I want my best friends wife, I already had her friend
Q. I need help.... I find my friend's wife attractive and I am afraid that I desire her.... We were watching a game few years ago and when our team scored,everybod was jumping, congrulating each other and me and her hugged each other...It was s...
A. 29 November 2009: You sound full of yourself. This woman has let you know that she is not interested in having sex with you, yet you continue to try to seduce her. No means no! You're lucky she hasn't told her husband. I hope you can fight because I'm sure he'll kick ... (read in full...)
Hair pulled out of head...I never needed advice more in my life as I do now. Whats your thought on this?
Q. Hey guys, Background first of all, I'm in a relationship that is requiring a lot of work to keep going. I love Sarah to bits but its really hard to make us work. We are together for more than 2 years. We took breaks(not seeing other people) a ...
A. 29 November 2009: Stop trying to avoid the pain and end your relationship. If you bring out the worst in each other, why would you want to continue? You're entirely too young to be stuck in a relationship that's not working.... (read in full...)
I want to be friends with my married lovers step son
Q. i`m a widow of almost 10 months i have been seeing a married man for about 4 months we have kept a low profile as far as his family is concerned, (no small children)now he is telling me he loves me and i believe him, he also states his wife is ...
A. 29 November 2009: Are you serious? Really, are you serious? What on earth makes you think that his disabled wife's son wants to meet his dad's girlfriend? You act like you're dating a single dad and want to meet his kids. Newsflash: you're not dating a single man and ... (read in full...)
Even hearing he's ex's name makes me ill!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4months and yesterday was the first time i met his 4year old son. It was so weird hearing him call my bf 'daddy'! I'm quite a jealous person and i can't stand his ex (the mother of his son) but they get along very ...
A. 29 November 2009: I think you're already quite mad. You've only been with this guy four months, so you need to calm down and realize that not only is a situation that existed long before you came into the picture, but that you aren't more important than his kid and ... (read in full...)
He got cum all over my stomach, am I pregnant?
Q. Am i pregnant!!! the other night i gave my boyfriend oral he ejaculated over my stomach about 1 minute later i ran to the toilet rubbed water and soap on me then showered the soap off is ther a possibility that i could be pregnant x...
A. 29 November 2009: For the love of God, when are you young folks going to figure out how babies are made?! Stop having sex or having sex acts, get yourself educated and get on birth control.... (read in full...)
The baby was born 11 months after I was home, is the baby mine?
Q. I have a question when i was home from Iraq last year 2008 the last time me and my wife had sex was april 4th 2008 when i cam back from iraq ahe told me she was preg and then on March 1st 2009 our son was born her due date was feb 26 2009 now is ...
A. 29 November 2009: I know there may not be much you can do from Iraq, but you should challenge paternity as soon as possible. I've heard of cases where children conceived during a marriage--even if the husband was not the father--are considered products of the ... (read in full...)
I kept it all in the familiy and slept with his brother
Q. I slept with my current Boyfriends brother about 3 years ago, at the time I had broke up with my boyfriend because a)he moved in with his pregnant gf b)he hit me with my daughter(his 1st kid)in my arms, c)cheated on me with 3 different girls. ...
A. 29 November 2009: I wouldn't because you were broken up, and you shouldn't feel the need to confess anything. On another note, you may want to reconsider working things out with a man who hit you, got another chick pregnant, and cheated on you with three other girls. ... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a womanizer then gave his wife my email and password to show her the proof
Q. Hello, This is just a follow up of what I have written earlier. I got involved with a 68 yrs old man thru internet online and he is married. He is a womanizer, but still I loved him and even learned to love his imperfections. Up front I told him...
A. 29 November 2009: Change your email password IMMEDIATELY and leave this man and his family alone.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I could be falling for the man I am having an affair with!
Q. i had an affair with a guy i met at work. i work at a hotel which he stays there from time to time cause he travels on his job. hes married and so am i but i was instantly attracted to him and we ended up having sex. it was a really good night for ...
A. 27 November 2009: Good sex doesn't equal love. Get real.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a threesome with another man!
Q. My wife wants a threesome with another man. She says she loves the idea of "spit-roasting." I am disgusted, when I first met her two years ago in Church she was innocent and caring, and she saved herself until our wedding night. I don't know where ...
A. 27 November 2009: Tell her the threesome is out of the question. Then buy a sex book with different positions you can try out to keep your sex life hot. ... (read in full...)
Cheated and fell in love..what now?
Q. Here's my predicament... I've been married 17 years, contently, i would say, but not always happily. I love my wife but am not in love. we have two children (14 and 7). Two years ago, I started an affair with a co-worker. She and I each seemed to ...
A. 27 November 2009: It's really easy to fall in love with someone you always see at their best. You've never had to deal with your mistress when she's PMSing; she's never had to deal with you farting in bed or washing your dirty underwear. The two of you have never had ... (read in full...)
Cheated and fell in love..what now?
Q. Here's my predicament... I've been married 17 years, contently, i would say, but not always happily. I love my wife but am not in love. we have two children (14 and 7). Two years ago, I started an affair with a co-worker. She and I each seemed to ...
A. 27 November 2009: It's really easy to fall in love with someone you always see at their best. You've never had to deal with your mistress when she's PMSing; she's never had to deal with you farting in bed or washing your dirty underwear. The two of you have never had ... (read in full...)
After having an affair with a married man for 18 years he has finally left his wife, but now he is seeing another younger woman!
Q. i have been having an affair with a married man for 18 years. he and his wife of 28 years have just filed for a divorce. i didn't encouage him in fact i told him to rethink and try an make up with his spouse. he sais that its too late and that its ...
A. 27 November 2009: You may still love him, but the truth is that he has never loved you. You were his mistress, nothing more, and as such can be easily replaced. The sad thing is that you will probably continue to sleep with this man, continue to be second- or ... (read in full...)
He's got a girlfriend but wants to sleep with me!
Q. hey im 17 and there this guy on my college course that i thought like me but it turns out he got a girlfriend, but he keeps asking if i want to sleep with him, i mean i wanted too.. but now i know he got a girlfriend i dont know what to do pls ...
A. 27 November 2009: Not only does he have a girlfriend, but he's asking for sex before he's even asked you to go out on a date. LOSER! The fact that your good enough to screw, but not good enough to take out to a dinner or movie, should give you an idea of his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slapped me... what should I do for him to forgive me?
Q. What should i do my boyfriend slapped me? What should i do for him to forgive me? me and my boyfriend got in a big argument about where we will spend thanksgiving and i said a few things and kicked him where it would hurt the most.. cause he was p...
A. 27 November 2009: The two of you need to separate. Obviously, you have anger control issues as does he, especially if you're arguing over something like where to spend Thanksgiving. Jesus, what's gonna happen when you argue about serious issues? One of you is going ... (read in full...)
Are condoms safe enough without using birth control?
Q. Hi everyone. Well, me and my boyfriend are planning to have sex soon, and we are both virgins. Of course we're planning on using protection to prevent pregnancy and infections. The thing is, is it okay to only use condoms on the first time and not ...
A. 27 November 2009: If your mother is going to get in the way of you getting pills now, I don't understand why this won't be something she'll do after the fact. If you're going to have sex, definitely use a condom, but you should really get on the pill before you have ... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend faces prison for what he did, should I continue case against him?
Q. I stupidly met up with an obsessed ex boyfriend reasons I do not know nor can explain. We met up and returned home to his house by taxi around 11.30. On entry into the house I went to the toilet. During this time he had taken my mobile and proce...
A. 27 November 2009: You describe your ex as obsessed and clearly violent; if you don't press charges he may kill you next time.... (read in full...)
My ex bf's new wife has a brother...and we are seeing each other! Is this going to be a problem?
Q. Ok where do I start? When I was 17 I had a child with my boyfriend/fiancee at the the time. As time passed we broke up. Dated for about 3 yrs. Now our son is almost 6 years old. My ex has married another woman that I know. No hard feelings. I'm ...
A. 25 November 2009: I don't think it will confuse your son that you are dating his step-uncle and you should continue seeing this guy if you're really interested in him.... (read in full...)
The woman he cheated on my with is now stalking him and he won't cut contact...
Q. I to am having a problem that is so very close to yours, I myself am having a problem getting over this. He cheated a year ago, lied to me about it more than once, then finally came clean when he thought he was gonna lose me. We are not married, but ...
A. 25 November 2009: You are not stuck; you can choose to put your foot down instead of sneaking around to make sure he's not still cheating. Tell him you are gone if he doesn't cut off contact, and mean it. He's broken your trust and needs to understand that he will be ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with his infidelity that resulted in a baby? I can't stand the pain.
Q. I have been in a relationship for 3 years. I recently moved in a year ago with my 2 daughters. During one of our break ups he had sex with a so called friend, results a one year old son. Even though i tried to hang in their it was very hard. I ...
A. 25 November 2009: Not only did he cheat, but there is now living, breathing proof of his betrayal. You have every right to feel as you do. I can't tell you to move back in with the guy in spite of the affair: only you can make that decision. However, understand that ... (read in full...)
I'm Falling for a Married man, "my boyfriend"...I Need Some Advice.(affair)
Q. Im Falling for a Married Man,were having an affair. Ive allowed him to consider me as his girlfriend, and hes my "boyfriend" Ok, I will tell you all the informantion i think you need to know to understand what im going through, from beginning t...
A. 25 November 2009: You've been seeing him for 5 months, yet his wife is 3-4 months pregnant. Obviously he is not so unhappy in his marriage that he stopped having sex with his wife. And a man who is truly unhappy would not give his wife "another chance" because she's ... (read in full...)
My sister sent him naked photos, how do I get over this and him?
Q. A year ago my bf lied about being home one evening. Something told me he was lying I went to his apartment stood in the middle of it and called him. I asked what we was doing he said cleaning his apartment. Needless to say I got back with him. I ...
A. 25 November 2009: He has lied to you on more than one occasion, but YOU'RE the one with trust issues? Please don't let him manipulate you and make you believe that you are somehow responsible for his bad behavior. It hurts now, but better a few months of hurt than a ... (read in full...)
Divorcing naked creepy ex... What if he does something?
Q. I split from my husband 4 years ago after being in a very passionless marriage for 10+years, no kids. I have given him plenty of time to adjust to life without me and now I am filing for divorce. He remains in complete denial. Tonight I dropped by ...
A. 24 November 2009: Perhaps he would have moved on if you weren't dropping by the house you shared to pick up belongings you should have taken with you four years ago. Maybe your failure to make a clean break has lead to his denial. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he'll spend every weekend driving his children around and not be a proper step-dad to mine!
Q. Hello Aunts/Uncles I really need opinions here. I have been engaged to a wonderful man for 6 months now and although we do not live together at the moment, the plan is for him to move in next year. I have two children living with me from my first...
A. 24 November 2009: Your fiance is obviously a good father and enjoys spending time with his kids whenever he can, even if it means shuttling them to and fro on the weekends. He's not doing this because his ex won't, he's doing it because he wants to. That said, being ... (read in full...)
Should I foster or adopt a child against my boyfriend's advice?
Q. I have a boyfriend of six months who is against my idea of fostering a child. My idea is to adopt a child if i dont get married, and i would like to start with fostering. I realise i have been puting my plans on 'hold' waitng for marriage.I havent ...
A. 24 November 2009: What do you want more, to be a parent or to be in a relationship with this man? I think if you really wanted to be a mother, you wouldn't even begin to ask whether or not you should put your plans on hold for this man.... (read in full...)
I need to get over these feelings for my best friend's husband!
Q. I write this in tears. I have fallen head over heals in love with my friends husband. YES I KNOW THIS IS WRONG and HORRIBLE in everyway. I REALLY do love my friend. She is like a sister to both my husband and I. I've been married about 15 years and ...
A. 24 November 2009: I'm glad you understand how much you stand to lose in this situation, but it sounds like you're still hanging on the belief that he is equally as torn up about the situation as you are. I only mention this because thinking this way will lead you to ... (read in full...)
I need to get over these feelings for my best friend's husband!
Q. I write this in tears. I have fallen head over heals in love with my friends husband. YES I KNOW THIS IS WRONG and HORRIBLE in everyway. I REALLY do love my friend. She is like a sister to both my husband and I. I've been married about 15 years and ...
A. 23 November 2009: Whatever you do, DO NOT tell this man of your feelings. Based on his distance and the awkwardness when you are alone, I suspect he has an inkling of your feelings and they make him uncomfortable. He's pulling back because although he enjoys your ... (read in full...)
My wife suddenly won't allow me to have sex with my girlfriend!
Q. [Moderator note: question edited for clarity] Me, my wife, and my girlfriend have been involved for a while. My wife has allowed this because 1) she was my ex fiance and 2)I have an over active sex drive that would make a porn star blush. My wife ...
A. 23 November 2009: I am totally confused by the way you define treating your wife like a "queen" and with "respect". Obviously she doesn't want to play the field and no longer wants you to play the field, either. End of story. If you respect her as you say you do, ... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex, even though he has a new girlfriend. I want him back, how do I do it?
Q. Okay, so I have a kind of bad story, but I need some advice, without bad comments please. So I have been talking to my ex whom I dated about five years ago. I am still crazy in love with him, and he told me there is no reason why he would not go out ...
A. 23 November 2009: If he's not willing to break up with a girl he's only known for two months, I don't think there is anything you can do to get him back. He is where he wants to be, and that's not with you. I hope I don't sound too harsh, but I've been where you are ... (read in full...)
How do inform my friends and family I'm living with a new man?
Q. Hi, I am 27 yrs old and I ended my 5 yr marriage 8 months ago. My family loved my ex husband and were upset that we're getting a divorce. We have 2 children a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old who live with me but he sees on weekends. We decided to end our ...
A. 23 November 2009: I don't think the age difference will be as much as a problem as the fact that you and your kids moved in with a man after six months of dating--this is what your family is going to have a problem with. Although you have moved on from your marriage, ... (read in full...)
Have any other men divorced their wives to be with their sister in law?
Q. have men divoced their wives to marry their wife's sister? does this happen or am i the only one that is conteplating this?...
A. 23 November 2009: Yes, move away and try to enjoy your lives together while your sister-in-law lives with the reality that she has caused irreparable damage between herself and her family (parents, sibling, nieces, nephews, cousins, etc) and that she will likely ... (read in full...)
My wife suddenly won't allow me to have sex with my girlfriend!
Q. [Moderator note: question edited for clarity] Me, my wife, and my girlfriend have been involved for a while. My wife has allowed this because 1) she was my ex fiance and 2)I have an over active sex drive that would make a porn star blush. My wife ...
A. 23 November 2009: Sounds like your wife made this agreement to keep you happy and because she wanted to keep you around, not because it takes the pressure off of her. Now she's getting tired of sharing the selfish bastard she's married to--Lord knows why she wants ... (read in full...)
Have I fallen in love with her?
Q. I need help understanding myself. I am a man living in the US Who moved here about 4 years ago for work from tokyo after being there for 5 years and meeting a woman. In between jobs had a child with her and built her and my daughter a beautiful ...
A. 18 November 2009: You're probably not feeling very connected to the mother of your children since you see them so infrequently. In such a situation, it would be easy for you to fall for--or think you've fallen for--a woman who you don't see regularly, but have more ... (read in full...)
My ex has given me an ultmatum: get back together or no contact!
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a while ago because I needed a little break. He's a little clingy and way too insecure and he wasn't really my type. Plus, he's 19, and I'm younger than 18 years old. He took this hard and said he couldn't just go back ...
A. 13 November 2009: You should send him on his way. You have other friends and don't need to be blackmailed into a relationship you don't want.... (read in full...)
How can we be honest with my brother AND gain his support?
Q. I recently have developed feelings for my older brothers best friend. I am 28 and he is 38. We've known each other for 5 years and he has admitted he has feelings for me also. For about a month now we have been having a secret relationship behind ...
A. 11 November 2009: I think when you and your brother have some time alone, tell him that you're really interested in his friend and would like to pursue a relationship with him. Don't ask his permission, but et him know you are telling him this because you don't ... (read in full...)
Trying to cope with my girlfriend's past
Q. I'm having problems coping with my girlfriend's past. We've been dating for a month and I really want it to last but every once in a while it comes up and haunts me a little bit. She was my first everything. I first found out when I asked he...
A. 10 November 2009: In the future, never ask a woman you are in a serious relationship with how many partners she's had. No matter what she tells you, you won't like the answer. Secondly, understand that her sexual past may reflect some past abuse or self-esteem issu... (read in full...)
How can I eliminate this harrassment without causing a scandal?
Q. An explanationa and a question...I had a brief internet fling with a much younger friend of the family. It was never a love thing or even an attraction for me but i think it was more of an ego trip. Our families have been friends forever and he is r...
A. 10 November 2009: You can disable your FB chat; click on Options and select "go offline". You can also put him on limited profile, and don't broadcast any personal activities on your status message. You will probably need to disable your IM or get another IM service ... (read in full...)
Should I be alarmed by the timing of her personal grooming?
Q. I am a 44 y/o male engaged to a 42 y/o woman...we have been together for 1.5 yrs., our relationship has had it's ups and downs, however, we profess our commitment to each other. She seems to wear her ring with pride. Although, lately we have been in ...
A. 10 November 2009: She groomed because she's going to the beach/pool and doesn't want hair sticking out of her bathing suit. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends love of butts makes me insecure!
Q. I have a petite butt, small and a bit flat comparing to most women. My boyfriend said he loves my butt and he can't seem to keep his hands off of it. I'm just wondering why he seems to love my butt when my butt is smaller and not as nice as most ...
A. 10 November 2009: He loves your butt because he loves YOU!... (read in full...)
I lied about my sexual history. How can I make it up to him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. When we first got together i lied about how many sexual partners i had had. Since then, I have lied to him about 2 or 3 more times, letting only a little bit more information slip but not telling him ...
A. 9 November 2009: Is he upset because you lied or is he upset over the number of men you've slept with? If he's upset over the lie, the first thing you have to do is let him know that his feelings are legitimate and that you understand his point of view. Try to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's wife has cancer. I love him, but want what is best for everyone.
Q. I am a 37 year old single mum to a four year old. I began an affair with a man 25 years my senior, (someone i have known for 15 years) around six months ago. prior to this I had been alone since the first trimester of pregnancy. Having a child, a...
A. 8 November 2009: Okay, I'm not going to attack you for being a bad parent just because you're having an affair with a married man. I don't think it necessarily has anything to do with your parenting skills, but does call your judgment into question concerning how ... (read in full...)
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