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writes: I have only ever been with the one man in my life and he does not enjoy performing oral sex on a woman. He claims that men just DON'T like it at all.This may be a stupid and very obvious question I should know the answer to, but because I have only been intimate with one man and can't feel comfortable asking my girlfriends, can you tell me the truth?Do any of you men enjoy giving oral sex to women? If you feel comfortable enough explaining.. what makes it the most enjoyable for a man. Is there something a woman can do in that area that helps etc?I'm just asking out of interest.. taking advantage of this great website.Look forward to hearing from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): 28 y/o guy here...and yeah, i just love to do it. i especially get into it if she's forward about it, telling me to.
doesn't "help" your situation, but answers your initial question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): i think the besy way to get him interested might be to suggest 69... fair and square to me
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): My man gives me oral every time we have sex or just for the hell of it. For some of us it is the only way to reach orgasm. He tells me that my sent and taste are a huge turn on as is pleasing me. I honestly don't think I'd ever be interested in sex if I didn't get oral. IT'S JUST THAT AMAZING!!!
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reader, Nobody21  +, writes (24 September 2008):
My man does not like to give it either. I admit that women have stronger tastes down there than a man does. It still hate the fact that my husband doesn't lust after mine though :( So you are not alone. But your b/f should not claim men do not like it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): I really enjoy giving oral sex. I offer my wife more than she can enjoy. She normaly does me first, but not all of the time.We switch back and forth to extend the length of time enjoying our sex. My desire for extended sex is greater than hers.
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reader, oldfool  + ♥, writes (7 June 2008):
 I'm adapting my reply from another thread:
Love it! Didn't use to like it so much when I was younger, but now it's my favourite! The moment I see that magical place I want to bury my face down there!
The flesh down there is sweet and juicy, and you have free range from the love button at the top down to the gates of paradise at the bottom, with their taut muscular entrance. It's wonderful to use your teeth and tongue and lips to suck and nibble and tease and lick and caress and knead all that delicious flesh. One moment you're like a rivulet running lightly over the surface, the next moment you're twisting and turning with a sinuous movement, the next moment you're teasing her with a firm but gentle tongue, the next moment you take the whole lot right in your mouth -- ah, it's heavenly!
Sorry, got carried away there. It's quite wonderful, really. And you can tell she's loving it because she'll juice up so nicely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): i have just been with a man for the past two weeks
we have a lot on common but he really is hesetant to go down on me
i find that oral sex is the only thing that really will get me going
and not just a man performing it
but him being eager to go down there and eat me out
even the terminology eat me out gets me going
its just such an eager word
i love it love it love it
and dont know what to do without it
i feel very unattractive and sexless when he says he doesnt want to go down there
almost dirty actually to him
i always make sure im freshly showered and im an attractive woman physically and not dirty
i am clean and trimmed
he says he never wants it with any of his partners
he also doesnt seem to know what to do to stimulate my clitorus so im wondering if he literally doenst feel confident or is he just selfish
he gets very upset when i suggest he is selfish since he always has an orgasm iether internally with me or me giving him a blow job
he also has this misconception or belief that all the women he has been with have had orgasms without needing direct clitoral stimulation which leads me to believe that he has been to bed with a lot of women who insist on faking an orgasm rather than communicating
what the??????i just dont get it
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): My husband absolutely LOVES it and is so good at it I can never get enough. I have known men in my past who are so totally useless at this that it is not worth the bother. It definitely makes a difference when they KNOW what they are doing, and when you know they are really enjoying it, well,,,, what else can I say. Your missing out lady, but maybe Im just lucky in that department.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): Its true that some men can see it as a bit of a step down to give women oral, but in most cases, not all of us are that egotistical!
The female genitilia is a lot more complex than ours, and a lot harder to please. You just need to let us know if we're doing it right, tell us whether you like us being gentle or not. If it feels good, say it, if you want it done in a certain way, just say so. Im sure most men will be more than happy to please. At the end of the day, its your partners reaction you're after, and whatever pleases you, pleases us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): I'm sure most guys like giving oral. Or would at least willing to try it on the girl. All of the guys that I've been with had gone down on me... and they were all very eager. I think it's because the act often leads to sex sooner or later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): I myself have only been with one man, whom I must say love more than he will ever know, but unlike yours mine wanted to give me oral sex. But I was then one who was against it. Mainly because I was afraid of what he might think while he was down there and what would be going through his mind.
I wondered why he was so willing to do this to me so I finally just asked him...and he simply said because it pleased him, really he was pretty much saying how great he was at it and that he'd have me wanting more, so I guess its just like they were saying it makes him feel bigger cause it boosts his ego.
But I still wondered and I was still fearful because, well I don't really know. But honestly it took my first time of giving a blowjob to unerstand what it does. After my first time of giving him a blowjob it was kinda all I thought about and all he talked about, how good it felt, he wondered how I knew when to squezze and suck. Its the whole confidence thing. No I have yet to let him eat me out but I understand a little better why he wanted to do it in the first place to much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Men love giving and receiving oral sex. Any man who thinks it's disgusting is not really understanding of the process. Perhaps he doesn't simply know, or is insecure yet. Come out of the shower clean and smelling fresh. Tell your boyfriend how you want to experience a mind blowing orgasm. Do a strip tease for him and the art of seduction is the tease, not the act. If a man truly loves you, he'll want to see you happy and sexually fulfilled. It's all about give and take and making love to woman is to see the reaction on her face as you made her climax. She is then like a lamb in your hands. She will never forget how tender and caring you are. It should be about both sides enjoying themselves equally. It doesn't mean you will experience climax everytime, but it does mean you shouldn't fake. It will excite the hunter in him to try hard to please you. Make it fun and experimental, not a "if you don't do for me, I'll not do for you" because that will simply destroy the thing for both of you. Most men, will love making a woman experience fullfillment. If not orally perhaps he can use his fingers, or do something other than penetration. Have him try to give you an orgasm and have him enjoy finding ways to please you. Perhaps some dirty sex talk during the day long before you get home. Perhaps some great sexy lingerie...but the bottom line, if you are trying things to psychologically excite him before the act, he should reciprocate similarly, both verbally and physically. Watch a dirty movie together. He'll get the idea
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): I love giving oral sex to a woman!!! It is one of my favorite things to do!! And every woman I've ever done it for, including my current girlfriend, has loved it! My current girlfriend says she never had an orgasm from cunnilingus until I did it for her. I love seeing the smile on her face as I am licking her vagina and then hear her moan, and almost scream, from the orgasms I give her. Plus, I love how soft and warm the woman's vagina feels when my mouth is on it.So tell your husband he is wrong. If he won't do it, trying using flavored, edible lubricants or creams that taste and smell nice. They come in different flavors, so you can pick a flavor he likes. Or go see a sex therapist for help.If nothing else works, buy some dental dams from an adult toy store or from www.blowfish.com and he can cover your vagina with the dental dam while he performs cunnilingus on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): Mmm, depends a bit, if the woman looks nice, doesn't taste bad then the act itself isn't bad, finger your own mouth, is that pleasurable (to your finger)? No not really.What is fun about it is watching her react to your touches. You can really make them loose it. A wonderfull boost to your ego to turn a woman into a quivering mess :PThere is a bit of sadism there maybe, one version I like is to tie her up with something that breaks easily, crepe paper, and it is game over if she breaks the bonds.It is also simply true that for men it is far easier to give the woman an orgasm on eh manual then with intercourse. I have never been able to get a woman to have multiple orgasms with sex, but it is not that hard even with just your fingers.Mind you, give us feedback. You want to encourge him so cheer him on!As for what you can do. Wash it and shave or trim the hairs. Depending on your body and what you eat their might be a taste/smell that is not exactly that pleasant, washing it before sex helps.Also get rid of excessive hairs, some women really do have a jungle down there where you are afraid to stick your penis in because a tribe of pygmees might attack it.I really don't know how to encourage it, my gf will make it very clear what she wants by humping my hand, but then I enjoy doing it. it is fun and your guy don't know what he is missing.(Women, don't read the next bit, it is a secret)Guys, if you want a woman eating out of your hand, eat her out, she will be as meek as a new born lamb and do ANYTHING for you.What, what do you mean guys are the same with blowjobs!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): yes a lot of men like giving oral sex to women, some just don't want to make the effort to try it or are just selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): I don't understand why the woman is always accused of not being clean enough. Does a man not render odors in his genital area? Is his rectum not directly in back of his scrotum? Does he not sweat? Both partners should be clean if oral sex is going to take place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): this was something i was worried about too but i asked my bf about it and he said that he liked it because he liked pleasing me even if he didn't get anything in return and that he didn't need anything in return. me happy was enough. but i do think that cleanliness is important lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): A BIG thanks to the last posters, especially TROUBLEDTOOMUCH - for giving me such a detailed, informative answer :)
I'm quickly getting the idea that I'm missing out on something amazing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): Yes, yes, yes, yes.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2008): Well I feel really sorry for you. To say men dont like it is ridiculous. My fiance absolutely loves it, and is an expert. I have never known pleasure like it. For you to go without this experience is really sad. Get rid of him.
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reader, troubledtoomuch + ♥, writes (9 January 2008):
 Just a thought. My wife's experience is from 30 years ago. Perhaps men's ideas on oral sex are much different now. I sometimes forget that our experiences are from before some of the posters were born.
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reader, troubledtoomuch + ♥, writes (9 January 2008):
Well, I love to do it, both to my wife and to any girlfriends that I have had, at least after my divorce from my first wife. However, I didn't like it much when I was younger. I just started likeing it a lot when I was in my early 30s. I decided that I would force my self to do it with the first woman who I went with after my divorce and, to my surprise, I really liked it. I think it was because of the pleasure I got from the great orgasm that I gave her. That was with the woman who is now my wife. Another girlfriend also knew that I loved to do it and she made it clear how much she appreciated it. That was the only way she could orgasm. I don't think that she got it much from other boyfriends. I actually like giving oral better than I like receiving it. I will do it to her even if we don't have any sex beyond the oral that I give her. Sometimes we just snuggle after she has 1 or 2 orgasms. Sometimes we do have sex without oral if that is what she wants.
My wife had about 10 boyfriends between her first husband and me and she has told me that only 2 or 3 gave her oral and then vary rarely. Only 1 seemed to her that he liked it occasionally. So she thinks that I am unusual and she really appreciates it. I guess that my desire to make her feel good before I thought of getting my kicks when we have sex is one of the reasons that she has never desired anyone else in the 28 years that we have been together.
So to actually answer your question - based on what I have been told or indicated by the 2 women mentioned, I get the impression that most men do not like giving oral. My wife's other boyfriends were also in their 30s at the time.
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reader, daletom + ♥, writes (7 January 2008):
Like others have said - most guys enjoy it, and some of us like to give oral sex more than just about anything else! Of course, you have to be clean and I'm turned-off it's the peak of your period. (Wash, insert a tampon, and wash again if you're a lady who needs several good orgasms to relieve menstrual cramps.)
For me, the major pleasure is bringing her to climax. I can hear the vocalization, see her body squirm, and feel the contractions. I even like to have my head clamped between her thighs when she cums - though I suspect it would be suicide to go down on a figure skater who likes to bring her legs together at orgasm.
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reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (7 January 2008):
 Most men are very turned on by being able to give their woman pleasure. Isn't that the whole point of lovemaking?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): FROM THE PERSON THAT ASKED THE QUESTION:
Thanks guys, I really appreciate hearing your feedback.
I'm glad I know there are SOME men out there that do enjoy doing it. I was a little offended when he said no man likes it. He always implies it's one of those horrible places a man feels like he HAS to go.
I don't think my man is attracted to me at all anymore anyways. It was years ago when we last had sex.
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reader, mattbea  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 I love doing it as long as a woman is clean... cannot get any worse than when its just not right :S
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reader, Sweet-thing + ♥, writes (7 January 2008):
 Make sure you're clean down there, men have sensitive noses and women's scents can be strong at certain times of the month. Just taking a shower at 6:00 AM and then expecting him to go down on you at 9:30 PM is not clean enough. Take a shower before you come to bed. Make sure that area is trimmed and not over-powered with hair everywhere. When he makes attempts, praise him, guide him, and help him become better at performing the act. If he feels like he is doing it well, he may want to do it more often. But it's all personal choice and some men just don't get into it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): I've never asked for oral but my boyfriend does it. If he's on the wrong spot, I gently guide his hand to the right spot or I arch so that he is in the right place. I don't think he minds, because when he is in the right place he knows it! And what is the point of oral sex but to please the other person?
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reader, Collaroy + ♥, writes (7 January 2008):
 His claim is a load of rubbish. Sure some guys don't like it, but they are also the same guys who usually insist on the their girl giving them oral!
At the end of the day you cant force him to, but maybe its because he simply doesnt know what to do. It will be hard to get him to admit it, but you can at least try and say that you will have the best sex ever if he lets you show him the way.
Personally, the female parts are god's greatest gift to this world. I love going down there and seeing how it drives my partner crazy with lust.
The bottom line for you should be if he doesnt give it to you he should not expect you to for him.
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (7 January 2008):
 In a nutshell: some men like it, some other men don't. You happen to be involved with one who doesn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): The only man who does not like giving oral to a woman is a man who has no idea what he is doing down there.
I LOVE it because I LOVE the pleasure that the female derives from it. It makes me hot! Sometimes I enjoy it more than intercourse. I am a very giving man. All I have to do is look at her face to know I'm doing a good job.
If there is something you can do, find out how receptive your man is to instruction. Many younger men fumble through it because they are under the impression that they need to act like they are watching a porn movie. All I can say is if you want to have your man improve in that department, ask him to LISTEN to you. A guiding hand or kind word will go A LONG WAY. Tongue insertion is not the key...it is the clitoral stimulation...That's where the youngsters mess it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): When my bf and I started getting physical, he insisted that he make me feel good first. We never go without it, so my guess is that he enjoys it - I never asked for oral but get it anyways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): Most men who make it a point not to are insecure and think that its more man-ly to have just the female give him oral pleasure. I think its all insecurity, and in any case...I would say the pleasure goes both ways.....if he doesn't go down on you, then he's not getting any oral pleasure from you either. Why put yourself in that vulnerable position if he won't with you? And if he is willing to try it, and you what to try to make it comfortable for him then you could always use flavored lube, make sure you have your hair down there under control(or no hair at all), and keep yourself fresh. Good Luck ;)
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (6 January 2008):
 I think its unfair of him to say that all men don't like giving oral, because that statement is just not true. Sure there are some men that don't like doing it, but i would think that the majority of men do enjoy performing oral. I think that in the bedroom depertment its all about give and take, and for me i love giving oral to a woman, i think its satisfying to hear a woman getting pleasure from something im doing to her.
All the best x
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reader, em1516 +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Personally I really enjoy it, but I REALLY enjoy making my partner enjoy themselves, which is apparently quite weird in men too?!
The best thing a girl can do is just show how much she is enjoying the experience, and remember if it's doing nothing for you LET YOUR GUY KNOW, he's not a mind reader, just give him some guidance, do it talking dirty and he will love it too!
Hope this helps
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