I feel so depressed and I have feelings for my teacher, and I can't tell my Mum
Q. hi i have depression and used to hurt myself bit i dont anymore. im on medication for my depression but it still doesnt seem to be getting much better, i think it has made my anxiety worse aswell. my mum knows about it but i cant bring myself to ...
A. 22 December 2007: I think if you USED to hurt yourself, he won't have to tell your parents, I think if you were to tell him something totally drastic like you had been raped or soemthing, he would probably have a moral and legal obligation to tell the ... (read in full...)
I feel so depressed and I have feelings for my teacher, and I can't tell my Mum
Q. hi i have depression and used to hurt myself bit i dont anymore. im on medication for my depression but it still doesnt seem to be getting much better, i think it has made my anxiety worse aswell. my mum knows about it but i cant bring myself to ...
A. 19 December 2007: Ask him before the lesson if you can talk to him in confidence after the lesson, so you can be sure he will have time.
Start off by telling him you have had something on your chest for some time now and have had a hard time telling anyone about it. ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my emotional rollercoaster relationship with my daughetr's daddy?
Q. I have been on an emotional roller coaster ride with my daughter's dad. We've have been off and on in our relationship. When he gets mad at me, he doesn't talk to me for a few days. I would have to be the one calling him back. Then he decides he ...
A. 16 December 2007: Well, I wish you the best of luck whatever you choose to do. It's a shame some people can't live up to their responsibilities, I feel for your daughter, but if he's going to be a jerk then I;m sure she's better off without the heartache I;m sure ... (read in full...)
I love him but I think I would be better off without him, should I listen to my heart or my head?
Q. have been dating a guy for 6 months i fell in love with him.he says he loves me but we hardly spend any time together or even talk.i feel like i am being used by him but don't know what i should do i love him.so should i listen to my heart or my mi...
A. 16 December 2007: If your head is telling you to let him go, it's probably right. Your gut instinct is generally spot on.
It doesn't sound like you are getting much out of the relationship anyway, you want someone who's going to treat you like a princess :o)... (read in full...)
How do I initiate french kissing? We had a kiss and it was a disaster...!!
Q. so heres the deal. im sixteen. so its not like im 12 or 13 and asking this question. dont judge me for this either. HAH. but yeah. up untill recently, i have never had a REAL boyfriend. ive only had 'things' like.. little unofficial relatio...
A. 16 December 2007: I'm 24 and me and my boyfriend still clash teeth occasionally lol. It's just one of those things that happens and you just learn to laugh it off.
Kissing generally comes naturally, if you worry about it too much, it will be awkward and stil... (read in full...)
Is my cousin bi curious or just awkward around me because I am a lesbian?
Q. Hi i am female 18 years old and also a lesbian, i just got back in contact with my cousin who is also female but tells me she is not a lesbian, she has been acting very weird around me. its sort of like she's trying to tell me she fancies me, i am ...
A. 16 December 2007: She might not know how to act around you. Some people act like this around people who are gay, or have disabilities etc. They try so hard to act normal they act abnormal.
You should just have a chat with her, ask her is eberythings ok, that you'... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for my first love, and I've heard she has feelings for me too, but she has a boyfriend.
Q. hey i been thinkin alot recently and its about an old girlfriend of mine that i broke up with bout a year ago now n she has a new boyfriend now but i hav heard from my best mate.. hu is also her best mate that she still has strong feelings for me n ...
A. 16 December 2007: Your first love will always be special.
Just be careful you're not looking back with rose tinted spectacles, you broke up for a reason and more than likely that reaosn will still be there.
If you still have strong feelings, you probably didn't g... (read in full...)
I like a Canadian girl but I'm afraid she'll reject me because I'm not Canadian.
Q. I want to ask a girl out, but I'm afraid of something. She's popular, not too popular but not a noname. This might seem stupid but, i'm afraid she'll reject me because i'm not Canadian. Shes Canadian, and was born here etc. I was born in Ukraine and ...
A. 16 December 2007: I sincerely doubt this would be a problem to someone, however if it was a problem to her, she wouldn't be worth your time!... (read in full...)
I am a married woman falling in love with my lover, what should my next move be?
Q. i have been married for 12 years there has been nothing between my husband and i for about 2 years and I have been having an affair for the past 12 months with a man who is also in a relationship. Iam falling in love with my lover and think he has ...
A. 16 December 2007: You should end the marriage first of all. If you're not happy you might as well both be free to do as you please, and this will show your lover your level of commitment to him as well.
If you want to be with your lover, tell him how you feel. If ... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back but his feelings are bigger than mine
Q. Latley ive been confused.. i just started getting regrets with my last relationship. he texted me a few weeks ago saying that it has been an amazing 5 months that we have been going out and that we should do something to celebrate.. this really ...
A. 16 December 2007: I think you should distance yourself, as his feelings are too strong to have a true friendship at this stage. In a couple of months when his feelings have calmed down and he's had time to accept it's truly over, then you can see if there's a ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my emotional rollercoaster relationship with my daughetr's daddy?
Q. I have been on an emotional roller coaster ride with my daughter's dad. We've have been off and on in our relationship. When he gets mad at me, he doesn't talk to me for a few days. I would have to be the one calling him back. Then he decides he ...
A. 16 December 2007: I didn't mean to imply at all you had put yourself before your daughter, or not considered her feelings :o)
This man sounds so selfish, especially after reading your follow up. Sounds like both of you are better off not even having him in your life... (read in full...)
His friendship with his ex is a big cause for concern for me...
Q. I have been living with my significant other for about a year and a half, and his best friend is his ex-girlfriend, whom he used to be deeply in love with, and she with him. He told me they never officially broke up, just sorta drifted apart when he ...
A. 16 December 2007: In my opinion ex's cause nothing but hassle, no matter how well meaning they might be!... (read in full...)
I have a happy marriage but I feel so lonely
Q. I am 60, retired and married to a wonderful husband, but over the years I have lost all of my close friends. I find that I have no friends at all and don't seem to be able to make any new ones. I have Social Phobia and feel faced with a lot of ...
A. 16 December 2007: Good luck with it...I went through a real down patch a couple of years ago. I joined a local gym and went with a girlfriend a few times a week, within the first week I felt better already, I think just getting out and about was a great start for ... (read in full...)
Do Men like it when Women make the first move?
Q. This is a question for the men on the site. I like someones who's doing work on my house at the moment. Do men like it when woman make the first move...or ask for your number? He's back on tuesday and i want to do something about it then....
A. 16 December 2007: I guess every person is different, but generally, if someone fancies you, you want to know!
Offer to take him out for a drink as a thank you, see how it progresses.
My boyfriend has a job where he has to go to people's houses and quite often ... (read in full...)
My ex forced himself on me, I'm finding it hard to come to terms with
Q. i m 20, but when i was 16 my ex boyfriend had given me a few drinks and had forced himself on me. I had repeatedly askd him to stop and get off me. I even tried pushing him away. I had felt burning and pain in and around my vagina but there was no ...
A. 16 December 2007: I think you would really benefit from counselling or group therapy to help you come to terms with what happened to you. I;m sure it would help to also meet others in the same situation as you. Nothing like that has ever happened to me and I can't ... (read in full...)
It seems my fiance is missing the relationship he had with his ex, what do I do?
Q. My fiance and I have been engaged since sept 1.07. His ex girlfriend sent him a message on nov 27 just saying she was going through her contacts and ran across him and that he is not on her hate-list anymore. Well he was excited to hear from her and ...
A. 16 December 2007: I would get out of that relationship. It sounds to me like he misses his ex, asking you if you ever want to be with someone else, he's telling you, I want to be with my ex! Sounds like a lot of lingering feelins, I would be very wary.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend worries about his penis size, what can I do to reassure him?
Q. My boyfriend's too shy about sex cos he thinks he has a small penis (5 inches) and cums too quickly. I love him a lot but i dont understand why its bothering him so much when i am happy with him. What can i do to make him overcome his shyness? ...
A. 16 December 2007: It's funny because it seems no matter what shape or size a man's penis is, they always seem to have an issue with it. One boyfriend I had, had a very large penis. And he was so self conscious with it! He hated it because it was very difficult for ... (read in full...)
I feel so depressed and I have feelings for my teacher, and I can't tell my Mum
Q. hi i have depression and used to hurt myself bit i dont anymore. im on medication for my depression but it still doesnt seem to be getting much better, i think it has made my anxiety worse aswell. my mum knows about it but i cant bring myself to ...
A. 16 December 2007: You need to talk to your Mom or someone close. You need help, you need counselling. Thought of hurting yourself are not healthy and seems to me a big cry for help.
Counselling is a great opportunity to vent the pent up feelings you find hard to e... (read in full...)
I lied about cheating, but how do I make him believe I didn't?
Q. I broke up with my fiance a few months ago. He was an emotionally abusive guy, and towards the end of our relationship I started blurting out things like how I cheated on him when we were in arguments-but I never ever cheated on him. Then, shortly ...
A. 16 December 2007: What does it matter what he thinks?
He treated you like dirt in your relationship, just be glad to be rid of him!... (read in full...)
He flirts and says he is interested, but is he really?? What's going on with this guy?
Q. You work with this guy. You flirt for 3 months and eventually you both confess that you like each other. You're both single and not dating, though you've just divorced. You ask him out to coffee via text message, he doesn't reply. Three days ...
A. 16 December 2007: He doesn't sound worth it really. Who needs a hot/cold kind of guy? More hassle and heartache than it's worth.... (read in full...)
His dad told me he liked me, he said he didn't, but I still really like him, he's my first crush.
Q. I met a guy at my uncle's party about2a months ago, but we didn't get much time to talk. His dad said to me that he liked me, but i wasnt sure whether it was true or not; but i really liked him. Since then, i managed to get hold of his number an...
A. 16 December 2007: If he has said directly to you he doesn't like you, I would spare yourself embarassment by pursuing this boy.
... (read in full...)
My girl friend keeps coming onto me, and my boyfriend too! What do we do?
Q. I feel that one of my best mates that's a girl fancy's me. She has been trying to get me to enrol in certain sexual activities with her and i don't really swing that way. She been trying to flirt with my fella constinally telling him how 'hot' and ...
A. 16 December 2007: You need to tell her straight, if she's not getting subtle hints to back off.
Also, it's not on to be flirting with your boyfriend. She needs to know the boundaries of your friendship!... (read in full...)
I have a happy marriage but I feel so lonely
Q. I am 60, retired and married to a wonderful husband, but over the years I have lost all of my close friends. I find that I have no friends at all and don't seem to be able to make any new ones. I have Social Phobia and feel faced with a lot of ...
A. 16 December 2007: Have a think about what kind of activities you might enjoy and find out about local groups.
You could take up aqua aerobics, street dance, salsa...
And exercise especially will be great for feeling down and depressed. It releases endorphi... (read in full...)
I've had a crush on her for ages, she's now single, do I make a move?
Q. I've had a major crush on a girl since september. Before she had a boyfriend. Now shes single. All I've been able to do is concentrate on her for the past months. Like, back in the day, I used to not want to go to school if I didn't have to, I used ...
A. 16 December 2007: You need to simply ask her out. There's no use agonising over it. If you're too shy, start up a text or msn conversation, get to know her better, suss out her feelings for you.... (read in full...)
Our age difference is hurting him and people are calling him "paedo"... should I break this off?
Q. Heyz! i am a 13 year old girl.. dating a.. 18 year old guy. i know there is a big age difference. My problem is that our age difference is hurting him. everyone has been calling him a pedophile, telling him he will go to jail. He fakes a smile ev...
A. 15 December 2007: Whether you are in a relastionship or just having a friendship with this guy, it strikes me as a little odd, from his side of things. I sincerely doubt an 18 year old man towards the end stages of puberty will have much in common with a 13 year old... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my TA and he seems to reciprocate them, but he is in a relationship
Q. First of all, he's my TA. We are both in our early to mid 20s, so age isn't too much of a factor. I've also been getting very high A's in the class, so grades don't make a difference either. I've always thought he was cute, but didn't start getting ...
A. 15 December 2007: You do need to find out where you stand, if he is available or not. If he's not available, and it does turn out he has feelings for you and has been flirting, you need to wonder how trustworthy he is. Men in long term relationships shouldn'... (read in full...)
I know he likes me and I like him. We are both shy, how do I bring it up?
Q. hi i would like to ask, there is this guy i like that i study with. i have had a conversation with him and from that converstaion he told me that he likes me and he has guessed i like him too. a while went by and we didnt speak about that ...
A. 15 December 2007: So you've already got over that first hurdle - you KNOW he likes you back! You need to take a bit of initiative, bring up the issues at hand. If you can't do it face to face, write him a letter. You know he;s not going to say no, so there's not m... (read in full...)
I've just found out my partner of 4 years is cheating, I don't want to leave him and give the mistress the satisfaction
Q. I have just been told that my partner of 4 years has been having an affair with someone from his work for over a year. I have had my suspicions and have asked him but he has always denied anything has been going on. He is always very loving towards ...
A. 15 December 2007: I wouldn't threaten to leave him to get him to stay. I would sit down and talk to him about this. Tell him you love him and want to work this out, and see what his ideas on this are. You do need to take into account the trust factor, will you... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back but his feelings are bigger than mine
Q. Latley ive been confused.. i just started getting regrets with my last relationship. he texted me a few weeks ago saying that it has been an amazing 5 months that we have been going out and that we should do something to celebrate.. this really ...
A. 15 December 2007: It seems like he is guilt tripping you into getting back with him. By buying you presents etc, you don't owe him anything back. You seem bery reluctant about the relationsip, I would give this one a miss and move on. You erally want to be in a ... (read in full...)
Why is my friend flirting with the guy I like?
Q. My friend flirts with nearly every boy. I wouldn't mind but she openly seems to flirt with the guy who a have a massive crush on. The over day she mentioned something about not liking her ex anymore but wanting him to fancy her anyway because it ...
A. 15 December 2007: She's doing this because she has very low self esteem ans is very insecure. By flirting she gets attention from guys which in turn makes her feel better about herself, she feels pretty and desired. But the thing is, by her getting this kind of att... (read in full...)
Is my weight normal?
Q. I am 16 and weigh 10 stones is this normal?...
A. 15 December 2007: It really depends on your height and Body Mass Index (BMI). Do a search on Google. ... (read in full...)
My ex says he wants to be friends but ignores me...Should I just forget him and move on?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up but we still talk and go out together. He moved into a new apartment and had a party. He didn't want me to go. Then on his birthday he made plans to do things and I wasn't included. He asked me to understand but I can't. ...
A. 15 December 2007: I don't believe ex's can be friends right away. You need time for feelings to heal, and closure to kick in.
Both of you are going to want to have fun being single, be it flirting or more. Neither of you is going to want to be around the other wh... (read in full...)
He seemed to only want sex, but I wanted to get to know him. But does his friend have feelings for me?
Q. Hoping the agony aunts can help me here. Same old story. I met a guy and he wanted to go to bed right away. I wanted the time to get to know him. He did not want to wait so that did not go anywhere. Problem was that I was really interested and a ...
A. 15 December 2007: If you genuinely like his friend, then yes make a move.
If you only are interested because he seems to be interested, and I'm sure you are still smarting from his friends rejection, I would just leave it alone.
I would steer clear of this first gu... (read in full...)
His friendship with his ex is a big cause for concern for me...
Q. I have been living with my significant other for about a year and a half, and his best friend is his ex-girlfriend, whom he used to be deeply in love with, and she with him. He told me they never officially broke up, just sorta drifted apart when he ...
A. 15 December 2007: I just wanted to add as well to my previous answer, YOU should be number one. Not shared number one, not number 2...You should be his top priority.... (read in full...)
His friendship with his ex is a big cause for concern for me...
Q. I have been living with my significant other for about a year and a half, and his best friend is his ex-girlfriend, whom he used to be deeply in love with, and she with him. He told me they never officially broke up, just sorta drifted apart when he ...
A. 15 December 2007: Personally I have found most of the time ex's keep in contact because there is something there. But sometimes ex's keep in touch because they have someone who was close to them for the duration of their relationship and have someone who knows the ... (read in full...)
Why did I feel such an urge to tell my boyfriend I did things that I really never did, like cheating?
Q. What is wrong with me? When I was with my ex I sometimes used to make up stories about guys hitting on me. And once I even said I cheated but none of this stuff was true. I told him a few minutes later that it wasn't true. But, my question is, why ...
A. 15 December 2007: Maybe you are looking for attention, maybe you want to be looked after. You could look into the possibility that you might have a problem with compulsive lying? Maybe you are using the lies to keep your current boyfriend at an arms length, not lett... (read in full...)
Should I let her back, or should I move on?
Q. First, thank you for reading. Please bear with me; I have a lot on my mind. It's also a pretty screwed up situation, but then again, why else would I be writing for advice from strangers? I am a good-looking college grad, 22 y.o. who is in law sc...
A. 15 December 2007: It sounds like it all just got to her and she had to vent some anger, or whatever she was feeling. You rushed things, and by all means that's not a reprimand. i moved in with my boyfriend after 4 months (we're still together). But sometimes whe... (read in full...)
Where do I find decent girls with morals? Do they still exist?
Q. Hi all, I have been a little troubled lately. Yesterday I was chatting with a guy 4 years older than me online and I found out that he is a rich sex hound. Sex-crazed, no morals, rich, conceited and he doesn't give a damn about screwing around....
A. 15 December 2007: Poeple talk alot when it's on the internet, they invent themselves as who they want to be or to be percieved as. As for girls, you seem to be looking in the wrong places. It's like going out to a nightclub to find a girl to have a wholesome rela... (read in full...)
I feel like my teacher is flirting with me, I've had a crush on him for a while now
Q. I'm a junior in high school and I've had a crush on a teacher since my freshman year. He's always looked at me and been nice to me, but now he seems like he's going out of his way to see me and talk to me. During his prep period and my off period he ...
A. 15 December 2007: You might remind him of his daughter, or his favourite neice... But then again he might have feelings for you. If he does, it's wrong. He's a teacher and shouldn't be putting either of you in this situation, by touching you and offering lifts. ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my emotional rollercoaster relationship with my daughetr's daddy?
Q. I have been on an emotional roller coaster ride with my daughter's dad. We've have been off and on in our relationship. When he gets mad at me, he doesn't talk to me for a few days. I would have to be the one calling him back. Then he decides he ...
A. 15 December 2007: Putting aside how you feel for a moment, think about your daughter. Yes, I'm sure she misses her dad when he's not there. But is it fair for her to have an on again off again dad? Is it fair on her for him to come in and out of her life as h... (read in full...)
My fiancee snooping in my emails, can I trust her?
Q. I am a little unsure what to do about my fiancée who reads my emails. She first did it while I was in Iraq for one year. She read an email from an ex-girlfriend of 6 years before, which I always had some contact to. In the email, we discussed her ...
A. 15 December 2007: Your fiancee is screaming out that she is sinsecure and is in big need of some reassurance from her. Sometimes when people feel insecure or have problems trusting they need a lot more reassurance, so even if you feel like you have done more than eno... (read in full...)
Can pre-cum cause pregnancy?
Q. I penetrated my girlfriend without a condom [I regret it...] and now we're worried whether pre-cum can cause pregnancy? I had not discharged earlier, i.e, before the penetration. She did take the NorLevo pill the same day, but could someone tell me ...
A. 15 December 2007: Yes it can, and you don't even always know if you've 'pre-came' (if that's the right word!) because sometimes you can have tiny discharges unnoticeable to the human eye. The morning after pill is really your best and only option right now, you can ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to reach orgasm
Q. i cant reach orgasm!! when i masturbate, sometimes i will place my penis between a pillow and a mattress and pump as if havin sex. but however long i do this for i cannot reach orgasm! it will feel as if i am about to when i fantasise but th...
A. 15 December 2007: Try a handful of baby oil or moisturiser while you masturbate, according to guys I have tried it with it feels amazing. Try porn as well maybe, you might just need that extra little distraction.... (read in full...)
I've been holding out on sex for 6 months, is it a possibility he might start looking elsewhere?
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months is very affectionate with me i.e holding my hand, kissing, etc, but at the same time I am confused. I know that relationships settle down after a while, but we haven't yet had sex. This is in part because my ex-boyfriend ...
A. 15 December 2007: It seems like the biggest thing you are lackikng is communication. You want your boyfriend to do certain things (and I don't think it's fair you go down on him, but he doesn't return the favour), and he seems to want you to do certain things. ... (read in full...)
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