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Did I make a mistake by staying with him?

Q.   I was with my bf for a yr. The first summer with him was amazing. Starting off after the summer I found out I was moving. Even though I was moving we decided to stay with each other. After I had left he started to hangout with my cousin. She is a ...

A.   17 April 2010: Staying with someone because they are your first love is not a good enough reason. He's your first love, but not your last. You are too young to be having all of this drama and you do not need to get so emotionally tied up in someone that you allow ... (read in full...)

I don't love my wife but I stay with her for the sake of the kids and have affairs. What should I do?

Q.   OK im a 32 yr old male...I have been married/together with my 28 yr old wife for 12 yrs...we have 3 beautiful children under the ages of 12...the last 3 years i have cheated on her with 2 ppl...there is a 3rd person who i have not had sex with but i ...

A.   16 April 2010: Why are you staying married? Is it for the kids or is it because you want to make sure you have another woman to run to before you leave? Face it: you've been in a relationship since you were 16 and you don't know how to be alone. You don't even ... (read in full...)

..Who You Lose Your Virginity To

Q.   I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...

A.   16 April 2010: EbonyBlossom, no one can shame you into regretting your actions unless you allow them to. You made a decision that made sense for you. And for you, it was a good decision. But as you know, what works for you may not work for others and everyone is ... (read in full...)

The sex I've had in the past upsets her.

Q.   My girlfriend makes me feel bad constantly about the number of sexual partners I have had. I have been with seven other women. I don't think that's a high number. I had sex with seven different women but I only had sex, get this seven times. ...

A.   16 April 2010: You don't have to justify anything you did in the past. All of this was before the two of you met and there's nothing you can do to change history. She needs to move on and think about a future together rather than fixate on your past. BTW, ... (read in full...)

..Who You Lose Your Virginity To

Q.   I was reading the answers to one of the questions on here, about a girl wanting to lose her virginity outside of a relationship. And I was the only answerer who didn't completely dismiss her choice (not saying that other answerers are wrong, just ...

A.   15 April 2010: 'The first time you have sex with someone you love I believe is more important and memorable than the first time you have sex at all, so I'd prefer to be able to enjoy the more important one.' So why not make your first time with someone you love... (read in full...)

He's 50, I'm 18, His ex drives me mad

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together a year and a half. He's 50 and i'm 18(not a problem for either of us). He is currently living with his mother because he's trying to save to get a place for us. He has two children: a boy of 15 and a girl of ...

A.   15 April 2010: He's 50, been divorced for 13 years and still lives with his mother? I could understand if he'd been divorced for 3 years and was still getting himself together financially, but 13? There is something seriously wrong with this picture. This ... (read in full...)

I love her but she slept with so many men

Q.   I was dating someone a couple years ago that I cared very deeply for. We were having a great time together. During the time we were together she was sexually assaulted by someone she knew. She didn't go to the police or tell anyone for months. ...

A.   14 April 2010: hpoco, I was speaking of the posts that speak of his ex as if she were damaged goods that need need to be set out on the curb. I agree that if he can't move on, he should let her go and live without his judgment.... (read in full...)

I love her but she slept with so many men

Q.   I was dating someone a couple years ago that I cared very deeply for. We were having a great time together. During the time we were together she was sexually assaulted by someone she knew. She didn't go to the police or tell anyone for months. ...

A.   14 April 2010: I can't believe the number of people telling you to move on! She's done nothing that requires your forgiveness. It's not as if she cheated on you--you forced her out, remember? You abandoned her once when she needed you most; are you going to do it ... (read in full...)

I found out my boyfriend's married.

Q.   I have been dating a man for a while and then we decided to move in together. We have now been living together for 3 years. We have often talked about marriage but never really committed. I really didn't want marriage right away, and I think he knew ...

A.   14 April 2010: Listen to your instinct. If your gut tells you to run like hell, do it. Who knows what else he's hiding from you?... (read in full...)

I found out my boyfriend's married.

Q.   I have been dating a man for a while and then we decided to move in together. We have now been living together for 3 years. We have often talked about marriage but never really committed. I really didn't want marriage right away, and I think he knew ...

A.   14 April 2010: Listen to your instinct. If your gut tells you to run like hell, do it. Who knows what else he's hiding from you?... (read in full...)

I want to leave him, but he might be dying

Q.   Sorry this is so long, but I think details should be known. Hi guys. I'm going through some really hard times here. My boyfriend used to make me incredibly happy. He'd try his best to please me and everything for the first couple of weeks we got ...

A.   14 April 2010: If he might be dying, when does he find time for you? Wouldn't he be spending his time at the hospital or with specialists? ... (read in full...)

I was all excited and ready to start my new life with the man I love, ... until his wife emailed me!

Q.   I entered a relationship with an Scotsman 3.5 years ago. We met and started dating online and he's visited me in person in the USA approximately 11 times since he asked me out via email. The plan was for me to move to Scotland when I receive my PhD ...

A.   14 April 2010: WOW! Just be glad you found this out now rather than later; things would be much worse if you'd already uprooted yourself and moved to another country only to find out this man is a liar. It hurts now, but you really were spared a lot of ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend in jail accused of rape!

Q.   My on again off again boyfriend of three years has been in jail now for a month he keeps calling, having his family call, and write me i dont think i want to be with him anymore because he is accused of rape and kidnap but he has yet to tell why ...

A.   14 April 2010: I wouldn't assume he was guilty, but I wouldn't assume he was innocent, either. These are VERY serious charges and not to be taken lightly; he wouldn't be locked up for a month WITHOUT BAIL if these charges didn't have some merit. Plus the fact that ... (read in full...)

Did my past infidelities cause my wife's cervical cancer. This guilt is eating me alive! Help!

Q.   I am married and have been unfaithful to my wife through out our whole marriage, and not with the same girl. I always used protection because I did not want to be responsible for an STD. I have changed and now I am a new man thanks to my religion I ...

A.   14 April 2010: Actually, HPV is the main cause of cervical cancer. Condoms do not provide complete protection against HPV because the virus can be transmitted through sexual, skin-to-skin contact with an infected person, even if there is no penetration. A condom ... (read in full...)

About to get married, but now there's a pregnant girl in the midst

Q.   I met my Fiance when i was 13 yrs old and we dated on and off for 7 to 8 yrs but were getting married next july....i looked on his facebook just to tell him i miss him because i live 20 exits away from him. And i see girls asking him how's his new ...

A.   13 April 2010: Male anonymous, you ain't said nuthin' but the truth. Folks on Facebook know more about what's going on with your man than you do. Why would you even consider staying with him? You've known him for nearly half your life, but your life is far from ... (read in full...)

She keeps bringing up the past

Q.   i am 30 years old married to my beautiful wife for the last 7 years and just wanted to know are all women the same my wife keeps bringing up the past about when we first met i can say this on here because i don't know anyone on here she keeps ...

A.   13 April 2010: No, all women aren't like that. Has your wife been evaluated for OCD? Her paranoia suggests that there is a lot more going on with her.... (read in full...)

My ex cheated on me and I'm still not over it. Help!?

Q.   i dated this guy for a little under a year, we were talking about getting married and having kids. but at the end of our relationship (i broke up with him) he cheated on me with my cousin. i went back to him and we were together for a few weeks, ...

A.   13 April 2010: The more you live your life and the happier you allow yourself to be happy in your current relationship, the less you will think about your ex and his cheating. Be happy for yourself. Be happy that you have a baby with the man you love. Focus on ... (read in full...)

Did my past infidelities cause my wife's cervical cancer. This guilt is eating me alive! Help!

Q.   I am married and have been unfaithful to my wife through out our whole marriage, and not with the same girl. I always used protection because I did not want to be responsible for an STD. I have changed and now I am a new man thanks to my religion I ...

A.   13 April 2010: I hope all of the cheating husbands and wives who come to DC read this post so they can understand the health risks they are exposing themselves and their partners to. People who are being cheated on need to read this, too, because they could find ... (read in full...)

We're both virgins, should he wear one?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I am a 21 years old virgin, have a 22 years old boyfriend who is also a virgin. We have been dating for 2 years now. Right now, both of us are deciding to lose our virgin to each other as we love each other so much. But my problem i...

A.   13 April 2010: Your boyfriend has never had sex, so he has no idea whether or not he'll be able to pull out before he cums. Also, all women don't bleed when they lose their virginity, so that's not a reason to have sex without a condom. Even if STI's are not an ... (read in full...)

Update from post "Can my husband sue?"

Q.   I wrote a post earlier regarding my adulterous affair and questioned if my husband could sue my lover...now ex-lover. Instead of suing, he did a background check on my ex-lover and found out that he was married. He found his wife on a social ...

A.   13 April 2010: Your ex might give your husband the finger since everything is out in the open and he has no need to hide anything. Plus, I wonder if a "contract" of this nature can even stand up in court. But since your lover is wealthy and powerful, he may feel ... (read in full...)

Update from post "Can my husband sue?"

Q.   I wrote a post earlier regarding my adulterous affair and questioned if my husband could sue my lover...now ex-lover. Instead of suing, he did a background check on my ex-lover and found out that he was married. He found his wife on a social ...

A.   11 April 2010: I posted after your follow up. Anyway, it's hard to tell whether your ex will get help or not. It all boils down to whether or not he thinks something is wrong with his behavior. As a wealthy, powerful man, he may think he is entitled to do a... (read in full...)

Update from post "Can my husband sue?"

Q.   I wrote a post earlier regarding my adulterous affair and questioned if my husband could sue my lover...now ex-lover. Instead of suing, he did a background check on my ex-lover and found out that he was married. He found his wife on a social ...

A.   11 April 2010: So did your husband tell her about the pregnancy, too? I wonder if she'll really leave him. He's wealthy, so either way she and the kids will be taken care of. Anyway, to answer your question: I wouldn't base my decision to stay in a relati... (read in full...)

He doesn't understand how much it hurt us

Q.   How can I make my husband really see how much pain he has caused me and our children since I discovered his affair? He is very eager to put it in the past and try and move forward. I am too. But I feel like I want him to realize how devastating it ...

A.   10 April 2010: Your husband wants to move past this because he is ashamed of his behavior and he is avoiding having the difficult conversations that need to take place. I think he understands how much he hurt you, but he still needs to allow you to express your ... (read in full...)

Am I mid-life crazy or is it truly time to make a break?

Q.   I'm a 39 year old guy, married 18 years with 2 kids 15 and 10 boy and girl. My wife has had a lot of health problems over the years. About 6 or 7 years ago our sex life became virtually non-existant. Finally 3 years ago I had an affair for about 4 ...

A.   9 April 2010: "Ive been there for every health issue my wife has ever had, taken care of her and paid every bill and kept up with the house and kids too. So its not like Im a run of the mill man whore" Isn't this what you're supposed to do as a husband?... (read in full...)

I am not happy and have not been for a long time and I deserve better. How do I move on?

Q.   How do I move on? Anyone else in the same situation? I would love all the positive feedback I can get on this. We have been married almost 12 years, we have known of each other since middle school. My husband has said he has wanted to be with me as ...

A.   9 April 2010: Start making a plan, with the first step being to contact an attorney TODAY to find out how to file for a legal separation and get an order of support. I doubt any court in America is going to put a mother and five children out of the family home, ... (read in full...)

I'm cheating with my girlfriends best friend.

Q.   I've been cheating on girlfriend and feel so bad. Its about a million times worse because I'm doing it with her best friend. The fact that she cheated on me a few months ago isn't making me feel better. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for ...

A.   9 April 2010: If you feel so bad, why do you keep doing it? You're doing it to get revenge on your girlfriend for cheating, and her friend is sleeping with you because she's a skank. This situation is so messed up; just break up with your girlfriend and move on. ... (read in full...)

Should I keep my relationship with my boyfriend who cheated?

Q.   My boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend and I don't know what to do because he asked me to forgive him and he said that he won't do this anymore.Should I trust him? Are men worth of trust?...

A.   9 April 2010: Your boyfriend is probably not sorry that he cheated, he's sorry that he got caught. A man who cheated with your friend has absolutely no respect for you or the boundaries of your relationship. Proceed with caution.... (read in full...)

Am I mid-life crazy or is it truly time to make a break?

Q.   I'm a 39 year old guy, married 18 years with 2 kids 15 and 10 boy and girl. My wife has had a lot of health problems over the years. About 6 or 7 years ago our sex life became virtually non-existant. Finally 3 years ago I had an affair for about 4 ...

A.   9 April 2010: It all depends; what are you going to do when the 20 year old dumps your old ass for some guy she met on Facebook? Are you going to try to go back to your family or are you truly ready to live as a single man? Out of curiosity, how do your kid... (read in full...)

Bunny Boiler trapped my husband in a 5 year affair!

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 16 years, we have two children ages 9 and 10, I caught him at this girls house 5 years ago, and he said he was helping her thru issues and they were friends- dumb me right- I believed him. I ask him to not talk ...

A.   9 April 2010: ...not falling for his bullshit!... (read in full...)

Bunny Boiler trapped my husband in a 5 year affair!

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 16 years, we have two children ages 9 and 10, I caught him at this girls house 5 years ago, and he said he was helping her thru issues and they were friends- dumb me right- I believed him. I ask him to not talk ...

A.   9 April 2010: So he was more afraid of his girlfriend than he was of you? He hated her so much that he kept sleeping with her? It must've been so difficult for him to get an erection with her over the past 5 years! And he did it all for the sake of his kids. ... (read in full...)

Embarrassing moment from my past--afraid this guy on facebook will spill it!

Q.   Embarrassing moment - This is not a cry for help - just wanting to know how to get over an embarrassing moment and avoid being a laughing stock. The thing is - when I was a teenager (a few years ago now) teenagers were'nt as aware of things as they ...

A.   7 April 2010: Laugh about it and let it go. That was so many years ago, chances are that he may not even remember your hairy legs. And even if he does, so what? You're a grown-ass woman now and he can only embarrass you if you feel some sort of shame about having ... (read in full...)

Could my husband sue?

Q.   I've been having an affair with a man for 8 or 9 months. Last month, I became pregnant with his baby, but I recently had a miscarriage. Because of that situation, my husband found out. He knows everything at this point and has obtained all the ...

A.   7 April 2010: The rest of the story will play out on TMZ or Access Hollywood.... (read in full...)

Should I marry my friend to save him from deportation?

Q.   Okay this is super complicated. My best friends and I were a trio, and one of them needed a way to stay in the USA because he was at risk of being deported. At first I agreed to marry him, but then my parents wouldn't allow me to go through with it ...

A.   7 April 2010: If a deportation order is in process, marrying your friend would not have helped him. Even if you were able to help him avoid deportation, there are usually huge fines associated with staying in the U.S. illegally ($10,000+). This is not your pro... (read in full...)

I cant afford to visit a dentist, does anyone have any home remedies for toothache?

Q.   hi i have been in agony over the last 2 days now with a toothache, it comes and goes but it always comes back. last night i took two asprins and put salt water in my mouth, it did help then i slept, now i have woken up to an even painful toothach...

A.   7 April 2010: clove oil... (read in full...)

Could my husband sue?

Q.   I've been having an affair with a man for 8 or 9 months. Last month, I became pregnant with his baby, but I recently had a miscarriage. Because of that situation, my husband found out. He knows everything at this point and has obtained all the ...

A.   7 April 2010: Of course you're going to go with my answer, Q! You're my E-boo and you ALWAYS have to agree with me (even when I'm dead wrong).... (read in full...)

My husband of 3 months has been cheating on me with a whore!

Q.   I am so devastated my husband of three months has been cheating on me. I found emails were he has gone back and forth discussing price etc.the woman was a hooker on Craigslist. He tells me this is the only one but it still doesn't make it better. I ...

A.   7 April 2010: It seems like sex addiction is the excuse du jour for infidelity and bad behavior, doesn't it? Good for you for deciding to leave him. His issues are too deep for you to solve and you don't want to spend the rest of your life wondering who or w... (read in full...)

Could my husband sue?

Q.   I've been having an affair with a man for 8 or 9 months. Last month, I became pregnant with his baby, but I recently had a miscarriage. Because of that situation, my husband found out. He knows everything at this point and has obtained all the ...

A.   7 April 2010: Oh, yeah, it's going down. Your ex may as well prepare himself to be dragged through the mud. Your husband can name him as a co-respondent in the divorce,sue him for alienation of affection, and generally cause a scandal around the whole affair ... (read in full...)

She put my picture on the internet without my knowledge!

Q.   Hi everyone i am 17 and really need suggestions from the parents out there. My mom thanks i have an anger problem. Today i found out 1 of the girls i hang out with at school took a picture of me and put it on facebook.(WITHOUT ME KNOWING UNTIL I ...

A.   7 April 2010: Set your profile so no one can tag you in photos. Your friend had no right to put up a photo of you, especially since you didn't even know she took it. She was way out of line and once you calm down, you should let her know that she cannot put ... (read in full...)

My husband's ex girlfriend is a psycho and horrible mother!

Q.   The man I've been with for over 4 years has an ex that has a severe jealousy issue. She has hated everyone hes ever dated and hates me even more. This woman is in law enforcement and yet commits/gets away with some of the most unbelieveable things. ...

A.   7 April 2010: No need to be concerned. In her world, her ex is supposed to love her forever and be miserable without her. The fact that he is married AND having a new baby means that he has truly moved on, and the fact that he's not miserable is too much for her ... (read in full...)

What does this married man feel for me?

Q.   Hello everyone, so I am 21yrs old and I have been seeing a married man for almost two years now (He is 25) When I first met him he wasn't married yet but they had a son and lived 2gether. They got married about 10mo ago. For the first year of ...

A.   6 April 2010: He seems obsessed with you and wants to use you to do things his wife won't do (anal, taping). He's definitely an a$$; stop answering his calls/texts. ... (read in full...)

I'm scared of going into labour!

Q.   Hi I am pregnant, me and my partner have decided to call her scarlett if she is a girl, or oliver if he is a boy. i admit i was shocked when i found out i was pregnant, but me and my partner are very happy and more in love than ever before which is...

A.   6 April 2010: If you're past 20 weeks, try prenatal yoga. I've heard good things about it and a yoga instructor I worked with says it can help reduce the amount of time you're in labor.... (read in full...)

My husband's ex girlfriend is a psycho and horrible mother!

Q.   The man I've been with for over 4 years has an ex that has a severe jealousy issue. She has hated everyone hes ever dated and hates me even more. This woman is in law enforcement and yet commits/gets away with some of the most unbelieveable things. ...

A.   4 December 2009: With all of this going on, why hasn't your husband tried to get custody of his kids? If she's as bad as you say she is, it's time to step up and get those kids out of that situation.... (read in full...)

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