I suffer from depression and self harm, but no one can help me! What can I do?
Q. hi, im 14 and i've gone through tons of hard things like; step-dad in jail, had sex then he left and im still in love with him (it was 7 mts. ago),might move,guys try to take advanage off me, all my boyfriends in the past treated me bad and i cant ...
A. 16 June 2010: If your meds are not helping, you must tell this to your doctor. They may need to prescribe another medicine that works on different neurotransmitters. Once you feel less depressed, you might find that therapy is helpful.It's hard to benefit from it ... (read in full...)
Why do parents get so crazy about sexual stuff with us teens?
Q. Why do parents get so crazy about sexual stuff with us teens? If we are protected then let us learn and realize the real world of a relationship. I think if the parent lets the kids do stuff it gives the kid responsibilty and helps them realize what ...
A. 16 June 2010: Parents get crazy because teens AREN'T being responsible.
If teens were having responsible sex, the U.S. teen pregnancy rate wouldn't be the highest it's been in a decade.
If teens were responsible, one quarter of all new HIV cases wouldn't b... (read in full...)
Can this make my breasts bigger?
Q. When my boyfriend sucks my nipples does it make boobs grow bigger?...
A. 16 June 2010: If this were true, I'd be a G-cup by now.... (read in full...)
My fiance wants a threesome!
Q. My fiance wants a threesome, with another female. I'm a little uneasy about it, but I said I'd agree as long as I also got a threesome with another male. This way it would be fair. Now, I am bisexual. My fiance, we'll call him Bob for the sake of ...
A. 16 June 2010: At 16 or 17, I doubt Bob has the ability to please one woman, let alone two. He'd probably cum in his superhero underoos before he even got anywhere near a female, and the threesome would be over before it even got started.
I just don't understa... (read in full...)
Is my husband lying about having affairs?
Q. Okay, straight forward, here it goes...Husband and I have been together for 5 years...Where he worked there was a woman who would come over to the house when we had barbeques and stuff...fine. She came over with her boyfriend at the time once, ...
A. 15 June 2010: Ahhh, the no-fault divorce--yet another thing that makes America a great country!
Skip the PI; save your money for an attorney. ... (read in full...)
Is 18 too young to buy the sex toy called a "bullet"?
Q. Is 18 too young to buy a bullet? As in the sex toy. I feel like dildos and vibrators are for much older women - but I've never had an orgasm :(...
A. 15 June 2010: You're not too young at all. You should buy a bullet. Trust me on this one.... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my ex?
Q. Me and my boyfriend (whom is my ex now)at the time were perfect in the beginning. the thing is he left his ex to be with me but something was telling me that him and his ex were def more than just friends afterward. id ask him plenty of times and ...
A. 15 June 2010: He left his ex for you. Then he left you to get back with her.
The way you got him is the way you lost him. You're getting a taste of your own medicine. Deal with it.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to do this while sleepwalking?
Q. Well basicly last wednesday i discoverd a sex site in my fiance's name, emial adress, pic and even his regular password(all of which i knew). obviously i confronted him, and he said he knew about the site and had been trying to get rid of it for ...
A. 15 June 2010: You don't know him as well as you think you do and you are afraid to admit that. Don't you know it's impossible to know another person inside and out? Hell, you don't know yourself inside and out! You have no recollection of visiting the sex site ... (read in full...)
Will my future husband be able to tell I'm no longer a virgin?
Q. Feeling very guilty. Hi,I had sex with a guy few months ago, am feeling very guilty about it now.getting very scared to marry. I had sex only once for few minutes and i did not bleed.will my husband come to know that i have lost my varginity whe...
A. 15 June 2010: Don't worry; he will not be able to tell. Like Auntie E said, all women don't bleed when they lose their virginity. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be sad about the way my husband is acting?
Q. I have this problem me and my husband is getting along well,he recently started a new job. But he and the lady that works together is getting along but too much if you ask me,we went to a bbq the other day she where there he looked at her the whole ...
A. 15 June 2010: "He is a good person."
Really?
You were not the only one to make vows to God; he's supposed to love his wife as Christ loved the Church and your husband is not keeping up his end of the deal. Yes, there are good time and bad times in any rel... (read in full...)
When does sex feel good after losing your virginity??
Q. When Does Sex Get Good? I Have Had Sex Several Times So Far But Still It Just Feels Weird Not Nasty Not Nice Just Boring... Is This Normal...
A. 14 June 2010: Inexperienced or careless man + inexperienced or passive woman = boring sex.
I agree with the advice of everyone who has posted and suggest you take it one step further: do yourself a favor and go out and buy a bullet-style vibrator. Take some tim... (read in full...)
I suffer from depression and self harm, but no one can help me! What can I do?
Q. hi, im 14 and i've gone through tons of hard things like; step-dad in jail, had sex then he left and im still in love with him (it was 7 mts. ago),might move,guys try to take advanage off me, all my boyfriends in the past treated me bad and i cant ...
A. 14 June 2010: There is no need for you to go around feeling like this, especially with all of the help available, but your family is not taking your depression seriously. Do you have a guidance counselor or social worker at school you can speak to? It's their job ... (read in full...)
I never see my boyfriend anymore and I am starting to feel like money is more important than me!
Q. My boyfriend is 37 and I am 27. My parents dont like him. But the real problem is for the last 4 weeks I have not seen him. He says he loves me and everything but I may not hear from him for days. Then when I do hear from him it is because I am ...
A. 14 June 2010: Four weeks? I know a guy serving in Afghanistan and he still finds time to call his girlfriend. If someone in a war zone can do it, I'm not sure your boyfriend can use work as a valid excuse.... (read in full...)
My new boss is my wife's ex-lover! Help!
Q. I have an awful situation at work: My new jerk-of-a boss was my wife's former lover in college. My wife is mortified by the whole situation, too. My boss also jokes around quite a bit with me, saying things like, "Been there, done that!" and adds ...
A. 14 June 2010: The next time he say "Been there, done that! "You can take a joke, right?" Look him dead in the eyes, lower your voice and say "No. I can't take a joke." Use your body language and your tone of voice to let him know that you will not tolerate his ... (read in full...)
Was he following me or was I being overly cautious?
Q. Sorry this isn't a love question but I need some answers.. I usually walk to work and back and this evening I got slightly scared because I thought I was being followed... This guy was on his bike in front of me he the spun his bike around a...
A. 14 June 2010: I would err on the side of caution and trust your gut--if it felt creepy, that's all the justification you need for your actions.... (read in full...)
Almost had sex with my brother in law and my sister caught us!!
Q. What do I do, me and brother in law almost had sex and my sister walked in and saw us, now my family hates hates us!...
A. 14 June 2010: Put yourself up for adoption. ... (read in full...)
Should I get back together with my husband?
Q. So, my husband and I are separated, due to me finding out he cheated on me. I asked him to move out, and he rented an apartment, and let the OW move in with him (along with her 3 girls she will be getting custody of in a couple months). After a few ...
A. 14 June 2010: It's great that you are rebuilding a friendship, but think long and hard about taking him back. He's made a huge mess of his life--HUGE--and it's the kind of mess that's going to continue for years to come. For the rest of your lives you are going ... (read in full...)
Pleaseee help me!!! was she a virgin or she lied to me?? I'm really confused
Q. Allrite, im kinda freaking out right now.... I was a virgin until today... Supposedly my girlfriend was too and i really believed that. Right now I am VERY confused... We were gonna have sex soon because we were very comfortable wit each other and ...
A. 14 June 2010: You've never had sex before, so how do you know whether she's "loose" or not? Really, you have no idea what the hell you're talking about. That poor girl should have saved herself for someone else.... (read in full...)
HIs fantasy freaks me out!
Q. I'm 18 and I'm having sex with a 40 year old man. We met on the Internet and met up in a hotel for the night, we stay in hotels most weekends and have for a while. its really amazing and we are both sexually attracted to each other and have amazing ...
A. 14 June 2010: I'm open to most things sexually, but that would creep me out. Ick!... (read in full...)
Splitting the bill on a first date?
Q. I was on a first date with this guy and we went to see a movie, then had dinner at a Chinese restaurant. We're both students. He is a year older than me. So, he bought the movie tickets online, then announced the price out loud - "so it's 22.50 f...
A. 14 June 2010: If he is acting all desperate and freaking you out, you really DO want to pay for your own meal. The last thing you need is some nutjob thinking he's your man because he bought you a meal off the value. ... (read in full...)
I really want this threesome!
Q. hey im 26 and my girlfriends 20 . we have been together for 3 years we had our ups and downs but we are pretty good now. we have a baby together. i wanna have a threesome. perferably another girl. but i wouldnt mind if it was another dude. im not ...
A. 14 June 2010: If you're serious about your relationship and raising your baby in an intact family, get the threesome idea out of your head. It can only work if both parties want to do it and your girl doesn't want to do it. If you coerce her, she's going to hate ... (read in full...)
How can those feelings just be forgotten because I happened to discover their affair?
Q. I found undeleted texts on my husband's phone that showed he was having an emotional afair with a work colleague. I wrongly thought that it would stop as he seemed to be genuinely sorry. Six weeks later I found another batch he had forgotte...
A. 14 June 2010: Those feelings could be forgotten because they weren't real in the first place. Fear, however, is a real emotion and right now your husband and his "friend" are completely terrified.
I could be wrong, though. Sorry I can't offer you a male p.o... (read in full...)
My b/f's closeness to his 17 year old daughter makes me uncomfortable
Q. My boyfriend has a 17 year old daughter who asked him to rub fake tan in her back last week when her nan was in the house and she was off to a friends house so i couldn't see why she couldn't have asked one of them. is this normal or am i being ...
A. 14 June 2010: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/having-problems-with-his-daughter-who-is-two.html
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On a break, got drunk and had sex with another girl. What about my ex g/f?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 11 months. We have had 3 breaks since we have been together. The first one was for 2 weeks from the 2nd of January to the 14th of January this year. The second one was about 4 months ago and she and ...
A. 14 June 2010: I agree with q1605. Those same hormones that are telling you that you're madly in love are the same ones that led to the two of you cheating on each other and breaking up on a quarterly basis.
Neither of you are ready for a serious relation... (read in full...)
My mum doesn't love me
Q. I don't understand why she doesn't love me but i know she doesn't. As a child growing up she would hit ONLY me, she once hit me with a sweeping brush over my knees. I have older brothers and she never hit them. She always said she wanted a daughter ...
A. 13 June 2010: I grew up in a similar situation, so I understand your pain. I never understood why my mother didn't love me the way she did my siblings. I still don't, but as an adult I have come to understand that my mother is simply a broken human who was raised ... (read in full...)
My b/f's closeness to his 17 year old daughter makes me uncomfortable
Q. My boyfriend has a 17 year old daughter who asked him to rub fake tan in her back last week when her nan was in the house and she was off to a friends house so i couldn't see why she couldn't have asked one of them. is this normal or am i being ...
A. 13 June 2010: C. Grant, you are dead-on. This poster has been complaining about the daughter for a while and still doesn't "get" it.... (read in full...)
How do I let go of my married man when we work together every day?
Q. I've been having an affair with a married man for 8 years. At first it was very innocent, lots of flirting, kissing and up until a month ago everything but sex, we've recently engaged in it. My feelings for him are so strong, and I know he doesn't ...
A. 13 June 2010: A married man who cheats is also a liar. Any relationship you have with him is based on lies--the lies he tells his wife and the lies he tells you.
You can either decide to continue to be a part of the lie or you can stop using work as an excuse t... (read in full...)
My husband left me once before for a another woman..is history about to repeat itself?
Q. I have found out that my husband of 22 years is involved with another woman, I have found out that he calls and txts her numerous times every day, I'm not sure if they have a physical relationship. Her husband has confronted my husband 2 times at ...
A. 13 June 2010: If she's already left her husband, there may be a chance your husband is going to repeat history. Really, he has no reason not to; if things don't work out with the other woman, he figures you'll take him back like you did the last time.
The r... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend I was raped and he says things "don't add up"
Q. I was wondering was I raped. Last week, I received a call from an old friend who said that he wanted to talk to me and I told him that we can talk on the phone and he said that he wanted to talk in person. I told him to meet me over a friend house ...
A. 13 June 2010: Contact a crisis center; they can explain your options to you.... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend I was raped and he says things "don't add up"
Q. I was wondering was I raped. Last week, I received a call from an old friend who said that he wanted to talk to me and I told him that we can talk on the phone and he said that he wanted to talk in person. I told him to meet me over a friend house ...
A. 12 June 2010: This guy forced sex on you: you were raped. I'm so sorry this happened to you, and I am sorry your boyfriend is not being supportive. Are you planning to press charges? Whether you do or do not, please contact your local rape crisis center so you ... (read in full...)
I'm married but curious if she's interested?
Q. So I need some help understand this woman at my bank. A couple of months ago, I went to my bank to apply to refinance my car loan. I met a woman, the lending assistant. Her name was "Susan". She has always been very friendly with me but I alwa...
A. 12 June 2010: I'm thinking he's one of the few people in America who is still able to qualify for a loan, so that's why she wants him so badly. If she shoves those papers off her desk, best believe they'll be signed first!... (read in full...)
I'm married but curious if she's interested?
Q. So I need some help understand this woman at my bank. A couple of months ago, I went to my bank to apply to refinance my car loan. I met a woman, the lending assistant. Her name was "Susan". She has always been very friendly with me but I alwa...
A. 11 June 2010: I think you're reading too much into it. She gave you her cellphone because she was running late; how else were you supposed to contact her to let her know you were still able to meet? ... (read in full...)
Does age matter in a fwb relationship?
Q. Last Summer, I pulled a 25 year old chick at a music festival. It was my first sex for about a year and apparently, she enjoyed it too. I'm only 19 and I think the age difference made it even hotter. Since then, I've been a sorta 'booty call' for...
A. 11 June 2010: As a "mature" woman, I would love nothing more than to train up a younger fella. I'd give this woman a high-five if I could!
Enjoy your "lessons" and don't worry about the age difference.... (read in full...)
Husband wants to attend ex-father-in-law's funeral!
Q. My husband wants to attend the funeral of his ex-father in law. I feel very strongly that he should not. He wasn't particularly close to him but says he should do it out of respect. I would feel very uncomfortable going with him as I have met most...
A. 11 June 2010: I asked if there was an affair involved because, once again, I couldn't understand why a 51-59 year old woman would be threatened by an ex wife at a FUNERAL. I apologize if this hurt you, but I honestly was trying to figure out why your reaction to ... (read in full...)
Husband wants to attend ex-father-in-law's funeral!
Q. My husband wants to attend the funeral of his ex-father in law. I feel very strongly that he should not. He wasn't particularly close to him but says he should do it out of respect. I would feel very uncomfortable going with him as I have met most...
A. 10 June 2010: *OP asked: Could it be a show of support for his ex wife?*
This is the crux of the problem. You don't have a problem with the kids or the ex in-laws, you're threatened by his ex wife. You want him to forget he ever had a life with this woman, b... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband accept I just don't enjoy anal?
Q. My husband is obsessed with anal sex. We've had it twice. He refused to use any lubricant and it hurt very badly. I told him that I'm not interested in doing it again. I only did it with him because I felt pressured. His female boss is ...
A. 9 June 2010: Forcing someone to participate in sex acts that are painful is not my idea of "working things out".
You might want to consider re-filing those divorce papers-- your husband sounds sadistic. ... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband accept I just don't enjoy anal?
Q. My husband is obsessed with anal sex. We've had it twice. He refused to use any lubricant and it hurt very badly. I told him that I'm not interested in doing it again. I only did it with him because I felt pressured. His female boss is ...
A. 9 June 2010: Forcing someone to participate in sex acts that are painful is not my idea of "working things out".
You might want to consider re-filing those divorce papers-- your husband sounds. ... (read in full...)
Is he getting sprung?
Q. Okay so my bf always wants me to give him head I give him head more then we have sex, he say's he loves they way I do it, Is he getting sprung????...
A. 9 June 2010: "Getting sprung" means falling hard for a person, usually because of good sex (or good cooking, or good conversation...). Usually, someone who is "sprung" will behave in ways outside of their character to please the person who is offering them the ... (read in full...)
My ex has a girlfriend and she is pregnant so I want to leave him for good, but I need advice on how to do it!
Q. i been being with my ex for a while and i just found out that he's still with his GF and that she's prego.. he doesnt know that I know yet.... what amazes me is that when he come over he act's like nothing we get along great, he doesnt try to ...
A. 9 June 2010: If you come off all crazy and hysterical, I'm fairly certain this guy is going to remind you that he's your ex and doesn't owe you an explanation about anything. I don't know if he lied about his GF by omission or commission, but you are not in a ... (read in full...)
How do you have a successfull FWB?
Q. Question: How do you have a successfull FWB? How am I supposed to act in this type of relationship? I think I want to do this because I don't want to be in a serious relationship right now because of my kids. So, the question is, am I supposed to ...
A. 9 June 2010: 1.Make sure the friend you have the relationship with has never had a romantic interest in you.
2. Don't engage in dating-type activities (excessive cuddling after sex, romantic dinners, breakfast in bed...). If you break this rule, I can pret... (read in full...)
Do I have any right to say anything to my ex about his drug taking?
Q. hello everyone. i'm in need of a little help. i am currently in a relationship but i've recently found out my ex boyfriend has been doing drugs. we've not been together for about 2 and a half years now but i still worry about him and to t...
A. 9 June 2010: Well if he's a "friend", what would you do if any of your other friends got involved with drugs? I'm sure you'd say something, and if he's just a friend you should have no problem approaching him on this matter. Why don't you ask your boyfriend to ... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband accept I just don't enjoy anal?
Q. My husband is obsessed with anal sex. We've had it twice. He refused to use any lubricant and it hurt very badly. I told him that I'm not interested in doing it again. I only did it with him because I felt pressured. His female boss is ...
A. 9 June 2010: I know this is only tangentially related to the original question, but I'm seeing red flags all over this situation. I suspect your husband's boss is trying to seduce him. Telling a married man how much you like anal and you pity him for not getting ... (read in full...)
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