Ever since he cheated he does not trust me and thinks I am cheating on him!
Q. my boyfreind cheated on me a 4 and a half months ago but because i love him to bits i decided to stay with him now when ever i go out to a club with my mates or dont answer my phone straight away he has started accusing me of cheating on him now ...
A. 26 May 2010: He cheated, he's the one who betrayed you, but now suddenly YOU'RE the one who is unfaithful. I agree with CaringGuy on this one: you can't win in this relationship. You may love him to bits, but he's going to make your life worse and worse if you ... (read in full...)
Why is sex painful?
Q. why does it hurt when he does deep inside of me ( my leg on his shoulders) but it does not hurt when it is not hitting the end ( my legs open at th side of his arms while he is on top of me ). is thr somethng wrong? ...
A. 26 May 2010: He's hitting your cervix. ... (read in full...)
My manager brings her baby to the office every week but doesn't allow anyone else to bring in their kids!
Q. Hi guys, My manager at work had a baby 4 months ago and since it's been born she has bought him (the baby) in to the office practically every week! 1 week she came in 3 times. She came in to show off the baby- not for anything work related. ...
A. 26 May 2010: Rank does have privileges, but I'm sure your supervisor answers to someone. Have you spoken to her superior or human resources? You don't have to mention your boss in your questioning, you can just ask about the company's policy concerning children ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to date a reformed player?
Q. I have known this guy Steve for a few years, he is a friend of a friend. He was a total player,dating more girls then I can count and totally disrespecting them. A few months ago we were talking on facebook and we ended up staying up all night ta...
A. 26 May 2010: One benefit of dating a reformed player is that he may have gotten all of his "play" out of his system. He might actually make a better mate than someone with less history because he's not worried that he's missing out on anything.
Just take you... (read in full...)
"He dosen't know what I look like and he wants to meet"
Q. I have been chatting to a really nice guy on a dating site for a couple of months now. I have seen a picture of him but he doesn't know what I look like at all he wants us to meet up tomorrow night.I don't know what to do. What if he doesn't like ...
A. 25 May 2010: Don't worry about your looks; for all you know, this man could look like he fell out of the ugly tree and hit everything but the roots. Relax, get your hair done, buy a new outfit and strut your stuff!
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Our affair was discovered and now he won't talk to me
Q. I have had an affair for nearly four years and his wife found out when i called him at his place she answered the phone. He told me never to call him again and it was over i ruined his marriage. I am also married. This man and i were caught ...
A. 25 May 2010: Let's get real; he will never talk to you again because you messed up his game. He never loved you, he loved having sex and sneaking around with you. He's not talking to you because he's too busy crawling around on his hands and knees begging his ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my mom from finding out I'm having a house party while she's gone?
Q. hey :) well my mum is going away this weekend and i have sort of organised a house party :D but i think i will get cought my neighbors are really strict and horrible and might end up telling my mum :S So i was wondering if you have any suggesti...
A. 25 May 2010: "i was asking for advise not to tell me not to do it!"
Ummm, since having a party without your Mom finding out is impossible, telling you not to do it IS advice...... (read in full...)
I slept with my teacher on impulse, what should I do now?
Q. Thanks for answering this, if it even gets posted! A few days ago whilst staying after school to talk to a teacher we got into a very deep conversation, he was telling me about his wife, we've always been closer than teacher and pupil as he helpe...
A. 25 May 2010: I'm with Eyes. Poster can't keep her story straight. A man in an "open relationship," yet is in a "rut". And then it went from doing it a few days ago to several more encounters since then. And then it went from "I don't know what to do" and "he ... (read in full...)
How do I regain his trust and interest in "us"?
Q. Well i have a problem, my ex broke up w/ me a few weeks ago he has a really bad perspective of me, he cant stand me. Until today he thought we might still have a future but now he doesn't believe that anymore. He tells me he wont ever change the ...
A. 25 May 2010: He broke up with you a few weeks before giving birth because he has a bad perspective of YOU? Something's not adding up. Are you sure he didn't break up with you because he's not ready to be a father?... (read in full...)
Everyone hates me, Please help me.
Q. Everyone hates me. I hate my school because everyone really hates me. I only have 2 friends that i can be with. But I'm bullied, teased at and I'm always being hurt emotionally and physically. No one really cares about me and I my parents said...
A. 25 May 2010: I think adults often downplay the severity of bullying and expect kids to "brush it off" when it's really a serious matter. It's not okay for you to be hurt physically and emotionally, and the adults in your life (parents and school administrators) ... (read in full...)
What should I do... I'm not the same person I used to be..
Q. Okay im 16 for the record. So I met this guy Chris online in july. after meeting him, we totally fell for each other :) i'd do anything for him. so for the first time, he got me to send him underwear pics. and then eventually i also sent him a ...
A. 25 May 2010: Ethan has already told you what he thinks of you; you're good enough to bang, but not to date, so you need to move past him.
They're only interested in your body because that's all you present to them. The only thing I can suggest is that you beco... (read in full...)
Divorced, started dating a younger woman, expecting first child; she is treated horribly without cause, what can be done?
Q. Last year I ended my 8 year marriage to my wife for MANY reason. We were total opposite, and in different places of our lives. My family understood my reasons and were very supportive. Until I started dating again. Shortly after my divorce I ...
A. 24 May 2010: I think when marriages end, people forget that the extended family also experiences a loss. I don't know what kind of relationship your family had with your ex-wife, but I'm sure it's hard to just cut off someone who's been around for 8 years, ... (read in full...)
My gangster ex left me for a hoodrat. Could a relationship work?
Q. Im 19 yrs old. I have 2 kids ages 3 and 2. My exboyfriend is an active gangmember. Ive been with him since i was 15. Hes cheated on me several times n has been in in out of jail. Hes even been deported too. Ive delt with him 4 years think he would ...
A. 21 May 2010: How old is your ex boyfriend? If he's around your age, he is playing games with your emotions. Like most immature men, he wants his kid's mom around and doesn't want her with another man, but he doesn't want to step up and be a man himself. He wants ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to ask him to leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. Okay, so There's this girl (let's call her..Rebecca). So a couple years ago, Rebecca started going out wit hone of my close friends (Tommy), and after a month or two him and I got closer. It eventually lead to us kissing, talking, and touching. Th...
A. 21 May 2010: You are not a victim of circumstance or "bad timing". Somehow you keep "finding" yourself in a position where you're spending time with this girl's boyfriends and then playing innocent when they come on to you. Either you're not telling the full ... (read in full...)
Severe Pain after having sex twice, what is this?
Q. Yesterday was the first time my boyfriend and I were able to have sex for a few weeks. Yesterday we had sex once and then a few hours later we had sex again. Except the second time it started to hurt me. So we went really slow. Once it was over and ...
A. 21 May 2010: If you're experiencing pain this severely, you need to seea doctor immediately! ... (read in full...)
My gangster ex left me for a hoodrat. Could a relationship work?
Q. Im 19 yrs old. I have 2 kids ages 3 and 2. My exboyfriend is an active gangmember. Ive been with him since i was 15. Hes cheated on me several times n has been in in out of jail. Hes even been deported too. Ive delt with him 4 years think he would ...
A. 21 May 2010: Would you feel better if he left you for someone NOT in the same gang? It really doesn't matter who he left you for, the bottom line is that he left you. He left you and the kids because he'd rather get high on meth, sleep with skanks and bang. As ... (read in full...)
When is it appropriate to date one of your best friend's ex?
Q. When is it appropriate to date one of your best friend's ex? ...
A. 19 May 2010: When you're ready to find a new best friend.... (read in full...)
I stained my sheet three times... is there any chance she'll still want me?
Q. Well... As my screen name states it all. I am dumb. I recently cheated on my wife of 12 years. I regret everything about it. It does get worse it was with three women. I know that this act is insulting and a slap in the face to her. I dont know the...
A. 19 May 2010: I don't think you honestly want this relationship to recover. You can't even admit that the reason you cheated THREE times is because you don't want to be married anymore. I say this because when you say you worry that she won't "let" you fight for ... (read in full...)
Is he just putting on an act now he has been caught cheating?
Q. Well I have been dating someone for almost two years now, which may not seem like a long time to some people but he’s my first and I hoped my last. I’m not really into the whole dating thing but something about him just really blew me away. But last ...
A. 18 May 2010: You found out he cheated last week and you took him back already? Oh no, babygirl, you're about to mess yourself up. You only give someone a second chance after they've proven they are worth that chance, and a week of nice phone conversations is not ... (read in full...)
Do you think I successfilly turned off this married man?
Q. My old teacher and i finally started talking about hooking up, especially now that i am graduating in 10 days. i know i shouldnt do this I only told him i liked him. i told him i never had a motive besides to just get that off my chest. in t...
A. 17 May 2010: Saying you'll pick up the slack if his wife is not doing her job is NOT the way to get a married man to back off. If anything, you gave him a signal that you're willing to sleep with him. I don't know why he didn't respond, but I can almost ... (read in full...)
She's having sex with another but I'm still not over her!
Q. I'm sorry if this has been asked before. I've recently split from my girlfriend but we still live together cos I can't afford to move out yet. Anyways she goes out the other night with het "friends" but she doesn't get home till 9am the next day. ...
A. 16 May 2010: It's not that she's lying and being sneaky, she's not informing you of her activities and whereabouts because it's no longer any of your business. If anything she's trying to be respectful of you by not bringing men home; now THAT would be rubbing ... (read in full...)
He wants me to abort the other man's baby but then he wants me to accept his stealing son! I don't think these conditions are fair....
Q. My husband and I have separated due to financial issues, his disrespectful stealing son, and his disrespectful self. Anyway I became pregnant, he want to reconcile but cant see himself raising another mans baby. So in other words he want me to ...
A. 15 May 2010: Your marriage is beyond over. From the tone of your post,you obviously have some strong resentment toward your husband for a number of reasons (his son, his disinclination to work), and while I understand wanting your family back,it doesn't sound ... (read in full...)
He's let me down after this unintended pregnancy, and he's making me feel very low!
Q. Hi...im in a bit of a mess and dont usually do this sort of thing but my family are bias (obviously) and i feel i need some impartial and objective feedback and advice. I am 35 and have been in a relationship with my partner for 16 years. We ha...
A. 15 May 2010: It is unfortunate that your boyfriend is not involved with his kids, but judging from your post, any self-blame and insecurity they exhibit is actually something they are mirroring from you. Are you not insecure? Do you not blame yourself for the ... (read in full...)
I want to end this friends with benefits situation with my ex?? Suggestions?
Q. Hello, I've been in a physical relationship with my ex boyfriend for the past 3 months. Prior to this we had dated for almost a year, when I decided to break up with him. I did this because I felt my needs were not being met. He was thoughtf...
A. 14 May 2010: When he makes a booty call, just say "no". Simple as that, no further explanations required.... (read in full...)
Married and sex is mundane...should I cheat?
Q. I really need some help. I am currently married. My wife is pregnant. About 2 months. I don't understand myself. I love her very very much. However, I can't help but feel an urge to cheat; and I don't know why! I've even registered on so...
A. 14 May 2010: So you wanna cheat because your wife won't have sex in the kitchen? Okaaay.I can already tell you two are going to have problems when the baby comes. If the fact that she only cums in a certain position or does it every other day is a problem now, ... (read in full...)
A very complicated mess with my wife, the girl I lost my virginity to, my best friend and now the boy I have found out is my son......
Q. When I was in school I was on the swim team. We had an away meet which was the regional meet so the school put us up in a hotel. This wasn't chapperoned very well and I went to the room of some girls from a school that was from a rival school in ...
A. 13 May 2010: How nice of her to share her guilt with you! It wasn't enough that she had to carry around a lie SHE chose to create, now you have to bear the burden, too.
Seriously, you have no way of knowing for sure that your nephew is your son. Have you ever... (read in full...)
Should I give him up or wait until his family holiday is over?
Q. iv been seeing a guy for little while now and he wants me exclusive but he has a girlfriend of 1 yr who he only sees once a fortnight and said hes just waiting till hes been on holiday with the kids with her as he promised them .i really like him as ...
A. 13 May 2010: If he's only been with his girlfriend for a year, there really is no reason why he can't end the relationship; it's not like he has invested a lot of time here. If he was truly decent, he would end the relationship before going on holiday. He ... (read in full...)
How can we come to a decision on where to live?
Q. My boyfriend and I met in Costa Rica 4 years ago. I"m from the California and he is from Australia. We have lived in Costa Rica ever since. I go back to California about twice a year to visit. I have always struggled with being so far from my ...
A. 10 May 2010: Unlike your boyfriend, Costa Rica has never been "home" for you. If you can't see yourself having a life and a family in Costa Rica, I agree with CaringGuy that your relationship can't move forward.
Would visiting you family more frequent... (read in full...)
I love this married man so much...what should I do?
Q. Hia, i've got a major problem and it's really tearing me up cause i don't know what to do. I've just turned 18, and my parents know this woman (let's say her name is amy) and have done for a few years,and they are very good friends.She's ma...
A. 10 May 2010: *He doesn't come round that much, as he doesnt want anyone to find out about us that way, he wants to tell people when the time is right.*
Translation: My life with my family and my reputation is too valuable for anyone to find out what I'm doin... (read in full...)
I want to leave but I'm scared he could take my child away from me
Q. I am stuck. I have been married for 8 yrs. and 2 yrs ago i was cheated on but chose to stay. Biggest mistake because every since then i have not been happy. i put on a happy face and try to be happy, but I am not. He will not go to church with me on ...
A. 10 May 2010: I can understand your fears; child custody can be very complicated. Make an appointment with Legal Aid to find out about your legal options.
Could the career services department at your school help you with employment? What about a job on-campu... (read in full...)
Is my co-working seeing me only because I'm convenient?
Q. A male co-worker of mine (a good looking, fun loving, church going, very nice guy) was having major issues with his marriage. His wife had become a hypochondriac, never wanted to do much of anything, and was basically boring. He had brought his ...
A. 10 May 2010: *If he wants his marriage, then have his marriage but he keeps coming back to me.*
Just because he keeps coming back doesn't mean you have to keep taking him back. You could easily take yourself off of this roller coaster by deciding to no longe... (read in full...)
Why is she telling me that other women are checking me out?
Q. Ok so my girlfriend and I go out to clubs and go dancing. We both love to dance and have a great time. One thing that drives me crazy is that she keeps telling me about other girls that are checking me out. I am there do dance with her. I dont ...
A. 10 May 2010: For me, it's a turn-on when other women check out my guy. It's a confirmation of his hotness and my ego gets a boost because he's with me. Bet your girlfriend feels the same way.... (read in full...)
Is my co-working seeing me only because I'm convenient?
Q. A male co-worker of mine (a good looking, fun loving, church going, very nice guy) was having major issues with his marriage. His wife had become a hypochondriac, never wanted to do much of anything, and was basically boring. He had brought his ...
A. 10 May 2010: The problem with your suggestion, Q, is that this only works if a woman is a true pimpette. Being a pimpette has nothing to do with sex or money or exploitation, it's all about control, and a true pimpette is ALWAYS in control of her situation. A ... (read in full...)
Is my co-working seeing me only because I'm convenient?
Q. A male co-worker of mine (a good looking, fun loving, church going, very nice guy) was having major issues with his marriage. His wife had become a hypochondriac, never wanted to do much of anything, and was basically boring. He had brought his ...
A. 10 May 2010: Does anyone else find it ironic that the poster views her relationship with her MARRIED boyfriend as exclusive and won't tolerate or forgive him for being "unfaithful" to her?
Anyway, the fact that you are even asking this question about his feel... (read in full...)
Is my co-working seeing me only because I'm convenient?
Q. A male co-worker of mine (a good looking, fun loving, church going, very nice guy) was having major issues with his marriage. His wife had become a hypochondriac, never wanted to do much of anything, and was basically boring. He had brought his ...
A. 8 May 2010: You said it yourself: you came together to talk about your problematic marriages, but marriage is no longer problematic. He's happy with his wife, he loves her, they've had some great times together and he wants it to work. He's taken away most of ... (read in full...)
I want to pledge the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, but my teacher is talking it down!
Q. I'm High School and I have really big dreams about college. I want to be an English teacher, and I want to pledge and become a member of the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority. I have very strong feelings about becoming an AKA, but I have a teacher that is ...
A. 8 May 2010: NEVER tell anyone about your D9 Greek aspirations. You'll understand more once you get to college. Even if you're a legacy, you still need to be discrete.
I think you are giving your teacher and her opinion too much power. Everyone thinks their or... (read in full...)
I feel embaressed of my new date..
Q. Hi everyone!! I have a question. I am a young looking 41 yrd old female who met a guy off an dating site last week. He was shorter than he stated in his profile, his teeth were more 'sticky outty' than in the photos, and he had this kind of ...
A. 7 May 2010: Despite all of the "flaws" you've noticed, are you attracted to him? Worry less about how your family and friends will perceive him and focus on YOUR feelings about him. If he's a nice guy, but you're not attracted to him, there is no point in ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to start taking care of herself and looking better?
Q. How do I get my girlfriend to start dressing better w/o me spending all my own money shopping for her? Also, she for some reason thinks it's ok to not paint her finger/toe nails or properly fix her hair anymore(she used to). How do I tell her these ...
A. 7 May 2010: I try to maintain my hair and nails because it makes ME feel good, not for any man. That said, if you have a problem with her appearance, you may need to come up off some of that money you're afraid of spending. You want her to polish her nails? Buy ... (read in full...)
He says I remind him of her -- what does that mean?
Q. Hello! I am very much in love with my boyfriend of almost two years. My boyfriend left his girlfriend of two years for me. We met at a rehab facility and she was in jail. We instantly moved in together. There have been numerous times that he has ...
A. 6 May 2010: I think it means that you share qualities that he finds attractive in a woman. It's not okay that he compares you to her, though, even if it is a favorable comparison. Like Caring Guy said, you're an individual and you should be foremost in his ... (read in full...)
A love story for the ages... please help me decide how it will end
Q. This is a rough story and I get a little emotional telling it. I've been dating my girlfriend on and off for 4 and a half years and we've been through a lot together. I met her after hurricane Katrina when I relocated to Houston for school and we ...
A. 6 May 2010: I think you need to devote your mental and emotional energy to getting back on track with your career aspirations instead of focusing on this relationship. You've allowed your interactions with her to distract you long enough. It's time to create a ... (read in full...)
Mid-Life crisis?
Q. I'm basically a mummy's boy. Never had a functional relationship; find sex confusing; lots of emotional relationships with women; just broke someone's heart, knowingly, and probably put her on track for a relapse in her recovery from abuse; have ...
A. 5 May 2010: Face the fear. Look whatever it is that is keeping you from having a fulfilling life dead in the eye. Get to the truth of why you avoid closeness and intimacy. Confront your feelings of inadequacy and acknowledge any anger that may be feeding your ... (read in full...)
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