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writes:The guy I've been involved with off and on for 5 years, we are now living together again, asked me to marry him Jan 1st. Then cause his credit is bad, has me get the jewelry card but he would make the payments, gets two rings, engagement and wedding band, then I have to return this in less than 1 month because he can't make the payments at all. Nothing has been said about any new rings, just what I pull up on internet is gawdy. He also didn't want to plan wedding, and everything is about him, and what he wants. What gives?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionupdate to my past situation; we are still engaged and I
should be getting a new ring in 1-2 weeks;he is a little
better financially and says he knows he can do it this
time. thanks for you insights.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Collaroy and Cindy303. Appreciate the fast answers,
yes we do not communicate anymore, just yell. Your right
I should just go forward and tell to him like it is. I
will let you know.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Hi,
looks like you guys don't communicate here.
Did he tell you why he couldnt make the payments? Do you have any idea? You should be open about these things if you are going to share a life together, and either work out to share financial responsibilities or let him work out his problems by himself.
But unless you know what is going on, nobody can really help.
He wouldn't have proposed to you unless he meant it.
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reader, Cindy303 +, writes (2 April 2008):
 Hello,
I am not sure what the problem is. Your fiancee proposed to you on the first new day of the year. I personally see alot of symbolism with this. Something great to start the new year off with. New plans, it sounds like he had it all planned. I dont see a problem with you helping him since his credit needs improving, but why didn't he make payments on the rings? If there are financial problems, then maybe hold off on the expensive rings and wait until things get better.
Maybe he is just trying to get used to the idea of marriage and being together forever. Maybe he just needs a little more time. I dont know. If he proposed he must love you and can see himself with you for the rest of his life. I think you need to sit down with him and have a talk about how your feeling. Keeping the lines of communication open is so important. Talk with him. Express your concerns. Best Wishes. Let me know what you do. Cindy
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