My boyfriend's wife has cancer. I love him, but want what is best for everyone.
Q. I am a 37 year old single mum to a four year old. I began an affair with a man 25 years my senior, (someone i have known for 15 years) around six months ago. prior to this I had been alone since the first trimester of pregnancy. Having a child, a...
A. 8 November 2009: Okay, I'm not going to attack you for being a bad parent just because you're having an affair with a married man. I don't think it necessarily has anything to do with your parenting skills, but does call your judgment into question concerning how ... (read in full...)
How many is too many sexual partners?
Q. How Many is Too Many?? I am just curious, I had the post earlier about peoples opinions/views on casual sex? That got me to thinking, how many would you think is too many for past number of sexual partners?? I mean I know there are average...
A. 8 November 2009: One of the biggest mistakes women make is assuming men think the same way we do. Clearly, men are bothered by the number of sexual partners a woman has had. Like it or not, that's the way it is, ladies. I suggest you LIE like a dog or avoid the ... (read in full...)
I ended the affair with my friend's wife
Q. Im in love with my friends wife. We have all been friends for a long time now. It all started when she asked me to take her out to play pool and drink some beer. She asked in fron of her husband and he didnt have a problem with it as long as he ...
A. 7 November 2009: You manned up. You were willing to accept the consequence of your actions. The fact that you felt guilty proves that you still have some shreds of basic human decency, and that's a good thing. Your confession has made you a free man; now step back ... (read in full...)
How can I show him that marriage can be a positive thing?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together since March. We were together for 6 months 1 1/2 yrs before that, but he got scared and broke up with me. We now live together and have talked about marriage but he goes back and forth about whether he wants to ...
A. 7 November 2009: I think it would be best for you to respect his feelings and not push the issue. A marriage will only work when both people are on the same page and it is something both partners want. Think about it: a man who is "convinced" into a marriage he's ... (read in full...)
She cheated with me when she was in a relationship with my best mate... I worry that she might do it to me now
Q. This is a very long and complicated issue, but its kind of bothering me and wanted peoples advice. well im currently seeing this gurl and things are all great but the problem i have is a trust issue. the thing is she used to date a friend of mine ...
A. 7 November 2009: Keeping a wall up to protect yourself is the quickest way to guarantee that she will cheat or just flat out leave you. No woman wants to be with a man who is emotionally closed off, so if you want to be with her, you have to open yourself up to the ... (read in full...)
I feel bad because I rejected my cheating ex bf... please give me some encouragement!
Q. i was with my ex for 2years and he really hurt me.. like he'd be talking to other girls, cheating..lying etc: but i stayed with him cos i was young naive and thought i was in love and the sex was great.. but i finally had the courage to leave ...
A. 7 November 2009: Don't feel bad for standing up for yourself and not accepting bad behavior from this guy. You totally did the right thing! ... (read in full...)
Should I be trying to move on with my life?
Q. Some background. About 10 months ago I started a relationship with my Sister In Law. Yes I know its messy. We just had that instant connection. Over the 10 months we realized so many things about ourselves and life in general. I have always ...
A. 7 November 2009: Yes, you should move on. You were willing to devastate your wife, her brother and other family members affected by your actions just to be with her. She, however, is not willing to do the same for you. She says she wants to work on her marriage at ... (read in full...)
I want to enjoy sex, but he's too big!
Q. My new partner is also a dear friend of mine. Over the weekend we met up and when we came to "doing it" he was too big for me. We had done foreplay beforehand and he was reassuring but i want to be able to enjoy it without it hurting, any advice?...
A. 6 November 2009: Has he tried entering you from behind? That may help. Remember, the vagina can stretch to accommodate a baby, so in time you will get used to his size. In the meantime, LOTS of lube and don't rush it!... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with my sister in law?
Q. Some background. About 10 months ago I started a relationship with my Sister In Law. Yes I know its messy. We just had that instant connection. Over the 10 months we realized so many things about ourselves and life in general. I have always ...
A. 6 November 2009: I think she's talking out of both sides of her mouth. She wants to make her marriage work, but she still keeps you in her life (even if it is through blogging). She wants her marriage to work, but at the same time wants it to die a natural death ... (read in full...)
I want him to leave but I'm scared I won't be able to cope with my new baby!
Q. hi peeps i have just recently had a baby. she is seven weeks old and i am at my wits end and feel like my life is not worth living. my partner does nothing for my baby and does not contribute even though he lives in my house. he is too busy at his ...
A. 5 November 2009: If he is violent toward you and the baby, you have to leave. He's already not helping you with the baby and you're doing everything on your own, so nothing will really change if you leave him except you'll be happier and more at peace. Even though ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't respond to my calls or texts in 7 months!
Q. My bf and i have had a long distance relationship for 1 year now. but in march i texted him normally and waited for a reply. but he didnt reply to none of my calls or text messages. before all this he said he was busy with work and would be free in ...
A. 4 November 2009: I know a guy who is in the army and serving in Afghanistan. He calls his girlfriend whenever he gets an opportunity--proof that a man will move heaven and earth to reach out to a woman he truly wants to be with. It's a shame that he is not man ... (read in full...)
Involved with married man. Where do I go from here?
Q. hello, i'am 22 years old and i am breaking over this situation. 3 years ago i got involved with a married man 14 years older than me @ one of my previous jobs. everything just started, we both knew it was not right. I kept on because i liked him and ...
A. 2 November 2009: This married man has been using you from the gate. He took advantage of your lack of life experience (at 19) and strung you along for years. You are not the person you were then; you are a better person and deserve a better relationship. Desp... (read in full...)
He's 31..I am almost 17! Could he get in trouble for dating me?
Q. im 16 and ive been dating this guy for about two years i love him with all my heart and so does he, we have been through so much together but theres one problem he's 15 years older than me which makes him 31(im turing 17 in a few days though.) is ...
A. 2 November 2009: So you were dating this man when you were 14 and he was 29? I am seriously disturbed that a man that age would see a 14 year old as a potential partner and not a child. I hope he gets in trouble for dating you because he sounds like a predator. ... (read in full...)
Dating divorced man with daughters...why havent I met the younger one?
Q. I have been dating a wonderful man for over 1 year now. We enjoy each other very much, and when together have a great time. We love each other deeply. We've both been divorced within the last 2 years. The only problem is the younger daughter...
A. 2 November 2009: "He feels obligated to be there for her at all times."
As he should. It's called being a good parent. Back off and let him do his job as a father. He is doing his best to protect her at a time she when she needs to heal from the divorce, yet... (read in full...)
Is she avoiding sex? How do I take things to the next step?
Q. Ive been seeing this girl every weekend for about a month and a half. we live a few hours apart. we stay at each others houses in the same bed when either of us visits. she acts interested in me. I want to have sex with her, but every time we hang ...
A. 2 November 2009: No, she's getting drunk because she has a problem with alcohol. Wouldn't surprise me if she was doing this even when you weren't around.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still goes to the ex's house to let the dog out!!!
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles. I'll make this short and to the point but would really appreciate a guys take if possible. My boyfriend (we have been living together for about a year) he still goes to his ex's house (when she's working and yes she is ...
A. 2 November 2009: Yeah, you're gonna have to deal. If the dog is mean and attacks your dog, it doesn't sound like having it in your home is an option. If that's the case, the ex wife does not have your ex by the balls after all and it seems like they've actually ... (read in full...)
If I leave him he has no one else!
Q. Hi, I'm in need of some help,I have been with my boyfriend for the last 3 years, and i now feel like i'm stuck because if I leave him he has no one else. this is because he changed universitys (to the one im at)and has made no other friends. H...
A. 1 November 2009: It doesn't sound like you want him to change, you just want him gone and I can't blame you. It's not your responsibility to keep him company and the fact that he has no one is his problem. He calls you names, is aggressive and makes you feel bad ; I ... (read in full...)
Any thoughts re my life or how I can get more from it?
Q. Hey. Erm, I just wanted to say a few things really and get some advice? I'm sixteen and I live with my mother, who had me at a very young age, her husband and my much younger half-sisters. I left school a while ago because of bullying and just ...
A. 31 October 2009: I grew up in a similar situation; my mom and stepfather ignored me so I pretty much had to raise myself. I was a good student, but also had a hard time in school because I was so lonely and my self-esteem was so low. I had a few friends, though no ... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: What are you hiding? ... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 31 October 2009: No it's not unreasonable, especially since he has a history of infidelity. A man who was interested in saving his marriage would do whatever it takes to make his wife feel secure and trust him. He obviously doesn't care whether or not you trust him ... (read in full...)
My husband has told me he had a fling with a colleague at work about 2 years ago. How can I get through this?
Q. Married with 3 children under 8 years and as I thought happy. My husband has told me he had a fling with a colleague at work about 2 years ago. According to him it was a lustful affair but he didnt sleep with her. After a few weeks he finished ...
A. 31 October 2009: I have found that forgiveness is a day-to-day things. It doesn't all happen in one shot:some days you will hate him and others you will remember why you fell in love with him. And that's okay. It's part of the process. Don't be hard on yourself ... (read in full...)
Who do I chose? He divorced his wife to make me his.
Q. please help..to make this story short here it goes..i had a relationship with a married man...we parted went our seperate ways painfully he broke it off...he said that i deserved better and that if he got divorced he would come back to me because he ...
A. 30 October 2009: Often men who are involved in extramartial affairs think they are in love with the other woman; you need to let your ex have a "cooling off" period after his divorce. Even if he says he wants to be with you now, he may find after a few months that ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on vegetarian meals I can have?
Q. I'm a vegetarian and I have an alergy to anything with egg in, I have no idea what to eat because my choices are pretty slim, everyone i date thinks it's weird and that i'm just being awkward. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what meals I can ...
A. 30 October 2009: I agree with the other poster's recommendation that you suggest Asian restaurants when you go out. I don't eat meat either and many have dishes made with tofu or just veggies. Indian restaurants are great because they tend to have a lot of really ... (read in full...)
Even although he tried to choke me to death I'm wondering... should I take him back?
Q. Recently my boyfriend was charged with assault and uttering death threats. Both charges I was the victim. He choked me and when I told him I couldn't breathe he said "thats what I'm trying to do". Sometimes I wonder if someone coming to the front ...
A. 19 March 2009: You know exactly what to do. Trust your gut. You know that this guy is bad news for you and your daughter. If you take him back, you are putting both of your lives at risk. We hear stories of men who kill their wives/girlfriends and kids in the news... (read in full...)
He turned to religion and now wants to completely avoid sex
Q. MY boyfriend of six months wants to stop having sex with me... when we started dating our relationship was about sex.. The first thing that we both had in common was that we were very inmate with each other... now he wants to stop having sex because ...
A. 19 March 2009: If you really want to stay in the him,this could be an opportunity to develop real intimacy in your relationship. There are other ways to show fondness and affection besides having sex. You can still kiss, cuddle and hug and be romantic; this may ... (read in full...)
I lied that I had sex and now she doesn't trust me
Q. Ok, the other day I did the dumbest thing ever. My girlfriend and I both 18 want to have sex with eachother and we are both virgins. But she asked me if I have been with any other girls and I wanted to seem like a player so I told her ive actually ...
A. 19 March 2009: Let her know that you lied because you were embarrassed by your lack of experience and then stop pressuring her for sex. If you back off a bit, she will know you are sincere and not just trying to get in her pants. If she sleeps with someone else ... (read in full...)
He's already got 4 kids, but I want a child of my own
Q. So I've been in a relationship with a 35 year old man for over a year. He has 4 kids from a previous relationship, but I love him with all my heart. Being that I'm only 19 years old. I want a family of my own, but I've been having a strange feeling ...
A. 15 March 2009: Enjoy your relationship and enjoy playing with kids. So have so much of your life ahead of you...don't be in such a hurry!... (read in full...)
He was all over me, I couldn't go through with it, he called me a lesbian and left.
Q. I am totally inexperienced but have been curious for about a year and a half. Before that time I did not know much about my body and had never dated. I thought I was ready to fulfill my dream of sex. I got a date with a fraternity guy who is very ...
A. 28 February 2009: This guy is a jerk. Be glad that you didn't sleep with him.
Your reaction may be a response to a religious upbringing that teaches you sex is wrong. Even more seriously, it may be a response to a history of sexual abuse. I don't know if either o... (read in full...)
Is she pushing me away because she thinks we're moving too fast?
Q. so here it goes.... I met a great girl at the start of the year. We went out...went out again two days later ended up having a wonderful time. Things were great, she'd call/text all the time, etc. Then two weeks into it, late at night she tells ...
A. 28 February 2009: I could be wrong (and I sometimes am!), but I think your assessment is accurate. She may fear that a serious relationship with you will derail her plans and her ambitions, but at the same time she does not want to let you go. But she can't have it ... (read in full...)
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