Why wont my husband accept I just don't enjoy anal?
Q. My husband is obsessed with anal sex. We've had it twice. He refused to use any lubricant and it hurt very badly. I told him that I'm not interested in doing it again. I only did it with him because I felt pressured. His female boss is ...
A. 9 June 2010: Forcing someone to participate in sex acts that are painful is not my idea of "working things out".
You might want to consider re-filing those divorce papers-- your husband sounds sadistic. ... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband accept I just don't enjoy anal?
Q. My husband is obsessed with anal sex. We've had it twice. He refused to use any lubricant and it hurt very badly. I told him that I'm not interested in doing it again. I only did it with him because I felt pressured. His female boss is ...
A. 9 June 2010: Forcing someone to participate in sex acts that are painful is not my idea of "working things out".
You might want to consider re-filing those divorce papers-- your husband sounds. ... (read in full...)
Do I have any right to say anything to my ex about his drug taking?
Q. hello everyone. i'm in need of a little help. i am currently in a relationship but i've recently found out my ex boyfriend has been doing drugs. we've not been together for about 2 and a half years now but i still worry about him and to t...
A. 9 June 2010: Well if he's a "friend", what would you do if any of your other friends got involved with drugs? I'm sure you'd say something, and if he's just a friend you should have no problem approaching him on this matter. Why don't you ask your boyfriend to ... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband accept I just don't enjoy anal?
Q. My husband is obsessed with anal sex. We've had it twice. He refused to use any lubricant and it hurt very badly. I told him that I'm not interested in doing it again. I only did it with him because I felt pressured. His female boss is ...
A. 9 June 2010: I know this is only tangentially related to the original question, but I'm seeing red flags all over this situation. I suspect your husband's boss is trying to seduce him. Telling a married man how much you like anal and you pity him for not getting ... (read in full...)
Be a single mum to 3 boys or lose my daughter?
Q. Hi there. I'm hoping someone here can help me. I am in a relationship for the past 12 years. The early years were turbulent but we stayed together and now have 3 young boys. They are great. However ... I also have a daughter in her 20s from my ...
A. 9 June 2010: My mother married a "Joe" and I can honestly say I wouldn't piss on my stepfather if he was on fire. I grew up dealing with his constant criticisms and complaints, making me feel uncomfortable in the home MY father bought for his family before his ... (read in full...)
The memories we shared makes me want to go back to my abusive ex!
Q. Dear aunts.my ex is playing games with me and make my life miserable.iv known Owen from prep school.he has been my first everything.in 2006 WE CHEATED on each other.we apologised and things wer ok again.one nite we were making lov and i was ontop, ...
A. 9 June 2010: Remember how you cheated on each other?
Remember how he called you a whore?
Remember how he hurt you emotionally?
Get real with yourself and acknowledge that some of these "memories" that you cherish aren't all good. Actually, you have not s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says if we have a baby he will settle down with me and stop hanging out on the streets, what should I do?
Q. hi i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 18 and wants to have a baby but he is alway out in the streets he say's if we have a baby he will settle down with me. What should i do?...
A. 8 June 2010: I'd leave him out in the streets and find a boyfriend who is not trying to ruin your future.
Please don't be naive about this. Having a baby is serious business and not something you do to keep your teenage boyfriend around.... (read in full...)
B/f wants me to terminate my pregnancy but continue to help him. I'm very confused!
Q. Im 42 in a comitted relationship and just discovered im pregnant, shocking to say the least after having spent 15 out of 20 years trying for a second child i had long since given up hope and resigned myself to being infertile. Problem i have...
A. 8 June 2010: Don't feel silly; you got the child you've desired out of this relationship, so that alone is worth the drama.
I suppose you have to ask yourself what's more important, being a parent again or being with this man? I think you already know the answ... (read in full...)
How can you get over the feeling of being lied to from your boyfriend about his porn watching habits?
Q. How can you get over the feeling of being lied to from your boyfriend about his porn watching habits? I've been obsessing over this for the past few days. I almost left him for me being suspicious of him lying after finding sketchy files on his c...
A. 7 June 2010: I can understand why he lied. Judging by the way you confronted him over the files on the computer, he probably felt the safest thing was to lie and avoid your anger. But even if he told the truth, I suspect you would have still been upset so in all ... (read in full...)
How do I win my girlfiend back after drunken kiss with another woman?
Q. I need to know how to get my girlfriend back after I drunkenly kissed another girl at a bar. I didn't call this girl, didn't text this girl, didn't even know this girl. I got extremely drunk and acted like a total idiot and lost my girlfriend's ...
A. 7 June 2010: You're already doing the right things; so I honestly can't suggest anything else. Continue your self-improvement for your own benefit, not just to get her back, because her demand to sleep with other guys to get over anger does not bode well for ... (read in full...)
I left my ex for his best friend, but now we want to get back together I'm worried what everyone will think of me....
Q. I was with this guy for 3 years from the age of 14 until I turned 18 we were happy and he did everything for me he was amazing, I then realised I needed to get out there and experience new things, I then left him for one of his best friends. ...
A. 7 June 2010: You have to get your act together and stop jumping from man to man. You've been in a relationship since you were 14 and I suspect you are afraid of being alone or don't know how to function if you don't have a boyfriend. You broke up with your ex ... (read in full...)
Teenage daughter having an affair with a married man
Q. Please help, my 19 yr old daughter is having an affair with a married man. My daughter has been babysitting for a local family for the last 2 summers. Recently I was looking at pictures on her computer and I noticed pictures of the family she ...
A. 7 June 2010: With some people you can't win.
You tell her to stop the affair, she'll continue just to spite you.
When he dumps her, she'll be angry with you for not telling to leave this chump alone.
Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for a p... (read in full...)
Why won't she tell me her real number of sexual partners if she loves me?
Q. I am involved in my first relationship since divorcing my wife of 20 years. I have been in it for 9 months, and it has been wonderful. However, there was an instance a month into our relationship where I caught her in a bit of a lie and it made me ...
A. 5 June 2010: Q, the ex-boyfriend incident happened during the first month of the relationship. That alone should have been a red flag to proceed with caution, but he forged ahead anyway.... (read in full...)
Why won't she tell me her real number of sexual partners if she loves me?
Q. I am involved in my first relationship since divorcing my wife of 20 years. I have been in it for 9 months, and it has been wonderful. However, there was an instance a month into our relationship where I caught her in a bit of a lie and it made me ...
A. 5 June 2010: You had 20 years with your former wife--of course you knew everything about her. Sorry, but you can't impose the same rules of disclosure on a nine month relationship. Since this is your first relationship since your divorce-- a transitional ... (read in full...)
Hurt, confused and drained... what should I do?
Q. I have been in a 14 yr relationship. This has my first in every aspect. I was 18 and he was 19. During the 14 yr relationship he has lied and cheated several times. Each woman that he has been with has known about our relationship and still decided ...
A. 5 June 2010: One of the biggest problems right now is that you still love this man. As important as it is to understand the true nature of love, you need to also understand what love is not.
Love is not deceptive, humiliating, or manipulative. Love should n... (read in full...)
I think my son is having an affair
Q. My son is 22 yrs old his best friend since high school has been a girl called Laura, everyone always said they would be the cutest couple if the both of them weren't too shy to make a move. We knew he always had a crush on her but they just remained ...
A. 5 June 2010: If you decide to talk to him, it's all about the approach. Don't go in chastising him like he's a child and tell him you are disappointed in his behavior; tell him to be careful because he's playing with fire. If he and Laura want to be together, ... (read in full...)
I dropped a friend because she dated an ex. Shoudl I give her another chance?
Q. Hi all Sorry this is quite long. i have this problem at the mo which im havin trouble solvin. Wot it is my ex best friend wants to be friends again, she contacted me through facebook, basically when we was mates a couple yrs back she told me she has ...
A. 5 June 2010: Knowing how devastated you were when your relationship ended, she should have been more considerate of your feelings, but that's water under the bridge now. I'm sure she has come to understand how her actions hurt you.
I think you can be friends ... (read in full...)
Too devoted???
Q. My girlfriend says that I am "too devoted". Not exactly sure what that means. What is the best way to behave as a boyfriend?...
A. 3 June 2010: You're too clingy.... (read in full...)
My husband wants to keep both his family and his girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. my husband has an affair my daughter discovered her father's affair through his cell phone. my husband felt guilty but he wanted to keep both his family and his gf. he promised me his gf won't be his mistress and that his family is always his...
A. 3 June 2010: Well, if he goes to jail, neither you nor the girlfriend will have him. Problem solved!... (read in full...)
I'm referred to as the "place holder" until the ex wants my bf back! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. My best friend is my ex, and his best friend is his ex. Things between me and my ex are completely over, and there is nothing but friendship there. I thought the same thing for my boyfriend and his ...
A. 3 June 2010: Hmmm...she wouldn't be calling you a "place holder" if she wasn't confident that their relationship is definitely over. The fact that he tells her he misses her kinda confirms this.
You should move out. If you want to keep dating him, you can,... (read in full...)
I'm married, but now I want to have my fun with strangers. 3 down and counting, should I feel guilty?
Q. Ok here is my situation I have been married with my husband 5 years, I was a virgin when he took me, he had his fun before me. But just recently I started this appetite of having sex with other guys just to try it out. is that normal? should ...
A. 3 June 2010: If sex with strangers is unsatisfying, why continue doing it?
And for the record, your husband had his fun BEFORE you. It's not his fault that you chose to give him your virginity and settle down before you had an opportunity to go out an sow your... (read in full...)
I cant hide my baby bump anymore but I'm worried about telling my family as my parents are going through a divorce....
Q. I am a 14 year old girl, and i know whats i have done is wrong and i am truly sorry. But when my mam and dad split up 7 months ago i went off the rails such as drinking just to foget about the pain that we would never do things as a family no more, ...
A. 3 June 2010: Tell her at home. This is too much information to take in at one time, especially in public. Don't be afraid of her shouting; it won't be because she hates you, it will be because she is shocked. Once she gets over the shock, you'll be able to talk ... (read in full...)
I cant hide my baby bump anymore but I'm worried about telling my family as my parents are going through a divorce....
Q. I am a 14 year old girl, and i know whats i have done is wrong and i am truly sorry. But when my mam and dad split up 7 months ago i went off the rails such as drinking just to foget about the pain that we would never do things as a family no more, ...
A. 3 June 2010: Honey, the rape is not your fault. You are not dirty or a bad person. Talk to someone about what happened; you don't need to carry this pain around for the rest of your life. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with loving two women?
Q. I am a male married 17 years now. I have a great wife and child. Our relationship is great and there is nothing missing. However, I have always felt an attraction toward a friends wife fir 3 or 4 years now. We are both big flirts and have a good ...
A. 3 June 2010: So true, Q. So true. Bad things happen when the dick runs the show.... (read in full...)
I regret my two affairs but now one of the other women is pregnant, and the other is blackmailing me!
Q. I need help.... I know what I did is wrong and I even lost weight and lost appetite due to guilt and regret. I am married and doing a job that requires high moral values private or public and I am a well known leader in my community and the cit...
A. 3 June 2010: If your wife divorces you, you must accept that as a consequence of your behavior, but you cannot continue to hide the pregnancy or be blackmailed. Yes, your marriage and career are probably over, but you set these things in motion with your ... (read in full...)
I cant hide my baby bump anymore but I'm worried about telling my family as my parents are going through a divorce....
Q. I am a 14 year old girl, and i know whats i have done is wrong and i am truly sorry. But when my mam and dad split up 7 months ago i went off the rails such as drinking just to foget about the pain that we would never do things as a family no more, ...
A. 3 June 2010: You have to tell your mom. Don't you think she'll be more upset when you give birth and she didn't even know you were pregnant? You're not going to make her depression worse; you need her right now more than ever. Trust that your parents love you.
... (read in full...)
My husband wants to keep both his family and his girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. my husband has an affair my daughter discovered her father's affair through his cell phone. my husband felt guilty but he wanted to keep both his family and his gf. he promised me his gf won't be his mistress and that his family is always his...
A. 3 June 2010: Your daughter seems to be the only person who has any sense in this situation. He feels guilty because he got caught, not because he cheated. Instead of asking for forgiveness, he is asking to keep his girlfriend. Sadly, you are actually ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with loving two women?
Q. I am a male married 17 years now. I have a great wife and child. Our relationship is great and there is nothing missing. However, I have always felt an attraction toward a friends wife fir 3 or 4 years now. We are both big flirts and have a good ...
A. 3 June 2010: Something is lacking in your marriage whether you want to acknowledge it or not; you're being dishonest with your wife and yourself. What attracts you so much to this woman? What does she have that your wife lacks? Are you prepared to deal with this ... (read in full...)
My mom spanks me with a shoe, hairbrush and sometimes a belt. How can I talk to her about this?
Q. Hi its a bit embarassing but I'm still getting spanked by my mom usually with her shoe or hairbrush sometimes with a belt. It hurts a lot and I sometimes have trouble sitting after. She wasnt always like this but after my Dad left she has no patie...
A. 1 June 2010: Miamine, a friend of mine who is a single mom of three girls had Child Protective Services called on her when she spanked her middle child for having friends over when she wasn't home and without her permission. The daughter went to school and told ... (read in full...)
My mom spanks me with a shoe, hairbrush and sometimes a belt. How can I talk to her about this?
Q. Hi its a bit embarassing but I'm still getting spanked by my mom usually with her shoe or hairbrush sometimes with a belt. It hurts a lot and I sometimes have trouble sitting after. She wasnt always like this but after my Dad left she has no patie...
A. 1 June 2010: I think because of your age, your mother may need to consider other ways to discipline you 'cuz spanking is not doing anything about your smart mouth. A more effective punishment would be to take away privileges: no phone, no Ipod, or no hanging out ... (read in full...)
Getting married in a few months but can't get my ex and the sex we had out of my head.
Q. Loved sex with ex girlfriend but am getting married in a few months. Have seen ex gf who I was suppose to marry. When I have seen her I think of the best sex I have had. Love future wife and sex just not match in terms of orgasmic frequen...
A. 1 June 2010: Please clarify: you're thinking about ending a relationship because your fiancee needs oral stimulation to cum? Is that her fault or yours? Ever heard of a G-spot? ... (read in full...)
He cheated and lied, where do I go from here?
Q. I recently snooped through my fiancés phone and found an email from the end of April from a girl he used to date. It was clear they had been sleeping together and he asked her to email him some sexy pictures. I freaked and confronted him and he said ...
A. 1 June 2010: I've said this to other posters and I will say this to you: you live in America, not Afghanistan. This means you have options and are free to make your own choices. You are not in a situation where you are being abused and oppressed, so you really ... (read in full...)
I am in love with someone but the problem is that I had a relationship with his best friend.
Q. I am in love with someone but the problem is that I had a relationship with his best friend. I know it was wrong but the guy I had a relationship with is married. It just happened bu now it's over. Now I have feelings for his best friend and we had ...
A. 1 June 2010: You're wasting your time. Most men are not going to be serious about someone their best friend has also slept with; the two of them are probably comparing notes. Do better and find a decent, single man.... (read in full...)
He cheated and lied, where do I go from here?
Q. I recently snooped through my fiancés phone and found an email from the end of April from a girl he used to date. It was clear they had been sleeping together and he asked her to email him some sexy pictures. I freaked and confronted him and he said ...
A. 1 June 2010: You don't need to "wait" for signs, you already have signs; how much more evidence do you need to know that you are dealing with a serial cheater (and a bad liar)? If you want to stay in a relationship with someone you don't trust or you like the ... (read in full...)
Interracial marriage having issues
Q. I'm An African American guy married to a German woman.but we are having serious issues. Been married now for 6 years.our relationship was cool when I was stationed in Germany but now back in the states things are difficult. We have had iss...
A. 1 June 2010: You've received a lot of good advice here, and I think Male Anon hit on something important. Just as you enjoy having people around who can relate to you, your wife also needs to be part of a community that shares her heritage culture. Investigate ... (read in full...)
I need to end this relationship with a married woman!
Q. I have being having a relationship with a married woman for 1.5 years who is a work collegue. Everytime I try to end it I always end up going back.She kind of panics and makes me feel guilty to a extent that I will hurt her. She doesnt want me to ...
A. 31 May 2010: If you want to end things, tell her husband. Works every time. You may end up on the wrong end of an ass whoopin', but it will get you out of this dead end relationship.
This is why you don't shit where you eat.... (read in full...)
Which books will improve my vocabuary?
Q. Hey there, I am 25 and since leaving school and university, I have hardly had the time to read books nor really had an interest for them, but as time goes by I find that my English is not as profound and great as it could be and I am starting to f...
A. 31 May 2010: I suggest "The Emperor of Ocean Park" by Stephen L. Carter. I found it a bit tedious, but it will definitely improve your vocabulary.... (read in full...)
Why did I cheat on my boyfriend when everything is so perfect? What is wrong with me?
Q. First of all let me start by saying that I already am aware of what I have done, I am not looking for comfort or criticism - what I have come here for is help or insight into my behaviour. I cheated on my boyfriend, I met someone through work las...
A. 31 May 2010: I want to live like a sailor...... (read in full...)
Pregnant from anal sex?
Q. Hey everyone! I have a couple of questions to ask and I would appreciate your help! Basically I had anal sex with my bf if 3 yrs and I'm freaking out bout the possibility Of being pregnant! Its been 3 months and I got my period in the first 2 B...
A. 31 May 2010: You're not pregnant. Calm down.
If you can't get access to sex education through school or the internet, you need to stop having sex until you can get access to such information or are old enough to deal with the consequences.... (read in full...)
Why did I cheat on my boyfriend when everything is so perfect? What is wrong with me?
Q. First of all let me start by saying that I already am aware of what I have done, I am not looking for comfort or criticism - what I have come here for is help or insight into my behaviour. I cheated on my boyfriend, I met someone through work las...
A. 31 May 2010: Sorry, I don't buy that the spark has died in your relationship after 9 months and you need to spice things up. Nine years, maybe, but not nine months. And although you regret what you've done, I suspect you are totally capable of doing it again ... (read in full...)
Why is he no longer attracted to me?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is 44, I am 25. When we first met, he pursued me, trying reallyyyy hard, and I know he thought I was really hot. He still tells people about how beautiful his girlfriend is, even tells me if he could ...
A. 30 May 2010: He got with you because of your exterior. You're a young, pretty woman--his dream girl.Eye candy. Someone he could parade around in front of his friends. Now that you've been together a while, he sees what's on the inside. Unfortunately, you're not ... (read in full...)
Did he say he was allergic to condoms just to trick me?
Q. Help... I Just had unprotected sex and i am so scared. He claims hes allergic to condoms. Can someome be allergic or did he trick me me? ...
A. 28 May 2010: There is such a thing as non-latex condoms. Someone who truly is allergic would know this. Yep, it was a trick.
You should be scared because you're 30-35 and you fell for his excuse.... (read in full...)
Ever since he cheated he does not trust me and thinks I am cheating on him!
Q. my boyfreind cheated on me a 4 and a half months ago but because i love him to bits i decided to stay with him now when ever i go out to a club with my mates or dont answer my phone straight away he has started accusing me of cheating on him now ...
A. 26 May 2010: He cheated, he's the one who betrayed you, but now suddenly YOU'RE the one who is unfaithful. I agree with CaringGuy on this one: you can't win in this relationship. You may love him to bits, but he's going to make your life worse and worse if you ... (read in full...)
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