I'm scared of going into labour!
Q. Hi I am pregnant, me and my partner have decided to call her scarlett if she is a girl, or oliver if he is a boy. i admit i was shocked when i found out i was pregnant, but me and my partner are very happy and more in love than ever before which is...
A. 6 April 2010: If you're past 20 weeks, try prenatal yoga. I've heard good things about it and a yoga instructor I worked with says it can help reduce the amount of time you're in labor.... (read in full...)
I think he's lying to me.
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for a year and 3 months now and I think he keeps lying to me. First of all (this was about 8 months ago) i found some messages on his phone from and to another girl. She kept asking loads of times if she cou...
A. 5 April 2010: If you want him and aren't willing to move on, you need to be prepared for him to continue lying to you. Why would he stop when he knows you're going to stay with him and put up with his deceit? ... (read in full...)
She rarely responds to my flirting but seems to enjoy the attention anyway. Do you think this can go anywhere?
Q. I am a happily married middle aged man of 47 but I have developed a very enjoyable and good friendship with a 30 year old single woman who lives at home with her parents. She and her Mum and my wife and I have been out together to the cinema and had ...
A. 4 April 2010: Not only do you need to respect your marriage, you need to respect this woman by not putting her in a position where she might compromise her relationship with her Mum and your wife.
If she doesn't reply to your texts and emails, she's not inte... (read in full...)
Worried husband will leave me if we can't have a child!
Q. My husband and I have been together 17 years. We are now approaching 40, and we have no children. We both really want a baby so we have tried fertility treatments - no success. We are now in the midst of an IVF cycle. I have loved our 17 yea...
A. 3 April 2010: If your husband feels he needs to 'get something out of our 17 years together' it sounds like your marriage is already doomed.
You have to love your child before he/she is even conceived, and that includes providing them with the best situatio... (read in full...)
I know I shouldn't have cheated, so how can I have a future with her?
Q. Im currently engaged to my beautiful fiance, who i have been with for a year now... We started dating in march 2009. It started out as a physical relationship for like the first month, and eventually the emotions got deeper. But at the same time i ...
A. 2 April 2010: At 20, you're too young to be married or even in a serious relationship. Your behavior sucks, but it's nothing I would not expect from a guy your age.
My advice: let her know that yes, you were a tard for cheating and youthfulness is not an excus... (read in full...)
Can I be forgiven for cheating? Do I deserve a chance to prove myself?
Q. This is what happened, i was with my now ex "Ladge" on and off for 2 years. We split and decided to become friends as we got on so well. We never loved each other but as she had a kid and enjoyed doing sports together we tried to keep a friendship ...
A. 2 April 2010: First, thanks for you service to your country and for the sacrifices you are making.
Let me explain this to you from one woman's perspective. You spent half of your relationship cheating on her. At this point, she does not want to hear about yo... (read in full...)
I feel my fiance should pull his weight financially
Q. My finance has been living with me and my 2 children for about a year and a half. We make the same amount of money but he only pays for food. He says he won't help with the house payment and utilities because I would be paying for them if he wasn't ...
A. 2 April 2010: He is wrong! Just because you'd have the same housing bills if he wasn't there doesn't mean he gets to live for free. If he didn't live with you, he's have to pay a rent/mortgage and utilities someplace, so there is no reason why he can't help you ... (read in full...)
I feel like giving up on love and need some encouragement!
Q. I feel like giving up on love and need some encouragement! I finally started dating again last month after being single since Aug '09, when I split with my bf of 9 years(we had lived together for 7 years) after finding out he was cheating on ...
A. 2 April 2010: You were with this man for 9 years and have only been apart 4 months, so of course you're not completely over him yet! Don't assume that because you still have feelings for him that you will never love anyone else. And you can't judge your romantic ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has strict conditins on my involvement with my daughter and her mum
Q. Hi There, It's come to this as I honestly don't know what else to try, and I need to know if I am in the wrong here or if it's my current gf. I met my current gf 4 years ago, at this point she was lovely and wanted to be totally involved in...
A. 2 April 2010: No you are not wrong, and you should tell her to hit the road the next time she tries to limit your interaction with your daughter.
Her behavior is an indication of the kind of insanity you can expect from this woman if you decide to have a child ... (read in full...)
My world fell apart when my husband started this affair...
Q. My world fell apart when my husband began an affair on the 23rd of December 2009. As far as I knew all was well! Its made harder by the fact the girl is everything he has ever tried to change about me.. she is a large girl who is covered in facial ...
A. 1 April 2010: I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's only been two weeks since he left, so it's normal to go through a range of emotions, but I wonder why you want to keep someone who has humiliated and abandoned you and your children as a friend? Losing ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt by his betrayal and don't know how to move past it.
Q. O.k so I found out about his betrayal 3 weeks ago, and I find it hard to move forward with him. I find myself throwing things in his face about what he did. I know I shouldn't do that because he will get tired but I don't know what to do. I don't ...
A. 1 April 2010: It's only been three weeks; there is no way you're going to move past infidelity in such a short amount of time. He has to understand that you're going to throw it in his face for because right now he deserves it. Don't deny yourself the right to ... (read in full...)
Husband left and now he wants me back, but I"m pregnant with another man baby.
Q. *OP's own title* I have been married for about five years now. My husband left me eight months ago. We have a daughter together. My husband states that he needed to get his life together. Meanwhile got rid of his wedding band and ask for mine. The ...
A. 1 April 2010: You could get an abortion,but your marriage still won't work out. You're going to resent him for making you terminate, he's going to throw the fact that you got pregnant in your face and you'll only end up hating him and yourself in the end. He's ... (read in full...)
Advice needed. 15, pregnant and don't know what to do... please help!
Q. Im 15 I Am pregnant and dont know what to do.. Please help me? If your gunna judge than dont say anything....
A. 26 March 2010: Congrats on the baby girl and congrats on behaving responsibly. I think everything is going to work out for you; keep up with your education because that's one of the most important ways you can ensure that you and your baby will have a stable ... (read in full...)
What should I say to make things up with my estranged brother?
Q. My parents always used to favor me over my twin brother and they were really mean to him (they once said that they wished they'd only had me). They'd always buy me things but never him and I used to tease him about it (i know i was wrong but i was ...
A. 26 March 2010: As a child who was the less-favored among my six siblings, one of the most important things you can do is to acknowledge that your parents treated him differently and unfairly. He doesn't need you to validate his experience, but letting him know ... (read in full...)
Cheating option...
Q. Hi Friends, I have been married for few months now and have a daughter around 1 month old. I've been going to this gym for some time now and think I have fallen for the receptionist at the gym. I think even she likes me. I have not told this gir...
A. 24 March 2010: Eyeswide, I'm starting to think these posts aren't real. I think we're all being played by this guy.... (read in full...)
Why do people think there can ever be a 'bright side' to a break up?
Q. Why do people always think "there's a silver lining in every ordeal we come across?" How do you apply this in break-ups? Why do people always say "Look at the bright side of the break-up"? What's the bright side of it?...
A. 24 March 2010: My ex-boyfriend was arrested two days ago for setting his wife on fire in front of their kids. If I'd stayed with that fool, that easily could have been me.
Not being on fire is the bright side of a break-up.
Being free to find someone who... (read in full...)
What should I do about the rumours?
Q. Two of my 'friends' have been spreading rumors that I pole-dance. I swung on a pole once when I was dared to, but it was just a joke. Now people actually believe these girls, and they think I do it for a living.... I can't take it. Soon my BF will ...
A. 24 March 2010: If anyone brings it up, remind them that you're not even old enough to pole dance. Ask them why you would need to pole dance to make a living when you have parents who support you. The key is to make people realize that this is rumor is ridiculous ... (read in full...)
Relationship sucks!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend got married recently to another girl. I think he is happy with his marriage, he still wants to continue a relationship with me and wants to have sex. Not sure if he loves me truly. Can you help to advise me?...
A. 24 March 2010: The fact that he chose to make someone else his wife, not you, should tell you that he doesn't love you. You're good enough to have sex with, but not good enough to be his wife. His actions alone have given you all of the information you need to ... (read in full...)
Cheating option...
Q. Hi Friends, I have been married for few months now and have a daughter around 1 month old. I've been going to this gym for some time now and think I have fallen for the receptionist at the gym. I think even she likes me. I have not told this gir...
A. 24 March 2010: You've already posted on this issue and you've gotten numerous responses about how your actions could impact your family life. Are you hoping that you will get different advice this time? You need to get over your unhealthy and delusional fixation ... (read in full...)
Why should I have to choose between my girlfriend and my mum?
Q. Please help. My girlfriend and i have a young baby, my girlfriend thinks my mum hasn't made enough effort in coming to see us and the baby (which maybe she hasn't but my gf hasn't made her feel welcome lately). Also my mum is depressed at the ...
A. 22 March 2010: Clearly you are afraid of the women in your life and they are going to continue to manipulate you and put you in the middle of things until you make it clear to both of them that you have no interest in getting involved in their squabbles. Stop ... (read in full...)
Will I be able to conceive in the future?
Q. I am 21 year old girl, will i be able to conceive in near future? I started masturbating at the age of 10 and my periods started at the of 17 and they are not even regular, i take medicines but they are not regular. So will i be able to ...
A. 22 March 2010: Masturbating will not hurt your fertility, so don't worry about that; you have access to the internet and should research this yourself if you still aren't sure. Plenty of women masturbate--I don't know anyone who doesn't-- so you are not alone and ... (read in full...)
Will I be able to conceive in the future?
Q. I am 21 year old girl, will i be able to conceive in near future? I started masturbating at the age of 10 and my periods started at the of 17 and they are not even regular, i take medicines but they are not regular. So will i be able to ...
A. 21 March 2010: Because of the nature of what gynecologists do, you probably won't be able to get a diagnosis on line. If you are embarrassed or uncomfortable, go to a female doctor.
How irregular are your periods? Do you go months without a period, do you some... (read in full...)
What should I do to get the love of my life back?
Q. Here is my situation . . . I will try to summarize it while including all pertinent information. (sorry in advanced if it is too long, but I feel if I do not include important info, then I would get complete advice) I started dating a great w...
A. 21 March 2010: She knows you want her back, but she wants you to pursue her (think back to the argument where she was angry because you didn't fight for the relationship). She needs you to show her that you want her in your life.
Even though it is frustrat... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 20 March 2010: Your mother-in-law is set in her ways and wants her house the way she wants it to be--as is her right--but you deserve the freedom to enjoy married life as intended. There can only be one queen in a castle, and you need your own castle.
You h... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and not allowed to marry until I'm 24, how can I convince my dad that I'm mature enough?
Q. Okay, so here goes... My boyfriend Nolan and I are madly in love, have been for a good 4 years now. We are both 17 at the moment, and both virgins, saving ourselves for each other. We've known for a while now that we want to spend the rest of our ...
A. 20 March 2010: If you marry at 18, are you still expecting your parents to pay for your educational expenses? Just wondering...
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I love my mistress but I feel bad for leaving my wife and kids
Q. I am 35 years old, married for 9 years with 3 kids relatively young - 7 and twins of 4 years old. I met a girl 4 years ago (Kelly) but we really started to see each other more often like twice a week over the past 4 months, before it was once a mo...
A. 19 March 2010: Kelly does not love you; she loves your money and attention. She will soon bore of your J. Crew-lifestyle and your three kids, and since you'll have no money, she won't bother keeping you around.
She'll go back to screwing her baby's daddy an... (read in full...)
How do I stop my dad changing my brother into someone who disrespects and abuses women?
Q. Our parents are divorced and my brother (14) visits our dad for twice a month. I don't see him but he is having a negative effect on my brother. He is becoming really sexist and says things like men should give women a "good slap" if they disobey ...
A. 19 March 2010: When he says these things, ask him if he thinks it applies to you and your mother, too. How would he feel if either of you were being abused or disrespected by a man? Every woman is someone's sister, mother, or daughter and deserves to be treated ... (read in full...)
I'm married, will be a father in a month, but can't control my feelings for the receptionist at the gym.
Q. Hi Everyone, I am a new member on this site. I am married now for 8 months almost and we will have a baby soon. We dated for only around 1.5 years before we decided to get married. I go to this gym everyday and have started liking a girl at th...
A. 18 March 2010: Okay, you have to get a grip. She's friendly because it's her job to be friendly. Talking about her family and siblings is not "personal" information, it's small-talk. It's okay to have a crush, but you need to keep yourself firmly rooted in ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to talk, I don't. How do I gently tell him no?
Q. Hi, My exboyfriend contacted me last week (through email) and asked me to get together personally so we can talk. We broke up three years ago. Then I would've been very interested in talking to him, not now. There were things about the past I...
A. 18 March 2010: If he's someone you have no interest in talking to, what difference does it make if your bluntness hurts his feelings? Say what you have to say and don't worry about being nice; the more direct you are, the less likely he will be to continue ... (read in full...)
I want to quit my job but have to work to pay off my husbands debts from his previous girlfriend.
Q. I love my husband very much. But, I am totally disgusted with my life. I hate my job (used to love it until I stepped on someone in authority's toes and have been nitpicked to death ever since) and I want to quit. My husband does not want me to ...
A. 17 March 2010: Your husband may need to file for bankruptcy since his credit is shot anyway. That way, HE can get some of HIS debt discharged or at least come up with a reasonable repayment plan set by the courts. In the meantime, start looking for another job. ... (read in full...)
How would you take this compliment?
Q. OK I gave this lady I like a compliment in a round about way here is the way it happened. I feel this lady is attracted to me but I was walking with her co-worker and she was communicating with her back and forth while we were walking together...
A. 17 March 2010: I would take your statement as a compliment that I looked perfectly fine and didn't need to lose any weight. I'm sure she got it.
If you like her, you should invite her out to lunch one day!... (read in full...)
Can someone offer some more perspective on my situation? My husband blames me for his problems
Q. I have been married for 10years and with my husband a total of 20years. Because of financial problems our family (3kids) had to move in with his parents 2 years ago. He started staying out all times of the night and sometimes not returning at all. ...
A. 17 March 2010: Good for you for moving and getting a home for you and the kids!
Your husband sees you are doing well enough financially to get your own place and now he's looking for a handout. When he told you that he's using the other woman so he can come bac... (read in full...)
Will allowing my wife to sleep with other men get her through her mid life crisis?
Q. My wife has came to me with the idea that she wants to sleep with other men. She is madly in love with me and our sex life is incredible. She has been chatting online with other men and has lined up her first "dude" for this Friday night. She is ...
A. 17 March 2010: You worry that your marriage will be over if you don't agree to this, but it's very likely it will be over if you do. Please read this post from a man who "allowed" his wife to engage in sex with other men; you don't want to end up in a situation ... (read in full...)
He cheated, I cried, he apologized ...but I could hear him giggling on the phone!
Q. me and him had relationship for 3months.. we met at church. he had a affair with another girl from same school. immediately i broke out with him through text message. he said sorry,let's talk about this,clingy for few days first i tried to ignor...
A. 16 March 2010: Good for you! He removed you because it bothered him that you were not upset when he saw you at mass, and he thinks he can hurt you by de-friending. Are you on Facebook? Block him from accessing your profile. This way he can't view your activity if ... (read in full...)
Completely Lost...
Q. 5 1/2 years ago, I met a woman. At the time I was married for 10 years, with two children. I thought I had a happy marriage, but since then, I'm not sure. My new relationship started off harmless, she was married too. As time went on, things b...
A. 13 March 2010: The right medication won't leave you numb, but will stabilize your mood enough for you to be able to really get something out of your counseling. More importantly, you'll be able make a decision about your marriage with a clear mind, not a depressed ... (read in full...)
He cheated, I cried, he apologized ...but I could hear him giggling on the phone!
Q. me and him had relationship for 3months.. we met at church. he had a affair with another girl from same school. immediately i broke out with him through text message. he said sorry,let's talk about this,clingy for few days first i tried to ignor...
A. 13 March 2010: Guys like this like to see you sad, they like to see you hurt and crying. Don't give him the satisfaction! First, you walk into church with your head held high. You have no reason to be embarrassed; he's a clown and not worth your emotions. Walk ... (read in full...)
I don't think I love him anymore but I don't want to hurt him. What can I do?
Q. I am 18 and have a baby girl, i have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years!! I thought he was forever but i was playing truth or dare at a friends birthday party nd i was asked if A nother asked me to cheat on him would i and i said no.. but i ...
A. 13 March 2010: You've been in a relationship since you were 11? That's nearly half of your life! It sounds like you are starting to realize that you may have outgrown this relationship and starting to understand that forever is a long time.
The only way to not h... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend loves my sister!
Q. *OP's own title* i have been with my partner for a year now, its my first serious relationship, and im his first love. we get on great, have a fun together, always cuddling and kissing, however there is one problem, i dont know if its just me, but ...
A. 13 March 2010: The only person breaking your heart is YOU, with your fears and insecurities.You're allowing these feelings to get the best of you and you are about to mess up a successful relationship because of it.
All of the "evidence" you cite does not add ... (read in full...)
Completely Lost...
Q. 5 1/2 years ago, I met a woman. At the time I was married for 10 years, with two children. I thought I had a happy marriage, but since then, I'm not sure. My new relationship started off harmless, she was married too. As time went on, things b...
A. 12 March 2010: The feelings WILL go away with time. You haven't said how long it's been since you ended your contact with this woman, and forgetting someone is not going to happen overnight. You might want to ask your counselor about antidepressants to help deal ... (read in full...)
Does his reaction sound genuine?
Q. Hey all, I just found out my boyfriend, soulmate, best friend for a DECADE has been having what he calls an 'emotional affair' for the past year with another woman. I am one of those girls who has always maintained my high moral standar...
A. 12 March 2010: He has lost your respect, which is actually worse than losing your trust. His reaction may be genuine, but you need to ask yourself if you could ever look at him the same way again. If not, you have to move on, even if it hurts you.... (read in full...)
Should I try to make it work with my husband or should I finally leave and start a new life?
Q. I've been married for 4 years, and I have a 3 yr old son with my husband. He is a great, amazing, cute, hardworking man. About a year and half ago i started seeing this other guy, started off as a little adventure, but became very serious, and now ...
A. 12 March 2010: I think you got married too soon. I'm not saying this as an insult, but you are not mature enough to be in a stable, monogamous relationship; you started cheating 2.5 yrs into your marriage. You still want to go out and have fun, which is ... (read in full...)
Completely Lost...
Q. 5 1/2 years ago, I met a woman. At the time I was married for 10 years, with two children. I thought I had a happy marriage, but since then, I'm not sure. My new relationship started off harmless, she was married too. As time went on, things b...
A. 10 March 2010: Just because you can't get this woman out of your mind is not a sign that you are supposed to be with her or that she is the one--or even that you would be happier if you were with her. You miss her, as you would miss anyone who was a part of your ... (read in full...)
Completely Lost...
Q. 5 1/2 years ago, I met a woman. At the time I was married for 10 years, with two children. I thought I had a happy marriage, but since then, I'm not sure. My new relationship started off harmless, she was married too. As time went on, things b...
A. 10 March 2010: Are you on the verge of a breakdown because you are in a miserable marriage? I ask this because nothing in your post suggests that your marriage is insufferable, it's just not what you want it to be. Could this be because you have spent nearly half ... (read in full...)
I'm married, will be a father in a month, but can't control my feelings for the receptionist at the gym.
Q. Hi Everyone, I am a new member on this site. I am married now for 8 months almost and we will have a baby soon. We dated for only around 1.5 years before we decided to get married. I go to this gym everyday and have started liking a girl at th...
A. 8 February 2010: Was your wife always possessive or is this something that came about during the course of her pregnancy?... (read in full...)
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