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writes: I have only ever been with the one man in my life and he does not enjoy performing oral sex on a woman. He claims that men just DON'T like it at all.This may be a stupid and very obvious question I should know the answer to, but because I have only been intimate with one man and can't feel comfortable asking my girlfriends, can you tell me the truth?Do any of you men enjoy giving oral sex to women? If you feel comfortable enough explaining.. what makes it the most enjoyable for a man. Is there something a woman can do in that area that helps etc?I'm just asking out of interest.. taking advantage of this great website.Look forward to hearing from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2018): I for one love oral with my wife.It brings her to orgasm every time.We have to close our windows to keep her voice from being heard by neighbors.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2015): So much comes down to taste, smell, amounts of liquid, visuals etc;
I enjoy enormously giving through wanting to please but also in the knowledge that a woman's pleasure is considerably longer than a mans'.
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reader, mufflover  +, writes (1 January 2013):
female 26 - 29; I love your question and I think really there is only one answer that I can give. Yes. Yes. Yes. I am being starved from it these days though. The wife has had breast cancer and our lives have changed a bit since then. She was okay with it early in our married lives but it became less as time went on and then the cancer. I just loved doing it, in the dark though. I wanted the light so that I could see the lips, clitoris and the vagina but she is a very very private person and so I have not had a lot of opportunity to get down to and see it like I would like to. As I keep saying on these forums, 'It doesn't smell and taste like vagina; why would you want to eat it. The smell and taste are to die for. I have had a few partners and the taste and smell was no different in any of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2012): I understand exactly what you are saying. My husband and I have been married twenty years. We've known each other for twenty one. For each of us, the other is the only one we've been totally intimate with. I had two 'smut buddies' when in college, one loved going down on me and was amazing at it (as i recall), the other didnt seem to be too thrilled with it, but did do it at my request. I found that confusing since I, too, thought it was something all guys liked. I LOVE performing oral sex on my husband and I get really in to it. For the most part, it's because I know how much he loves it. It makes me feel good to please him, and I love listening to him respond to it when he whispers how good it feels. I find that a turn on. I wish it was a mutual feeling. In the first few years of our marriage, it seemed as though he would perform oral on me for special occasions (Birthday, anniversary). Then, over time things changed,it was fewer and farther between. I always tried to give him subtle hints which never worked and on a few occasions, asked him out right to 'use your tongue, please.' my requests usually went unanswered. Lately, I've been finding I've been having a problem climaxing in our 'usual' way. It's either been extremely difficult for me, or it doesn't happen at all. Even masturbation is becoming more difficult by hand. Recently, we went away in celebration of our anniversary. It was a romantic little place and I was hopeful. The first night, after a long jacuzzi and lots of wine, he responded to my request of using his tongue. I think in 21 years, it was the most amazing oral he had ever given me. Maybe the wine helped. The next two nights were met with the same old nipple sucking, hand stroking that has been our way for all these years. One time it worked, the other time it didnt. He didn't understand why it was a problem. I just rolled over and said that I guess my body was just changing. The day after that, as we were packing to return home, he thought I looked a bit upset and asked if it was because we were leaving. I told him it was a combination of that and the need we had to work out the sex stuff. He repeated his question of why I was having a problem. I couldn't really answer other than to say I guessed my body was just changing. During our car ride home, he stated that he thought the nipple, vagina combination was good for me. I told him it was, but that lately it was either too hard for me to climax that way or that I couldn't at all (I never told him that I've faked it sometimes cause I didn't want him to feel bad). Silent for a moment, he then told me that it wasn't his favorite, but that he would go down on me more if that's what I needed. I was so thrilled to hear that it was important to him because for many years, I really thought he didn't care at all. Of course, with this in the back of my mind, I was horny all weekend waiting for the next opportunity. In the meantime, I'd been researching ways to make it better for him. I read that the shower thing helps along with trimming vaginal hair. Last night I took a long hot bath, and unbeknownst to him, gave myself a little 'haircut.' We did fool around earlier today and he did keep his word and go down on me. He appreciated the fact that I trimmed my hair but still seemed to have some reluctance. He drools a lot when performing which I know is cause he doesn't want to really do it (however last week, he didn't drool at all and seemed totally into it...maybe it was the wine...have to try that again). After we were done, I told him that I did the haircut cause I thought it would make it better/easier for him and asked him if it did. He said yes. I then finally got up the 'nerve' to suggest flavored oils. I say got up the nerve cause in the past anytime I've suggested sex toys he gets....almost turned off by the idea, so I wasn't sure how he would react to the flavored oil idea. (I had read online that this can make it easier for a guy to go down on a girl too). To my surprise, he actually was receptive to the idea. I was so relieved that perhaps with some time and 'tweeking' (no pun intended) we might actually be able to get him over his dislike and perhaps get him to the point where he enjoys pleasing me and wants to refine his techniques and hopefully give me the same mind blowing oral sex that I know I give him. Good luck to you, I hope that some of my suggestion have helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2011): The last guy I got intimate with was a guy I knew of for two years since we are in the same year in uni and have several mutual friends. We got intimate after a night out and while kissing me while I was topless, he instructed me to take off my jeans because he was "going to go down"... I even said I'm too shy and he insisted. Went down on me twice! So I'd say that if the guy is sexually driven and/or has a lot of affection for you, he would love to go down on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2011): I love giving oral sex. The taste, smell and taste blow me away. As the years have gone by my wife enjoys it more and more. The pleasure is so intense and my desire to please my wife makes me go soft - sounds stupid.
If you do get your man to go down on you be gentle when giving him instructions, talk about it first and suggest - don't TELL him.
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (30 June 2011):
To generalise that all men hate giving oral sex is very bad.My ex boyfriend never gave me head,even though i gave him. I never even asked him to do it coz i was self conscious.My present boyfriend, however, just cant get enough of going down on me. I was so uncomfortable at first but he kept on telling me how beautiful my body is,and how beautiful my vagina is. Eventually i loosened up and i always enjoy.He says he loves the smell (and really i believe him coz he gets so hard), and he loves the way i lose myself when he's doing it. He goes down on me far more than i do him, and he even begs for it, whether i've just taken a bath or not.Oral sex is not disgusting, its intimate. You just have to be clean i suppose, to make the experience better...but indeed, we have different types of men and some dont appreciate doing it,eg your man and my ex. The way my boyfriend has made me addicted though, i dont think i can date another guy who doesnt do oral.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): Your man is making a generalization to justify his position. I would be better for him to just say HE does not like or do oral. Indeed there are men who give it as part of their sexuality with a woman as a regular practice. I am with one that enjoys it and initiated it early in our relationship. I'd been with some men who did not like to give oral sex, so was not sure if he were doing it out of some obligation, but soon saw that overall he enjoyed it based on his enthusiasm and time spent in providing the pleasure which I do for him as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): I have been married for 25 years and I love performing oral sex on my wife. We are older now so she doesnt like me to do this much anymore, but for the first 10 or 15 years she loved it. I would usually do this to her first then she would give me oral sex and always swallowed. I loved to watch my wife orgasm as I am eating away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2011): So glad to hear I am not the only one with a husband refusing to do oral. He did a couple of times about 10 years ago but now I have to beg for it on just special occasions if that! I have shaved, showered, etc. and you would think after 26 years he would try to do it again, especially if your own wife wants it. Very frustrating. I feel I shouldn't have to ask for it. I feel it is the only thing missing from our sex life and I have told him. He still won't answer why he won't do it again. I keep thinking I did something wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): YES!!! YES!!! YES!!! I do not understand what is up with these guys who refuse!
Find a real man who likes doing what men are made to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): I love to give it. Just to see the girl out of control and screming and wanting more. One thing you must clean shave and wash it. It should never smell like tuna
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): I absolutely love it, i'm not really sure why. I remember the first time i did it for the first 30 seconds i was like errr this is weird and then suddenly i just got really into it. I have a friend too who wasn't sure he wanted to give it and his girlfriend wasn't too bothered about receiving it but I said he should at least try it and they both liked it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): I can't speak for anyone else, but I've been with my now fiancée for a little over 5 years, she won't let me go down on her... BUT it is by far my greatest fantasy to give her oral... :-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): I don't really know if most men like to go oral or not... but I, for one, love it. I do it every time to my wife because I know she loves it. I love it so much, I can literally do it for hours and I don't care if she returns the favor. It's a win-win to us. If a man has problems doing it it may be because he's never tried it... Try it... You'll Like It!
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reader, HAMMER77777  +, writes (27 December 2010):
I Love doing it and Always will
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Our oral sex has been going on for years with great pleasures on both sides . We are both over 70 ! although
there are physical changes the "explosions"are still there.
In fact the overall body quakes and trembles have inceased significantly .. Life has gotten better. Don't ever stop...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): I most enjoy giving oral sex if it is obvious that my partner enjoys it. I have had rebuffs however, so believe that some women are embarrassed by it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): After 30 years of marriage, I continue to give oral sex to my wife. It feels great to both of us and extends our lovemaking to two to three hours. It does involves all our senses sight, sound, hearing, taste, touch, and scent. I've had a few relationship before marriage and oral sex had been part of it and what is the point of oral sex, to please the other person. Not everyone likes to go down, and not everyone likes to be gone down on so do ask first.
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reader, DocNW3  +, writes (17 October 2010):
I am surprised to see that there are men out there who actually don't enjoy doing this!....and, I am sad to see how many women there are that have experienced partners who have expressed a displeasure in the act.
I must admit, I love to give oral sex......perhaps even more than receiving it. As soon as I am intimate with a woman, I anticipate the moment that I can finally go down on her, and I like to remain there as long as is humanly possible...... I love to know I am giving her pleasure. I love my head to be buried in between her thighs, I love to feel the contractions when she orgasms.....yes, the thing I most miss about sex with my ex-wife is giving her oral sex!
And to all those men who dislike it.......I feel very, very sorry for you.....and even more sorry for your partners!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): I've had a few relationship in my life and oral sex was a normal part of our sex life. I'm now with a guy who just dont like giving oral sex .... I miss it I miss the intimacy and ....... that special connection. I love him but this relationship feels empty
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reader, Cute_Me +, writes (7 August 2010):
I have only been in a serious relationship with 3 guys and all of them liked giving oral sex. I like oral sex better than real sex so they liked giving me what I liked. If my fiance decided that he doesn't like giving head anymore, I would seriously reconsider marrying him. Selfish, but true.
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reader, hindsight +, writes (21 July 2010):
Love, love, love it. In the 8+ years my wife and I have been dating/married, there is no single faster way to give her multiple orgasms in such a short period of time than oral.
A lot of my favorite sexual memories are of us giving and recieving oral at the same time (69). There have been times where we have stayed in that position for more than an hour, taking turns pleasing each other. And after that, the actual sex is so hard, fast and enjoyable that it is mind blowing.
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reader, Adamozo  +, writes (20 July 2010):
I've had a few partners, but only 1 who I was in love with and I only really enjoy going down there on her...I just love that she loves it so much and love to listen to her...I did do it with other girls i've been with but I can't say I enjoyed it really, I more did it because I felt obligated...I guess it just depends...some people really stink down there and its a huge turn off...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): I actually came to this page to find out what other couples say about oral, but I think any other guy or girl who reads this deserves to know a simple truth:
Every man is different from the next!
I've had 4 partners now, and out of all, only my current boyfriend has enjoyed giving oral. 2 of the others tried it once and never did it again, and the third never even went near there. The 2 that tried never gave any explination for the sudden stop. This caused me to be very self consious about my current guy giving me any kind of oral sex, and this is a problem I still lapse back towards every now and then, but I'm learning.
Here's how it is: most men ADORE going down on a woman. My guy will grab my hips and pull me closer just to get at me more. For some women it may be hard to believe, but those nobel men who say they love the way your body looks, usually aren't lying, or they wouldn't be trying to convice you other wise. My boy has literally told me he thinks my vagina is beautiful. Guys do think this! Even those rare occasions when he jumps me after I've been out all day or even after a run, he still loves the taste and smell of me. He will usually continue tasting me after I've finished and will smile and moan as I come. Guys enjoy seeing how much pleasure and feeling/tasting the immediate gratification of our bodies. My favorite way to send my boy into a frenzy is to touch myself and let him taste my wetness. You'll be amazed how much both you and your guy will enjoy him tasting you. But that's if he's one of those people.
My previous boyfriend is one of the one time tasters, and although he says it wasn't an unpleasant experiance, he still tells me he won't go down on his current or future girls. These are the unfortunate men who for some reason have not yet realized the beauty of the female body. I won't call them any names besides scared, which is what a lot of them are. Oh well! Let it be their loss. Ladies, always remember that we were made special to be beautiful and pleasurable. Your body is gorgeous. Oral sex is only a plus to the already vast ways you can have AMAZING orgasms, which are stil thanks to your lovely vagina (and occasionally a well gifted penis) so don't feel bad about that orgasmic body part just because your guy won't go down. He loves it either way :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): I have been with my fiancee now for almost five years. He has never gone down on me. He claims that he vomited any time he he tried with any other girlfriend. My previous two boyfriends used to do it all the time. Now I feel like even if he claimed to want to, I wouldn't believe him and it would be awkward anyways. Very disappointed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): Whilst the original poster is long gone by now, for any of you women that have searched this question and found this page, I am one of those men who won't perform oral sex on you. It's not a choice I make; I'm sorry, but being that close to another human beings genitals pretty much makes
me want to hurl. Would you be turned on if I threw up on you during oral?I get it, I'm selfish because I love to receive, and I do feel really bad that I can't return the favour, but the fact of the matter is, would you really want me going down on you if You knew it didn't turn me on? That I in fact found it a huge turn off? The other thing to remember is if you are with a guy like me, it's not something we can help- we're never going to change, so you might want to give some thought as to whether or not you are really compatable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): Love it but am not "allowed to"....
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reader, Othello2 +, writes (9 June 2010):
 Men not liking giving oral?? O.O what planet is your boyfriend from? LMAO
My first experience of oral sex was mind boggling, i couldn't even remember, who i was, where i was or what had happened it was unbelievable.
I suppose it could be a choice thing, i mean some guys might not be into it, like your boyfriend.
But for me it was the most intimate thing imaginable, and showed trust in the relationship!
Good luck though! sit him down, and give him a good talking too! xxx
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reader, Max69 +, writes (20 May 2010):
It is a great an honor and a wonderful experience for a man to perform oral sex on a woman, and to perform exactly as she tells him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Yes, after 21 years of marriage, I continue to deliver first-class cunnilingus to my wife every week. She loves it so much. It feels great to both of us and extends our lovemaking to well over an hour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Alot of guys like it. My boyfriend says he rather go down on me than actual sex. Many times he'll just do that and give me a back message after and he seems pretty happy doing just that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): lol ur boyfriend is kinda selfish!! Im an 18 year old female and sadly only my most recent boyfriend ate me out. I was really hesitant because my first 2 boyfriends said they would never do it and it made me feel ugly gross and unattractive down there. the thing is that the first 2 were basically virgins soo that kinda explains it theyd never tried. but my most recent boyfriend was so eager!! he would not let me leave his house until he tasted me lol. It felt soooo amazing and he even told me that he thought it was beautiful and that he loved the way i looked and tasted :) so I guess its just a preferance for guys but usually the experienced guys LOVE IT. ur bf was wrong more guys like it than not :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2010): I love to give oral sex to a lady, It is my best tern on, to have a woman cum
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2010): I think it's completely unfair of your boyfriend to say that no men like giving oral sex. This is untrue. I have been intimate with 6 men (I'm 23). I didn't have sex with all of them and only three of them were boyfriends (the others were one-nighters or dates). Out of those men, four of them went down on me. One of them was not my boyfriend but he wanted to do nothing but give me oral. At the time I had only been with one other person and although he had done it to me also I wasn't sure if he enjoyed it or if he just thought it was the done thing. I was too nervous to ask. Two of the others (my previous long-term boyfriend and my current boyfriend) insist that they LOVE to give oral just as much as receive it and both get extremely hard in the process. Also, despite that I have always preferred to ready my down-stairs area for such activity (because I think it's polite - no fancy products, just water and specifically designed products) they both preferred to catch me off-guard. My current boyfriend actually loves my scent. I have never asked a man for oral sex, but more often than not I have received it. Always with boyfriends, where there is deep affection/trust/intimacy and occasionally with people I have dated once or twice. I understand why a guy might not want to on the first few dates - it is a very intimate thing and to be honest I wouldn't have been entirely comfortable having not known them that well. It can make you feel very vulnerable. But to sum up: no, most men don't dislike giving oral sex. Not just from my experience but from talking to many close female friends about it, who's opinions I trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): Im a single 24 yr old guy. and I absolutly love it.I love giving oral to my girl. It turns me on so much to please the one im with. I enjoy playing the submissive type alittle bit I guess. but The smell, the taste of vagina is so sexy to me. I could give a woman oral all day and love it. The problem is the last woman I was with didnt really appriciate it all that much.she would actually turn me down when I wanted to give her some. i dnt know why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): No, my ex absolutely hates it! He would avoid it whenever possible, and woulld say the smell and taste of all vagina are disgusting. I have clean habits, so I know it wasnt just me. If I asked him enough he would eventually do it to shut me up, but then he would complain that his beard smelled gross afterwards. He said fingering is bad too, because its "like feeling guts".
The only men I know who feel this way about vagina are gay men. Maybe he's gay.
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 All erotic sexual activity rest on 'ORAL', Why? because it really create what is called 'orgasm'. There is a very special school of thought in the department of Tantric sex, that recommend oral sex. Oral is always mutual, and there is one sex position, termed as '69'. I request to check the Google search, where anyone can find ocean of information on oral sex.
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reader, elizalovesit +, writes (19 March 2010):
Yes Yes Yes! I pretty much demand it on the first makeout session - which if there's great chemistry can be the first date.. men are totally open to it - as they do want to accelerate toward the sexual intercourse.. but many times I've stopped it at being the only one to receive.. However - by the second date I always give it to them big time - after they give to me.. Sorry - but ladies first. Oh and we both must be clean - I always smell like an essential oiled goddess head to toe before any date... They get a clue from moment one that yes, if my earlobe smells like high quality jasmine or gardenia, then I'm gonna be pretty wonderful everywhere.Love it when men put their finger in me while eating me. Love it when they simply look at my naked vagina for a long exploratory phase... before touching or tasting.. I'm such a voyeur.. It makes me feel helpless... which is great for an overeducated control freak.I once didi it witha guy 11 years younger than me - He was 22 and had never given oral sex.. All I needed to say was "Don't Stop!!" and he hung in there with his head between my legs even though it was like surfing a wave or something.. He obviously was a quick study - And I believe he caught on pretty quickly how helpless we get when we are completely losing it.. Yes it did boost his ego - Glad to de-virgin him... such a baby doll. yummy!
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reader, Micela +, writes (22 November 2009):
I have been in two relationships. My first lover loved giving and receiving oral sex. Our oral sex sessions lasted for three hours whereas our vaginal sex last 10 minutes. We both got great pleasure out of receiving and giving. He loved looking and touching my pussy while he devoured, kiss and sucked. That relationship ended and I started a new one. I am sad to announce that my boyfriend isn't really into giving. He likes to receiving but not give. He will do it but for 10 minutes max. He presents to me as though he doesn't enjoy it. When I moan he says shhhhh!, which is a real turn off for me. I am 42 and he is 26 I am not sure if this is a factor but I must say I miss it a whole lot. I stopped giving him because he doesn't give me. I know that this sounds kiddish but I am dying from not receiving. I miss so much to give it to him but how can I especially when I feel hurt by his actions to show his love to me. Any comments please help me understand or advice on what I should do.
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reader, meganutts +, writes (15 August 2009):
 First let me say that your man is not enjoying the full package until he's gone down. He's missing out on something that most men would love to be in all day, like myself for example, I love eating a woman out. Its the natural taste, the smell the wetness of it plus so much more and the fact that he's depriving u of that is not cool at all. I wish I would do some crap like that, and I'm single lol. But yea, just soap and water boo, no perfums or lotions will fix ur scent, its the way it is for a reason. And yes men luv it. But I don't know what his problem is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2009): I absolutely love giving giving a woman oral sex. I had a couple threesomes with two women and there advice has been invaluable. I almost always get praised for getting my partners off and continuing to orally stimulate till they ask for someting else. Giving oral also makes me incredible horny and gives me great drive to finish with a big bang.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): I am a 58 year old man. I absolutely love giving women oral sex. I have given oral sex to every woman I have ever been with, and as far as I can tell, they enjoyed it. The best thing is when a woman comes in your mouth and you can feel her clit throbbing against your tongue. I love the taste, the smell, and the pure joy of her labia caressing my tongue and lips.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): I actually am one of the many women who have never had an orgasm through "regular" vaginal intercourse and when I told my husband this he didn't mind preforming oral sex on me. I will let you know that I have been married now for 9 years and my husband loves to give me oral sex! He says its his favorite thing to do. I think honestly the best thing you can do if you want your partner to do this for you is to let him know how much you like it and make sure you keep it "clean" especially when you anticipate that this may happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): I really enjoy going down on a woman. The taste and smell really turn me on and the feeling of her contractions against my face when she comes is great. I did it for my wife the first time we were together and almost every time since.
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reader, will_help,but need help +, writes (5 July 2009):
 Personally, I love giving a lady oral, teaseing, pleasing and doing something that a lot of other man don't do. you end up haveing much better sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): I've really wanted to try receiving oral sex but i've always been worried about how a guy would feel being in that area..with the smell and all..but apparently men are actually attracted to that smell?
And please..can some explain what "keeping the hair under control" means? Does it not just feel like a man's unshaven beard when you don't shave it all off?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): I am a 27 year old man who absolutely LOVES going down on a woman. The taste, smell, and sight is amazing, and I actually think it is better than intercourse. Without that sex would be boring. The female body is such an incredible biological masterpiece, I cannot imagine passing on the opportunity to explore every inch as fully as my partner will let me. The intimacy is awesome, too. All in all, it is much better than getting it, and really is the most fun part of it for me, though of course I like to "get mine" too lol.
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reader, laurelle +, writes (4 April 2009):
Wow... all I can say is that those of you who's men enjoy this, you are VERY LUCKY. My boyfriend thinks it's disgusting, even though he used to do it every time we had sex, until he finally admitted what he thought. He told me I could get someone else to do it, but I could never do that unless it was a three some and he was somehow involved. I guess the only other way is a toy... he also told me that he didn't think it would be easy to find someone that likes to do this. I hope he's wrong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): my man loves and I mean absolutely LOVES to eat me out. it makes him soo hard and because it makes him hard it makes me wet. he ate me out on our first date and from then on I knew he was a keeper.I lost my virginity 2 weeks ago and I am 19 so I think I am more than ready for a healthy sex life. everytime I think about his dick I get soo wet ITS SOOOO BIG AND LONG! omg it feels soo good.he'll eat me out for a couple minutes then he'll penetraton me then he'll go back to eating me out I know my pussy turns him on and eating me out makes him hard.damn...I need to call him! bye
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reader, tykdyidt +, writes (15 March 2009):
Having been married three times the answer to your question is yes, many men who are confident enjoy giving oral sex to women. My first husband always was up for it but really had no idea what he was doing. I didn't know much either so it was sort of fun but we both lacked experience. My second husband was the most skilled lover I've ever had. He loved the way women smell, look, act and think. Only problem was he loved all women and continued to after we were married. My third husband gave me oral the first time we were together, which seemed like a very intimate thing to do with someone the first time together. He did it again on our wedding night but it was more like a expected thing and has never done it again. I've asked him why and his response is he never liked doing it with anyone but did it only because he thought it was expected of him in a dating situation. This is a very sad situation for me to be in because I give him head every time we have sex as either foreplay or whatever and it saddens me that he is so selfish and unskilled that he will not open up and want to please me. It's been 23 years and I think that a man of this nature is damaged and unable to look past his own pleasure and truly understand what love is supposed to be. Don't give up! There are many men who love women and the trick is to find one who care about you over himself.
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reader, dominican_07 +, writes (6 March 2009):
 Personally I really enjoy it, but I really enjoy making my partner enjoy themselves, which apparently It may be quite weird in men too?! but Isn't...
I will say the main point on this,is trust, because you girls have to be able to say, No, Yes Ok i Like that i don't. a few words like those may motivate your man or at least he will take direction of if he is doing it good, how do you feel, and where you are more sensitive... So in my personal opinion, i will say Its a work of two, Not just one...
and if not matter what he doesn't want to go down. You'll may have to really worry about he may be Going you know ....lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): for me there is nothing i like doing more than going down on a woman to bring her to orgasm multple if i can to see her body quiver before orgasm just a turn on 4 me to taste her honey after its all worth it especally for her
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): for me there is nothing i like doing more than going down on a woman to bring her to orgasm multple if i can to see her body quiver before orgasm just a turn on 4 me to taste her honey after its all worth it especally for her
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2008): I love giving it as much as receiving it. I like to also finger my wife's g-spot while i suck and lick her clit area. Drives her wild and soon she tells me to spin around so she can suck on me. I always make her wait a little before I spin around as it drives her wild. For you guys out there who are not fingering your woman while you give her oral sex, you are ripping her off lol! I admit it takes a little severe twisting of the wrist but the payoff is huge. Sometimes she cums even before I penetrate her. It definitely gets her engine running full bore. On rare occasions we have a mutual orgasm while giving each other oral, and when we do it is OUT-OF-THIS-WORLD!!!!You gals out there who are with a man who is not doing this, you are afraid to ask but if he is any kind of man and cares about you, he will be very open to this suggestion. Just ask him "Do you think you could massage my spot with your finger while you eat me? You know, that spot you hit when you penetrate me?" You might be surprised how eager he will be to satisfy you, especially if, after a few minutes of him pleasing you this way you say "Oh baby spin around I need to suck you!" I know my wife is going to say that almost every time but it is still such a HUGE turn-on to hear her say that - it never gets old for either one of us.
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reader, cunnilingus +, writes (5 November 2008):
To all the men and women out there that say "TAKE A SHOWER FIRST!" Get real! What is the point? it is like licking ANY fold of skin on her body, like the fold of her elbow! Look if i want to taste IRISH SPRING i will lick a bar of soap!!! When i go down on my wife i want to taste and smell p**y (SELF CENSORED) People it is this simple; sex the greatest thing ever created/designed/evolved/or appeared out of nothingness after a rather large explosion. Sex is about the five senses: the look of her beautiful body, the feel of her skin, hearing her moan with pleasure, smelling her perfume and natural odors, and tasting her most intimate of areas. There is also a sixth sense: the mental erotic sensation of feeling, hearing, and seeing her orgasm. ALL of this takes place before she even gets started on me. I guess I am a man who prefers to pleasure than to be pleasured, luckily my wife feels the same way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): 28 y/o guy here...and yeah, i just love to do it. i especially get into it if she's forward about it, telling me to.
doesn't "help" your situation, but answers your initial question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): i think the besy way to get him interested might be to suggest 69... fair and square to me
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): My man gives me oral every time we have sex or just for the hell of it. For some of us it is the only way to reach orgasm. He tells me that my sent and taste are a huge turn on as is pleasing me. I honestly don't think I'd ever be interested in sex if I didn't get oral. IT'S JUST THAT AMAZING!!!
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reader, Nobody21 +, writes (24 September 2008):
My man does not like to give it either. I admit that women have stronger tastes down there than a man does. It still hate the fact that my husband doesn't lust after mine though :( So you are not alone. But your b/f should not claim men do not like it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): I really enjoy giving oral sex. I offer my wife more than she can enjoy. She normaly does me first, but not all of the time.We switch back and forth to extend the length of time enjoying our sex. My desire for extended sex is greater than hers.
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reader, oldfool +, writes (7 June 2008):
 I'm adapting my reply from another thread:
Love it! Didn't use to like it so much when I was younger, but now it's my favourite! The moment I see that magical place I want to bury my face down there!
The flesh down there is sweet and juicy, and you have free range from the love button at the top down to the gates of paradise at the bottom, with their taut muscular entrance. It's wonderful to use your teeth and tongue and lips to suck and nibble and tease and lick and caress and knead all that delicious flesh. One moment you're like a rivulet running lightly over the surface, the next moment you're twisting and turning with a sinuous movement, the next moment you're teasing her with a firm but gentle tongue, the next moment you take the whole lot right in your mouth -- ah, it's heavenly!
Sorry, got carried away there. It's quite wonderful, really. And you can tell she's loving it because she'll juice up so nicely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): i have just been with a man for the past two weeks
we have a lot on common but he really is hesetant to go down on me
i find that oral sex is the only thing that really will get me going
and not just a man performing it
but him being eager to go down there and eat me out
even the terminology eat me out gets me going
its just such an eager word
i love it love it love it
and dont know what to do without it
i feel very unattractive and sexless when he says he doesnt want to go down there
almost dirty actually to him
i always make sure im freshly showered and im an attractive woman physically and not dirty
i am clean and trimmed
he says he never wants it with any of his partners
he also doesnt seem to know what to do to stimulate my clitorus so im wondering if he literally doenst feel confident or is he just selfish
he gets very upset when i suggest he is selfish since he always has an orgasm iether internally with me or me giving him a blow job
he also has this misconception or belief that all the women he has been with have had orgasms without needing direct clitoral stimulation which leads me to believe that he has been to bed with a lot of women who insist on faking an orgasm rather than communicating
what the??????i just dont get it
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Its true that some men can see it as a bit of a step down to give women oral, but in most cases, not all of us are that egotistical!
The female genitilia is a lot more complex than ours, and a lot harder to please. You just need to let us know if we're doing it right, tell us whether you like us being gentle or not. If it feels good, say it, if you want it done in a certain way, just say so. Im sure most men will be more than happy to please. At the end of the day, its your partners reaction you're after, and whatever pleases you, pleases us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): I'm sure most guys like giving oral. Or would at least willing to try it on the girl. All of the guys that I've been with had gone down on me... and they were all very eager. I think it's because the act often leads to sex sooner or later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): I myself have only been with one man, whom I must say love more than he will ever know, but unlike yours mine wanted to give me oral sex. But I was then one who was against it. Mainly because I was afraid of what he might think while he was down there and what would be going through his mind.
I wondered why he was so willing to do this to me so I finally just asked him...and he simply said because it pleased him, really he was pretty much saying how great he was at it and that he'd have me wanting more, so I guess its just like they were saying it makes him feel bigger cause it boosts his ego.
But I still wondered and I was still fearful because, well I don't really know. But honestly it took my first time of giving a blowjob to unerstand what it does. After my first time of giving him a blowjob it was kinda all I thought about and all he talked about, how good it felt, he wondered how I knew when to squezze and suck. Its the whole confidence thing. No I have yet to let him eat me out but I understand a little better why he wanted to do it in the first place to much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Men love giving and receiving oral sex. Any man who thinks it's disgusting is not really understanding of the process. Perhaps he doesn't simply know, or is insecure yet. Come out of the shower clean and smelling fresh. Tell your boyfriend how you want to experience a mind blowing orgasm. Do a strip tease for him and the art of seduction is the tease, not the act. If a man truly loves you, he'll want to see you happy and sexually fulfilled. It's all about give and take and making love to woman is to see the reaction on her face as you made her climax. She is then like a lamb in your hands. She will never forget how tender and caring you are. It should be about both sides enjoying themselves equally. It doesn't mean you will experience climax everytime, but it does mean you shouldn't fake. It will excite the hunter in him to try hard to please you. Make it fun and experimental, not a "if you don't do for me, I'll not do for you" because that will simply destroy the thing for both of you. Most men, will love making a woman experience fullfillment. If not orally perhaps he can use his fingers, or do something other than penetration. Have him try to give you an orgasm and have him enjoy finding ways to please you. Perhaps some dirty sex talk during the day long before you get home. Perhaps some great sexy lingerie...but the bottom line, if you are trying things to psychologically excite him before the act, he should reciprocate similarly, both verbally and physically. Watch a dirty movie together. He'll get the idea
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): I love giving oral sex to a woman!!! It is one of my favorite things to do!! And every woman I've ever done it for, including my current girlfriend, has loved it! My current girlfriend says she never had an orgasm from cunnilingus until I did it for her. I love seeing the smile on her face as I am licking her vagina and then hear her moan, and almost scream, from the orgasms I give her. Plus, I love how soft and warm the woman's vagina feels when my mouth is on it.So tell your husband he is wrong. If he won't do it, trying using flavored, edible lubricants or creams that taste and smell nice. They come in different flavors, so you can pick a flavor he likes. Or go see a sex therapist for help.If nothing else works, buy some dental dams from an adult toy store or from www.blowfish.com and he can cover your vagina with the dental dam while he performs cunnilingus on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Mmm, depends a bit, if the woman looks nice, doesn't taste bad then the act itself isn't bad, finger your own mouth, is that pleasurable (to your finger)? No not really.What is fun about it is watching her react to your touches. You can really make them loose it. A wonderfull boost to your ego to turn a woman into a quivering mess :PThere is a bit of sadism there maybe, one version I like is to tie her up with something that breaks easily, crepe paper, and it is game over if she breaks the bonds.It is also simply true that for men it is far easier to give the woman an orgasm on eh manual then with intercourse. I have never been able to get a woman to have multiple orgasms with sex, but it is not that hard even with just your fingers.Mind you, give us feedback. You want to encourge him so cheer him on!As for what you can do. Wash it and shave or trim the hairs. Depending on your body and what you eat their might be a taste/smell that is not exactly that pleasant, washing it before sex helps.Also get rid of excessive hairs, some women really do have a jungle down there where you are afraid to stick your penis in because a tribe of pygmees might attack it.I really don't know how to encourage it, my gf will make it very clear what she wants by humping my hand, but then I enjoy doing it. it is fun and your guy don't know what he is missing.(Women, don't read the next bit, it is a secret)Guys, if you want a woman eating out of your hand, eat her out, she will be as meek as a new born lamb and do ANYTHING for you.What, what do you mean guys are the same with blowjobs!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): yes a lot of men like giving oral sex to women, some just don't want to make the effort to try it or are just selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): I don't understand why the woman is always accused of not being clean enough. Does a man not render odors in his genital area? Is his rectum not directly in back of his scrotum? Does he not sweat? Both partners should be clean if oral sex is going to take place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): this was something i was worried about too but i asked my bf about it and he said that he liked it because he liked pleasing me even if he didn't get anything in return and that he didn't need anything in return. me happy was enough. but i do think that cleanliness is important lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): A BIG thanks to the last posters, especially TROUBLEDTOOMUCH - for giving me such a detailed, informative answer :)
I'm quickly getting the idea that I'm missing out on something amazing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Yes, yes, yes, yes.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Just a thought. My wife's experience is from 30 years ago. Perhaps men's ideas on oral sex are much different now. I sometimes forget that our experiences are from before some of the posters were born.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Well, I love to do it, both to my wife and to any girlfriends that I have had, at least after my divorce from my first wife. However, I didn't like it much when I was younger. I just started likeing it a lot when I was in my early 30s. I decided that I would force my self to do it with the first woman who I went with after my divorce and, to my surprise, I really liked it. I think it was because of the pleasure I got from the great orgasm that I gave her. That was with the woman who is now my wife. Another girlfriend also knew that I loved to do it and she made it clear how much she appreciated it. That was the only way she could orgasm. I don't think that she got it much from other boyfriends. I actually like giving oral better than I like receiving it. I will do it to her even if we don't have any sex beyond the oral that I give her. Sometimes we just snuggle after she has 1 or 2 orgasms. Sometimes we do have sex without oral if that is what she wants.
My wife had about 10 boyfriends between her first husband and me and she has told me that only 2 or 3 gave her oral and then vary rarely. Only 1 seemed to her that he liked it occasionally. So she thinks that I am unusual and she really appreciates it. I guess that my desire to make her feel good before I thought of getting my kicks when we have sex is one of the reasons that she has never desired anyone else in the 28 years that we have been together.
So to actually answer your question - based on what I have been told or indicated by the 2 women mentioned, I get the impression that most men do not like giving oral. My wife's other boyfriends were also in their 30s at the time.
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reader, daletom +, writes (7 January 2008):
Like others have said - most guys enjoy it, and some of us like to give oral sex more than just about anything else! Of course, you have to be clean and I'm turned-off it's the peak of your period. (Wash, insert a tampon, and wash again if you're a lady who needs several good orgasms to relieve menstrual cramps.)
For me, the major pleasure is bringing her to climax. I can hear the vocalization, see her body squirm, and feel the contractions. I even like to have my head clamped between her thighs when she cums - though I suspect it would be suicide to go down on a figure skater who likes to bring her legs together at orgasm.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (7 January 2008):
 Most men are very turned on by being able to give their woman pleasure. Isn't that the whole point of lovemaking?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): FROM THE PERSON THAT ASKED THE QUESTION:
Thanks guys, I really appreciate hearing your feedback.
I'm glad I know there are SOME men out there that do enjoy doing it. I was a little offended when he said no man likes it. He always implies it's one of those horrible places a man feels like he HAS to go.
I don't think my man is attracted to me at all anymore anyways. It was years ago when we last had sex.
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reader, mattbea +, writes (7 January 2008):
 I love doing it as long as a woman is clean... cannot get any worse than when its just not right :S
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (7 January 2008):
 Make sure you're clean down there, men have sensitive noses and women's scents can be strong at certain times of the month. Just taking a shower at 6:00 AM and then expecting him to go down on you at 9:30 PM is not clean enough. Take a shower before you come to bed. Make sure that area is trimmed and not over-powered with hair everywhere. When he makes attempts, praise him, guide him, and help him become better at performing the act. If he feels like he is doing it well, he may want to do it more often. But it's all personal choice and some men just don't get into it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): I've never asked for oral but my boyfriend does it. If he's on the wrong spot, I gently guide his hand to the right spot or I arch so that he is in the right place. I don't think he minds, because when he is in the right place he knows it! And what is the point of oral sex but to please the other person?
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (7 January 2008):
 His claim is a load of rubbish. Sure some guys don't like it, but they are also the same guys who usually insist on the their girl giving them oral!
At the end of the day you cant force him to, but maybe its because he simply doesnt know what to do. It will be hard to get him to admit it, but you can at least try and say that you will have the best sex ever if he lets you show him the way.
Personally, the female parts are god's greatest gift to this world. I love going down there and seeing how it drives my partner crazy with lust.
The bottom line for you should be if he doesnt give it to you he should not expect you to for him.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 In a nutshell: some men like it, some other men don't. You happen to be involved with one who doesn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): The only man who does not like giving oral to a woman is a man who has no idea what he is doing down there.
I LOVE it because I LOVE the pleasure that the female derives from it. It makes me hot! Sometimes I enjoy it more than intercourse. I am a very giving man. All I have to do is look at her face to know I'm doing a good job.
If there is something you can do, find out how receptive your man is to instruction. Many younger men fumble through it because they are under the impression that they need to act like they are watching a porn movie. All I can say is if you want to have your man improve in that department, ask him to LISTEN to you. A guiding hand or kind word will go A LONG WAY. Tongue insertion is not the key...it is the clitoral stimulation...That's where the youngsters mess it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): When my bf and I started getting physical, he insisted that he make me feel good first. We never go without it, so my guess is that he enjoys it - I never asked for oral but get it anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): Most men who make it a point not to are insecure and think that its more man-ly to have just the female give him oral pleasure. I think its all insecurity, and in any case...I would say the pleasure goes both ways.....if he doesn't go down on you, then he's not getting any oral pleasure from you either. Why put yourself in that vulnerable position if he won't with you? And if he is willing to try it, and you what to try to make it comfortable for him then you could always use flavored lube, make sure you have your hair down there under control(or no hair at all), and keep yourself fresh. Good Luck ;)
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (6 January 2008):
 I think its unfair of him to say that all men don't like giving oral, because that statement is just not true. Sure there are some men that don't like doing it, but i would think that the majority of men do enjoy performing oral. I think that in the bedroom depertment its all about give and take, and for me i love giving oral to a woman, i think its satisfying to hear a woman getting pleasure from something im doing to her.
All the best x
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reader, em1516 +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Personally I really enjoy it, but I REALLY enjoy making my partner enjoy themselves, which is apparently quite weird in men too?!
The best thing a girl can do is just show how much she is enjoying the experience, and remember if it's doing nothing for you LET YOUR GUY KNOW, he's not a mind reader, just give him some guidance, do it talking dirty and he will love it too!
Hope this helps
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