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Just Two

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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...

A little humility goes a long way

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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...

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Is the guy I'm dating being a jerk?

Q.   I started dating this guy about a month ago and we've been on four dates so far.. We haven't gone all the way yet but have done some stuff in bed, as well as the usual things like cinema etc. TBF to him he does have his good points like he pays for ...

A.   22 September 2017: I agree with aunt honesty. I don't think he's being a jerk but I do think that you and he are not a match. You seem to be nitpicking quite a bit and really trying hard to figure out the meaning behind innocuous words and actions of his. I thi... (read in full...)

My wife's sexual past has become a sticking point for me

Q.   OK this might be a bit long winded but here we go. So I have been happilyish married for nearly ten years now. I met my wife in 2003 while on my OE in London and we got together and started dating and then eventually the "how many people have you ...

A.   22 September 2017:  This is ridiculous!! It's like when yourrelationship has failed and you're trying to break up with your partner and then he/she says, "you said you loved me and couldn't live without me so what happened now? So how can you leave me now?" Why... (read in full...)

Heart says carry on, head says we are now toxic! Advice needed!

Q.   Hi. So my 8 year relationship seems to be at its end and I've been given an ultimatum. We split up or we stay together and try to make it work. Some background, we are a young couple, we have been together from a young age and have been through ...

A.   20 September 2017: You've invested 8 long years so I think you should give the relationship one last chance. It's very easy to let go but don't do it without a fight. Why have you drifted apart in the last two years? It's quite acceptable to actually sit in silen... (read in full...)

I'm worried I can't ask her to do the same thing again!

Q.   A few weeks ago I helped my girlfriend clean and put the dishes away. Afterwards she filled the sink with dishsoap and undressed me. She wanted me to sit on the counter over the edge of the sink. I was reluctant at first but I did it. She then used ...

A.   19 September 2017: I had the same thought as Aunt Cindy This is a troll who's just describing a sexual act to try and titillate and get a reaction. I don't even understand the point of the question other than to "brag" about getting a handjob with detergen... (read in full...)

A thank you to your advice!! I am now engaged. You are all the best!! Just a Thank you Post =)

Q.   Hi Everyone!! Thanks for your advice. I am engaged and getting married!! I came to your site because I am more of a private person and my mother passed away and don't have a sister. I love my friends but I'm not one to talk about gossip on my rel...

A.   19 September 2017: Thank you for such a nice post! Congratulations to you on the great news and hope you have a fabulous life ahead of you! Lots of love and good wishes..... (read in full...)

I'm worried my boyfriend is stealing from me.

Q.   Hi, I really need some advice - I've been in a very happy relationship for over six months now. My boyfriend is very loving and caring, and we've never even had an argument - we just seem very in tune with one another. But something odd happ...

A.   18 September 2017: I'm with Uncle Phil here. Either casualty bring it up and see how he responds or keep some more cash in your room a few days later and see what happens... (read in full...)

I'm not as turned on by my IRL girlfriend as I was with the LDR!

Q.   I've recently started dating a girl from my work who is the sweet, caring, interesting, real girlfriend material. Before her I was casually seeing a girl I met online, it was nothing serious, just dating and a lot of sex really. Now here's my ...

A.   18 September 2017: That's because with the other girl, it was just sex and no commitment, nothing. Just wham thank you ma'am and then you both go your ways. And because you know she's seeing you just for the sex and no other frills, you're always ready to perform. ... (read in full...)

Ex-boyfriend (considerably older) left me for someone else while being on holiday. I don't understand it and am now thinking of asking for closure.

Q.   Hi, will try to keep this as short as I can. A little background: A few months ago I met a charming older man (49 years old) and what began as a short romance started developing into something more serious and longer, with him (he lived in a diffe...

A.   17 September 2017: I think you should look at the silver linings... And trust me, there are more than a few here. He was close to double your age and think of all the troubles that you would have faced later had this worked out. Imagine having kids with him when he's ... (read in full...)

I'm in a relationship yet I find myself attracted to a friend. What to do?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now and I love him to death and I can't imagine life without him. When I was living overseas for some time, my elder brother had some room mates and every time we came back to see the house, I obviousl...

A.   11 September 2017: Do you honestly see any potential in a relationship which starts with the words, "if you get bored of your boyfriend then message me"? Also, if you loved your boyfriend "to death"(whatever that means) and clearly you don't, then this would ne... (read in full...)

I often think fondly of my ex but don't want to get back with him

Q.   Hi everyone. So I'll start with my ex. He was a lovely guy but there was no sex or passion. we were together a number of years but broke up a while ago now. i was okay. we are 'friends' but don't ever talk. I'm now with a new partner and thin...

A.   9 September 2017: You didn't have an ugly or messy break-up and you have good memories of your relationship. We tend to think that if someone is an ex then that person must be avoided like the plague and we shouldn't think of them in a good way but why should it be ... (read in full...)

Now that he's abroad he doesn't contact me at all!

Q.   Hi, I'm in a strange "relationship" with my colleague and I don't know what to do..One year ago I've got this new job..when i met with my coworker, it was instant chemistry, he always look at me, trying to contact me..but i heard he's a player s...

A.   9 September 2017: I didn't even need to get to the end of your post to know what was coming because his behaviour was/is so predictable! All he wanted from you was sex. Full stop. When he didn't get that, there was no reason to be in touch with you even for the ... (read in full...)

Job not how I thought, girlfriend dumping me

Q.   I'm having problem at work and I'm not enjoying it currently, ive had time off because of the stress it's caused and my assistant boss doesn't seem to want to leave me alone and he's up my backside every five minutes. I work for a sports company and ...

A.   8 September 2017: Quit drinking!! This isn't rocket science! You're making a mess out of a bad situation. Look dude, life isn't always fair and you won't have things go your way 90% of the time. But you can't deal with it by getting drunk and making a fool of ... (read in full...)

I'm having trouble putting an affair partner behind me

Q.   Hello everyone reading. About nine months ago me and a married man whom I had a two year emotional affair with ended completely with a mutual understanding that we could never have a relationship due to the mess we created in his life. When it ...

A.   7 September 2017: You don't sound like a bad person OP. You made a mistake but you had the courage and the conviction to change. Not many people in your position can do that. Peace comes from within and you have to work at forgiving yourself first. You have to lear... (read in full...)

She suggested a holiday but then didn't raise the topic. She finally said it was too expensive, is this a sign of problems ahead?

Q.   My girlfriend suggested we go away a few months ago on a specific date. Since then, shes never raised it - but I have on numerous occasions, offering to book things, asking if she was still interested, or even not wanting to go, and all the time she ...

A.   6 September 2017: I don't think it's any of what you think. I think it's a matter of her ego and the fact that she was too proud to admit that she couldn't afford it, despite having suggested it first. Maybe she thought over it and saw that it wasn't within her means ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has just confessed that he slept with someone else

Q.   I'm after some advice, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. I have never doubted our trust or believe he has ever done anything to jeopardise our relationship. Well that's what I thought until this Wednesday he called me down the...

A.   5 September 2017: What does your gut instinct tell you? If you were to close your eyes right now and take a decision this instant, what would you do? Do you think you can trust him again? Do you think the relationship will restore to it's previous setting if he ... (read in full...)

How do I explain my decision to skip the reunion without bad mouthing the Dean?

Q.   When I was in high school (a Catholic school), the Dean of Men was one of the worst people I ever known. He played favorites (if you were one of his favorites, you would never be in trouble no matter what you did but if you were not his favorite, ...

A.   5 September 2017: OP you'll come across many such miserable, pathetic people in your life. Why should you go around avoiding all of them and miss out on stuff that you would do otherwise if not for them? To hell with him, just ignore the man or at best, just wish him ... (read in full...)

A fight, zero contact for 3 weeks. He should apologize, not me. What should I do?

Q.   I left my BF 3 weeks ago after a fight. There's been zero contact since I left. I haven't contacted him and he hasn't contacted me. Yes, I'm the one who left, however he was the one who was in the wrong and should apologize. I'm not sure how to ...

A.   4 September 2017: What was the fight about? You say that you left him, does that mean that you broke up? Maybe he doesn't think he was wrong? Maybe he thinks you should make the attempt to contact him if you want to get back since you were the one who walked out? Or ... (read in full...)

What's the future for me as the other woman?

Q.   I am in a relationship with a wonderful man who I love and he loves me. We are very happy however I am "the other woman", even though our relationship is serious and we've been together for like 3 years, because he's cheated on his current/previous ...

A.   3 September 2017: Of course he could cheat on you... If he hasn't or isn't cheating already! Do you really think that this catch of a man is committed to you? He's a liar without any scruples and you actually think you're something special to him? You seem to be in ... (read in full...)

My wife of 30 years just confessed that she was not a virgin

Q.   my wife of 30 years confessed that she was not a virgin when we were married. I was not a virgin when we met and if she had told me before we were married I would have been fine with it. My problem is she made such a big deal of telling me she was ...

A.   2 September 2017: Why has this issue come up after 30 years of marriage? Why now? What's the background to this?... (read in full...)

I told him 10pm was too late for dinner and now he won't speak to me

Q.   Dear Cupid; I met a man on-line, he asked me to meet him at a nearby restaurant/bar at 9:00, he then changed the time to 9:15. I texted him when I got there never got a reply. I waited for 15 minutes and as I was getting ready to leave when he ...

A.   2 September 2017: Nope, you were not wrong. You gave him two chances and now you know that he doesn't value you and doesn't believe in punctuality. He also thinks he's the cat's whiskers. He isn't and you can do so much better. Move on please. ... (read in full...)

I can't get over a guy I dated for a month?

Q.   Hi aunts and uncles. I still have feelings for an ex that I was only with for one month and it's really troubling me. He wasn't my first boyfriend, and it wasn't my longest relationship, but I've never felt this way before. We had a lovely ...

A.   31 August 2017: The best way to get over him is not to date someone else. Who told you it was? The best way right now is to just be by yourself, surrounded yourself with friends and be positive without hooking up or being in a relationship. You need time to heal, ... (read in full...)

It seems women lose interest in sex after a while ...

Q.   Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....

A.   30 August 2017: I'm not going to get into this epistemic debate but I'll try to answer your question. Women lose interest in sex because you're not giving them what they want. Do you know how a woman orgasms? Do you allow her the pleasure of having one each time... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says my friends took advantage of me.

Q.   Hello Everyone! Just wanted some insight on this situation. Last night, my boyfriend and I had friends over (my friend and his girlfriend) to watch the Game of Thrones season finale. I cooked a lot more than my boyfriend thought I should have but ...

A.   29 August 2017: Simple question, does your boyfriend have a problem with this male friend? His over-reacting is caused by something more than just concern for you exerting yourself. The fact that he thinks that you've gone out of your way to cook for him shows th... (read in full...)

My friend drunkenly ranted into my voicemail. Do I call him or wait for him to contact me?

Q.   So last night I was sat alone minding my own business when I received two phone calls , both left voicemails from a good friend of mine. He has helped me through a lot of relationship problems, he has made it clear he fancies me but he knows th...

A.   28 August 2017: No, don't contact him at all. This is exactly why we say that you never really know how a person really is from the inside unless you see them at a vulnerable moment. He/she may appear completely rational and normal outwardly but you have no idea ... (read in full...)

Hard to read this workmate

Q.   I am 38 and she would be around 27.Her office is next to mine but i dont know her name.A month back i repeatedly noticed her looking at me.I became curious(i had put on weight and didnt think a pretty girl would look at me) and we started ...

A.   27 August 2017: You're married. It doesn't and shouldn't matter at all, whether or not she likes you. Keep it in your pants and be faithful to your wife. Stop being the sleazy older married office guy who looks at women on the sly and fantasizes about them. You're ... (read in full...)

I've been engaged forever but not married. Why?

Q.   I’m in a 3 and a half years relationship with my now fiancé, who I met when he was stationed in the same country where I was working. We have been through many ups and downs in our relationship but we seem to be more stable now than we used to. His ...

A.   26 August 2017: Right, I completely get where you're coming from and your frustrations are understandable but what's his side of the story? Say for instance why did he get divorced? How old are the kids? I don't think that he wants to get married again and I th... (read in full...)

My professor was staring at me, is he signaling an attraction to me?

Q.   I went back to school to finish my degree last year and had attraction/chemistry with a professor. He'd always ask my opinion about the class and we'd talk about life, work, etc in office hours. At first, I thought it was because I was older, but ...

A.   24 August 2017: How does it matter? You're done with your studies and are on your way out. You have nothing more to do with him unless of course you're interested in him too... Are you?... (read in full...)

Didnt cheat but feel guilty ?

Q.   Me and my gf have dated for about a year and a half. A few months ago. I've never flirted or talked to or tried to cheat on her (never even thought about it. Me and her were going through an extremely rough patch, constantly arguing, and bei...

A.   22 August 2017: You shouldn't feel guilty because you did absolutely nothing wrong. You just asked her for advice and yes maybe you shouldn't have but that's it. Maybe you just wanted to confirm your suspicions about her that she DID in fact want something more? ... (read in full...)

She's boring and bland and I need to cut her loose but how do I let her down without hurting her feelings?

Q.   Hello everyone, I've recently been speaking to a girl that I got speaking to through social media. I just randomly messaged her one day and things took off and we've now been speaking for roughly two months. We went on a date after about 10 d...

A.   21 August 2017: You're right OP, that's what dating is all about.... Till a point. You can test the waters and get a feel of things but you don't / didn't have to get physical. That's NOT a part of seeing if you get along. Things always get complicated when sex is ... (read in full...)

She's boring and bland and I need to cut her loose but how do I let her down without hurting her feelings?

Q.   Hello everyone, I've recently been speaking to a girl that I got speaking to through social media. I just randomly messaged her one day and things took off and we've now been speaking for roughly two months. We went on a date after about 10 d...

A.   20 August 2017: You say she's a genuine and nice girl. It's hard to find good people in the world and you might just be letting go of one. Thrill and passion don't last forever... goodness does. It's unfair though, you were the one who contacted her and star... (read in full...)

Why would he say he isn't right for me, yet I'm right for him but he still doesn't want a relationship?

Q.   Please be patient as I outline my story. We were good friends and disclosed our feelings for each other a few months after re-establishing contact. He's been supportive of me from the beginning, and we have always playfully flirted. There was ...

A.   20 August 2017: The long and short of it is that he's just not that into you. If he were, he wouldn't be dilly dallying this way. If a guy wants to be with you then nothing or no one can stop him. He will do everything and I mean every single thing that he can, to ... (read in full...)

We've fallen out over nothing. What do I do?

Q.   I've been hanging out with this girl for the past 2 months(i know im slow). We have a pretty good friendship and I could tell it was heading towards a relationship. We had an awesome couple of days planned(aka dates) and basically we broke down and ...

A.   20 August 2017: Call her. You need to stop this texting business and pick up your phone and talk to her. I personally dislike texts because a lot of lost in translation. It's an easy way out to escape having an actual conversation but if you like this girl and want ... (read in full...)

He spent 5 years in prison for crippling a child in a drunken car accident

Q.   Would you date someone with a criminal record ? I met this guy at a party of a mutual friend. We spent the whole night talking and exchanged numbers. After spending hours a day texting / talking we went on an amazing first date. At the end of ...

A.   19 August 2017: I wouldn't date him if I were you. Not because that would be my way of "punishing" him but because he's spent 5 years in prison, he's destroyed a child's life and you have no idea the baggage that he has with him. I see that a lot of aunts have ... (read in full...)

Could our relationship be salvaged?

Q.   So this past Monday my girlfriend of 6 months split up with me. She's just got back from a week away with her sister and the day she went away told me she had been thinking about it because of how I react to things and how she's constantly worrying ...

A.   17 August 2017: Its been 6 months! You cant possibly react like that for something that has lasted for this short a span of time. Its not like a 10 year relationship ended! Im not saying that you can quantify your feelings in terms of the number of years that you ... (read in full...)

I cant break up with her because she threatens self harm.

Q.   Hi, So I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years total now with some time in between here and there. I've been on the fence about breaking up with her for the entirety of this summer but I haven't been able to act on it because she is s...

A.   14 August 2017: Sweetheart this girl is going to wear you down and it's only a matter of time before you say enough is enough. Keep in mind that barking dogs seldom bite so I highly doubt if she will really self harm. In any case, I think you should inform her ... (read in full...)

When its good its great but right now its bad.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend now for roughly four months. It's long distance so things have gotten intense pretty quickly! We were planning to move in together but I felt it was too soon so I told him how I felt. Since then things have not been ...

A.   10 August 2017: For what it's worth, I don't think you should pay him back for the holiday for the simple reason that you didn't want it in the first place. Just don't accept meals from him or anything else but the next time he throws the holiday at your face, ... (read in full...)

When its good its great but right now its bad.

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend now for roughly four months. It's long distance so things have gotten intense pretty quickly! We were planning to move in together but I felt it was too soon so I told him how I felt. Since then things have not been ...

A.   10 August 2017: Slow down. You're spending way too much time together at just 4 months. Moving in should be completely ruled out because that's just going to end in a big disaster. He's a bitter bully... Saying that you have no class and are fake is unacceptable. ... (read in full...)

I blurted out I LOVE YOU to my married boyfriend. Why does he still want to be with me?

Q.   I told my married boyfriend of 3.5 years that I LOVE HIM yesterday. It just came out. I did not mean to say it but I did. He was asking me why do I stay with a guy like him? He called himself average, boring, not so attractive yet said I am ...

A.   9 August 2017: I don't think he gives a flying duck about what you say or feel as long as you're sleeping with him. Come on, you're his mistress, we all know how that's going to play out. However, I just re-read your question again and I think you're trying to s... (read in full...)

What makes a person act like my ex did?

Q.   I was dating a guy for about two years. Around April of 2017 he breaks off the relationship. I was being needy and angry during that time because I was in my senior year of college and it was finals. And my father had stage four cancer he got really ...

A.   8 August 2017: There. Right there. Your father was dying and this guy says that he doesn't have the "time" to comfort you, he doesn't "know" how to and he'd rather be with his own father and impress him. This is when you should have walked away immediately without ... (read in full...)

Cheating past discovered via old emails! Should I confront him?

Q.   ve been with my bf for almost 10 years now. I've never had any issues, and never even had a slight suspicion that he would do anything he's not supposed to, and never had trust issues with him (maybe I'm too naive?) one thing always peeved me off ...

A.   6 August 2017: Let's forget the snooping for a moment.Now tell me, what exactly do you plan to do. You either confront him or you don't.If you don't then you won't ever live in peace so you'll most likely ask him.He might deny at first but he has to accept ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a good guy but I don't know if I am wasting my time

Q.   My boyfriend dated a French girl for 2 years and was very open about it. They went on vacations, posted affectionate pictures online and lived in as well. They broke up amicably and remain friends. My boyfriend and I started on a rough note. I wa...

A.   4 August 2017: You're jealous of his past aren't you? Isn't that why you had a rough beginning? Because of the French girl and how secure his relationship seemed with her? Honestly why are you with him if he's commitment phobic? You're scaring him, pressuring him, ... (read in full...)

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