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writes:So i have an issue here. There is this girl i met here at college that I find to be more than just physically attractive. She is a very happy person, positive, smart, loves to smile and laugh, is patient and understanding, and many other things. She appears to have a most of what I would look for in someone. She is everything my last relationship lacked and more.My last relation ship was good till it was bad. It lasted almost a year. I broke it off with her because I couldn't deal with it any more. But thats a different story.I would have an issue pursuing this girl, but she just so happens to be my ex's friend. Or so she says she is. My ex never really hung out with her or made an effort to contact her, so i consider them more of acquaintances.I originally though that I was attracted to this girl because my last relationship was going though a rough spot and she seemed to have everything my relationship was lacking, but now that the dust has settled and it has been a few months, I cant help but notice that the feels I feel towards this girl aint going away and are chugging along just as strong. I try to look at other women the same way, but she keeps jumping to the front of my mind.I am still friendly with my ex, and i dont want to start a three way battle, but I dont want to miss out on sharing something with her if its possible.This girl is currently on a co-op till the end of the summer and actually lives bout 20 min from my permanent residence. So what I am asking is, What should I do? Should I try to connect with this girl? or should I try fight back my feelings?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 If you want to check with your ex to see what she thinks about it then do that, but otherwise I would just ask this other girl out and see what she says. If they are not really friends then it shouldn't matter and if you ask your ex and she says yes then more power to you.
I just don't beleive in passing up love because of a few minor technicalities. She may be everything that you want if a gf and it would be terrible if you let this slip by.
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