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writes:I am 60, retired and married to a wonderful husband, but over the years I have lost all of my close friends. I find that I have no friends at all and don't seem to be able to make any new ones. I have Social Phobia and feel faced with a lot of rejection which causes so much depression. I am beside myself because I feel so lonely. I need a couple of women friends to get gether with for coffee or lunch once in a while. I live in Sacramento California. Has anybody got any suggestions on where to meet a couple of nice ladies, or even a group to help me get over this lonliness and depression I'm going through?thanks for any help~ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): Thanks for you answer Phil.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): You couldn't have asked this question at a better time of year!
Write out a few Christmas cards to your near neighbours sending season's greetings, also inviting them round to your place for a few drinks and nibbles on a day and time of your choosing, with your phone number and RSVP on the card. That way you'll know who's accepting the invitation. Don't go overboard on the food - no matter how little you put out, there'll always be some left over.
You'll feel more comfortable in your own home than someone else's. Hopefully you'll get closer to a few people and make a few new friends. I'm sure your husband will give you all the help and support you need.
Happy Christmas!
Phil
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 Good luck with it...I went through a real down patch a couple of years ago. I joined a local gym and went with a girlfriend a few times a week, within the first week I felt better already, I think just getting out and about was a great start for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for you answer, I'll give yell.com a try and some exercise, thats a thought...
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reader, Steve0 +, writes (16 December 2007):
 hey!
im only 19 myself but i saw ur question and thought i'd see if i could help! here we go!
there's a few things:
1. Have you tried speakin to your husband about the way you feel? if you have then put the idea across tohosting some events nothing huge like a rave! jus dinner parties with maybe some old friends that you jus lost contact with or maybe some of your husbands friends! if you havent i think its time you do he'd probably hate the way your feeling and maybe you could do more social things together
2. Volentary work... i used to be alot like urslf again i know im only 19 but i found doing something for other people is always good and if you can find a charity that you really believe in then with a bit of luck you'll meet other volentary workers that have tht same passion n you know friendships can develop from there.
ermm i cnt think of much more i hope this has been of some help ill post again if i can think of anymore!
Good Luck
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reader, starfairy +, writes (16 December 2007):
Have a think about what kind of activities you might enjoy and find out about local groups.
You could take up aqua aerobics, street dance, salsa...
And exercise especially will be great for feeling down and depressed. It releases endorphins, happy hormones!
Google your area for groups, or give Yell.com a try?
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