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I had unprotected sex with two different men. Now I am pregnant and confused!

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Question - (2 February 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 28 March 2008)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I had unprotected sex with two different men a week apart, dec 29 and jan 3rd. I was supposed to start my period on Jan 19th but I didnt, I took a pregnancy test on the 23rd and found out that i am pregnant but I dont know who would be the dad. Can anyone help me figure it out.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008):

first of all safety is the best key. if you are going to have sex at least protect yourself.if neither one is not your long life partner why lay down with them. we all make mistakes.

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (3 February 2008):

Collaroy agony auntGet a DNA test after birth. This way you will at least be able to get some financial assistance form the father. This will teach him to put on a condom when he goes out on the pull.

You will also want to get yourself tested out for STD's ,you could harm your baby.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008):

DNA test. First chance you get.

Even if that father wants nothing to do with the child, it will be the child that will one day wish to track down said father for whatever reason and if you are unwilling to give he/she the info for this , they WILL resent you for it.

So do the right thing and get the test.

Flynn 24

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008):

I think that you should have your baby but keep those stupid two men out of it!! you had sex with them and thats it nothing else just a stupid mistake. So have your baby and find a man who really loves you not someone who just wants to shag you!!! Honestley take my advice you don't need a man who you dont even know proply in yours and your baby's life.

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A female reader, Cherriepie United States +, writes (3 February 2008):

Cherriepie agony auntIm sorry girl, but where is your head at?..unprotected sex with two guys a week apart...what did you expect? Dont you worry about catching a disease? At this point i dont think its fair to have any of these two guys take responsibility for your foolishness. Have the baby and keep them out of it. All they were is booty call, not father material. Are you seriously going to have a long term relationship with one of these guys based on the fact that of their little sperm reached your egg?

Who cares about the DNA test. What about your life and the choices you make? This goes deeper than a chemical test result. You have to make better choices in your life, and with a baby on the way NOW is a good day to start.

I believe in love and marriage and all that good stuff, but a real good relationship is not forged from a night of stupid sex. If either one of these guys were the ONE you wouldnt be here asking yourself who's the daddy. The truth is your baby will need a true father one day, and that guy ought to be a man who loves and adores you...not just the guy down the block who knocked you up.

For now if I were you i would keep them both out of this, and only concern yourself with the future of this child. Even if that future is only with you as its one parent. Is it fair to the guy?...that doesnt even matter. Whats fair to your child?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008):

In this situation, there is no way of knowing until the baby is born & you get a dna test.

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (3 February 2008):

Danielepew agony auntI'm afraid that the only way here would be a DNA test.

I suppose you want to be sure who it was, to be able to talk to the man in question. I think you won't be able to do that for a while. Imagine what would happen if you told Mr. A that he will be a father, and then, when the baby is born, it turned out the baby were not by him.

I think you should talk to these young men anyways. This can be extremely difficult for you, I recognize, but there is no other way. Or then, when the baby is born, you can ask them for DNA tests. But both guys will be angry.

You also need to think what you will do if none of them feels like becoming responsible for the child.

I hope this helps.

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