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Can I win back her heart before it is too late?

Q.   I've posted before about my divorce from my partner of 20 years. It involved an affair on my part that is now over. However, I'm having severe problems that I am trying to work through and could use some advice. I know how the Aunts feel about ...

A.   15 August 2010: Despite the lies, pain, and the loss of a 20 year relationship, your wife is in a good place right now: let her have this. You broke her heart and you now owe her the freedom to pursue her own joy and follow her own path, even if you are not part ... (read in full...)

Alcoholic cheating husband. what do I do?

Q.   hi. im a 35 yr old mom with two kids. 6 and 4. a girl and a boy. married for ten yrs. my husband is a social alcoholic or thats what he says. got a dui driving his girlfriend home at 4am and isnever home to help with children. he keeps saying ...

A.   15 August 2010: He yells, curses, and drives drunk; how many more chances do you plan to give him? His drinking is not only self-destructive, it's destructive to your kids; if a DUI wasn't enough to change his behavior, I doubt the threat of divorce will. Your kids ... (read in full...)

Is Internet hook up with older guy safe?!

Q.   [Mod Note: OP's own title] Hi, I'm 17 and from the uk. I've known a guy for a year and a half off the Internet. He is older than me (46) and I'm going to meet him soon, he's driving up to where I live and were meeting in a hotel. My friend knows an...

A.   14 August 2010: Not only do you not know how many people he's talking to online, you don't know how many people he's planning on bringing with him. This could be a gang-rape set up (it does happen; I have a friend who was victimized this way at 15) or a situation ... (read in full...)

I'm the cheated wife!

Q.   Hi I'm the cheated Wife. My Ex found his true love at work and they both conspired to Divorce their spouses. She has a kid and I've a little boy as well. My ex was not sure in the beginning but she pressured him to get the divorce first and she woul...

A.   12 August 2010: Well said, Gamine. Well said.... (read in full...)

I introduced a woman into our marriage and now my husband is in love with her!

Q.   I'v been married to my husband for 15 yrs. Of those 15yrs we have had very few arguments. I thought that we had a good and happy marriage. Our sex has always been strong until a few yrs ago it started to get stale. I had befriended a woman 10 yrs ...

A.   11 August 2010: Your husband fails to realize that your friend seems perfect because she doesn't have to put up with his ass. She never has to wash his laundry or go go over household expenses with him or put up with annoying in-laws. She requires nothing of him ... (read in full...)

Can this relationship with my married boss work?

Q.   Right so apparently this is a "common" thing. Being in love with a married man. I %100 believe he loves me too. To further complicate the situation he is my boss. I've worked day and night with this man 6days a week for 4years. Also his wife. They ...

A.   11 August 2010: "I'm leaving the country soon. He is staying to sell his business and finish with his wife." Once you move, don't be surprised if he gives your reason after reason why he can't join you ("She won't let me go" or "I can't find a buyer"). Even tho... (read in full...)

My friend wants me to cheat with him. Go for it?

Q.   I had a long conversation with my boyfriend and suprisingly for once in 11 years he was understanding (or maybe he was pretending lol ). He is doing lots of efforts .Im affraid that it's too little too late.That is how I feel , I love my kids , I...

A.   7 August 2010: How is cheating going to improve your relationship? You're angry with your boyfriend over all of the years you were unhappy in the relationship, which is understandable, but your anger over the past does not give you a pass to be unfaithful now. ... (read in full...)

Cheating with a married man but I feel jealous of his family

Q.   i have affair with a married man we love each other alot from 2 yr we are in love. he cant leave his wife wat sud i do, We are in sexual relationship I am 24 and he is 31. he is married for 7 years and have 2 childrens . I love him very much. He ...

A.   7 August 2010: After two years he has not left his wife, and you found a video of him and his family enjoying themselves; sounds like his marriage is not as troubled as he says it is. You have far more to lose than this man because he's not going to leave his wife ... (read in full...)

If I always keep him in my sights will this end his affair?

Q.   My husband left me for another woman 7 years ago after 2 years I had him back and forgave him. I now find out he is having an affair for the past 2 years he denies anything is going on. I do love him but I can't trust him and I have severe jealously ...

A.   7 August 2010: You can't own or control another person and your husband is going to cheat no matter how much you keep him in your sights. Why would you choose to live this way? The time and energy you spend trying to keep your cheating husband in line would be ... (read in full...)

Will I get hurt having an affair with a married man?

Q.   A few months ago I met a man online just chatting he told me right off that he was married and that he and his wife love each other yet they do allow each other to do whatever they wish . Anyway we clicked and we met up we just had our sceond ...

A.   5 August 2010: Hey, if Q says you're cute, you're cute. Trust me: he don't like no ugly women!... (read in full...)

We still have feelings for each other and are still in contact even although we split up. What do I do?

Q.   I have a very confusing situation at the moment. Long story so here goes. I had an affair with someone for just over a year. We were both married and had young children. We both fell desperately in love. I couldn't carry on with my wife so I lef...

A.   4 August 2010: She hasn't left her husband so I'd say no,there is no future for you. You've given up your family for her and not only is she not willing to do the same with you, but she's further cemented her relationship with her husband by having another child ... (read in full...)

Is there potential here?

Q.   I recently met a guy who clearly found me attractive. It took a while for me to notice but he started growing on me too. The complicated thing about it all is that we are both is relationships with children. I have three and he has 2. The chemi...

A.   2 August 2010: If you want to leave YOUR unhappy relationship, you have every right to do so and I think it's great that you're taking responsibility for your own joy. What you do not have a right to do is assume he is also in an unhappy relationship and therefore ... (read in full...)

Help! I am befriending my lover's wife, should I stop??

Q.   I am befriending my lovers WIFE....opinions? comments? ...

A.   2 August 2010: Part of being a mistress is keeping your yap shut and staying away from the wife. You forgot job and broke the rules, so I suppose you won't be this married man's side piece much longer. Your life sounds like a hot mess.... (read in full...)

Your honest opinion but being open minded?

Q.   OP's own title. Hi this may be some what long and may not happen often but I have to ask you guys how do you feel about the situation im going to talk about. First of I got married to my childhood love at the age of 18. He was my world and had drea...

A.   1 August 2010: It's not like you left your husband for his uncle or carried on an affair behind your husband's back, so I think you shouldn't feel too guilty about this relationship. Someone stepped up and took care of you, it just happens that this person is ... (read in full...)

Will I get hurt having an affair with a married man?

Q.   A few months ago I met a man online just chatting he told me right off that he was married and that he and his wife love each other yet they do allow each other to do whatever they wish . Anyway we clicked and we met up we just had our sceond ...

A.   1 August 2010: The fact that you're already in pain is reason enough to end this relationship. If you think you're hurting now, imagine how much worse it will be years from now when you realize you've been mislead and eventually abandoned by this man. You already ... (read in full...)

Should I marry someone who betrayed me like this?

Q.   I recently found out that my boyfriend cheated on me 1 time. We've been dating for nearly 5 years, and we recently got engaged. I found out that a year ago he slept with this girl, after major flirting went on between them for a few months (i.e., ...

A.   31 July 2010: This isn't a situation where someone makes a mistake and gets caught up in the heat of the moment. Your fiance made a conscious effort to be unfaithful: he and this girl flirted and exchanged sexy messages FOR MONTHS, so it wasn't like he somehow ... (read in full...)

Should I even stay with him through all of this?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 and a half years, and I found out he cheated on me. I asked him plenty of times if he had cheated, or if he ever would; and he just kept denying. Finally a couple days ago I confronted him with actual proof, ...

A.   31 July 2010: He was so sorry he cheated, yet it took him two days to break up with the other girl because he was worried about HER feelings? Please re-read what you just wrote; you're asking for advice because you know you're making the wrong move staying with ... (read in full...)

The other women, cheater, extra marital affairs

Q.   I need to know if I should talk to his wife? I had an affair with a man that I knew was married. He has four beautiful kids. We only saw each other while we were in Germany together over a 5 month period. He told me his wife was divorcing him ...

A.   30 July 2010:  You may not feel you owe this woman anything, but you do owe your husband honesty and fidelity. Remember, she has your phone number; if you don't talk to her, you're forcing her to tell your husband her suspicions. Your cocoon is not nearly a... (read in full...)

Your honest opinion but being open minded?

Q.   OP's own title. Hi this may be some what long and may not happen often but I have to ask you guys how do you feel about the situation im going to talk about. First of I got married to my childhood love at the age of 18. He was my world and had drea...

A.   28 July 2010: Your husband prefers to sleep with men, so there's no chance of saving your marriage. The only thing for you to now is get a divorce. If you have a good relationship with this man and he is good to your kids, I don't see why you need to end this ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend got roommate pregnant...what to do?

Q.   OK, my question is what should I do??? My boyfriend broke up with me six months ago for less than a week and slept with his roommate and got her pregnant. Apparently she just realized NOW that she's pregnant and told him just the other week. What...

A.   27 July 2010: Male anon, he broke up with her,not the other way around, so I doubt he ran to the roommate because she rejected him. I agree that he did not cheat, though, but I have a feeling that there's more to their relationship than you're being told. ... (read in full...)

Is it best I walk away from this relationship?

Q.   I really need some good advice. I've recently split with my boyfriend of 14months because his friend told me he cheated on me when we were first together. My boyfriend admitted it but says he wants to move on. Furthermore, his friend told me more ...

A.   27 July 2010: He cheated AND he's bad in bed? He's got a lot of nerve! I'm sure he left the person he cheated with unsatisfied, too. Look, you're young and at this stage (and every stage) of your life, you deserve good sex. You also deserve a boyfriend who is h... (read in full...)

My Brother is Lazy & Selfish, & Abusing Me on Facebook!

Q.   Please Help! I know its long but i'm desperate...I dont know what to do about my brother. I am a full time University student working full time for the summer even though I am considered as being a student with a permanent disability(due...

A.   27 July 2010: You did the right thing by going to your aunt's house--your brother's sense of entitlement is astounding! It sounds like he's jealous of you; you're going to university, working full-time and doing something with your life. He probably wishes he had ... (read in full...)

Where and how should I meet up with the older man I'm falling for?

Q.   Hi. I'm a 17 year old girl from the uk. I have been online dating since o was 16 because I felt like no one who actually knew me would ever want to get with me. I lost my virginity at 15 to a boy who was 19 and I haven't had sex since.  About ...

A.   27 July 2010: You very naive and allowing your feelings about yourself (that no one wants to get with you) potentially lead you into a dangerous situation. Please give yourself a chance to grow up before you start getting involved with a man who is old enough to ... (read in full...)

I've let things go too far with my married former teacher, how can I change things?

Q.   Hi, I am currently in a relationship with my teacher from high school, though I am no longer in high school. I am almost 20 years old, and I think I have fallen deeply for this man. I can tell him anything, and we talk for hours about nothing and ...

A.   27 July 2010: You stop this by deciding what kind of person you want to be. You can either choose to live your life with a degree of integrity or live a life filled with deception and sneaking around. It's up to you.... (read in full...)

I just cannot stay away from him, he is the best I ever had and is very well endowed!!

Q.   Ok so me and my ex-bf are still having sex!! We broke up in 2002 and we still have sex on the REGULAR I mean 3 or more times a week! Problem is me and him both are in relationship with other people now, but we both still love each other a lot and ...

A.   26 July 2010: Never trust a big dick and a smile...... (read in full...)

My wife slept with my best friend on our annniversary!

Q.   my wife slept with my bestfriend, on our 10th year anniversary. We have being married 13 years. She just told me after i found an email from my bestfriend asking her if they could have sex again. I asked her about it and she told me i was not paying ...

A.   25 July 2010: Yep, I agree with male anon; you need a better wife.You get back at your husband for missing your anniversary by throwing his golf clubs out the window, not sleeping with his best friend. Sleeping with your friend is some real passive-aggressive ... (read in full...)

I broke up with my boyfriend because I wasn't sure he was over his ex girlfriend, and now he won't leave me alone, what do I do?

Q.   I was just wondering if anyone can give me some advise on this please.. I've recently ended my relationship with my boyfriend. So we were together for two years, there were good and bad points like there are with any relationship, but I felt the bad ...

A.   25 July 2010: His behavior is abusive. He constantly compared you to other women, mocked and criticized you. Now he's manipulating you emotionally by threatening suicide. Don't fall for it, and don't try to maintain ANY kind of relationship with this man. He has ... (read in full...)

Crazy little thing called love!

Q.   A woman 12 years your husbands junior posts a comment on myspace you find disturbing enough that you ask your husband to take down his page which he does. She wrote "you're alone and so am i.. and no engagement is going to change that.. let's get ...

A.   24 July 2010: Yep, the only way to put these tramps in their place is to bust up the fun. Did I hear someone say "road trip"?... (read in full...)

Will I get hurt having an affair with a married man?

Q.   A few months ago I met a man online just chatting he told me right off that he was married and that he and his wife love each other yet they do allow each other to do whatever they wish . Anyway we clicked and we met up we just had our sceond ...

A.   23 July 2010: You may not believe this, but you deserve so much more than what this man is offering you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, so stop with the negative self-talk! You've probably said far crueler things to yourself than anyone else ever ... (read in full...)

Why did he deny me and our baby to this girl?

Q.   Well I I'm still struggling with my situation. My boyfriend cheated and possibly got this other girl pregnant. I'm trying to get over it cause I myself had cheated but I just can't. I'm not trying to keep score but he cheated on me with three ...

A.   22 July 2010: You are a doormat. He cheated on you multiple times and may have gotten another girl pregnant, yet you welcome him back with open arms. Of course he's going to keep cheating because there are no consequences for his behavior. He treats you like a ... (read in full...)

Will I get hurt having an affair with a married man?

Q.   A few months ago I met a man online just chatting he told me right off that he was married and that he and his wife love each other yet they do allow each other to do whatever they wish . Anyway we clicked and we met up we just had our sceond ...

A.   22 July 2010: You already know he loves his wife, will never be yours and you know you're going to end up hurt because he can't (and doesn't) return your feelings. You're already having feelings, so clearly you are not cut out for the no-strings relationship this ... (read in full...)

This married woman wants to leave her husband... FOR MY BOYFRIEND!

Q.   My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now and during this time he has cheated with many times, but when i do find out he calls off the relationship them but this always happen after lots of fights and tears. Recently i found out he h...

A.   22 July 2010: "i know if i leave him he will be devastated and miserable." And if you stay with him, you will continue to be devastated and miserable. How many times does he have to cheat on you before you figure out that this guy is no good and has no inter... (read in full...)

Should I just pretend I don't know about my husband's one night stands as long as he comes home after the fun?

Q.   My hubby treats me and the kids very well..we have been a loving couple for years. Recently I found out that even before we were married, he has been out for monthly one night stands (he usually says he is out entertaining clients when he comes home ...

A.   17 July 2010: Just to give you some perspective on the situation: one one-night stand/month * 7 years = 84 women Your husband has slept with at least 84 women during the course of your marriage. 84 women that could have given him a STD that he could potent... (read in full...)

I want to give myself and my virginity as a gift for my boyfriends birthday, good idea?

Q.   Ok so im 19, never had a boyfriend before, recently met the most amazing guy, he's 30. its a large age difference but we get along amazingly! we haven't had sex yet, although we have touched each other intimately during kissing sessions. he is ...

A.   17 July 2010: I would love a dick in a bow for my birthday!... (read in full...)

My boyfriend loves his 11yr old daughter more than me!

Q.   [Mod note: Two questions by the same poster have been combined into one.] My Boyfriend is 35, i am 23 we have known each other for 7 years and have only got together 7 months ago. We have been in our own apartment for 2 months. He has a 11 yr old d...

A.   14 July 2010: I can kinda see your point, but I think you're confusing the issue. The little girl is NOT the problem. The attention she's getting from her dad is rightfully hers, and you have no right to interfere with that. He's HER daddy, not yours. On the ... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's worth working this out...he slept with my "best friend" and she is pregnant with "his" child....

Q.   Okay. So i've been with my boyfriend for 11 months now, and have recently found out he was sleeping with my ex best friend for a good six months of our relationship, on and off. The whole reason me and the girl fell out was because she was sleeping ...

A.   14 July 2010: Don't worry about the baby; it's not yours and it's not your problem. Whatever this girl chooses to do is her business. The main issue you should be concerned with is that this guy is a lout. Whether or not the kid is his, he cheated on you for most ... (read in full...)

I really want revenge on this shameless, unthankful liar...help?

Q.   I was unhappily married for 13 years.I still respect my wife but love was just not there anymore.We have together three beautiful kids.I was more and more sad by time and didn't know what to do.Then two years ago I meet new love of my life.I am 35 ...

A.   14 July 2010: Your ego is bruised. You gave up everything for a trollop and now you're angry because she did to you what you did to your wife: she chose someone else. You shit and stepped in it with this woman--take your lumps like a man and move on. She was ... (read in full...)

I don't know if it's worth working this out...he slept with my "best friend" and she is pregnant with "his" child....

Q.   Okay. So i've been with my boyfriend for 11 months now, and have recently found out he was sleeping with my ex best friend for a good six months of our relationship, on and off. The whole reason me and the girl fell out was because she was sleeping ...

A.   13 July 2010: If he's been sleeping with her for six months and she's three months pregnant, the dates most certainly DO add up. He probably broke things off with her three months ago when she told him she was pregnant. He's still lying to you--don't fall for... (read in full...)

My boyfriend loves his 11yr old daughter more than me!

Q.   [Mod note: Two questions by the same poster have been combined into one.] My Boyfriend is 35, i am 23 we have known each other for 7 years and have only got together 7 months ago. We have been in our own apartment for 2 months. He has a 11 yr old d...

A.   13 July 2010: Don't blame the little girl;the problems in your relationship have nothing to do with her and are not her fault. Your boyfriend is the person you should be upset with. If he's not making time with you or treating you like you are a priority in his ... (read in full...)

Big age difference, he has left wife with five kids, can this relationshio survive??

Q.   What should one do when they have met a guy who is a lot older than themselves and married with five children but the marriage is not good. That guy then askes you out and this then causes major upset for their family. I mean real upset, parents ...

A.   11 July 2010: Of course the man's family is unhappy--he's destroying their lives! Do you honestly expect them to be happy about this? What one should have done was to tell the older man to legally end his marriage before embarking on a relationship. If the marr... (read in full...)

Soon to be ex wife wants a farewell f*ck but I have a girlfriend!

Q.   I am about 2/3 the way through a divorce with my wife of 20 years. I have been separated from her for 4 months now and seeing someone else who I care about very much. This woman was an affair that turned into a committed relationship. My wife and ...

A.   11 July 2010: "I said I'd be willing if it was a new beginning, and that I would end everything with the other woman." This is where you messed up. In essence you told her you would only end things with the other woman if she took you back. Again, you want to ... (read in full...)

Soon to be ex wife wants a farewell f*ck but I have a girlfriend!

Q.   I am about 2/3 the way through a divorce with my wife of 20 years. I have been separated from her for 4 months now and seeing someone else who I care about very much. This woman was an affair that turned into a committed relationship. My wife and ...

A.   10 July 2010: You had no problem cheating ON your wife, but now you're having a crisis of conscience about cheating WITH your wife? Interesting. It definitely sounds like you're hedging your bets so you won't be alone in case one of these women don't work out. ... (read in full...)

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