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Soon to be ex wife wants a farewell f*ck but I have a girlfriend!

Q.   I am about 2/3 the way through a divorce with my wife of 20 years. I have been separated from her for 4 months now and seeing someone else who I care about very much. This woman was an affair that turned into a committed relationship. My wife and ...

A.   11 July 2010: "I said I'd be willing if it was a new beginning, and that I would end everything with the other woman." This is where you messed up. In essence you told her you would only end things with the other woman if she took you back. Again, you want to ... (read in full...)

He treats me like a princess but sleeps with other women..should I leave him??

Q.   He's much older than me with the age of my dad and treats so well like a princess. He cares about me and calls me regularly every week. BUT He has sex with other women which I can not stand at all. Should I just leave him? P.S. He really t...

A.   11 July 2010: What you have is a sugar daddy--he takes care of you and in exchange, you have sex with him. The problem is that you think your relationship is something it is not. You don't have a romance, you have a business arrangement. The fact that he has s... (read in full...)

I'm 14, he's 20, he wants a commitment, I don't, how do I get him to stop texting me??

Q.   this boy i was with brought me gifts and said he wanted to get married and have kids and get our own place as soon as possible. im only fourteen and he is twenty. i just founf out he has a four year old daughter with his ex and i ended it, he keeps ...

A.   10 July 2010: Block his number or change yours. You need to tell your parents what's going on, too, in case this guy tries to escalate things. ... (read in full...)

Soon to be ex wife wants a farewell f*ck but I have a girlfriend!

Q.   I am about 2/3 the way through a divorce with my wife of 20 years. I have been separated from her for 4 months now and seeing someone else who I care about very much. This woman was an affair that turned into a committed relationship. My wife and ...

A.   10 July 2010: You had no problem cheating ON your wife, but now you're having a crisis of conscience about cheating WITH your wife? Interesting. It definitely sounds like you're hedging your bets so you won't be alone in case one of these women don't work out. ... (read in full...)

Should I leave my wife for the love of my life?

Q.   I have been married for almost 25 years now, other than sex , we have never had much of a relationship, We could drive across country and speak very little to each other. She is deeply in love with me. We have four children but only one is left at ...

A.   10 July 2010: After 25 years, you owe it to your wife to give her an opportunity to work with you to fix your relationship. End your affair and go to counseling and COMMIT to it with all of your heart. You've given the other woman the last five years of your ... (read in full...)

He won't move out and the police don't help..how do I evict my 46yr old drug addicted roommate?

Q.   Please help with this problem. I live with a guy who smokes crack frequently. It didn't start out this way years ago when I met him. He was in AA and clean. He started this, unbenownst to me at the time, when he took his first drink again after ...

A.   10 July 2010: You may have to go through the legal eviction process. Talk to the clerk's office at your local court to get the paperwork you need to serve on your roommate to start the eviction. Caringguy has a point; can you get the police to arrest him for ... (read in full...)

Should the good guy dump his wife of 20 years for the old girlfriend?

Q.   My wife and I just passed our 20th anniversary, we have two girls 10 and 14. My wife has various emotional issues and our home life can often be chaotic. I have always done much of the home work (cooking, keeping an eye on girls' schoolwork, ...

A.   8 July 2010: Your female friends and relatives have it all wrong. After two decades of marriage, it's easier for you to cheat and consider walking away than looking your wife in the eyes and saying, "I'm on the verge of leaving you. Either you come with me ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's behaviour is outrageous

Q.   This is the third time me and my girlfriend have been together. Each time the relationship started i approached her and we talked things out and everything always starts off great. The first time I broke up with her she didn't like my friends ...

A.   3 July 2010: Note to self: the next time your friends speak out against your relationship, take a moment and listen to them. They might be on to something. Sounds like everyone except you has figured out that this girl is throwed off. ... (read in full...)

He got married to someone else due to pressure from his parents, will he divorce her and come back to me?

Q.   My BF got married under parents pressure but ran towards me in just a month.For 1yr, we are again dating.will he divorce and come permanently? We were in serious relationship for almost 5 yrs. But, he had to get married under parents pressure...

A.   3 July 2010: If he caved under his family's pressure to marry her, do you honestly think he's suddenly strong enough to stand up to them now? You're dealing with a coward.... (read in full...)

I know I will end up getting hurt by this married man but part of me wants to know how it would feel to make love to him!

Q.   I'm in love with a married man that I have been dating now for two months. we never slept together,but I'm planning on sleeping with him soon. I'm a little afraid because I think I may get hurt.I know the easy thing would be to run away now! but a ...

A.   1 July 2010: If you see there is a clear and present danger of you getting hurt, why would you even THINK about sleeping with this man? Sleeping with him will only intensify your feelings for him and make your life hell. How do you think you will feel when he ... (read in full...)

My husband spoiled his ex'es, and now I have to help pay the debts! Should I ask his mom for financial help?

Q.   My husband and I are in dire financial straits. My husband has a big fault; he is too generous. It will most definitely help him get into heaven but it's not helping much here......right now. He was took to the cleaners by an ex wife and then a ...

A.   30 June 2010: Your mother-in-law needs her money to take care of herself, not dig her son out of a mess he put himself in by being foolish. Your husband should speak to an attorney about filing for chapter 13 bankruptcy and get his debts reorganized. If he's been ... (read in full...)

Should I leave him with that girl he doesn't know or stay with him?

Q.   Hi, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a month. He's 14 and im 13. just a day before at nught when i was sure we were meant to be together. he tells me he got another girl pregnant. and then he said that it was a few months ago. tha...

A.   30 June 2010: There are so many issues with this situation that I don't even know where to begin. *sigh* You're only 13--you do not need to tie yourself down to a BOY who is about to be a parent. The fact that at 14 he's getting drunk and having unprotec... (read in full...)

His ex wife doesn't want the child to know about me

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together for two years now we recently just moved in and everything seems to be good.theres just something that im tryn to understand better.hes ex wife doesnt allow hem to see there daugther unless i am not around or ...

A.   30 June 2010: Your boyfriend is the one missing out on spending time with his child, not you, and from your post it sounds like you are more concerned about his time with his kid than he is. If he's not doing anything to change the visitation arrangement, he must ... (read in full...)

My husband is acting strange and out of character could he be cheating?

Q.   My husband is acting strange,and out of character, although in nice ways, making dinner, cleaning the house,and generally making unusual effort to spend time with me. He has even been suggesting we make love, (he usually says he's too tired!!) H...

A.   29 June 2010: Perhaps you should just ask him.... (read in full...)

I am friends with this family, but I am attracted to the husband!

Q.   I have known this man for most of my life and we have always been close as friends, but lately I have started to feel as though it is more than friends. It feels very natural and normal when I am alone with him and my feelings for him are starting ...

A.   28 June 2010: You have been alone for five years and you are lonely, that's all. If you had a mate of your own you probably wouldn't give this guy a second thought. Instead of fixating on someone else's husband, you should focus your energies on finding a ... (read in full...)

We are Both in Relationships, But he Wanta A Blow Job, Should I??

Q.   Im 14 and this guy iv new for over10 years hes 15 and wants me to give him a blowjob and i said ill think about it..couse he gots a girl friend and i have a boy friend...i want to but dont know what i shoud do?...

A.   28 June 2010: At 14, you are entirely too young to be thinking about putting someone's penis in your mouth. Sorry to be so crass, but that's what it is. Do you think this guy is going to respect you if you do this? you're going to get a bad reputation behind all ... (read in full...)

My b oyfriend has anger towards me for my past.

Q.   "OPs Own Title"My boyfriend has anger towards me for my past. Most days are wonderful - we have a great time together, enjoy doing the same things, and want the same things out of life - marriage and children. But, the anger builds up (he says that ...

A.   28 June 2010: So your boyfriend's had all kind of crazy sexual experiences, but you're the slut? He's abusive, plain and simple. You can't possibly spend the rest of your life with someone who is punishing you for things you did before you even knew he exist... (read in full...)

Sick of hearing all my friends' sex stories!

Q.   All my friends ever talk about now were 18 seems to be sex, we've all had it but I haven't for ages and it just makes me feel so undesireable, how can I not be so affected by tem all just alking about their boyfriends and sex? It just makes me feel ...

A.   28 June 2010: Your friends may not be lying about having sex, but they are actually being very immature about the whole thing.Adult women who are in serious relationships rarely discuss the intimate details of their sex lives, and the fact that your friends are ... (read in full...)

Turban wearing man seeks honest opinions

Q.   So I moved into the states when I was 10 and now that I am getting older (in my 20s) I am finding that finding love is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. My question is for all women. I am a turban wearing man with a trimmed beard. I...

A.   27 June 2010: I went to college with a guy who was Sikh and he was cool as hell, so I would not be turned off at all by a guy wearing a turban. If anything, I would be surprised that he would express a romantic interest in me because I am from a different ... (read in full...)

I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?

Q.   Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...

A.   27 June 2010: Q, I think her husband will get it because he has real men around him who will stomp a mud hole in his ass if he hurts her in any way. A man is not likely to abuse a woman who has other men in her life who care about her, and her father- and ... (read in full...)

I accidentally told my husband's family that he abused me and now everythings messed up, how can I fix this?

Q.   Hi. My husband recently has gotten a little physcally abusive, and has forced blow jobs on my a couple of times when he was drunk.. I guess I wanted to get it off my chest, but I was just going to deal with it. I already forgave him. But then las...

A.   27 June 2010: I'm impressed by your father-in-law's response. Most families want to cover up or ignore abuse--which is exactly what you're trying to do. Even if you find his behavior acceptable, they don't and his family is willing to go to these lengths to keep ... (read in full...)

I don't want to be the office gopher anymore!

Q.   What would you do if you were working away in a job for the past six months.. had the gut instinct that all the administrators and other women in the company were deliberately setting out to make you look incompetent.. (because their friend missed ...

A.   27 June 2010: If there's no opportunity for real advancement, your skills aren't being utilized AND you're working in a toxic environment, I don't see any reason for you to stay there. These people have it in for you and you're in a no-win situation, so there's ... (read in full...)

I sacrifice everything for her, but she constantly lies and hurts me

Q.   here is the problem. I am in a relationship with a younger woman who has a problem telling the truth, has done stuff behind my back while I was at work, constantly flirts with other men, has pill and alcohol issues and comes from abusive previous ...

A.   27 June 2010: I have siblings with addiction issues and I have watched them destroy the lives of people who want to help them. I hope you don't think I'm knocking you, but oftentimes their "rescue squads" have issues of their own and need to channel their ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to cum really quickly for your first time of getting intimate?

Q.   Dear Agony Aunts, I've grown really close to my girlfriend over the last few weeks and we recently started experimenting with each other - taking steps. Today, we went to third base, she gave me a hand job, at which point I was very VERY turned o...

A.   26 June 2010: Absolutely! ... (read in full...)

I sacrifice everything for her, but she constantly lies and hurts me

Q.   here is the problem. I am in a relationship with a younger woman who has a problem telling the truth, has done stuff behind my back while I was at work, constantly flirts with other men, has pill and alcohol issues and comes from abusive previous ...

A.   26 June 2010: My final point remains the same: why were you so willing to sacrifice yourself for someone who is so destructive, not only to herself, but to you? What satisfaction do you personally derive from being in a relationship with someone with this level ... (read in full...)

She won't accept that her weight is the reason men are not interested in her.

Q.   My girfriend and I have a very close friend. She is a wonderful girl. It's always the same scene with her. She meets a guy, they are really into each other for a few days / weeks, then the guy realizes how heavy she is and distances himself. (I'm ...

A.   26 June 2010: --She asked my opinion, and I gave it to her.-- And you asked the opinion of the posters on DC, and we gave it to you. But you know what? None of us are right. The only person's whose opinion matters is your friend's because she is the one w... (read in full...)

I sacrifice everything for her, but she constantly lies and hurts me

Q.   here is the problem. I am in a relationship with a younger woman who has a problem telling the truth, has done stuff behind my back while I was at work, constantly flirts with other men, has pill and alcohol issues and comes from abusive previous ...

A.   26 June 2010: The problem in this relationship is not your girlfriend, it's you. Your girlfriend knows who she is and is living her life the way she wants to. She's happy with her stripper/druggie lifestyle. The woman doesn't appreciate the sacrifices you've m... (read in full...)

Why do ex-wives always blame 'other women' for the dissolution/destruction of their marriage?!

Q.   My boyfriend told me he was single when we first met. Then pretty soon I get a phone call from a woman claiming to be his wife! I confronted him- He said he didn't tell me he was married because they were already separated. He hasn't lived with her ...

A.   23 June 2010: Damn! Arrogant much? I'm sure your boyfriend enjoys throwing his younger girlfriend in his soon-to-be ex-wife's face. Have you considered how he may be contributing to her attacks against you? You outline his wife's faults at length, but gloss ov... (read in full...)

My hubby has a crush on my besty! Help!!!!!

Q.   Okay so my situation is really weird. I met this guy who is now my husband on May 26th 2009. That same year in August I lost my virginity to him. a month later I found out I was pregnant. So we got married that same year in november. Everything was ...

A.   23 June 2010: You met a man, lost your virginity to him, got married and had a baby in less than a year. You may disagree with me, but you barely know this man. Stronger marriages can crack under the pressure that comes with the birth of a baby; it's going to be ... (read in full...)

Is this really cheating, I feel cheated in my marriage.

Q.   Two friends, a man and a woman, both married in their late 40s, the marriages are sexless and in trouble. We became sexually attracted from the lack of any intimacy at home. We talk often and sex is a hot topic between us. She asked me to have sex ...

A.   23 June 2010: "Are we within our rights if no one gets hurt or finds out?" Please let me know how you plan to pull this off. Someone always finds out. Someone always gets hurt. My prediction: You'll be back on DC in a few months whining about how you've... (read in full...)

I'm 25 and a virgin, I don't want to abandon my morals but I'm feeling so frustrated!

Q.   I'm 25 and still a virgin I'm so fed up really feel like i'm going to die this way. I don't go out much so I find it really difficult to meet someone. I've chatted online to some guys and some I really like but they seem to be after just one t...

A.   21 June 2010: You have to get yourself a vibrator. It will help with the frustration and you won't feel as pressured. That is, of course, if you don't think masturbation is immoral.... (read in full...)

Farewell from an aunt

Q.   After being an aunt on this wonderful site for well over 5 years, I've decided to finally see the writing on the wall and call it quits. I truly gave it my best shot and spoke the truth as I know it to be. I will always treasure my time here and the ...

A.   21 June 2010: Eyeswideclosed? Noooooo!... (read in full...)

Are all cheaters the same?

Q.   hi just after a few opinions pls 1.how do you tell the difference between a man who is in a relationship genuinely unhappy but confused and cheats. and a man who is using you because he can and cares nothing for you. because i dont believe all chea...

A.   18 June 2010: I suppose all cheaters are not dogs, but I've never understood why someone who was truly unhappy would choose to cheat him/herself out of a relationship instead of just ending it. Why is it easier to cheat than to just say "I'm not happy in this ... (read in full...)

Why does she essentially require that I have an erection during oral sex?

Q.   My fiance and I have a pretty good sex life but it's not without some quirks. I've always enjoyed giving her oral sex. She claims that I'm the first who has been able to bring her to orgasm this way. The problem is that she essentially requ...

A.   18 June 2010: Sorry, ladies, but I really don't understand how a woman can feel badly if a man doesn't maintain an erection when he's performing a sexual act that doesn't involve the use of his dick at the moment. The dick ain't going nowhere and will return to ... (read in full...)

I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!

Q.   How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...

A.   18 June 2010: You've apologized profusely. You've given up your laptop. You've surrendered all of your passwords. You've given up a life outside of your family. The only thing you haven't done is stuck your penis in another woman. That, and told her to sh... (read in full...)

Why have I started feeling uncomfortable around my cousin now that she's pregnant?

Q.   i have a 16 year old cousin that is 8 months pregnant.we use to be really close but ever since i found out that she was sexually active (and doesn't plan on stopping any time soon),i feel so awkward and uncomfortable around her.why is that and how ...

A.   18 June 2010: Because you are bothered about her sexual activity, it sounds like the two of you have very different values. Despite being close in the past,the two of you are fundamentally different people and from this point on, your lives are going in very ... (read in full...)

I feel like I'd be taking advantage of this older man if we got together!

Q.   I'm 18 and I'm in a bit of a predicament, recently the man I've been seeing has told me that he has never been in love and he thinks he loves me, he has low self confidence despite being very very sexy and part of the reason we hooked up was because ...

A.   17 June 2010: As powerful as you think you are, a 46 year old divorced man is fully capable of moving on from a broken heart. Even if he doesn't, that's not your responsibility; you are not responsible for healing anyone, nor is it your responsibility to make ... (read in full...)

My sister is pregnant with my ex-boyfriend's child! How can I get over what they've done and learn to trust again?

Q.   Hello, Well here it comes, I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months now. I love him dearly, but i am extremely jealous and insecure about myself. I am always thinking that he is at work cheating on me, or he is texting other girls behind my ...

A.   17 June 2010: Your current boyfriend is not the same person as your ex and you must stop punishing him for what your ex did. I can understand your fears; once bitten, twice shy, and your sister and your ex are the snakes. They deserve one another. But you got ... (read in full...)

Should I believe him, or is he just using me?

Q.   I've been seeing this guy for 4yrs now, we met when i was 16 and he was 36. He told me he was going through a divorce period with his wife and i decided to wait it out. he moved out his family home after two years for a quicker divorce process and ...

A.   17 June 2010: This man has THREE women he's involved with: you, his wife, and this new woman. Of the three,you are the one he is least concerned with. He's worried about his wife suing him for adultery, so she gets a degree of respect from him. He's introduced ... (read in full...)

She's 14 and I am almost 20. How can I postpone sex until she's older, without hurting her feelings?

Q.   I'm having a slight problem, and mainly just need some words of advice and support. I'm 19, turning 20 soon and I met a girl online sometime around 9 months ago, at first it was just friendly talk and me trying to cheer her up (she's had a very har...

A.   17 June 2010: You know what happens to rapists in jail, right? STAY AWAY! PS: The fact that she lied about her age is evidence that she's not as mature as you think she is. ... (read in full...)

I suffer from depression and self harm, but no one can help me! What can I do?

Q.   hi, im 14 and i've gone through tons of hard things like; step-dad in jail, had sex then he left and im still in love with him (it was 7 mts. ago),might move,guys try to take advanage off me, all my boyfriends in the past treated me bad and i cant ...

A.   16 June 2010: If your meds are not helping, you must tell this to your doctor. They may need to prescribe another medicine that works on different neurotransmitters. Once you feel less depressed, you might find that therapy is helpful.It's hard to benefit from it ... (read in full...)

I suffer from depression and self harm, but no one can help me! What can I do?

Q.   hi, im 14 and i've gone through tons of hard things like; step-dad in jail, had sex then he left and im still in love with him (it was 7 mts. ago),might move,guys try to take advanage off me, all my boyfriends in the past treated me bad and i cant ...

A.   14 June 2010: There is no need for you to go around feeling like this, especially with all of the help available, but your family is not taking your depression seriously. Do you have a guidance counselor or social worker at school you can speak to? It's their job ... (read in full...)

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