This sounds so weird, I'm scared I'm cracking up!!!
Q. This sounds so weird, I'm scared I'm cracking up!!! I'm obsessed with lookin at pics of my ex's ex on her web page!! I'm no longer with my ex, I don't even like him no more, but I keep going to his ex (whom he was with for 4 years) page and staring ...
A. 30 March 2008: You obviously compared yourself to her throughout the relationship, it must have been hard to live up to the pedestal it sounds like he put her on.
Habits are hard to break, I bet it doesn't make you feel great when you look at her photos eith... (read in full...)
Problems going from bad to worse... depression over a teacher who left last year.
Q. Okay..My problem seems to be getting bad to worst and i don't know should i get help or not.. firstly i'm not gonna speak to my family, friends, counsellors or doctors about his ..... 'cause i don't want them to know... okay here's my story...u ...
A. 30 March 2008: You obviously look up to this woman and admire her, and probably in some way aspire to be like her.
She might be filling a hole in your life, you might be lacking a role model, or someone to look up to?
You say you don't want to talk to anyone, ... (read in full...)
Do you think he likes to flirt with me or is it just normal conversation?
Q. I just came from a trip a week ago from Europe and this guy with whom I have a crush, told me before I left that he knows I would enjoy my trip but just don't have too much fun! He ended the message saying to take care and I'll talk with you soon...
A. 30 March 2008: If I'm totally honest it doesn't sound like he is flirting with you, there's no suggesting anything else in his conversation, no reading between the lines...I would just take it as he likes you and is friendly.... (read in full...)
She insists on keeping her male friends! Is it "Ultimatum" time?
Q. Should I be upset about my girlfriend having male friends?She says they are just friends but I'm not sure I should believe that.I asked her a couple months back if she chatted or got messages from them.She said no then today after I pressed her,she ...
A. 30 March 2008: I find guys alot easier to be friends with, in general they are less demanding/high maintenance, and sometimes easier to talk to about my problems.
But that doesn't mean I want to sleep with them, etc.
I've had boyfriends act the same as you have... (read in full...)
Should I leave him for good or try to get him back? I'm so confused...
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two yrs... well we've been having some problems. Last night he said he needed a break and i needed a break and he thinks its better if were just friends again. Problem is i dont think i can do that, ...
A. 30 March 2008: I stopped reading once I got to the part about him telling you he would break, up with you if you went to see your Mom, who you only see once a year.
HELLO?!
Please leave this idiot, you may think you are madly in love with him but he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend, who walked out on me years ago, hate my new boyfriend?
Q. I have an ex bf that I have an 12 yr old child with and he was the one to walk out before the child was born and has nothing to do with the child and he started seeing the child but what I dont understand is my ex hates my current bf that I have had ...
A. 30 March 2008: It sounds like a case of he doesn't want to be with you, but at the same time he doesn't want anyone else to be with you!... (read in full...)
How can I make my husband be more responsible?
Q. i have a husbend who has a chimecal disorder and i he is going out to have fun all night and working at afternoon . when he is coming into the house he's main and grumpy don't talk to me dont joke with me . i dont see him and he doesn't want to ...
A. 29 March 2008: It sounds like you need to stand up to him.
By giving himmoney, you are telling him it's ok to behave like this.
He needs to realise he has a family to support, and if he doesn't, he's going to lose that family!... (read in full...)
I still feel young and attractive and feel the need to compensate for the lack of sex at home! But it's wrong, so how do I avoid that?
Q. hi all ive been with my husband for 14 years and have 3 children together. weve had some really difficult times together and last year i tried to end our marriage because i felt there was no spark anymore and that it felt athough we were just ...
A. 23 March 2008: Basically, you need to come to the decision whether you are happy spending the rest of your life with someone who, although is making an effort around the house and with the kids, is like your brother. Sex isn't everything but it sure helps! If ... (read in full...)
My date asked me if I told my friends or my mother about her, this puzzled me...
Q. Hi, i went on a first date with a girl who i met a few weeks earlier, now she lives a bit of a distance from me because of her job (police) she also transferring nearer where i live because her friends are up here. The date went great, to the point ...
A. 22 March 2008: She's just trying to suss out how serious you are about her, by speaking to your friends and family about her, that makes her a permanant fixture in your life, for the moment, and makes it official that you want to be with her.... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant? What's going on with my body?
Q. About 3 weeks ago I had sex with my boyfriend, and my period should be due this week. I've needed to go to the bathroom more frequently than before, and noticed what might be considered a blood spot. I haven't experienced any other signs, Could I ...
A. 22 March 2008: It sounds likely that you have a urine infection.
You can get this sometimes by having rough sex, it's called Honeymoon Cystitus. Go to your doctor, explain the symptoms and I'm sure they will do a urine sample to see what's up!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would tell people he was my uncle, why is he behaving like this?
Q. Hey Everyone :) iv posted a couple of time about this Guy i really like, i think so much of him. for sum who dont know iv bn seein him for 6 months, yet not in arelationship bcoz he's told me he aint ready for 1 or hasnt got the time bcause of w...
A. 22 March 2008: You should forget him, you want someone who will be proud to declare you as their girlfriend, not pretend he's single!... (read in full...)
My fiance bores me, there's no passion. But I'm pregnant with his baby...
Q. I am bored with my husband to be. I am also pregnant with his second child. I feel that I am going to marry him because I don't have a choice. Sure I love him but was never in love with him. He does not touch me, we don't even make out at all. He ...
A. 22 March 2008: You don't sound happy with this guy at all...If you marry him, you will never be fulfilled, and it's likely you will end up having an affair or breaking up.
You should break free while you can, obviously keep him in your's and the baby's lives, but ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has discovered internet porn, and now he's very distant with me
Q. have a bit of a problem. i started teaching my boyfirend of one year computers 4 weeks ago. he started going on the net and ever since he has changed. i know that he is looking up sexy videos and it is really meaking me paranoid. he has become very ...
A. 22 March 2008: He might just be going through a phase that he needs to get himself out of, but you should tell him that you are not going to tolerate this behavior.... (read in full...)
He's 18 years older than me, does he want a wife or a nurse?
Q. I've met this man 18 years my senior while I was divorcing my husband of 22 years. He is supportive and attentive. He makes me feel loved and wanted. I was a bit worry about the age gap. He said it would be nice I could look after him when he ...
A. 22 March 2008: I don't know him or the situation well enough, but it does sound like he wants to find security for his future in securing someone who will care for him. If he's approaching his 80's, that's understandable.
... (read in full...)
Do men prefer bigger breasts?
Q. ok, silly question but do guys prefair big boobs?! my bf is happy with mine but i just wana know what the general outlook on boobs are?...
A. 22 March 2008: I would say it is down to personal preference, although most guys I've had conversations with about this like a "handful", C cup or above.... (read in full...)
My husband has cheated on me after 19 years of marriage. Should I give him another chance?
Q. My husband has cheated on me after 19 years of marriage. Should I give him another chance?...
A. 20 March 2008: You need to look at the reason why he cheated, and try to fix it.
Was he not fulfilled sexually, emotionally...?
If you feel that you can take him back, and you both are willing to work at it, make a go of it.... (read in full...)
How do I show her I love and care about her? I want her back!!!
Q. My girlfriend of two and a half months just broke up with me because I'm not good at showing her that I love her. I love her with all my heart, and she loves me. She's so good to me, I really believe she's the greatest girl I've ever met. I ha...
A. 20 March 2008: She sounds pretty callous, that she breaks up with you because you are simply wary of wearing your heart on your sleeve after being f*cked over by your last girlfriend.
She needs to understand that you need to take it slower than most people, ... (read in full...)
My last boyfriend put me down and I can't get over the things he said.
Q. Is there something wrong with me? I have been single now for about 3 years and in this time not one boy has asked me out it has really put me down because my last boyfriend said some really horrible stuff when we broke up and I haven't been able to ...
A. 20 March 2008: The thing is, confidence is very attractive. Guys won't be drawn towards someone who looks downtrodden, depressed, self conscious and unconfident. They want happy, smiling, shining girls.
You've got to get over what your ex said to you. He only... (read in full...)
I just don't want to make a fool of myself. Do you think he still likes me?
Q. There is this guy at work and my co workers said he was quite sweet on me and I thought so too. I left that job so we swapped numbers and we texted for a bit... it was nice and he always replied really quickly, if I didn't reply he would send a text ...
A. 20 March 2008: Sorry I got really confused reading that.
So he was way over the top with texting, then all of a sudden stopped?
What happened in between?
I can't comment yet because you haven't given us enough of the picture of what's gone on...... (read in full...)
How to "go down" on a guy, I need good tips!
Q. I need good tips on going down on a guy. I know I never do a very good job, but no one has ever told me how so I am not sure if I am even doing it right or at least very good....
A. 20 March 2008: The best advice is have fun, and explore a little. Do different things, guys don't just want up-down sucking. Take the full shaft in your mouth, give a little deep throat if you can, without gagging lol. Suck the end, roll your tongue around, ... (read in full...)
I cheated, does this mean I don't like my boyfriend?
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months now but last night i was in a party and i ended up cheating on my boyfriend with another lad. The thing was i dident feel guilty. does this mean that i dont like him anymore?? or does ths mean ...
A. 16 March 2008: People tend to stray because they're not totally satisfied with what they've already got. Do you feel you are lacking in your relationship? Do you feel you are settling for second best with your boyfriend?... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 11 March 2008: Your life is slipping away with no enjoyment or happiness.
I don't condone cheating but I don't blame you for wanting to!!
Leave your wife. She couldn't care less about your happiness, if she can't even give you a hug??
It'll be tough ... (read in full...)
We broke up, I want her back but she won't give me a straight answer!
Q. Dear Relationship Advisor, I've got a big problem and was wondering if you could help. But its kind of a long story so bear with me. A few years ago I met a really nice and fun girl. I was immediately attracted to her because of her ...
A. 11 March 2008: Ok, so your ex was a pest, big deal. You didn't sleep with her.
It struck me that your most recent ex wanted an excuse to get out of the relationship. Because you didn't do anything that was SO bad, really, did you?
If she's dawdling and not givi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is paranoid and possessive but he kissed someone else, do I stay?
Q. Im 16 and so is my boyfriend. We've been together just over two months. He's very paranoid and i've had to stop talking to a few guy mates as he's got so worked up about it and its caused arguements. Anyway a few days ago he came to me in tears an...
A. 11 March 2008: I wouldn't bother with him. A leopard doesn't change his spots, in 2 months he's put a stop to friendships, been all jealous and insecure, AND kissed someone else!!
Hello, wake up, get out of that relationship!! If he's like this so early on... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents I love someone they don't like?
Q. i relly like this boy and we knew eachother for 4 years. he likes me too.... we started to date and my brother found out told my mom n dad so now they dont like him. they wont let me date him cuz he half n half n i am white. we talk behind there ...
A. 11 March 2008: They want the best for you, are you sure they don't like him because of his colour? Are they racist? Or is there some other reason, perhaps he's a bit rough, or he smokes, you know the typical parental reasons for not liking a teenager!
Speak... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my sister in law, not sure on the signals she has been sending...
Q. I need some input from people out there. Here is my situation. I am married man, happy with all aspects of my marriage expect my wife and I have relations about once a year. Over the last year or so, I have been talking online to a friend who is ...
A. 11 March 2008: It sounds like she is interested, but also like you hesitant.
Have you spoken to your wife? Have you told her you are unhappy? Why are you only having sex once a year? Are you fulfilled emotionally? Sex isn't EVERYTHING in a relation... (read in full...)
When a guy apologises, does he mean it and does he care about you?
Q. when a guy says sorry for hurt feelings, does that mean he cares about you?...
A. 11 March 2008: It either means he's actually sorry, or he's just trying to get back in your good books. Depends if he's a genuine kind of person, depends on what he is apologising for, it depends on the circumstances with this guy?... (read in full...)
I treat my partners so good and they always cheat - will my current partner cheat?
Q. ok i was with a guy for almost 3 years then i found out he was cheatin on me with his bestfriends sister after he asked me to marry him now im curently wit a girl and i love her so much i never thought i would give my curious thoughts a chance now ...
A. 11 March 2008: Sorry if this seems harsh, but if you act like a doormat, and are insecure and needy, and paranoid someone is going to cheat on you, it's generally human nature to take advantage of someone like that, because that person knows they wuill get away ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 11 March 2008: Make a list of the reasons you are unhappy - see what your wife says, will she work at this?
Do youw ant to leave her because of her size etc, or simply because you don't love her anymore?
If the love is still there, stay and work, but make you... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay? Do I test him?
Q. Ok im goin out with a guy who is really sweet and is always hyper.................well a few days ago my friend told me that when they asked him to go out with me he told them he was gay!!!! and so now idk wut to do.......should i test him? cuz i ...
A. 11 March 2008: Don't overcomplicate things by testing him. Simply ask him, and respect his feelings if he does say he is gay.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is messing about on the internet. Has he cheated?
Q. I have been going out with my bf for nearly 2 yrs and he is 19 yrs old. In Feb 2007 he made an Faceparty account up on the internet and I didn't know about it. However, in Nov I found out about it just browsing through looking for my friends on the ...
A. 11 March 2008: I wouldn't walk away from this relationship...I would RUN.
He's proved he's not trustworthy, the relationship is making you ill and unhappy. Why stay with someone who makes you feel this way?
He has no respect for you and I get the impressi... (read in full...)
I've lied to a man I really love, and now I feel bad. What can I do?
Q. I've just divorced my husband. We have been married for 20 years. My husband is selfish and unkind. I stay for the security. He made me feel unattractive so I started to cheat on him. It didnt make me feel better but just feel guilty and cheap. ...
A. 11 March 2008: It's not really this guy's business what you have or haven't done. Different circumstances make people act differently.
If it really plays on your mind, wait until you are both together, relaxed, etc, and tell him. Tell him how your husband ... (read in full...)
Is he hiding something?
Q. In response to an article i wrote about not knowing my boyfriend's family, it seems hopeless to me. i have asked him about the situation again and his response is that he is not on good terms with his family, i don't know any of his family members, ...
A. 11 March 2008: It does seem that way - what reason would he have for you to be a complete secret to every other aspect of his life??
Your gut instinct is generally right, if you feel he is hiding something, he probably is.
He sounds very paranoid and tro... (read in full...)
What do I do with him?
Q. i have recently been going out with a guy,we both decided to slow things down because things were goin to fast and we were fallin for eachother deeply.hes confused because his ex wanted him back but she cheated on him whilst they were together in ...
A. 11 March 2008: Ex's are TROUBLE! I was with a guy a year, and his ex was on the case constantly. She wanted him back, and it caused no end of trouble with us because he wouldn't stand up to her and tell her where to go!
This guy sounds confused. He may not love... (read in full...)
Is he attracted to her?
Q. My husband has been secretly flirting with coworker, hugging, texting, posing for pics, late night phone calls, and even a secret handshake only the two of them know. He has never hidden being friends with someone before now, but he said he hid it ...
A. 11 March 2008: I just read the bit in your follow up, about how they decided not to behave in this certain way around you - that set alarm bells off in my head!! So how is this behaviour 'right' if they won't act the way they do alone, in front of you? They ... (read in full...)
Is he attracted to her?
Q. My husband has been secretly flirting with coworker, hugging, texting, posing for pics, late night phone calls, and even a secret handshake only the two of them know. He has never hidden being friends with someone before now, but he said he hid it ...
A. 11 March 2008: It sounds like he is feeling a little bored - you should suggest doing more together, think about what it is he might feel he is lacking from you, maybe he just feels a little neglected, and is enjoying the attention from this woman.
Either way,... (read in full...)
I'm stuck between 2 girls, past and present, can't help comparing them!
Q. Hi people! This is my first comment here, I've just signed in because I really need help with this. Also, today's my birthday, so any answers will be appreciated double on this day =) Let's start from the beginning: In 2006 I went to Japan f...
A. 10 March 2008: Feel free to email me :o)... (read in full...)
I am crazy about this guy, and he is about me too. But he won't commit and I find that hard to deal with
Q. Dear Cupid, I don't know where to begin with this one. I'm in love with this guy I've known for years. I know he has strong feelings for me as he admits this much but he has never wanted to go further. We have traveled the world together and bee...
A. 9 March 2008: Sorry I mean FIRM answer!... (read in full...)
I like my friends ex, how do I tell if she likes me?
Q. i met this girl through a friend and we went out for a while my mate was going out with her best fiend she dumped me and my mate and my ex went out with each other but i like my m8s ex she is very pretty and we had a lot in commen and we have only ...
A. 9 March 2008: Wow swap and share lol! The only way you will know is to ask her!... (read in full...)
I am crazy about this guy, and he is about me too. But he won't commit and I find that hard to deal with
Q. Dear Cupid, I don't know where to begin with this one. I'm in love with this guy I've known for years. I know he has strong feelings for me as he admits this much but he has never wanted to go further. We have traveled the world together and bee...
A. 9 March 2008: You just need a form answer, it sounds like you don't know where you stand.
He flatters you and talks to you like a princess, but won't have a relationship with you.
Does he just like having you there, without having to commit to anything... (read in full...)
I'm going through a tough time with my girlfriend, who is still living with her ex boyfriend
Q. i am 29 and seeing a girl 25. she's everything i want in a woman,but we are going though some tough times. she was seeing a male about six mounths ago until they went on holiday and he beat her up. but just before they went away i kissed this girl ...
A. 9 March 2008: If she's gone straight from being with him, to being with you, you have to be understanding that it takes time to untangle after having lived with someone. If they are renting, she might be tied legally to a contract, or even to a mortgage?
At leas... (read in full...)
I am crazy about this guy, and he is about me too. But he won't commit and I find that hard to deal with
Q. Dear Cupid, I don't know where to begin with this one. I'm in love with this guy I've known for years. I know he has strong feelings for me as he admits this much but he has never wanted to go further. We have traveled the world together and bee...
A. 9 March 2008: Basically, you need to be straight with him. He has feelings for you, you have feelings for him. So why can't you be together? If he just wants friendship, and you can't handle only friendship, you have to tell him you can't see him, and get over ... (read in full...)
I'm stuck between 2 girls, past and present, can't help comparing them!
Q. Hi people! This is my first comment here, I've just signed in because I really need help with this. Also, today's my birthday, so any answers will be appreciated double on this day =) Let's start from the beginning: In 2006 I went to Japan f...
A. 9 March 2008: If you stay with Naomi, you are settling for second best.
You won't get anywhere with the relationship because you will always be comparing the 2, Naomi isn't as good, but she'll do, basically. But she must know deep down that she doesn't ... (read in full...)
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