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*onika
writes:dear cupids.i am grl of 18 nd in a relationship wid a guy whom i love wholeheartedly.he loves me too.i hav a minor doubts on him considering his relation wid other grls.therfore,its been 2 weeks past , i have a loyality test on him nd he passed it .but from d day he comes to know dat i hav done such a cheap thing to judge his love,he isnt talkng to me ,neither givng reply on fb nor receivng my call.just said,"u dont belive me den wats there remain in our relationship nd its all over now". i said sorry hundreds of time but all in vain.i cant live widout him .i know dat it was a mistake.plz tell me how to convince him nd get him back.he is a true lovr.i cant afford to lose him.
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reader, sonika +, writes (16 July 2012):
sonika is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokkk.i appreciate for wat u all have sugggsted .i know dat i am d main culprit behind watever gone wroung.coz of some envy friends arund us i have lead in to such a test.they forced me to prform on him as they hav seen him wid other grls flirtng .i hav also seen him wid other grls.but now realisng dat evrythng was only my mere worthless imagination. i am such a fool to belive them nd such a fool to mistrust him.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (16 July 2012):
I am sorry for your loss. Men usually do not like "tests". In fact no one does since no one likes to be used. I agree that there are many bad men out there, but I also think that there are bad women out there. In reality there are just bad "people". Also I am not perfect and it would be wrong of me to judge someone from a selfish test. It would be best to just use your own intuition. Lack of trust isn't a good reason to disrespect someone whether he would have passed or failed.
All you can do is wait and see if he would come back. It is his choice and there isn't much you can do for now. Just be patient and see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2012): "plz tell me how to convince him nd get him back"
Unfortunately, you can't "convince" or "get" him to do anything he doesn't want to do. Actions have consequences, which you are now experiencing. He wants nothing to do with you, and quite rightly so.
He gave you no reason to doubt him but you've given him plenty of reasons to doubt you. If you can't live without him, then you shouldn't have risked driving him away with such a cheap trick.
He may have passed your loyalty test but you flunked his big time. Nothing you can do except learn from your experience and not repeat the same mistake in the future (with other guys; don't count on him taking you back, I surely wouldn't if I was him).
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (16 July 2012):
 What was the loyalty test and why did you do it?
The problem with trying to win him back is that the reason why you gave him this "loyalty test" still exists. You didn't trust him, and that won't change even if you get him back.
At this point, I'd walk away. There's no such thing as "I can't live without him" and "I can't afford to lose him". Never allow desperation to enter into a relationship, because at best, it'll open you up to manipulation and at worst, it can open you up to devastation.
Can you tell us why you doubted him? Can you tell us what you did to test his loyalty? I don't believe in loyalty tests for no reason, and I don't believe in snooping, created fake FB accounts, and invading privacy simply out of insecurity. However, if you caught him in a lie and verified the lie, there's nothing wrong with that.
So what happened? Can you tell us?
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