt smell and im not hurting. Does anyone have a clue of what it is? ...

A.   16 September 2008: The reason I asked about being sexually active is sometimes an abrasion can happen and you can bleed, but you are bleeding more then that, but this much bleeding can go from infection, to an STD, now what I mean is, there are a number of things that ... (read in full...)

Is it his behavior or am I noticing things that aren't really there?

Q.   Hi. I recently auditioned for a show and got in and I went to a rehearsal and we had to go round the room and meet people we haven't spoken to before and find out what part they were in the show and a bit about themselves... a get to know you sess...

A.   16 September 2008: I would say this isn't you looking for things that aren't there, if it's just like you said, then there is some attraction that he has towards you, even if he doesn't intend it to go anywhere, he was still flirting with you, so again, I would say ... (read in full...)

Does anyone know what this discharge is?

Q.   I am having this "jucky" discharge from my vagina, its red/dark red/brown thick discharge it doesnt smell and im not hurting. Does anyone have a clue of what it is? ...

A.   15 September 2008: When did you first notice it? Have you been sexually active recently? dark red/black thick discharges could be old blood. I highly recommend going to a doctor.... (read in full...)

Should I move bases to be with my future wife?

Q.   Hello, I am a 22 year old male in the army. I met my fiance' in Iraq. It was strange because I use to and she use to look down those because people always rushed them. We started it by seeing where it would go, we both agreed to this. We deployed ...

A.   6 September 2008: Hello, I am the original poster, and I wanted to thank you all for your comments. We both decided to marry next month, and will be putting in the packets to be together. After this next deployment, I'm out of the army. keep in your prayers or best ... (read in full...)

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