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writes:how often do you have sex with your partner?looking for answers from people who are in:1) Long distance relationships (hardly see eachother)2) close proximity (see eachother most days or w/e's)3 and live in relationships (living together)Any answers would be appreciative. Thanks !
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2012): married for 8 months, haven't had sex since 6 months, before that was every half a year, excluding first 3 months of relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2012): For the first couple of years, 15-20 times a week. Now more like 5 times on average.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): Married 24 years. Sex 6-8 times per year.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (7 June 2012):
 I live with my bf for 2 years now, our normal sexual activity is 3 times a week. There was a time when it would be once a week as he was stressed at work. Now, we are back to 3 times a week, sometimes even daily.
But even without the sex, there would be no day we don't kiss, hug or sit or lay close to each other. The moment we're home, we are glued to each other physically.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): Been in a long distance relationship for five years.. meet every 6 months or so (every half year) for about two weeks. Everyday in that two week span we have sex. :p
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): 2) Me and my partner are together 5 days a week and he sleeps over. We have sex around 6/7 times a day. Mostly because I'm a horny wee bugger and so is he and that I need to have a lot of sex before I have an orgasm. Once I have my orgasm then I tend to go to sleep lol but its not normally until the 6th or 7th time. My bf must be tired but he doesn't complain. We have been together for 8 months
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reader, Serpico +, writes (7 June 2012):
Im living w my fiancee. We have sex at 6 or 7 times per week. Rare is it under 4.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): Married 32 years- sometimes no form of sex for up to two weeks and then every other day- other times 1-4 times weekly be it intercourse, BJ or handjobs. BUT-EVERYDAY we cuddle and just rub each others sex. I like to just slowly massage her while she falls asleep-its relaling to her and she enjoys toying with my foreskin (she says because its so soft and since it produces its own wetness it is never iratating dry)-we both like the relaxation and closeness from it. So if its not orgasam related we have some form of touching daily. I'm 56 and she is 51 so orgasams are not as important as contact.
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reader, Rebeccaa  +, writes (7 June 2012):
 We don't live together we still live with our parents be and aide were both in college, see eachother most days and it varies, it all really depends on when we get to be alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): I live with my boyfriend of a year and a half and we have sex unfortuantely about 3 times a month :(
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 June 2012):
 14 years married, 3-4 times per week is the "norm" now. Though the times he's been away at school or deployment there was no sex for 6 weeks to 7 months.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 June 2012):
 I’m 52 my fiancé is 39. We spent a year being LDR and we saw each other pretty much every weekend LDR for a while… In December 2011 he moved in full time with me. We had way more sex when we were LDR than we do now… but we’ve been in a weird place with our life right now…
Usually we have sexual contact (not always intercourse but some form of genital contact) around once or twice a week. BUT we have much “foreplay” contact daily… kissing, hugging… cuddling… groping of butts, boobs and crotches (goes both ways I grab him, he grabs me)…
We often have hot plans that never materialize… but we have had health issues in the last year and are going through a huge house renovation right now… so we’ve gone sometimes a couple of weeks with no orgasmic contact….
I think that folks that live together get into the mindset of “I can have it any time” and if you don’t make time for it, sex will fall by the wayside… it’s much easier and faster to take care of yourself… sadly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): I am 43 and recently remarried to a very sexual woman my age. We have sex on average once a day. Some days we miss a day, but some days its 3 or 4 times. In my previous marriage/relationship of 20 years, we averaged once a week. It was not enough for me, so I wound up masturbating a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): 7 years, living together for 5.
It varies a lot for us depending on lots of factors.
My girlfriend doesn't feel very 'giving' when she's under a lot stress so I'll give her lots of head and just lie back and let her use my body to get off so she can vent and doesn't have to think about pleasing me. Pure stress release and nothing else.
Those periods don't last long because of that and she's my love so she's allowed to use me that way and even being her human dildo is pretty cool.
In general we have sex 4 or 5 times a week. But again to keep things interesting we vary. It can be once a day 5 times that week or 5 times over the weekend. We also take breaks for a couple of weeks to let the sexual frustration build and then go book a weekend away and spend that time in bed ordering room service.
Sex is vital for both of usfor many things. Pure stress release, pure animal sex with no affection, making love to reaffirm and strengthen our bond, make up sex, quickies as a form of mutual masturbation, long drawn out role play to enact our fantasies and course one sided pleasure in the form of manual and oral just to give or as a reward for doing something.
At the moment we're experiencing a horny period and are having sex at every opportunity wherever we are. It's raining a lot here but its summer and a warm rain so we went somewhere secluded and got naked in the pouring rain. That's always amazing definitely highly recommend that one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): We ve been married for a long time, and sex doesnt happen often to say the truth. We work all day , get tired, plus habituation comes into place. I read some answers and think to myself, bravo, people!! Several times a week?! After 14 years of marriage? That's highly unlikely in most families, to my experience. We talk, my girlfriends and me, for all of us, it's may be once a month, if... For us it was never every day even when we were in our 20s. I guess everyone have different sex drives. I personally can have orgasm everyday, I sleep better, but I don't necessarily want to have intercourse that often. May be too lazy for all this work:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): I used to have sex with my ex-boyfriend twice a day. Then things slowed down because he didn't want it as frequenlty. I wanted it all the time...especially when I was stressed out. Sex was and is very important to me, but it isn't to some. Some people could live without it. I am very passionate and I could not live without a lot of intimacy and sex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): My Fiance and I are both 47 and have lived together for over two years now. We have sex just about every day and sometimes twice depending on what's going on.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 June 2012):
 Are you asking about intercourse only, or are we including everything sexual in the tally?
I'm married almost 14 years...we don't have any flow charts or anything but I'd guess give or take 2-3 times per week for straight up sex. Sometimes it's more, especially if we're either stressed or we're on vacation together. Then it's nearly every day. Sometimes it's less if one or the other of us are sick. There are also nights added on that we are sexual and there is mutual release, but not intercourse. Sometimes it's one or the other...we're pretty sexual and we try different things out.
I had surgery over a year ago and we were banned from sex for 6 weeks. AWFUL. :P We had to be really creative...kinda like when someone breaks their right hand and has to learn how to write with their left. Good thing we have a sense of humor. :D
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reader, daletom +, writes (7 June 2012):
Wife & I have been married (to each other!) almost 38 years. We started as wedding-night virgins, and for at least the first year (maybe two) the average was probably a dozen times a week or more. The main, "relational", lovemaking was usually in the morning; the bedtime sex was probably best described as "familiar and assuring"; and occasionally there would be a more playful romp during the day.
The frequency and timing varied over the years as things like kids, illness, life events, etc imposed themselves.
We're now in our early 60's, and over the last year or two our lovemaking has been two to four times a month. Usually she still has several orgasms each time but they aren't as intense or as numerous as when she was in her 20's or 30's. Like most guys my age the plumbing doesn't work as well as it once did. She is very eager to use her best skills, but around 10% of the time we have to get by without my climax.
With no kids in the house we are more free to speak openly of our desires, allow hands and mouths to roam with fewer constraints, and make love at "unusual" times and places. This afternoon her question was, "Shall we eat dinner early, or have a loving?". It was an awesome day for outside lovemaking, but you can't do that at 4:00 in the afternoon in the middle of a suburban subdivision. Instead, we opened wide the doors and windows to the great room and contented ourselves with hearing some of the outdoor sounds (the kids' game of pickup street hockey wasn't TOO distracting) and feeling a little bit of breeze on our bodies. In the afterglow we wondered how many other grandparents were doing the same thing at that moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): We're in an LDR and see each other for a few days after every two or three months. When we do meet, we have sex atleast twice a day, sometimes more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): Been dating my boyfriend for a year. We have sex at least once a day. Sometimes 3 times a day. Sometimes we don't have sex at all but that's usually when we are not together.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (7 June 2012):
 Been married 2 years but together for 7 years. Sex was every night in the beginning even when we had already been living together for a year. Then every couple of days. Now I'm lucky if it's once every 3 weeks. I know if varies from couple to couple and as men get older they have more trouble being sexual regularly. If my husband is stressed about his job, about money or the kids he tends to withdraw from me sexually. I am the opposite. I use sex as an escape, so obviously we have differing viewpoints which sometimes makes me feel undesirable. But when we do have sex it is amazing!! And well worth the wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): I have been married to my wife for almost 6 years, together for 8 years. We of course live together:)
We have sex usually at least one time per day, sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. Now we might skip a day or two here and again. But, usually a minimum of one time per day at least.
Sex with your partner is FREE, FUN, FEELS GOOD, you should be doing it as much as you can,,, keeps you very close to your better half!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): been married 29 years . we make love at the least 8 times a month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): me and my ex boyfriend spent 3-4 nights a week together, probably having sex about 5 or 6 times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): 2-3 times per month :( we've been living together for a little over a year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): 2)we see eachother most days. but as she has school, and a son. not very often. its been almost a month and a half since we last had sex. before that at least once a week
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