He's on porn sites 5-6 times a week yet we make love on 2 or three... what's going on?
Q. My husband is on porn sights 5-6 days per week, but we only make love 2-3 times per week. Is this something I should be worried about?...
A. 4 November 2007: No way! Maybe it sounds like he has a higher sex drive than you? Why not consider bringing porn into your sex life? My boyfriend and I regularly watch porn together, not in a sleazy way, simply to get the mood going! Adds a bit of spice.
Surpr... (read in full...)
It would make it worse if she found out from someone else.
Q. I hooked up with my friends boyfriend about two months ago while they were still dating, we did it twice and continued doing it even after they broke up. The deal was we would never ever tell anymore. I was at a party last night and I told about six ...
A. 4 November 2007: Well, this is going to eat you up until she either finds out from you, him or one of your friends.
Basically, face the fact that you have lost a friend. I won't lecture because I know these things happen, but you must have known the conseque... (read in full...)
How to KISS
Q. I really wanted to snog my last bf, but I don't know how to, so I didn't, then he dumped me. I now fancy this other guy but I'm scared that he'll ask me to kiss him and I won't know how!...
A. 4 November 2007: Don't plan or think about it too much, you will just get anxious and wound up. Believe me, I remember my first kiss! I was a late bloomer, all my friends had boyfriends way before me and I worried for about 6 months solid on whether I was going to ... (read in full...)
I get worried but I don't want to stop her from doing things.
Q. I have been goin out with my girlfriend for 11 months now. We have both made it clear what we want from this relationship and how much we love one another, But everytime she says shes goin out drinking with her friends i get paranoid and it leads to ...
A. 4 November 2007: Yes, you do have trust issues, and it sounds like you are very insecure.
It's a horrible feeling, but you really have to put yourself in her shoes. She's never given you any reason to doubt her, this must really hurt her, knowing that you feel... (read in full...)
How can I handle this and maintain dignity
Q. Thank you to all who respond here. I broke up with my boyfriend because of his cheating and roving eye and have no interest in maintaining a friendship with him. We are on a committee together and he has not said the nicest things about me..not ...
A. 4 November 2007: He has missed meetings because he is probably feeling like a lowly skunk and is probably terrified that you will expose him for the scum he is!! He doesn't want to look like a folol and he knows he could come out of this situation looking very bad ... (read in full...)
Does he want me just for sex, or is there a future?
Q. I just split up with my boyfriend and i have been in touch with a lad from school who i always had a soft spot for but we were good friends. We have just been talking and he was someone who didnt no my ex so it was nice to talk. im not read...
A. 4 November 2007: Ok, for starters, if you tell a guy you only want no strings sex, then yes, that's all he will think he is getting, and that's probably all he will want.
Having a F*** buddy can be pretty useful, you can stay single, still be allowed to have a f... (read in full...)
Can I forgive my cheating ex?
Q. Is it possible to forgive a cheating boyfriend? I dont know what to do. I was with my boyfriend for 3 years and we were friends for much longer. He is a kind hearted gentleman but the past 6 months something came over him. I am 22 and he is 25, he ...
A. 4 November 2007: Your ex boyfriend might change - he might realise what he has done and the great girl he has lost because of his stupid actions, but then again he might think "ah ha, I've got away with it once, I can do it again!". Or he might go the other way, ... (read in full...)
We're both married but love eachother
Q. i am in love with a man 22 years senior than me, he is married like myself, he shows his love no matter that his wife is working with us, i confess that i love him and dont know what to do?...
A. 4 November 2007: You just want to be careful that he isn't going through a mid life crisis, and looking for a fling to add a little spice to his life. I don't mean to be harsh at all, but it's a typical thing people go through around that age.
You said you are ... (read in full...)
How else to show I love him
Q. I get on well with my dad. In fact if it hadn't been for him I wouldn't be the man I am now. I just have a sligth problem. I do love my dad, but because I'm a guy, it's difficult to say that to him. I do hug him (i'm 20) so I think that's a way of s...
A. 4 November 2007: Why not have a think about what his interests are, and get involved? Like if he has an interest in fishing or mechanics, or dog races, spend some time with him that way. Guys love bonding over mutual interests don't they? Or maybe next time a big ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't have time for me.
Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years. He was previously married before with one child. I have taken care of this child since day 1, his mother is no longer a part of his life. We have since had 2 more children, so now I have a 15, 8 and ...
A. 4 November 2007: I don't want to be harsh at all, but sucker does spring to mind! There is so much more to life and love than feeling neglected and depressed, not to mention deprived. That man should be treating you like a princess. It does sound like he has ... (read in full...)
I love her but she has a boyfriend.
Q. ok, there is a girl that im completly in love with, but she has a boyfriend, im completley in love with her and were best frineds. you can see how that makes it difficult. but she has found out that i like her. i am now talking to my ex-girlfriend ...
A. 4 November 2007: Firstly, you need to ask yourself this: are you really her best friend or are you friends with her because you want to be with her?
And as for the ex, she is an ex for a reason. Generally, it doesn't work when you've broken up for a reason, ... (read in full...)
How can one suddenly stop feeling the love overnight?
Q. hi, my girlfriend broke up with me last night. i was devastated. she said she see's me more of a best friend rather than a boyfriend. again, this breaks my heart.i can't bare life without her, i love her so much..i cant even describe how muc...
A. 31 October 2007: The things is, if it was real love from her side there's no way it could disapear overnight. It takes time for true feelings to disapear, it's hard to think about but she may have been waiting for the right time to breakup with you. Which is ... (read in full...)
Braces will make me feel worse about my appearance. I feel ugly, what can I do?
Q. I am a 15 and i regard myself as ugly, i have only ever had one proper boyfriend and i am about to get braces. I know i shouldnt be talking like this but i do have really low self esteem. No one has ever told me i am pretty or beautiful and lets ...
A. 31 October 2007: I was an absolute ugly duckling growing up. I wasn't interested in hair or makeup or clothes until I was 18/19, but I did feel like an ugly duckling, I never had older sisters or brothers to look up to and copy, I was totally clueless. Then ... (read in full...)
She's 21 now, but when she was 15 she had sex with her teacher! What should I do?
Q. I'm stuck for what to do. I've been with my girlfriend a few years now, and a few months ago we told each other's deepest secret (Here I was thinking it would be an interesting game to play, but really didn't expect anything like she told me). ...
A. 26 September 2007: I think it is of the concern of his present, future and even past pupils. This teacher pbviously abused his authority and position, and is in fact a paedophile.
I can appreciate what a delicate situation it is, and you should feel really honoured... (read in full...)
Why do men need porn?
Q. If women get off without porn why can't men get off on the feeling alone also? Why is porn needed??...
A. 26 September 2007: My boyfriend and I watch porn together, it enhances sex together and is great for getting into the mood. Plus you pick up some good tips sometimes! I don't think men need it, but they seem to have higher sex drives than women and spend half their ... (read in full...)
I'm on the pill, but am I pregnant?
Q. Please someone tell me what is going on. I have been on birth conrtol pills for about a year now. My period has always been on time, never early never late. Well lately my guy and I have been having a lot more sex than usual, yes he does ejaculate ...
A. 26 September 2007: I would take another test, or book an appointment to see your doctor. If you can't get an appointment today or tomorrow, ask the duty doctor to call you today and basically tell him/her whatyou have just said on here and ask their advice, as to ... (read in full...)
What do you do if you suspect your boyfriend who you have a perfect relationship with has cheated but they swear they didn't?
Q. What do you do if you suspect your boyfriend who you have a perfect relationship has cheated... but they swear on everything they didnt? How do you deal with this? I cant see him doing it, but I cant help but continuisly wondering 'what if' even tho ...
A. 26 September 2007: If you have been cheated on before it's understandable you have a hard time with trust.
Just make sure your boyfriend knows this, it sounds to me like he is very understanding anyway.
Just make sure you don't end up pushing him away :o)... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be annoyed that hes taken her myspace address?
Q. Hey guys, My boyfriend works at a race course and recently they had a kind of Bikefest things where there were motorbikes for sale. And what do you get with Motorbikes? Slutty Teenage Promoters! Ok well apparently they asked him if he wanted a...
A. 26 September 2007: To be honest, if he was the tpe of guy who would go for that kind of girl, he would have wanted a photo with her/them to brag to his buddies, right?
I think he just has found a girl with similar interests, I'm sure you have guy friends with sim... (read in full...)
We've had rows about her ex's - part of it due to my insecurities, but am I wrong to feel this way?
Q. I need help dealing with something my girlfriend did in her past. I've been seeing this girl for 6 months and when things are good - they're great. My only hang up is that she confessed to cheating on her last boyfriend with a previous Ex-boy...
A. 26 September 2007: She has said she really regrets it - I seriously doubt she will do it again.
People make mistakes and they learn from them.
You should trust her.... (read in full...)
I feel we're drifting apart and don't know how to fix things...
Q. I feel we are drifting apart... My boyfriend and I have been friends for 10 years and boyfriend/girlfriend for 7 months. We moved in together 2 months ago. Things were absolutely fine until an unfortunate series of events that began 4 weeks ag...
A. 26 September 2007: I agree with you basschick, he is hot headed and does act immature alot of the time.
I don't feel that he was with his ex gorlfriend that night though, I do trust him and I don't believe he would cheat on me.
Further more his ex gorlfriend is... (read in full...)
Can anyone suggest anything we can do different together and re-fresh and avoid the "predictable" ?
Q. I think I am bored with my routine in life. I don't know why but a few weeks ago I used to like going to my girlfriends and her coming down to mine but now I am so bored I find it harder to feel exited about going to her house. I get exited about ...
A. 26 September 2007: I hate to say it but it doesn;t sound like you have much of a future. If it's been 2 years and she hasn't said anything that mentally stimulates you, where's the hope? It would be different if you'd had loads oin common in the beginning but that ... (read in full...)
My friend asked me to have sex with her. I don't know what to say or do!
Q. What should I do? There is this girl st school. and today during P.e. she asked me to spend the night with her. so i said sure. because she is one of my good friends. then she said and "while we are at my housee..... we can, you know..." and and...
A. 26 September 2007: Some people mature sexually quicker than others, and very often from your age onwards people will want to experiment.
Obviously she is embarassed and doesn't want you to let the whole school know about her proposition. She obviously caught t... (read in full...)
He turned 40, became obsessed with going to the gym then left me for another woman!
Q. i was with my partner of 15 years,for ten years of the relationship we spent most of our time together and went everywhere together.then when he hit 40 he changed and started looking in the mirror all the time going to the gym and it all became a ...
A. 26 September 2007: For starters, why would you want to be with someone as mean as him? He made you borrow money to buy food?? It sounds like you were happy without him, then he came along with wanting to get back together and threw your emotions out of whack.
... (read in full...)
Could my son be gay or is he just going through a phase?
Q. Is my son gay or just "going through a phase"? He is nearly 17 and he says he wants a relationship with a guy but says this doesn't mean he won't ever want a relationship with a girl. He has had a girlfriend, it lasted 6 months when he was 15, it ...
A. 26 September 2007: It sounds like he is curious, or bi sexual. It's an age where alot of people experiement. I am 24 now, but wbetween the ages of 15-20 I fancied women as well. I never had a relationshop with a woman but I was curious. I am totally straight now ... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend cheated on me?
Q. Has my boyfriend cheated on me? Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and right at the start of our relationship he cheated on me when i promised him a filthy night that night - he said he had to go home - and i then later found...
A. 26 September 2007: First of all, I know alot of couples have issues with sex, because in genreal females have a lower sex drive than males.
Your boyfriend may or may not have cheated on you physically, but he has cheated you of a decent boyfriend. By advertis... (read in full...)
He feels nothing during sex with me and sees it as a chore... He says I'm too loose!
Q. Hi everyone, I only had 2 sexual partners so far, one is my current boyfriend. My first boyfriend had a small penis however i had many orgasims and had sex many times a week. But my new or 2nd boyfriend who has a large penis says i am loose an...
A. 26 September 2007: What a bad attitude your boyfriend has!! I have to say, I think he probably feels like he has a small penis, and is passing his insecurity onto you, making you feel that there is something wrong with you!
If your last boyfriend had a small peni... (read in full...)
Could I still possibly be pregnant? We used a condom.
Q. Hello everyone and anyone! Ok, so about 2 weeks ago I had sex for the first time (don't worry, we used a condom). It definitely hurt...a LOT...so much that it was almost unbearable and I had to keep telling the guy to stop and give me a break. I ...
A. 25 September 2007: If he wore a condom, there didn't seem to be any pre-cm and he didn't come, then chances are very very slim you are pregnant!
Maybe for peace of mind you should go on the pill as well as using condoms? That way if there are ever any mishaps, you ... (read in full...)
Does he need to wear a condom and do we kiss while I'm doing the hj?
Q. ive never given my boyfriend a handjob. does he need to wear a condom and do we kiss while im doing it? help me...
A. 25 September 2007: He doesn't have to wear a condom, but it woudld mean less mess to worry about!
The best technique for a hand job is to get some baby lotion or oil, put a little in your hand, and away you go! It will feel amazing for him, trust me! Just make sur... (read in full...)
Wondering if he's too big for me and so if it will hurt the first time.
Q. Hi.. i'm 16 and i'm wondering if my boyfriends penis will "fit" in my vagina the first time we have sex.. it looks so big when i give him oral and i'm afraid that i'll bleed and that it will hurt because i'm a virgin! please help!...
A. 25 September 2007: Not every girl bleeds during her first time - during girly chats with my friends, none of them said they bled, and I didn't!
The first time will hurt, because you will feel nervous about it hurting and that will make you tense.
The best thin... (read in full...)
Is this emotional abuse?
Q. Is it emotional abuse? My fiance and I always argue, and last night I just had enough. The problem is I live with him, and where Im from is far away. Anyways, I was just wondering if breaking up with him is the right thing to do. It feels like ...
A. 25 September 2007: My first impressions are how extremely insecure your boyfriend is!! Plus, YES, this is emotional abuse, it's passive aggressive and it's not pleasant!
How dare he make you eat dinner, how dare he keep youo up when you have to be up early in the m... (read in full...)
How love always finds a way
Q. At thirteen i was the only girl in my high school year to be having a relationship with with an eighteen year old bloke, much to alot of girls jealousy. Like everyones first relationship it started off magical, he was sweet kind, caring and made...
A. 25 September 2007: That's really great, to hear that even through all the ordeals you had to go through from a young age, that you have gone through that and found someone who truly loves you and makes you happy, and most of all treats your children with the love and ... (read in full...)
To stay or to go
Q. It's so ironic that I have been coming here for 10 months, the length of my relationship. I have asked for advice, read your responses, but have not really listened. Everytime my relationship seems too bad to handle, it gets better, which gives me ...
A. 25 September 2007: The first thing that struck me about your boyfriend is that he is extremely insecure and unsure of himself. By making you feel bad, by making you feel that you are not good enough, he is keeping 'on top' in the relationship. He feels inferior to ... (read in full...)
Could my son be gay? He has an odd friendship with a (much) older man...
Q. My 17 year old son has befriended a 58 year old man. He visits him every week and stays all day says he has a bbq and a few drinks. He says he finds he can talk to the man easier than talking to me or his mother. He receives a lot of gifts some exp...
A. 25 September 2007: Your son probably looks up to this man. It is a little strange, the large age gap, but they both might be feeling lonely.
You haven't mentioned whether your son's father is around? If not, perhaps he is looking up to this man as a father f... (read in full...)
Do I go back to the 'bad' ex
Q. i need help. I amd in love with my ex but don't know how to tell him. And plus i broke up with him which was really stupid. Even though he does drugs, i can't help but always thinking what it would be lyke if we got back together. Please give som ...
A. 25 September 2007: I was in this situation once. I was with a guy who I felt was the one, we were so totally wrapped up in each other. But a serious lack of maturity on his part meant that we broke up after 6 months. It was really hard breaking up, and a year w... (read in full...)
I feel we're drifting apart and don't know how to fix things...
Q. I feel we are drifting apart... My boyfriend and I have been friends for 10 years and boyfriend/girlfriend for 7 months. We moved in together 2 months ago. Things were absolutely fine until an unfortunate series of events that began 4 weeks ag...
A. 25 September 2007: Thanks for all the advice guys.
He sent me a text at 3am last night/earlier this morning, he said he fell asleep on his friends sofa after having a few drinks and dinner. I trust him 99% (I have previously learned you can never trust someone ... (read in full...)
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