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writes:My bf and i have had a long distance relationship for 1 year now. but in march i texted him normally and waited for a reply. but he didnt reply to none of my calls or text messages. before all this he said he was busy with work and would be free in the summer when he can talk to me. but summer passed and he still hasnt answered my phonecalls or text messages. and pass 7 months. he texts me back and says, ''i dont know really why i didnt reply or answer your messages..its hard to say'' and now i have the feeling he doesn't love me anymore, and im pretty much heartbroken, because its seems like to me, he didnt reply because of us being together. and now i get the feeling he thinks its not going to work out. he said before all this that we could go and meet up, or he could fly over when he gets the money.. ive read that long distance relationships never end in a happy ending.i feel like he has just rippped me off his heart like our relationship was a one-off. please help. and please don't tell me to move on. because belive me. i've tried so many times, but he keeps coming back to my head. even new relationships with other people did'nt help.
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
7 months!!! A guy who really loves a woman struggles after a couple of days. He isn't worth another moment of your time!
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reader, confusedguy1  +, writes (4 November 2009):
 First of all hug
you need that ....
this is not relationship , he didnt call in 7 month
i am sorry ,,, there are a lot better out there
you dont need that
if u were able to wait his text message for 7 months , obviously u are so strong
and it would be easy for u to move on in your life
Smile and be strong
hugs
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reader, Carrot2000  + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
I know a guy who is in the army and serving in Afghanistan. He calls his girlfriend whenever he gets an opportunity--proof that a man will move heaven and earth to reach out to a woman he truly wants to be with. It's a shame that he is not man enough to say that he doesn't want to continue the relationship, but that's exactly what his actions telling you. Even though you don't want to hear it, the truth is that you have to move on. He may never give you the closure you need to move on, and sometimes that's how things go in life. Nevertheless, you really do need to move on.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (4 November 2009):
 After 7 months of no contact, he's not your boyfriend anymore.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
 I think the fact you've tried new relationships with other guys, you kind of know this isn't really your boyfriend anymore- no contact for 7 months? That's a very clear indication this isn't a relationship and the LDR thing isn't working. At this point what you have is just very one-sided. Perhaps things would be different if he lived near you, but like you said, LDRs take a lot more work and he can't even respond to a text! He's moved on, sorry. If you don't let him go, you will just be miserable and you say you don't want it to end but I don't think you have a choice here. Take care.
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reader, alysha  + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
 Hi,First thing you need to do right away-TALK TO HIM.Don't assume anything.You need to talk to him face to face.You can fly over to him since you want to make this work.If that's not possible then talk to him on phone.Ask him directly-what's on his mind.Just listen to him.Let him make his thoughts verbal.Don't argue or give any suggestions.Just let him speak his mind.Whatever he replies-whether favorable or unfavorable to your relation..Be prepared for it.But you need to talk to him.Long distance relationships (LDR)definitely become successful if right persons are involved who are totally committed to each other.Lot of people are involved in LDRs due to internet.These have blossomed into lovely long term relationships.Many of these couples have even got married.So LDRs do have happy endindgs.It takes a special sort of person to make a long distance relationship work.LDR is more challenging than regular relationships.You need to take some efforts to make it work.Is your boyfriend ready to do that?(Do let us know what he said)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): Well its hard because you dont want us to tell you that it is over even though it seems like it is to me anyway.Ask yourself do you deserve to be treated like this and how you would behave if somebody did this to one of ur friends.this guy may be great and he probably is seeing as you are waiting for im but if he isnt returning your love you cant make him,My heart does go out to you but rememeber there is always somebody new. On that front though you should give yourself time to be you and to get over previous dissapointments.Take a deep breath and look after you.I hope this help,Elpigaro
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): It sounds like you really love this guy. What you need to do is firstly, ask your self 'Do I love him?' If the answers 'Yes' then you need to tell him as you don't want to lose him. If you don't tell him, he won't know how you feel. You need to understand him and put yourself in his shoes, (I know you might not wear the same shoe size but try or you won't succeed.) These are positive things to reconcile your relationshop, however you need to look at the negative parts, just to face the facts. If he does not want to be with you (sorry, but lets face it- this may happen), then you need to think about how you would feel if someone you did not love, liked you. You wouldn't want them coming after you, but the good thing is you can still be friends with him. I hope this helps. Let me know if it does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): [MODERATOR NOTE: This answer was edited from "text-speak" to English.]well miss, i to have a long distance relationship. its really going well. reading about your problem, i think your boyfriend is either having some kind of problem in his life and he doesnt want to share it with you or maybe he is after someone else. well if he is after someone else, he is cheating upon you and you should move on. or a third thing is he may be fed up with love things. i just suggest you ask him to talk you once. you talk to him with all your love and emotions. and if he doesnt come back just move on. it's the reality face it. :)
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