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writes:I have been with my boyfriend a 1.5 yrs and we have both told each other we will be with each other for the rest of our lives but he wont marry me! He thinks i'm taking the mick and as i've been married before, he calls me a serial bride! I don't know what to do. I love him, and he is going to move in to my house i just brought on my own. He has been in long relationships but always ends them. He is 36 and i'm 24yrs old. Time isn't on our side. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe cant claim any of my property as i just paid £700 to have a financial waiver drafted to which he signed.
thanks for your advice. the first marriage was at 19yrs old and a mistake - but i feel differently this time and know im ready.
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Sounds like a bum to me, but then again he's not my man, so it's your call.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (7 April 2008):
 I was my second wifes third husband and as much as the past is a good indicator of the future each new encounter has to also stand on its own. She fucking divorced me at the drop of a hat but thats a different story. We are still in contact and have ended up good friends. If the relationship is all that marriage shouldn't be a priority. Most people look at marriage as the end of this lifelong quest but it just the begginning of a life of untold headaches. Jobs layoffs childbirths diapers mortgages sickness. When this reality sets in some folks seem to associate this with their marriage and their spouse. "Everything was just fine till you brought all this responsibility and dumped it in my lap." But this comes with any joining of souls and the continuing of mankind and time.
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reader, Collaroy  + ♥, writes (7 April 2008):
 Hi,
You are 24 and already married once? I can see how a boyfriend might interpret that as he put it a "serial bride".
Which he was joking about by the way. But I have to admit If I was dating a girl aged 24 who already had a divorce under her belt, I would be a little worried why she is so keen to get married again so soon.
If it is a deal breaker, then tell him he cannot move in . Otherwise I imagine the pressure will keep building from your quarter and you will drive each other nuts.
Good luck, but you guys could always try living together for a while without the pressure of wedding bells, most folk do it these days.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Don't let him move in. Later he might want to claim a share in the property!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Does it really matter if you get married or not?
If you both love each other a last name and a couple rings shouldn't make that big a difference.
And maybe if you're forcing marriage on him (not saying you are) that could be why he thinks you're a "serial bride"
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